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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Keeping a relationship | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: Mu issue is somehow sophisticated, whenever i go into a relationship it starts that i love ... A: I believe you are not seeing what you want to see from a girl, subconsciously, so your senses are ... | |
| Follow-up to follow up | 1/26/2012 |
| Q: Update: Saw her last night. Had a bite to eat. She was very affectionate. We talked about how ... A: Good morning, Mark I find it fascinating that the women most attracted to you are those ... | |
| Follow-up to follow up | 1/26/2012 |
| Q: Update: Saw her last night. Had a bite to eat. She was very affectionate. We talked about how ... A: She has a strong attraction to you and it's even more emotional than physical. For her to be ... | |
| Follow-up | 1/25/2012 |
| Q: I just read your response. You make some good points. However, the bad boy part made me laugh. ... A: You know Mark, age is a reality and if you're dating, being intimate with a lot younger women, the ... | |
| Is there anything wrong with being a cougar for life? | 1/24/2012 |
| Q: my name is Suzanne and this is my question. Is there anything wrong with being a cougar for life? In ... A: Part of me would like to answer that if you're comfortable with your sexual choices, then that's ... | |
| Jealousy | 1/23/2012 |
| Q: Hey is this Michael?! You helped me a while back. Your profile looks familiar. I have a general ... A: Mark, It's obvious this girl finds a lot about you very sexy. Not just attractive, but sexy. ... | |
| Is he interested? | 1/22/2012 |
| Q: I went on a date with a trauma surgeon. He's a busy guy with crazy working hours obviously. I'm a ... A: I've read your message about a very strange date and you know what, the question I see is not so ... | |
| Jealousy | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: Hey is this Michael?! You helped me a while back. Your profile looks familiar. I have a general ... A: When you wrote your first message I thought I might know who you were. After your second note I ... | |
| Jealousy | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: Hey is this Michael?! You helped me a while back. Your profile looks familiar. I have a general ... A: Hey Mark, She gets upset because women don't like competition, don't like losing a man's attention. ... | |
| Dating with no proposal | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: I am 28 and have been dating my boyfriend, who is 37, for 2 years and 10 months. We moved in ... A: I see you're from Colorado. I grew up there (Montrose), went to college (Fort Collins, Grand ... | |
| he disappeared off the planet | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: I met a wonderful man about 10 months ago. We dated casually for about 2 months, then it picked up ... A: You know, you're not a fool. Dismiss that feeling quickly. What you are is trusting, a great ... | |
| Hello Michael | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: Hey Michael,my dear friend.how're you doing?It's Siavash.Do you remember me?I hope you're doing ... A: Of course I remember you. I'm doing well, thank you my friend. Thank you for your nice words. I do ... | |
| Irresponsible behavior | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: How're you? Having cancelled our second date once on the grounds of being busy at work,this girl ... A: I'm doing well, thank you. :) I do agree with you that if a girl is highly attracted to a guy ... | |
| Understanding Women | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: I am living with my sister temporarily until I head off for graduate school. I find one of my ... A: Yes, Amy's attracted to you. First, some insight - women naturally put a space boundary around ... | |
| new online womanfriend | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: how to i curb my overenthusism with anew woman online ,and what are you tips particularly donts ... A: It's natural to be enthusiastic when meeting new women so enjoy that feeling. Just remind yourself ... | |
| Our dinner... did it go well? | 6/26/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if you remember me or my story but I asked you a qn on the 19th of June, just a week ... A: Did it go alright? My word, yes! He was conversational, asking you personal questions, listening, ... | |
| Emotional confusion | 6/26/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend (25, i'm 22), is going through a lot right now, finishing up his degree and some other ... A: Your boyfriend is going through a lot emotionally right now. His son means so much to him and if ... | |
| I don't think I expressed myself well to my (sort of) ex, but now I'm not sure it even matters | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: [Hi, Michael! I was jumping off the subject line, not referring to another question. This one ... A: First of all, you come across in your writing as extremely intelligent, perceptive beyond the norm ... | |
| crush has stopped flirting with me | 6/23/2010 |
| Q: im a 21yr female, he's 22. So i know this guy from my work, he had been chasing me for quite some ... A: It was my pleasure to talk Langie. As for him calling you a good catch, even if that is an old, ... | |
| crush has stopped flirting with me | 6/20/2010 |
| Q: im a 21yr female, he's 22. So i know this guy from my work, he had been chasing me for quite some ... A: How are you? You actually are great with details and share a lot of clues to your situation. Let's ... | |
| I'm 21, he's 29. Is he interested? =/ | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: Now this guy is 29, im 21, we're at the same company diff dept. When we first met, we had this ... A: I was very happy to talk together. Cheers to you too. Michael Dear Sam, You're not psychotic. ... | |
| I'm 21, he's 29. Is he interested? =/ | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: Now this guy is 29, im 21, we're at the same company diff dept. When we first met, we had this ... A: That you do smile back should be a clue to him that you don't mind him looking your way. The same ... | |
| I'm 21, he's 29. Is he interested? =/ | 6/18/2010 |
| Q: Now this guy is 29, im 21, we're at the same company diff dept. When we first met, we had this ... A: He's interested. Trust me. If you're catching him constantly staring at you it's because he finds ... | |
| What does his behavior mean? | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: I am a female living in Berkeley, California. A few months ago, I had to get an oral surgery. A few ... A: This is a strange story you've shared and I think your instincts are telling you such. Here's his ... | |
| online sex blog | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy, really nice, sweet and handsome. Dressed well, in graduate school, has a good job ... A: I apologize it took me so long to write. If this man still has all this information on MySpace, ... | |
| Anxious! | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: Well here's a prelude to a common struggle I've had my whole life. I'm 21 and I seem to have a ... A: Please read on below... Hey Michael, I completely agree. I would love to be able to be that ... | |
| Anxious! | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: Well here's a prelude to a common struggle I've had my whole life. I'm 21 and I seem to have a ... A: I give you a lot of credit. You haven't given up, you do know the challenges you face in trying to ... | |
| Dealing with a boyfriends very autistic child | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I care very much for both of his children but his ... A: What you're experiencing now is your life and more of what it will become if you and your boyfriend ... | |
| Men dating younger women | 5/30/2010 |
| Q: Why do most men in their 40's and older only seem to be interested in dating women much younger than ... A: I also wanted to apologize for the typos. You have a great week. Michael Dear Murphy, You're ... | |
| Was this a bad way to approach a girl ? | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: Dan, Ah, I'm sorry. She seemingly was showing signs of interest. I think she likes you as a ... | |
| Was this a bad way to approach a girl ? | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: How are you? You continue to do the right thing, interacting with her. Being playful, teasing her ... | |
| dating | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for two years, He is single and I am single we have the best connection ... A: I'm very happy that you and your man have a strong connection. Those are just not easy to find so ... | |
| is this guy just a flirt? | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: There is a guy from another department at work who started talking to me a couple of months ago, ... A: Here's what's happening with this guy -- he surely is drawn to you, as his attentive behavior shows. ... | |
| Was this a bady way to approach a girl ? | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm a guy in college and there is a girl who i like. I spoke to her very briefly since i heard her ... A: Try not to beat yourself up. A lot of guys are shy around girls. With practice, you can learn to ... | |
| Emotional distress | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a constant state of emotional distress for a few months now over this guy I've been ... A: A very emotional letter you shared. As I read through it, one paragraph grabbed me. Try re-reading ... | |
| Casual to committed | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: First of all, I am thoroughly impressed by the way you have expressed your approach to this subject. ... A: :) As I read your letter, what immediately came to my mind was not your lack of knowledge on how to ... | |
| How should I bring this up and when? | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: So there's this guy that I'm kinda interested in that works at the grocery store. I went there ... A: Hi. You asked why your response made me laugh, "was it totally bad?" No, of course not. It made me ... | |
| How should I bring this up and when? | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: So there's this guy that I'm kinda interested in that works at the grocery store. I went there ... A: First of all, your response to the guy you're attracted to made me laugh. I like that you were not ... | |
| Too Strong, Too Soon | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: I was seeing this guy Tyler and everything was going pretty good between us. Me, being artistic and ... A: Janine, I think he was enjoying your company, found you attractive and fun. At some point, and only ... | |
| Too Strong, Too Soon | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: I was seeing this guy Tyler and everything was going pretty good between us. Me, being artistic and ... A: The strong feeling I'm getting from this situation after the excellent details you shared is that ... | |
| Proper Etiquette | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: There is a man that used to be a boyfriend to one of my girlfriends. They broke up 2 years ago. He ... A: Your question shows that you are a naturally considerate person and care deeply for your ... | |
| dating gay man moving on | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: Michael I am glad i wrote you . I feel i also see something else in my gay friend that bothers me . ... A: Some comments... "Full of guilt for everything i did wrong to cause me pain." ---Taking ... | |
| dating gay man moving on | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: Michael I am glad i wrote you . I feel i also see something else in my gay friend that bothers me . ... A: You may not realize it but your last letter looked very cathartic. If you re-read it I think you'll ... | |
| i am in love with a gay /bisexual man | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: I met a man 5 years ago. I learned in the first few months he is gay. I adore him , we get along ... A: Letting your feelings out, talking about them is often a positive act. He hurt you and it hurt ... | |
| i am in love with a gay /bisexual man | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: I met a man 5 years ago. I learned in the first few months he is gay. I adore him , we get along ... A: To answer your question, your message is seen unless you, on your end, check "private." Regrettably, ... | |
| i am in love with a gay /bisexual man | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: I met a man 5 years ago. I learned in the first few months he is gay. I adore him , we get along ... A: I can sense you have deep affection for your male friend. Your connection, the times shared, sound ... | |
| discussing past relationships | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm 28 and my bf is 30. We've been together 5 or 6 months. I often try to probe him about his past ... A: The reason your boyfriend says "notice how I never discuss my past relationships" might very well ... | |
| bullying case | 4/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 33 year old female medical student. There was another 29 year old female medical student who ... A: First of all, I'm very sorry you've had to endure this sort of treatment from a mentally disturbed ... | |
| "Getting" Each Other | 4/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm sure this is going to sound materialistic but it does have a psychological aspect in there too. ... A: What's going on with your boyfriend is this -- he is sloppy when it comes to being in a relationship ... | |
| dating | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: the girl that i like told me today that she got some dudes number over the weekend, i think she ... A: I don't think you made a mistake at all. You were bold and confident and that's a good thing. As ... | |
| Starting to sleep with a partner | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: I figured it was safe to ask you about this since you've examined human behavior and you give ... A: I feel for you on this situation because I've slept with people whom sleep like your boyfriend. I ... | |
| cyberdating | 4/3/2010 |
| Q: It's Siavash.How're you doing? Michael,I hope you are doing fine and successful in your day-to-day ... A: I'm doing well, my friend. How have you been? Nice to talk with you again. I hope this message ... | |
| Long Distance.. | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I met a girl about a year ago. she is a relative of a close friend of mine and at first we didn't ... A: What I can I say -- not much. It took me forever to get back with you. I'm sorry. So very busy ... | |
| mutual sexual attraction, great friendship too | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: About 10 years ago, I began dating a young man that I was very attracted to. I was pretty young at ... A: I very much apologize for taking so long in which to reply. I've been very busy with other projects. ... | |
| Dating A Cheater.... | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: I have been seeing a guy who was supposed to be 'breaking it off' with the woman he lives with. He ... A: I hate to say this but this man is attempting to manipulate you. He's not being honest, to begin ... | |
| dating and keeping a man interested | 2/20/2010 |
| Q: I have recently started dating a man who lives 3 1/2 hours from me, he is 44 and I am 46. We met ... A: This man does have feelings for you and his consistent contact with you shows you have his ... | |
| should i make the next move | 2/20/2010 |
| Q: i MET a guy three weeks ago. We had two dates. He was really into me until later that night another ... A: He has an interest in you right now, but as you wonder yourself, it's mild. Like you wrote, taking ... | |
| Stay as we are or? | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: I have been seeing this guy for almost 5 months. We both have busy lives %26 work shift work. He is ... A: If he's not expressing himself verbally on a consistent basis, if he's not showing he wants more ... | |
| what did i do wrong? | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: Okay. Met a guy a week ago at a bar. We really hit it off. He said he had a gut feeling about me ... A: You did nothing rude nor disrespectful. Your date sounds overly sensitive, maybe because of past ... | |
| The approaching | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: How're you?I hope this new year would be a great year for you! Thanks to your advices I'm making ... A: Always nice to hear from you. You've got it right, my friend...when a woman is interested, she'll ... | |
| etiquette | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: Obviously, the mean girls' behavior is their problem, not yours. Their bad character, not yours. ... | |
| confused | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Ive been on and off with the same guy for almost 5 years. We've been through quite a lot! He has ... A: This is difficult for me to share because I always wish to be sensitive of other people's feelings. ... | |
| hello | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: ..okay i need help relaxing in relationships. Everytime I start seeing a guy I get too attatched ( ... A: You love the feeling of togetherness with a guy and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that ... | |
| Those 3 words. | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: Im 17 and my boyfriend is 16. We met in July 2009 and liked eachother right away. But then in August ... A: You're not a whiny teenager at all. You wrote to me, shared something personal that was very ... | |
| my girlfriends finances | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: My question is a two part question. I don't know what to do about the situation?, and am I just ... A: Your girlfriend is struggling with discipline but it goes deeper than that fact. Sure, she makes a ... | |
| Did she cheat? | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: First of all thank you for taking the time to consider my question. I have been seeing a particular ... A: "Thank you again for answering my question. If it is not too much to ask I would like to respond to ... | |
| Did she cheat? | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: First of all thank you for taking the time to consider my question. I have been seeing a particular ... A: Please read on below... "First of all thank you for taking the time to consider my question." ... | |
| My Boyfriend and compliments | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: I am 22yrs old and my boyfriend is 23, and we live in the US. I absolutely love my boyfriend. ... A: how are you? Please read on below... "I am 22yrs old and my boyfriend is 23, and we live in the ... | |
| Relationship Hiatus | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and I live In Manitoba, Canada. I have been with my boyfriend for two years(in ... A: Please read on below... "I am 19 years old and I live In Manitoba, Canada." ---Thank you for ... | |
| His work and Me | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: My man is extremely focused on his job. I thought that was great at first. But we never spend ... A: You are no. 3 in his life. While I imagine he's wiped out after those long hours if the woman in his ... | |
| how to convince him to stop drinking | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: i read your portfolio, i was impressed and hope you could help me in this its so important to me and ... A: My father worked, and forgive me if I communicate this incorrectly, in what he called the Sinai. It ... | |
| Where do i go next? | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: Im having a situation thats recently been very hard to cope with. I used to be dating a guy named ... A: Fear often immobilizes us. It keeps us from going where we want, accomplishing good things and we ... | |
| Explain these Mixed Signals | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: He is a colleague of a family member, the first time I met him, he stood there acting like a deer ... A: Let's talk about certain points... he was staring hard at you he asked you to be his personal ... | |
| Never met this breed of woman before! | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I hate when people write a lot in these questions but this one is a long story. guess i'll start ... A: Hey Mykel, As far as strategy, I think being friendly and nothing more and showing her little ... | |
| Never met this breed of woman before! | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: I hate when people write a lot in these questions but this one is a long story. guess i'll start ... A: I don't believe she hates you. She does seem like the ice queen but maybe you know this -- a lot of ... | |
| Is it Love or Hell? I can't tell. | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: Boyfriend of 7 months, the last 2 of which have been non-stop arguing and the previous 5 with ups ... A: They touched me. You are empowered by your perception. You thought and talked your way to a good ... | |
| question | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: Why is it that people who are highly intelligent, sneaky, sly, and cunning...tend to be the most ... A: Hey Mystery of Life, Those with behavioral issues, personality failures, are just that way. While I ... | |
| Which option should I choose | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: I wrote you a little less than 3 months ago, under the subject ‘Not really sure what is going on ... A: How are you? Sorry it took me so long to write back. I've been on vacation for Christmas. I did go ... | |
| Where do i go next? | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: Im having a situation thats recently been very hard to cope with. I used to be dating a guy named ... A: You have accepted the reality of where you are and you're seeking the truth, working on a solution. ... | |
| Sick of his S***!!!! | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: he does alot of things that piss me off. like he will go and hang with his friends and not even ... A: His behavior is screaming "I'm not into this relationship anymore." When someone is lazy with ... | |
| Confused with my ex | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: I have some questions regarding to a break up that I recent had with this woman who was in a three ... A: Hey Thomas, "First of all, I feel greatly appreciated for your assistance as there were no one that ... | |
| hello | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: i am 20 yrs old, in college, and have had some bad experiences with friends over the last few years ... A: " At least you have a sense of humor and can laugh about all this -- that's a big plus. A little ... | |
| Does he like me: | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: "In a week, a friend of mine will be coming all the way to where I live ( in Canada) from the U.S. ... A: You're most welcome Kendra. :) Michael Dear Kendra, If a guy is willing to travel, five years ... | |
| Love and Test | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: #1How can a man show/tell he loves her? my girlfriend asked me why i love her and i replied by ... A: My pleasure to help Boon. Anytime. My best, Michael Hi Boon, Greetings. I've read your ... | |
| What Now? | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to you after the fact that all of these events had occurred. I want your opinion as to ... A: Annie, thank you for the very kind comments. We all have "ouch" revelations at certain points in our ... | |
| Second date? | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: I really need your help. I live in the Washington DC area. I went on a date with an amazing guy. ... A: Please read on below... "Hi Michael." ---Hey. :) "I really need your help." ---I'm always happy ... | |
| How, if at all should I chase Jessica? | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: Michael, I am very attracted to a co-worker, but not sure whether to reveal my interest, and if I ... A: "Thanks for the previous answer." ---My pleasure. "I will take your advice about keeping it ... | |
| How, if at all should I chase Jessica? | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: Michael, I am very attracted to a co-worker, but not sure whether to reveal my interest, and if I ... A: I'm happy to talk together. Please read on below... "Michael, I am very attracted to a ... | |
| What does it mean when he says... | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: When you've made it perfectly clear that you are attracted to him, and he says, "I'm flattered. You ... A: He might be attracted to you but his response to your interest shows he's not planning on making a ... | |
| What does it mean when he says... | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: When you've made it perfectly clear that you are attracted to him, and he says, "I'm flattered. You ... A: When a man responds as you wrote he's saying this -- "he's flattered you feel attracted to him but ... | |
| Culture clash | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: Michael I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I am Italian and he is Turkish. He is 29. He ... A: Please read on below... "Michael I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I am Italian and he is ... | |
| I don't know if I"l get to see him again. | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I posted this on another site so that's why it's in this form please don't suggest facebook or ... A: Did I say something offensive and hurt your feelings? If so, of course I'm very sorry. I would ... | |
| Getting out of "friend zone" | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: how are you? Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to ask anymore follow up questions but maybe you’ll ... A: "Hello Michael, how are you?" ---Doing well, thank you. Thanks for asking. "Unfortunately, I ... | |
| Our trouble is his troubled teen | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating Tony (40) for almost a year and it is the best relationship I've ever had. I'm ... A: "I am looking forward to your webster!" ---So very nice of you to say, thank you. :) "If you ... | |
| Our trouble is his troubled teen | 11/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating Tony (40) for almost a year and it is the best relationship I've ever had. I'm ... A: Please read on below... "I have been dating Tony (40) for almost a year and it is the best ... | |
| Dating/Flirting | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: Does she considers me as a friend or the other guy? Here's the sequence of events in order: 1) Met ... A: This girl sounds like she's placed you, regrettably, in the friend category. You have to pay close ... | |
| coworkers don't like me? | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: I just started a new job, and I get the feeling I'm not well liked. I am 34 years old and everyone ... A: Please read on below... "I just started a new job, and I get the feeling I'm not well liked. I am ... | |
| drama queens | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Why are some fat, ugly girls so hateful and have the worst attitudes? Not all...but a lot of them ... A: Some "fat, ugly girls" are hateful and have the worst attitudes for the same reason that some ... | |
| Strange situation | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: This really isn't all that important, but I was curious anyway as to what was going on. I have this ... A: Please read on below... "This really isn't all that important, but I was curious anyway as to what ... | |
| Fun,interesting dates | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: hey Michael,It's Siavash.How're you?I hope you are doing fine. In your previous answer to my ... A: I'm doing well, thank you. Hope you are too. To answer your question I'd say you can approach it ... | |
| follow up | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: --------------------------------------------- Hi, I liked this guy Jeff and he seemed really ... A: Sorry for the typos. I think I should start doing some proofreading, don't you? I've corrected ... | |
| question | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: I liked this guy Jeff and he seemed really interested in me but he never asked me out. I'm the nice, ... A: Sounds like you made an impression on Jeff, one that has been lasting. From what his friends are ... | |
| Boys, Boys, Boys | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: I met this guys through a friend. Hes 23 I'm 19, we're both in college. We hit it off instantly. ... A: Please read on below... "I met this guy through a friend. Hes 23 I'm 19, we're both in college. We ... | |
| creating intimacy | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: Hey dear Michael,how`re you?It`s Siavash.After that bitter experience with the poetry gal,thanks to ... A: Greetings. It was nice to hear of your building connection with the new person you're dating. Your ... | |
| Asking out a girl | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I really like this girl who works in a nearby supermarket. I think she's really pretty. What would ... A: You're so right --- take risks in life. Those who do might fail more but they also have more ... | |
| Relationship Advice | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: A few months ago, I started dating a man who I became very fond of. One evening, he asked to borrow ... A: I'd be very happy to help. Please read below. :) "A few months ago, I started dating a man who I ... | |
| After the Breakup. | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: So, I broke up with this girl. I told her I needed to move on, that after everything I tried to do ... A: You convey so much emotion -- pain and confusion primarily -- in your letter. That you still have ... | |
| Is He Really As Into Me As He Says He Is? | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: I work with a guy that I have started to become really good friends with but we've also blurred the ... A: Forgive me for taking so long to respond. Been extremely busy and finding time to talk has been ... | |
| brother and i dating the same girl | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: My brother was dating this girl, and was out of town, when she approached me and asked if i wanted ... A: First things first -- I understand attraction is a hard thing to deny mentally and physically but ... | |
| thanks | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: Hey Michael. Wanted to thank you again. I think you would agree that this girl has been an "unusual" ... A: My pleasure to help. I will address some points from your letter. This is just me but I don't ... | |
| overwhelmed??? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ... A: Please read below... "My boyfriend and I have been together for six months now. We both feel like ... | |
| ex-boyfriend | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I just met the most wonderful women a little over a month ago. I was actually on a blind date when I ... A: Please read below... "Now last week or so the ex starts texting again telling her how he has ... | |
| Not really sure what is going on here | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: Met this girl a couple months back, and instantly clicked. Anytime we were in the same room we spent ... A: Hey Josh, If you wish to keep this girl "in the picture" you can do so by seeing her solely as a ... | |
| stumped | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: Well Michael, the saga continues. You asked me to let you know what happened so here's the latest. ... A: Your follow-up approach showed a lot of maturity and class. Trust me, even though she didn't give ... | |
| when the attraction flame`s gone 2 | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: How`re you?It`s Siavash.I`ve spent 1 week planning for the second date only to find out that this ... A: Siavash, One thing I admire about you is you never let a disappointing experience keep you down. ... | |
| Not really sure what is going on here | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: Met this girl a couple months back, and instantly clicked. Anytime we were in the same room we spent ... A: Your letter has some twists and turns so I'm going to break it into paragraphs and answer them as we ... | |
| Curious Situation, Like an Unbiased Opinion | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: Hey Steve, I am currently, I suppose, in a sticky situation with a girl or we are totally finished. ... A: Steve, Go with your gut instinct in most situations, as long as it's moral. Your idea of flowers ... | |
| Curious Situation, Like an Unbiased Opinion | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: Hey Steve, I am currently, I suppose, in a sticky situation with a girl or we are totally finished. ... A: Emails are so impersonal, especially when someone's pissed at you. At this point, try the phone ... | |
| stumped | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: Well Michael, the saga continues. You asked me to let you know what happened so here's the latest. ... A: "I was supportive in my communications with her last week. But I obviously made some snide comments. ... | |
| Curious Situation, Like an Unbiased Opinion | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: Hey Steve, I am currently, I suppose, in a sticky situation with a girl or we are totally finished. ... A: First things first, my support to you and your family. That's a heavy burden to carry. I pray it ... | |
| Should i date him? | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: I went on a date with someone I met on a dating network. He has a nice personality and hes a ... A: Sadly it sounds like you'd be wasting your time on him. I can tell you sense what's going on here. ... | |
| what should i do after sex? | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: So i've been dating this guy since May. IT's been over 4 months. Last saturday, we went over to his ... A: Please read on below... "So i've been dating this guy since May. IT's been over 4 months. Last ... | |
| stumped | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: Well Michael, the saga continues. You asked me to let you know what happened so here's the latest. ... A: "We texted each other a couple Sundays ago. She was in Vegas for a wedding. She said she just wanted ... | |
| sex, men and relationships | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: I am a 30ish female. I am hard working an have just finished a degree with a good result. I have ... A: You are surely an accomplished woman, having career and family, juggling it all and doing it well. ... | |
| I'm confused | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: I am a 19 year old girl. I used to work with this guy, and after I left we started hanging out, ... A: He called you beautiful, you write. He likes you. Trust me. You also shared he is extremely shy, ... | |
| Falling into the same bad habits? | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 23 year old female. I have had an issue with being too interested in guys since I can ... A: Please read below... "I'm a 23 year old female. I have had an issue with being too interested in ... | |
| Follow up | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: Hey Michael. How's it goin? I'm assuming you remember me. The guy with a daughter who is getting ... A: "Oh one more thing. She has been on Match.com everyday since Sunday. Before that she was getting on ... | |
| Follow up | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: Hey Michael. How's it goin? I'm assuming you remember me. The guy with a daughter who is getting ... A: Hope you've had a good weekend. "Hi Michael. So here's the latest. After the Sunday texts and ... | |
| Follow up | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: Hey Michael. How's it goin? I'm assuming you remember me. The guy with a daughter who is getting ... A: I responded to your follow up below... "Regarding the beer and football thing, Michael this girl ... | |
| Follow up (I was "confused") | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: Hey Michael. How's it goin? I'm assuming you remember me. The guy with a daughter who is getting ... A: I'm doing very well thank you. Nice to hear from you. Please read on below.. "Anyway, after more ... | |
| advice | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I have two questions rolled into one. It's both a dating and career question. I'm a 32 year old ... A: Please read on below... If this man's superior never responded to your email then that's code for ... | |
| when the attraction flame`s gone | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: How`re you?It`s Siavash.I`ve spent 1 week planning for the second date only to find out that this ... A: I'm doing well, thank you. I send best wishes to you. Regarding the girl who no longer is ... | |
| Help please! | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I met this guy 3 years ago at a hotel I worked at, he was a guest. He had his girlfrind and I had my ... A: Very sweet. It was a pleasure to get together and talk. Now empowered you can pursue the life you ... | |
| vacation | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I met a lovely chap about a month ago. He is 45 divorced with two teenage kids and I'm 35 with no ... A: Please read on below. "I met a lovely chap about a month ago. He is 45 divorced with two teenage ... | |
| jealous and left me fuming | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: so me and my boyfriend are 17 yrs old and have been dating for 4 years but he is really jealous and ... A: New Zealand? I've always wanted to visit. Hopefully, one day. Now to your question... If your ... | |
| Boyfriends best friend? | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: I am in a weird situation.. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 years we have had some ... A: It was my pleasure. :) Dear Stacy, I'd be happy to talk. Please read on below. ... | |
| how do i get him | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I really like this guy...but he has a steady girlfriend that he has been dating for a year. The girl ... A: You sound very desirable -- intelligent, educated, exotic looking and very ambitious. But he has a ... | |
| She hasn't replied to my texts | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been chatting and seeing a girl for the last 6 weeks or so and we have just been getting to ... A: Please read on below... "Hi, I've been chatting and seeing a girl for the last 6 weeks or so and ... | |
| Online sex | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of 2 and a half years has joined several dating/online ... A: Please read on below... "I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of 2 and a half years has ... | |
| Confused | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I put the confused title up there so you would remember me. I'm the guy with the daughter who broke ... A: Maybe you just were sharing some insight with me and there is no need for me to respond but I'm ... | |
| Confused | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I put the confused title up there so you would remember me. I'm the guy with the daughter who broke ... A: Mark, Thanks for the compliments and invitation to meet up for drinks. Very nice. Your female ... | |
| Confused | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: I put the confused title up there so you would remember me. I'm the guy with the daughter who broke ... A: I do remember you. Let's look at your letter... "Anyway, interesting thing happened. I was on line ... | |
| Follow Up to dating in the workplace | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: This is a follow up but our emails were long, so I wrote all the way at the bottom of this in caps ... A: Read on below... "OK MICHAEL IM GOING TO WRITE IN CAPS LOCK SO THAT YOU CAN DIFFERENTIATE MY NEW ... | |
| How to make her feel special? 2 | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: hey Michael ,It`s Siavash again.how`re you?I had a first date with this gal in a cafe ,it went very ... A: No need to do something for me in return. I consider it an honor to try and help in anyway I can. ... | |
| no sense | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: bascially i need something to ease my mind... the truth. i started seeing a guy at my work place 2 ... A: It was my pleasure to talk together and find some clarity and solution options. I wish you the ... | |
| What does he mean? | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: What does it mean for a guy I like to call me his kid sister? we are the same age. A: Honestly, I think he is conveying that he likes you as a friend, that you and him have things in ... | |
| dating in the workplace | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: So I just started a new job as a host at an upscale restaurant, I am not planning on staying in this ... A: "I was standing next to him today and completely avoided my eyes and looked out the door. Is he shy ... | |
| How to make her feel special? | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: hey Michael ,It`s Siavash again.how`re you?I had a first date with this gal in a cafe ,it went very ... A: I'm doing well and I hope you are as well. Nice to hear from you. To answer your questions: "Do ... | |
| dating in the workplace | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: So I just started a new job as a host at an upscale restaurant, I am not planning on staying in this ... A: Please read below... "Hello!" ---Hello to you too. "So I just started a new job as a host at an ... | |
| advice | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: People keep asking me for relationship advice. I don't know why. Anyway, so now one of my friends ... A: Please read below... "People keep asking me for relationship advice. I don't know why." ---It's a ... | |
| Confused | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: OK here's the background. My marriage was ending. I for years was conflicted because I realized I ... A: Always a pleasure talking. Best to you. Michael Hi Mark, "Hey Michael welcome back. OK please ... | |
| Emotional investment with very little return | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: I definatly need help in order to make a decision. I have been in a relationship for 6 years. I met ... A: Now to address your points... "To sum up that long long night he never came home. He called and ... | |
| Confused | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: OK here's the background. My marriage was ending. I for years was conflicted because I realized I ... A: I'll answer your questions under your own writing. "Thanks for the thoughtful response. It helped. ... | |
| bully roommate | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: You have helped me before but I need your help again. Last year I lived with a 2 bully roommates. ... A: I remember you. First of all, you didn't think you could move out...but you did. So smart. ... | |
| Should I Be Suspicious | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: Two days ago, my girlfriend returned from a camping trip with some friends. Before she left, we ... A: Your uneasiness with this situation is instinct that tells you something just isn't right, and I ... | |
| Confused | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: OK here's the background. My marriage was ending. I for years was conflicted because I realized I ... A: I apologize it took me so long to get back with you. I had a busy week on more than one level. I'd ... | |
| Confused and Lost..... | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: My name is Rebecca. I have been with my bf for a year now.He is a medical representative and a very ... A: "I do sometimes feel he's making excuses but am not sure. I don't know if everyone's diff. Diff guys ... | |
| sexual intimacy during reconciliation period | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend broke up with me about 7 and a half weeks ago. Recently we have been spending time ... A: When a girl breaks up with a guy she puts up fences in her mind and heart and even if she's open to ... | |
| guy with girlfriend | 6/20/2009 |
| Q: so i like this guy, he really likes me back, but he has had a long distance girlfriend for about 4 ... A: You two have the mutual attraction going but this guy, right now, doesn't want a serious ... | |
| Too nice? | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: I am a 37 year old woman that has been single for just over 6 years. I took the breakup of my last ... A: Your letter was fascinating to read. There seems to be more than one conflict occuring from my ... | |
| Should I stand back? | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: I met a guy quite randomly in the supermarket. We got talking, exchanged numbers (he asked for mine) ... A: I enjoyed talking together. Michael Dear Elaine, Thanks for writing. You didn't ... | |
| turnning her into my gf | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: your advices have been very helpful for me.Now to my new question :so far I have been considering ... A: It's nice to hear from you. If you're interested in this classmate of yours what I first recommend ... | |
| Will I find love? | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old female, born on January 8th, 1980. My problem is this—I am afraid that I won’t ... A: Shannon, Thank you for the very kind words. Made me smile. It was a pleasure talking. Wishing you ... | |
| ? | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: I work in a group of 5 people. I was new to the job. These other people are all senior (despite ... A: First of all, you have my empathy in having to endure such a toxic situation.. Obviously this bunch ... | |
| friend with benefits | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: My male friend and i have been friends for 12 years. We have been spending alot of time together ... A: I'm honored. You know, friends with benefits is so accepted in our culture today as normal. While ... | |
| He's confusing! | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old. I really like this guy I've been hanging out with for a few weeks and we hang out ... A: Your guy is expressing that he would like you to call because he doesn't want to do all "the work" ... | |
| Obsessing? | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months (He’s 20, I’m 18). We have really great physical ... A: You write with such maturity. Your instinct is telling you something important, probably because ... | |
| spitting game | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: i have never been able to approach girls. i need your help 2 find out how. please help me. A: You know how guys who are successful with girls do it? It starts, always, with confidence. Not ... | |
| Middle School Summer | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: Hey Michael, I recently noticed that you answered a middle school student's question. I am also in ... A: You're welcome Christian. It was a pleasure to talk together. You seem like a mature, caring guy. Be ... | |
| He is ignoring me... | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend since October 2008. We have been arguing a bit recently, mainly ... A: You're very upset. I don't blame you one bit. He's not showing common courtesy nor does he have any ... | |
| Attracting Girl | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: "How to attract my student? (I am a young peer tutor at the college)? I am a full-time student at a ... A: You have some things going for you here with this girl who has captured your interest. First, you ... | |
| amplifying the attraction | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: Sorry it`s a bit long.I`ve met this gal in the university,so far two dates with her have gone very ... A: Greetings. Thank you for the kind words. If this girl made a promise and then didn't keep it and ... | |
| I need to know what to do | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: She got told that if she went with me she would loose her son to him but she has sole cousity of ... A: My pleasure Jeremey. Thank you for the compliments. Hope things work out well for you and your ... | |
| The Final Chapter of Middle School | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: Hey, Michael. Do you remember me? Chris? The 13-year-old guy with an obsession with a girl named ... A: I do remember you. I'm happy to hear you are feeling strong after moving your thoughts from Megan ... | |
| amplifying the attraction | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: Sorry it`s a bit long.I`ve met this gal in the university,so far two dates with her have gone very ... A: Greetings Siavash, If both dates have gone very well, you've created a comfort level with her and ... | |
| boyfriends kids sleep with us | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a man for 3 months. He has an 8 yr old girl and a 10 yr old boy. He says that if ... A: Your approach to this situation is mature. Your boyfriend's is not. First of all, let's talk about ... | |
| Dating and relationships | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: My friend of a year and girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me a few days ago. I know that she ... A: happy to talk together. Hold out hope if you desire. Don't let anyone steal that from you. Just ... | |
| Birthday gift for former girlfriend | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: It has been a year and a half since my girlfriend sadly called it quits with me. When her birthday ... A: I can see clearly you still have powerful feelings for your ex-girlfriend, are still remembering ... | |
| rushed break up | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: i am 18 years old and just broke up with my girlfriend. She was in a relationship before me with a ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend and you, really I am. I can feel how strongly it's affected ... | |
| compliments | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: How are you? I’m 25 year old and my bf is 26 years old, we are living together at the moment. My ... A: What your boyfriend is showing you is loud and clear. First of all, he's afraid to be truthful with ... | |
| generation gap | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Belove, I'm a 28 year old woman and I've moved in with my parents for just this one month while I ... A: Your mother overreacted. And from reading your whole letter it's easy to see the sweater was not ... | |
| trust? | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: i have been dating my boyfriend for a couple months now and have known eachother for over 2 years, ... A: If your boyfriend responded to your inquiry by crying and saying he would act that way again it ... | |
| Complicated. | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I don't know if you can help me, but I will give it a try! I will try my best to sum this up: ... A: Here's what first stood out to me: "...he started acting all funny, and not getting back to me. One ... | |
| should I pursue | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old woman. I'm in graduate school pursuing a doctorate. I met an incredibly handsome ... A: "See, the thing is, that she is on his facebook too as his significant other, but he has all these ... | |
| first impression and serious dating | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: A few questions. You know how you get that instant gut feeling that someone is not a nice person? ... A: Interesting subject matter you've shared with me. I think we're similar personalities to some degree ... | |
| should I pursue | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old woman. I'm in graduate school pursuing a doctorate. I met an incredibly handsome ... A: Let's answer your letter. "I am a 28 year old woman. I'm in graduate school pursuing a doctorate. I ... | |
| Can exs still be friends? | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm David and I need your advice. Over two years ago, I broke up with my ex and began dating again. ... A: What two people decide is between them. I believe that you can be friends with an ex if both people ... | |
| did i make the wrong move? | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: So, i been seeing this guy for a while...on the first two date he was such a gentlemen and he never ... A: This guy is really into you. The only reason he didn't kiss you was he lacked enough confidence to ... | |
| Why isn't this girl replying ? | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: This girl & i have been texting each other lately & things have been going well. We went out as ... A: Sorry it took me a while to get back to you. I've spent the last several days moving. It sounds to ... | |
| My mom hates my girlfriend | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: First I would like to thank you for taking the time to help me. I have dated this girl once before ... A: Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I've spent the last several days moving and then had ... | |
| Can I or can't I? A two person perspective... | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I had the following situation occur, and my girlfriend wrote the following, a very fair 3rd person ... A: What your girlfriend is trying to express in this letter is hurt. The issue for her is more about ... | |
| men have no concept of female sexuality | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a graduate student female. I'm 27, single, and very attractive. Have not had much experience ... A: You opened my eyes. I'm a little older than you but this was new, realizing that most women look at ... | |
| men have no concept of female sexuality | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a graduate student female. I'm 27, single, and very attractive. Have not had much experience ... A: Fascinating questions you present. Men love confident women who are comfortable and adventurous in ... | |
| relatioship advice | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: i have 5 months in relationship with my boyfriend, we are both 21. We started out as friends since ... A: Watch what guys do, not what they say and watch how they behave consistently, not what they do once ... | |
| am I being slow on the uptake | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: To give you some background, I am a 45 y/o single mom with a six y/o and have been widowed for 3 ... A: ---Hi Jen. "To give you some background, I am a 45 y/o single mom with a six y/o and have been ... | |
| No Valentine Day | 3/21/2009 |
| Q: I was seeing someone since March, 2007. We generally got together once every week for almost a year. ... A: I can certainly feel your anxiety and hurt in your letter. Relationships can be confusing and ... | |
| sealing the dealy | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so i think.. stratch that, i know i am an attractive guy. Not too be all cocky but i am very ... A: Hey Marty, The givens: you certainly know how to attract women and connect with them. That's ... | |
| Not willing to change my mind. | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: It was so difficult to choose a subject, because my situation consists of a few things. But not too ... A: I'd like to answer your letter by writing under your paragraphs. I would also like to thank you for ... | |
| PLAYING GAMES? | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: iVE BEEN DATING SOMEONE FOR ABOUT 3 MONTHS NOW, ON AND OFF, I WAS NOT TOO MUCH INTO HIM IN THE ... A: As I often share with people, watch behavior, consistent behavior much more than what is said to get ... | |
| playing hard to get....or just not interested? | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: (I'm a woman) I like a guy at school and it's pretty clear he's interested. But he is one of those ... A: This guy's behavior tells me some things: He's obviously full of himself, definitely smug, ... | |
| Wishes don't come true, do they? | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm Chris, a 13-year-old guy who's in unrequited love with another 13-year-old, Megan. You better ... A: Don't be down on yourself. Megan showed with her behavior towards you she doesn't have good manners. ... | |
| unwanted doubt | 3/13/2009 |
| Q: I guess I'll just start from the beginning, and try to make this as simple as possible. I am a 27 ... A: It was a pleasure to talk. Regarding the move, your concerns are surely valid, as a man whom is 40 ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/11/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: ---You're welcome. Happy to be able to talk. This is not so much a follow-up for questions as ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: It was a pleasure to talk together. Dialogue opens us up to new ideas or often clarifies what we ... | |
| game | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 29 year old woman on the dating scene. Lately, a lot of men (mainly the ones out for ... A: While I'm embarrassed to share the answers you seek I will to offer insight as the courtesy you ... | |
| experience | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm 27 years old and even though I'm almost 30, I've never had a boyfriend. I'm still a virgin. I ... A: No, you're not a loser, not a total loser, not weird, not a freak, not anything negative. You've ... | |
| How can I tell what she wants from me? | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I'm a 21 year old guy and I recently met this great 20 year old girl. We texted for a while ... A: This is a very interesting situation. The good news is you shared enough quality details to give me ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: Wow, that was one epic letter. Reminds me of how I write myself. Due to the length please allow me ... | |
| tough situation | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I am in a situation you read about every day. I too am going through a break-up. I know what I am ... A: I sense the depth of your anxiety over your feelings. What you're experiencing now is conflict over ... | |
| Attention seeking | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: I've been in relationship for 16 months now, and my boyfriend's "girl best friend" is a very ... A: If you trust your boyfriend, great. At least he's the only one who might have to interact with this ... | |
| does he like me or is he just being freindly | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: does he guy like me or he just being freindly? i intern in a magic show and a new magician came to ... A: Let's answer your letter. It appears this man likes you as a person and thinks you're cute but his ... | |
| dating | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: I am 28. I have been courting this girl who has a BF. Before I started the process I asked if ... A: Hey Sean, It was my pleasure to talk. Wish I had better news to share but now you have a good feel ... | |
| Making Friends | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: I am 32 years old. I have been single my entire life. In couple of months, I will go overseas to ... A: First of all, thank you, very much, for your military service. May God keep you safe when you travel ... | |
| Question on writing a good online personal ad | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: How are you? My name is Julian and I reside in Coral Springs, FL. I was checking out single women ... A: I'm doing fine, thanks for asking. Hope you are too. While I also agree that long-distance ... | |
| Does this show disinterest from a girl ? | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I went to a bar club last night cos it was my friend's birthday. Keep in mind this club is over 21's ... A: At first, what you wrote made me believe the girls saw you as "cute" but were not romantically ... | |
| relationship problems | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight because he had found out I was trying to contact my ... A: Two things come to mind here. First, your boyfriend over-reacting to you talking to a friend (he's ... | |
| feelings | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm looking for a guy's perspective on my dating confusion. Lol, hopefully you can help me out! I'm ... A: You asked for a guy's perspective and that's what I do, so I'd be happy to share some insight. This ... | |
| Are some things unforgivable? | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: I’m really not sure how to approach this. There’s a particular part that brings me to be writing you ... A: Your letter was not an epic rant nor a heap. It was inquisitive, reflective and highly intelligent. ... | |
| regret | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: I lived in an apartment with 2 female roommates. One was a bully and was constantly harassing me, ... A: What's the saying, "misery loves company?" That's what your bully roommate was showing you. She ... | |
| How much to advertise | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 32 and recently single. I am easing myself back to the idea of meeting new people and I am ... A: While I am fully in accordance with the final advice, regarding supporting my parents the ... | |
| Ex-boyfriend | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm asking this question because I honestly do NOT know what to do anymore, I've tried to think of ... A: Your emotions in the letter you sent me were painful to read. You made yourself vulnerable and I'm ... | |
| catty bitches | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: This isn't a dating question. But I need some advice. I work in an office with some catty ass ... A: Your situation is not pretty. Right now, you're working in a sewer with jealous, immature, rude and ... | |
| questions | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: I have 2 questions. 1. I'm a gal. There is a guy I like, and his friends say he likes me more than ... A: Attraction is a funny thing. Both sexes just like what they like even when sometimes we don't ... | |
| How to make it better | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been been together for 4 months. He has never been one to want to go out all ... A: Maybe your boyfriend should hear how you love staying in and snuggling but you also want to share ... | |
| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ... A: As odd as this might sound, thank you so very much for writing. I was just stunned by what I read ... | |
| players | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: I'm a female. I liked this gorgeous guy who is a bit of a player. He liked me back too but he didn't ... A: I like your playfulness with this "gorgeous guy." Most men eat that up because it's not only fun but ... | |
| He keeps giving me gifts, is it wrong to accept? | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: So I've known this guy for almost 3 years. I'd consider him a friend but we're not that close. We ... A: I apologize if I upset you or was rude in any way. If I misread your question, my mistake. I'm ... | |
| non emotional boyfriend | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I honestly don't know what to do with my boyfriend(I am 27 and he is 29). We have been together for ... A: It was my pleasure. :) Hi Elena, Hello, thank you in advance to read my question, I honestly ... | |
| It seems so cliche, but, why hasn't he called? | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: I met this guy two weekends ago, when some friends and I were out at a bar. We were having fun, ... A: This situation is not you getting your wires crossed. You were perceptive as to what signals this ... | |
| New relationship | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I was in a relationship with someone for 5 yrs we had a son, when we separated I came out of it ... A: What's great about you asking such a question is that I experienced the same thing after a divorce ... | |
| A new guy | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I so need some insight and some advice. I have just recently started to date again. I had a divorce ... A: This is a great question because many women have the same questions you do. First of all, ... | |
| Is He Scared Or What? | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been basically friends with this guy (He is 48, I am 46) for about a year now We have been ... A: Your questions are good ones because they are questions that many women wonder about. Let's address ... | |
| Am I going crazy?? | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: I REALLY need your help here. I feel like I'm going crazy. Here is my story: My bf and I have been ... A: Let's tackle your letter a little bit at a time. "I REALLY need your help here. I feel like I'm ... | |
| He really loves me but isn't attracted to me at all - I'm so depressed! | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I guess my problem is that I am suffering from depression because of the confusion I am feeling, and ... A: Annette, Thank you for the kind remarks. Very nice of you to say. I'm humbled. Be confident as ... | |
| Did this guy ever have a crush on me? | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: There was this guy who used to be in one of my college classes last quarter. For the first couple ... A: Yes, he had a crush on you. If he chose to sit next to you, if he chose to talk to you, those are ... | |
| Meaning of a kiss | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: I am a customer service rep. and everyday I see this one man at the same time everyday; we talk for ... A: I have to share some good news -- if a man hugs you, kisses you, even if on the forehead, and he's a ... | |
| How do I deal with this situation? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were together 5 months and broke up 3 weeks ago due to issues we were having. We ... A: It was a pleasure to talk, Julie. Thank you for the kind comments. You're deserving of more. Keep ... | |
| whats the next step? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend 4 years ago, we've been dating for 3. When I met him, he mentioned he had a ... A: Let's address each one of your paragraphs, o.k.? "When I met him, he mentioned he had a girlfriend. ... | |
| She is not answering her phone... | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: So, I met this girl online (match), exchanged a couple emails (1 email per every couple days), asked ... A: What your letter clearly says is she is no longer interested. Attraction is a flighty thing ... | |
| Ex Girlfriend | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: My current boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months now. A year before he and i got ... A: Let's be honest, you know what's going on. Your gut instinct is telling you something is not right ... | |
| Ex boyfriend Trouble | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: Exboyfriend said he wants to go back out later but not right now. He does not want us to date right ... A: Your situation is actually very clear to read. I am just going to guess that you writing to ask ... | |
| Need a bit of advice.... | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: Ok, this is a bit long - winded but I will try and keep it short... I met this guy through a friend ... A: I hear your pain. You know what I see? Your interaction with this man started off so strongly, it ... | |
| It's Me Again | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm the girl who was in love with the ROCK STAR guy. remember me? Well, against my better judgment ... A: Of course I remember you. Just look at his behavior. Is he kind and understanding? Does he offer ... | |
| Is he losing interest or am I thinking too much? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: Okay.. so this guy and I have been on and off for about three years. We are both 19 and officially a ... A: It was a pleasure to talk with you. Best wishes for you finding what you're looking for with him or ... | |
| Dating | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: Is this guy giving me a polite brush off in your opinion? Background: I've been seeing this guy ... A: Here's what I truly believe is going on -- this man was excited to have you over to his place for ... | |
| What does her behavior mean? Does she think shes unattractive to me now? | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: So we dated 3 months and she got hot and heavy with me, but i was limp and couldnt get it up sadly. ... A: You know, I agree with your dad on one thing -- this girl's ego. She's taking this way too personal. ... | |
| ex boyfriend problems. | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: i'm sure you don't want a really long post but i want to give you some history so you have an idea ... A: Candice, I think you and I can be straight forward with one another. We're mature enough, both of ... | |
| What more is there??? | 12/28/2008 |
| Q: We have known each other 17 years. He got married. I dated but remianed single. We caught up with ... A: It was a pleasure to talk together. Thank you for your kind words. They touched home with me, ... | |
| What more is there??? | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: We have known each other 17 years. He got married. I dated but remianed single. We caught up with ... A: This man definitely has a cloak of secrecy going on here, doesn't he? Some of it is mysterious ... | |
| ex boyfriend problems. | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: i'm sure you don't want a really long post but i want to give you some history so you have an idea ... A: This situation is honestly, a rollercoaster of emotions, that has left you rocked, that I can see. ... | |
| Picking up the pieces | 12/26/2008 |
| Q: Michael, I'm not certain if you will recall my previous question, but your advice and answers were ... A: Will, It is uplifting to hear you and I talked things out well, you understand you're in a good ... | |
| how to forget that i'm in love with my bestfriend(guy) | 12/21/2008 |
| Q: ) I dont really know what to do, I ve been so confused for almost a year, there is a confusing ... A: It's difficult to tell yourself not to have strong feelings for someone, romantic feelings, to deny ... | |
| the break up! | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: “I had this boyfriend he is 20 years old and im 17 years old. And we were together for alomost a ... A: Cristin, Thank you for the kind words. They made me smile. It was a pleasure talking. I'm here ... | |
| Advice | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: Hey Michael, I thought i would ask you for some advice because i wanted a guys prespective on my ... A: Of course Justin likes you. When it comes to boys you watch their behavior, what they do ... | |
| *-* Time to turn it UP! *-* | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: I like this girl and we've become "frieds" (not the F word I hear you say), anyways we've been ... A: Sorry it took me a while to respond. My life has been a battle lately. Here's what I see about your ... | |
| Attention seeking | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: I've been in relationship for 16 months now, and my boyfriend's "girl best friend" is a very ... A: That is very strange, the answer disappearing. I've never seen that before. I save all my letters ... | |
| Friends or what | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been spending time with a guy for about 4 months... he's been my good friend for a long time so ... A: You know, I don't think this situation is as much about his youth or dating inexperience as it is ... | |
| what went wrong | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a junior in college. I recently met an interesting (what attractive girl is not interesting) ... A: Sean. Much appreciated. This girl, even though she's not contacting you, is thinking about you, I ... | |
| Attention seeking "best girl friend" | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I've been in relationship for 16 months now, and my boyfriend's "girl best friend" is a very ... A: It was very nice. :) It was a pleasure to talk. Have a good week. Michael | |
| hello | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: i am 19 and think my standards are too high in finding a guy. i am a bit picky, but i know what i ... A: You wrote that you "think my standards are too high in finding a guy." On the contrary, you are ... | |
| Hurt and Confused | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: Okay, I'm 17 and I've been friends with this guy since I was 12. Lately, we've gotten really close ... A: I can see why you feel hurt. I truly can. The reason why all this happened is this guy was acting ... | |
| Confused... | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: I'm 30 years old female. Two months ago I met a lovely guy who is a year younger than me. In fact I ... A: After reading your letter I'm just, well, stunned. You seem like you're intelligent, have your life ... | |
| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ... A: You know what -- you are not "prick" nor do you "lack self-esteem." You're just terribly hurt, in ... | |
| Should I keep in contact | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: My friend & I have been talking for over four years. We live in different cities..I became intimate ... A: You know, it's very natural that you'd feel hurt or rejection by this man's actions. I don't think ... | |
| 33 year old virgin | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 33 year old virgin who is trying to get into the dating scene. I've dated a few times the ... A: I enjoyed talking. Just help yourself be confident. By that I mean, dress as sharp as you can, never ... | |
| what sould I do when I meet a girl with different language? | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I am studying in an international university. I met a girl last week and I felt she is interested in ... A: You know, from what you told me (she went to lunch with you, gave you her phone number) I'd say, ... | |
| Need Help | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: Hey there, I'm not sure exactly where I should go with this question because I've already asking ... A: Sanovia, I consider myself a counselor but technically, I do not have such a title. To be able to ... | |
| Need Help | 11/8/2008 |
| Q: Hey there, I'm not sure exactly where I should go with this question because I've already asking ... A: Have a nice evening, Michael Hi, Now really, do I have to address you as Troubled Introvert? ... | |
| what sould I do when I meet a girl with different language? | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: I am studying in an international university. I met a girl last week and I felt she is interested in ... A: This is a very interesting question. Of course your language barrier is going to cause some ... | |
| mixed signals | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: Okay so i have been talking to this guy. we are friends but we also sleep together. i started to ... A: No, you're not stupid for thinking something could come from your interactions with this man. You ... | |
| Is his interest in me dwindling? | 11/5/2008 |
| Q: I am a 29 y/o female and have been dating a 26 y/o male for the last 2 months. Everything has been ... A: Good news -- you're not "just being crazy." Here's why -- you really like him, you'd like a little ... | |
| Girlfriend's Ex Boyfriend | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been going through a strange problem recently. Me and my girlfriend hooked up about 1 year ... A: I know this hurts but what happened to her can't be undone, as you wrote. What matters is right now, ... | |
| What do i say to a girl when i get her number ? | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I am a male teen who's naturally very shy. But today i got a girl's number for the first time. ... A: Congratulations on getting a girl's phone number for the first time. Do me a favor and remember how ... | |
| Should I wait around for him? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 24 years old and I have been dating this guy who is 28 years old for about 8 months now. From ... A: Would you believe the situation you shared is not that uncommon? The good news -- you're not being ... | |
| advice | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: A friend of my introduce me to this guy she know. Well we meet and I said go out with him. we had ... A: If you're not attracted to him on any or most levels going out with him will only confuse him. He'll ... | |
| Help! | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: After reading some of your responses, I had to ask your opinion on my dilemma. I have been ... A: Have a good week. Michael Hi Dom, I can see why you feel anxious right now, with Dawn ... | |
| guy at work | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm female and 22. There's a guy that I work with that I get on well with. We;ve only worked ... A: You are very introspective and intelligent and you're asking smart questions. You know what I see ... | |
| Partner needs substances for stress relief | 10/19/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an English man living in Amsterdam. I'm American. The guy I'm dating is ... A: I was very pleased to learn that our talking proved helpful to your concerns. Your remarkably kind ... | |
| ** Does she like me? | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: I quite like this girl, shes a friend of about a yeah, if even that. We go to college together. ... A: You like her, right? You're single right? So is she. You two are already friendly. So if you're into ... | |
| old flame is back same problems | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: I recently started seeing a guy that I broke it off with 5 years ago. He was struggling with a ... A: Lynn, Thank you for the kind remarks. I always take them to heart. It was my pleasure to talk, to ... | |
| Is he really that interested living 6 hours away? | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: I will try to be as thorough as possible. First, let me say that I have never cheated or strayed. ... A: I was answering a question for someone today and hoped that AllExperts.com had sent a message your ... | |
| troubling situation | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: I have kind of a problem, and was wondering if maybe you could help me. Actually, the thing is, you ... A: Well, I certainly remember Giselle so it's nice to talk to her twin. I'd be happy to help and please ... | |
| just wondering if this girl i like is shy | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: im 16 and i live in a rural city in australia, the girl i like, i have known since the start of ... A: Very sorry it took me so long to respond. I never received notice from AllExperts that you had asked ... | |
| Problems with my boyfriend | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 23 and I am 20. I love him with all my heart and I ... A: Wow. That's all I can think of after reading your letter. First things first -- you are highly ... | |
| checking other qirls' nasty pictures and talking to them while in a relationship | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: I need an advise on a relationship i'm in right now. We've been seeing each other for 6 months and ... A: Let's talk. I can see how you'd feel pain after your heart-to-heart talk with your boyfriend where ... | |
| Breaking Up | 7/25/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I of 6 months seem to get along wonderfully. I am 56, he is 60. I am a widow and ... A: Denise, Thank you for the kind remarks. Right now, I know you hurt. But I also know you will be ... | |
| when+to+call | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: how+long+should+i+wait+to+call+this+girl+i+just+met+and+who+gave+me+her+number+to+ask+her+on+a+date. ... A: If this girl gave you her phone number, I'd call her within a day. Forget all those ideas people ... | |
| taking a break in a relationship | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend found out that her father had been cheating on her mother a few months ago, and it ... A: Sorry for the delay. Tried to send this letter to you last night but AllExperts was shut down for ... | |
| Does He Like Me Based on These Signs? | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Hey! There’s a little problem that I have that I probably have put off for too long. Here goes…. So ... A: So is it Annabeth or Annabeth Grace? And girl, what is your IQ! Those classes have to be in some ... | |
| relationship question | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have roughly being going out for 2.5 years. In the beginning he had a problem ... A: This is a good question, regarding many relationships. Let's start with your boyfriend. He's partly ... | |
| No passion | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating/living with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years. We both got into our ... A: You know something? You're very perceptive. You know something doesn't feel right about your ... | |
| Don't know what to do. | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I'll keep this short and to the point. I'm 30. The other day I walked in on the girl I've been ... A: First of all, thanks for trusting me enough to share. Second, I'm sorry, really, that the girl ... | |
| A girl who I really love | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: I want to ask about the girl who I love. We are in the same class in college. She is really ... A: I hope this works out well for you. Hi Min Thant, The questions I have are this -- when you ... | |
| dating | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: i can't believe i am asking this but here it is I manage to talk to a beautiful women and ask her ... A: Enjoyed talking with you. Just keep having fun with her. She enjoys being around you. TheTruth Hi ... | |
| Pls advise me | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: i have a problem which i hope u can help me. i am 28 years old and i've known my boyfriend for ... A: You know what I get from your letter? You already know how you feel isn't right. You already know ... | |
| Dating | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: There is this girl that i started to talking to over here we kinda of met through a family member of ... A: You're in Iraq right now? Thank you. I mean that. Thank you, Jovan. I hope you accomplish your ... | |
| dating bestfriend | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: I've had the biggest crush on my best friend since I've known him. He told me a few months ago that ... A: I'm sorry I didn't fully answer your question. What area do you feel needs more detail? Maybe I can ... | |
| Respect | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Do you think it's appropriate for a people involved in a relationship to be socializing one-on-one ... A: Socializing with the opposite sex once one is in a relationship? No, that is not inappropriate. ... | |
| i don't really know him | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: I like this boy but he dated one of my friends. Also i don't know hi last name.ooh and my friends ... A: Gisel, It was my pleasure to talk. Thank you for the kind words. TheTruth Hi Gisel, Ah, you ... | |
| Confused. | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 and I basically just started dating this really great guy I met in my college ceramics class. ... A: Just got back from a cool, late-night walk under a full moon to find your letter. Do me a small ... | |
| boyfriend broke up with me pregnant | 4/12/2008 |
| Q: I want to know how it is possible for me to get over my ex who has broken up with me even though I ... A: Tyona, Thank you for the very kind words. Life, as you know, can be so very difficult, so very ... | |
| hey | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: i would just like to know what you think "true love" between people is. i met this guy and we both ... A: While I can't and wouldn't begin to tell you how you feel I can share my thoughts. You know what? I ... | |
| love | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: is saying 'ive fallen for you' the same as saying 'i love you'? do most people interpret it the ... A: It depends more on how people interpret it than what is actually said. Some might take that to mean ... | |
| A little help... | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 months and it seems like we aren't talking as ... A: You're perceptive enough to know something isn't right. Because it isn't. Sounds to me like you ... | |
| The Truth Please Help THANK U! | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ... A: I clearly feel your anguish so I'm going to be direct, if that's alright? Bryan has some serious ... | |
| Am I being impatient | 3/31/2008 |
| Q: I'm 31 and met a nice guy my age over the internet, and we immediately hit it off. We used to ... A: You know all people, all men are different so it's difficult to say what this man is thinking. ... | |
| how does she feel about things? | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: Ok, so a girl told a mutual friend (we're 19) that i was cute, we hung out once and she was all over ... A: The first time or two with someone can be awkward. It isn't always that way but sometimes it is so ... | |
| Long-distance International Relationship | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: I recently went on a cruise and I met this guy on the ship. It's been almost two months since we met ... A: You sound excited to know this guy. But actions speak loud between men and women, as you know ... | |
| family issues | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: 1. my girl friend and I dated for almost 6 months. 2 months into our relationship, she asked me to ... A: Jay There's a lot going on here, my man. Here's my overall feel for the situation. She felt ... | |
| Is it possible that this girl likes me ? | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: i went for my training 2day in JD sports (clothes shop) and there were alot of girls. i like this ... A: Dani Sounds like she is intrigued by you and she wouldn't mind learning more about you, but... ... | |
| 32, no dating experience, but ready to start! | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: First, I just wanted to say that I appreciate your writing style, considerate responses and correct ... A: Stephanie Saw that you had not yet received your answer. Did AllExperts notify you your question ... | |
| break up | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: "my girlfriend and i had been dating for 2 months. were both 25. our birthdays were on back to ... A: Howard This seems very obvious. That birthday fiasco greatly affected her. It hurt her deeply and ... | |
| Cannot feel and show love | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: My girlriend I am seeing who is now age 24 tells me that she was told by her moms sister that she ... A: David This is a situation that would best be heard and served by a psychologist. That being said, I ... | |
| How do I ask him to get rid of the past? | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old and been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and can honestly say that I have never ... A: Charlie It was my pleasure to talk together. Thank you for the very kind words. You believe your ... | |
| dating problems | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: ok.. i like this girl but the thing is .. she i pregnant.. i really dont kno what to do.... when i ... A: Todd That's a difficult situation. And I think you already know what you want to do. You like her ... | |
| Asking about a fib..... | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: I have a friend who is very dear to me and recently when I asked her about something she fibbed to ... A: Todd. My pleasure. This, really, is an opportunity for growth for your friendship. Hope it works out ... | |
| How to tell a guy that I like him | 11/22/2007 |
| Q: I a fifteen year old girl, who is in her first year of high school. I started to like a guy in grade ... A: LY Thanks for writing. Let's see if we can find some answers together. I remember high school and ... | |
| Why does this girl keep annoying me ? | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: There is a girl who lately has been making fun of me and i don't know why. Today in class she kept ... A: Dani She has a boyfriend? My man, either she is attracted to you despite having a boyfriend and ... | |
| Whats going on here? | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: Theres this guy i have always been cool with. All of a sudden he has been wanting to hang out ... A: Stephanie My feel for this situation? He finds you very attractive and definitely wants to be ... | |
| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I need you help. I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's ... A: Courtney, Thanks for the kind words. It was my pleasure. Be strong, see yourself as worthy of ... | |
| Do girls like boys who try hard or not ? | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: In school there is a gorgeous girl who is very shy but gets all the attention from guys (mainly boy ... A: Dani Well, it's obvious she thinks you're "cute" as girls like to say. She is attracted to you. ... | |
| complicated LDR and ex's feeling? | 10/27/2007 |
| Q: PLEASE Don¡¦t fall asleep reading my letter!!! Hello¡Ksorry but my story is Really long as it happen ... A: Wendy, Thanks for the nice scores. You know, the reality of losing him is painful, the uncertainty ... | |
| My boyfriend's Mother | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for fourteen months. He currently went off to college six hours ... A: Deanna, Thank you for the kind words. It was my pleasure. TheTruth Hi, Deanna Here's what I see ... | |
| White & Black | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: Is it right for Black women & White men to date??? Its something I've been talking about with some ... A: All that matters is the human connection two people have together. If they are of different races ... | |
| He won't leave | 8/28/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for about 6 years and the past three have been absolutely horrible. We ... A: I know you're frustrated, Marie and there are no easy answers to rid yourself of this man. ... | |
| question... | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: . i havent seen or heard from my ex boyfriend in 2 months...last night i went to some lounge by me ... A: Antoinette Here's what it sounds like to me... Your ex-boyfriend had emotionally moved on, ... | |
| Am i expecting too much or just need some time | 8/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for 3 months and there are up and downs. There are a couple of things i do ... A: Avon, I answered this question in less than six hours and yet you gave me a poor rating for ... | |
| Where am going | 8/11/2007 |
| Q: Ok could really do with some help on this matter, I met a girl who I work with and we have been ... A: Anthony First, what I notice -- you are a gentleman, treating her well, not rushing her into ... | |
| Fit in with Boyfriend's Friends | 8/6/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for around 6 months now. Everything is gong wonderfully. We have ... A: Kristin You know what? I'm siding with you on this one. Normally, I think most people make ... | |
| Moving with my boyfriend | 8/5/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. He's 21 and I'm 20. We go to the ... A: Julie If you re-read your letter you'll see that you clearly are not comfortable with moving to ... | |
| not sure what to do. help me out | 8/3/2007 |
| Q: okay, listen.. i'm kinda nervous, not sure what i should do now.... any advice would be great. i've ... A: Hey, Nick You show class by not wanting to make her uncomfortable. And to tell you the flat out ... | |
| leave or stay | 7/17/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend of three months tried to choked me. I was arguing with him because he was on the phone ... A: Mona Tried to choke you? You have a decision to make. The way I see it is this...let's just say ... | |
| what to do now? | 7/16/2007 |
| Q: I am an Asain gal and met a white guy. We dated for 2 months then we were talking abt if should ... A: Because I care about your heart I'm going to risk upsetting you by being totally honest. This guy ... | |
| My Partner, Me and His Ex | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: I need some advice before making any decisions. I met a guy who had just broke up with a long term ... A: Jen I empathize with your pain and I understand why you feel the way you do. To me, the reason ... | |
| BF masturbates too much! | 6/20/2007 |
| Q: I'm living with my BF for 8 months now. There is something that really bothers me about him and I ... A: Sunshinez Personally, I don't know what is more puzzling to me -- your boyfriend being able to be ... | |
| How do I build this to last? | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: I'm currently in a new relationship with a guy for about a month now. We were dating for the 3 ... A: Lesley Sounds like you have a definite attraction to this guy and feel something special for him. ... | |
| Relationship insecurities | 6/15/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend going to be two years and I still have trouble with when he goes out ... A: Bianca At least you realize and are honest about your insecurities. Guess what? We all have them. ... | |
| Boyfriend's ex-girlfriend | 6/9/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating someone for 18 months. We are both divorced with children and most of the time ... A: Sonia Hey, don't be so hard on yourself. Congratulations, your emotions are the same as almost any ... | |
| What should I do about this situation? | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: there is a girl that I am interested in. She is intelligent, deep, and open-minded...yet like with ... A: J I so know what it's like to find someone that you can't help thinking of, that moves you deeply. ... | |
| what should I do? | 6/6/2007 |
| Q: Can I go out with my ex girlfriend best friend if we really like each other. A: Samuel That's a tough question. You know your ex-girlfriend is not going to like that at all so ... | |
| Is he interested? | 5/31/2007 |
| Q: I am pretty sure this guy at my church likes me so I just need confirmation and a little advice to ... A: Fae I apologize it has taken me so long to get back to you. Busy week. Forgive me. Your question ... | |
| I've met 2 girls | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: I split up with my g/friend a while ago and i never thought i'd be happy again, how wrong could i ... A: David Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. Here's how I look at it -- which girl most ... | |
| should i quit seeing him? | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: ok heres the deal..its a very long story so i will try to make it as short as i can.ok...so like 8 ... A: Annie Here's what I see...all the wrapping paper off the package. Hit me if you wish. He really ... | |
| Should I tell him? | 5/21/2007 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy for about two months and he just got out of a 6 year relationship about 5 ... A: If he's text messaging and calling you every day, I think he's shown he likes you and if you haven't ... | |
| his personality | 4/30/2007 |
| Q: I am very distraught. I'll tell you what's been going on, and I need you to tell me the honest, ... A: Elaina All I can is 'wow.' To be that close, emotionally, to share the physical tenderness you did ... | |
| My bf and my body............... | 2/2/2007 |
| Q: I am 20 and been with my bf for about a year and I have low self esteem and always complain about my ... A: If your boyfriend has been complaining about your weight for a year then I'm thinking, if I'm Fiona, ... | |
| need advice | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: I don't know if you are going to be able to help me and to what extent, but any help or advice you ... A: Whoaaaaaa. Stop beating yourself up. This is a minor thing you can change. First of all, ask ... | |
| Could this friendship turn into a relationship? | 11/25/2006 |
| Q: There's this guy I work with and we've, in the past three-four months, started to hang out on a ... A: I apologize it took me a while to get back with you. Had company over for Thanksgiving and just now ... | |
| I need to know if he;s married | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: I really like this guy and I want to ask him out, but I don't know if he's married or not. I know ... A: Must admit, that sounds strange. I personally don't think him wearing a band on the right ring ... | |
| Mr. Punk Part 3 | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: This is the last time I'll bother you about this. I took most of your advice about him before. ... A: No apologies necessary. Have you ever thought of looking outside the dating pool at work? :) I ... | |
| what should i do?? | 11/4/2006 |
| Q: hey thanks for the reply to my question, kinda helps me in a way, i mean it gives me a bit of a ... A: Sharing what I did about how to think was the major issue and what I was trying to convey. That is ... | |
| Help! | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: I have extreme insecurity issues with my boyfriend for no reason. I deep down always believe that he ... A: Wow, Girl, that was one letter full of emotion. First thing that comes to mind is you are very well ... | |
| what should i do?? | 11/2/2006 |
| Q: im 19 and theres this girl at work, known her for a couple of months, and i finaly had the courage ... A: My man, I think the problem is twofold. First, she's flaky, and part princess and then, the other ... | |
| does he like me? | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: I'm a senior in high school and I like this guy named Brandon. He's a junior. I've known him for 2 ... A: Let me share something with you. If Brandon, the stud muffin, talked with you all the way home from ... | |
| friends | 10/25/2006 |
| Q: Hey, i have just started my university which i tought will be well exciting but it doesnt seem to ... A: Congratulations on getting started at your university. Hope you end up going great places in this ... | |
| friends with benefits? | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: I am 20 and in college...I just got out of a long 4 yr relationship about a year ago and am not ... A: You seemed cursed... No problem getting the attention of guys so you are obviously attractive, but ... | |
| re: insecurity | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: I had surgery done to remove cysts in my breast. This was done in 1999. My ex-husband used to make ... A: Sharon, I think I want to hug you. O.K., maybe that gives you the willies, but my point is you are ... | |
| My boyfriend lost his job...what should I do? | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and things were going really good, and then he got ... A: I apologize for taking a while to get back with you. Very busy today. Please forgive me. First ... | |
| Possible Cheating | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: WOW! That was really nicely said! I REALLY appreciate it. I will be talking to him in a little ... A: Karri, It was my pleasure. You know, you have a feeling, and I go off my instincts too, but you ... | |
| Just Friends? | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: About 3 months ago I met someone online and we started to go out, about a month later we were ... A: Many men go through this process after a divorce. Matter of fact, I was just discussing this with my ... | |
| Possible Cheating | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: , I am in need of some help. This may sound weird at first,,but a little background info.--- I have ... A: I feel for your heart. I'm sorry to hear you found out about another girl. Let's see what we can ... | |
| Need answers | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: I need answers. My ex fiancée has seemingly turned into a pathological sadist. We haven’t been ... A: Brother, let me share some insight with you. When women don't get their way, when they are deeply ... | |
| Mixed Signals | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: Alrighty... Last night he told me that he's hot and coldness is because he has feeling for someone ... A: You want to give because you want him to spend time with you, you say. You just don't want to feel ... | |
| Mixed Signals | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: Hey, I have been dating my boyfriend for over a month now. From the moment I met him, I felt like ... A: Guess what? In most relationships, as you probably know, the longer you know each other the more ... | |
| Confused? | 10/5/2006 |
| Q: Here is my problem: I met a great guy over the summer (May) and we started hanging out. Our ... A: Oh, Jessica, you seem like such a nice person. Frustrated, too. And trying to hold on to the ... | |
| growing apart | 10/2/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my bf for 3 years.We had a good relationship and we were so close together.Hes 28 ... A: Very interesting letter. At the beginning of it, I'm thinking he is just fading away, losing ... | |
| What's Wrong? | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: One more dilemma. Here's where I m torn as how to proceed with the guy I was referring to in the ... A: Megan, You know your situation better than me and how receptive this guy might be to your pursuit ... | |
| What's Wrong? | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: ------------------------- Hello, Well, I don't know if maybe they like the chase the first couple ... A: Good afternoon, Megan The chase and infatuation are a drug, no doubt, but a guy is not going to ... | |
| PDA's | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 5 months now, though for two of those, he was out ... A: Ouch. Feel your pain. Know the first thing that comes to my mind after reading your letter? The ... | |
| What's Wrong? | 9/30/2006 |
| Q: Here is my problem. I have no trouble attracting men, but it seems they are only into me the first ... A: Very interesting. You have the magic, obviously, on a physical level, a striking girl. Yet, it ... | |
| cheating | 9/28/2006 |
| Q: i've been with this guy for almost two years now. things were a little wierd at first. the thing is ... A: I'm sorry, didn't have time until now. An personal emergency situation went down last night. My ... | |
| Communication Issues | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: This is a little lengthy, but I'm really confused here (BTW, I'm a college student and so is the ... A: R. O.K., brother, let's take a look at this for you. Know what? Your roommate hit it on the head. ... | |
| commitment | 9/24/2006 |
| Q: I've been with my bf for about 3 years now.Our relationship is pretty good but not perfect.I think ... A: Three years is an accomplishment. Congratulations. Commitment, ah, that's a frightening word for ... | |
| Return of Mr. Punk | 9/22/2006 |
| Q: You don't have to worry about me not showering or anything scary like that I'm quite well groomed ... A: Laura, Girl, you shower? O.K., then, like I said, you have no difficulty attracting men, but since ... | |
| All on the table or walk away… | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: Any suggestions appreciated. Age 23 Scenario: First time I meet this girl was couple yrs ago in ... A: How you doin'? Brother, I feel your pain. One question is flashing in my mind right now. Very ... | |
| Womanizer??? | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: I have a serious issue. I have been seeing this guy for about a year and a half. Well he told me in ... A: How 'bout a verbal spanking? Beating up on yourself is entirely unacceptable. Wow! There is ... | |
| Return of Mr. Punk | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: Don't worry I'm not mad and trust me all those thoughts that you stated have occured to me before. ... A: Not a lot of guys after you? Really. You playing me? Laura, I can learn so much from letters and ... | |
| Can I be in a relationship with a man who's active and attractive w/o compromising my desire 2 wait? | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating my current boyfriend for like a month before we made it official. I am 22 years ... A: Did you see the stop sign in your letter? It came up quickly and you likely weren't expecting it ... | |
| Return of Mr. Punk | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: He always asks me questions and how I'm doing and always listens too. He has no problem stopping ... A: Laura, I want some of whatever "Mr. Punk" has goin' on because he's obviously cast some ... | |
| Return of Mr. Punk | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: Punk that I work with? Well things have changed sort of. I inda cornered him and asked him what ... A: Girl, you still into that guy? "Mr. Punk" is a mess, don't you think? I admire you being bold, ... | |
| My boyfriend is insecure | 9/18/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4.5 years now. We are 22 years old and high school ... A: That's some heavy emotion going on between your boyfriend and... himself. He doesn't feel good ... | |
| friends question | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: Ihave met a girl from Poland through working in the jobcentre.She is married and has been for seven ... A: How you doin'? I'm going to hit you hard, if you don't mind. Here's the deal...women assume every ... | |
| first date over, do i text? | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: I met a guy and went on a date with him on Saturday night. He was really nice, paid for drinks etc. ... A: Happy to hear you found a nice guy and enjoyed a fun night out. O.K., here's something I can share. ... | |
| Increasing the chances to find a partner. | 9/8/2006 |
| Q: I sent you a reply by email a few days back. Did you manage to get it all right? Also, it may be ... A: It was my pleasure to offer some insight. Let me check my email and I'll answer that question for ... | |
| Increasing the chances to find a partner. | 9/4/2006 |
| Q: I am doing an autobiography and also updating my profile on a Christian singles network. I have ... A: First things first, you sound extremely intelligent and accomplished. Impressive. Ready to look ... | |
| Dating a Friend | 9/2/2006 |
| Q: lets see, where do i start? ok, well i met this girl back when i was a sophmore in high school, she ... A: How you doin'? You know, I already have a feel for your situation. You described it clearly enough ... | |
| Is this considered cheating? | 9/1/2006 |
| Q: Recently my boyfrien of 4 years has registered his personal information and the type of girl he is ... A: Wow, that is one heavy-handed response to a silly fight, don't you think? He must have been pissed. ... | |
| Mr. Punk | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: I have a close coworker who is also a very close friend of mine and I know that he wants me and I ... A: So, Laura, you call this cat, Mr. Punk? Sort of hip, don't you think, for a guy who has you ... | |
| Dating Irregularities in a man | 8/25/2006 |
| Q: I (40)have been seeing a man (43 and never been married)on and off for about three years. I was ... A: lol, Claudette! Go back and re-read your letter to me. I think you'll see the answer to your ... | |
| teacher dating | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: my sister is 20 and she was been dating her former high school band teacher for 2 years now(he is ... A: Hmmm...interesting question, Kevin. Your feelings are real, and you likely are accurate in sensing ... | |
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