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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Questions | 2/10/2012 |
| Q: Some questions. 1. Why do girls generally start their period (menstrual cycle - sign of puberty) at ... A: 1. Girls don't "generally" start their periods at 12 years old. That's an AVERAGE with just as many ... | |
| Bad first date / mixed signals? | 2/6/2012 |
| Q: Neder! For starters, let me say, I bought one of your books awhile back and I loved it. It was a ... A: Congratulations on your success! I'm very proud of you. Information that doesn't help you change ... | |
| Embarrassing parents! | 2/4/2012 |
| Q: When I'm at home with my parents, they act nice and normal. However, when I take my parents to any ... A: While your parents don't seem racist, they certainly seem quick to label; but that's not a problem ... | |
| Marriage & Dating 2012 | 2/4/2012 |
| Q: Neder, How has marriage changed since the days you were a kid? How do you feel marriage in 2012 is ... A: Are you asking me to do a homework assignment for you or something?? In WHAT way has marriage ... | |
| How to attract my girl | 2/3/2012 |
| Q: I am from India and the below quoted incident is currently happening in India, so pls factor this. ... A: Hey! Well, it'd sure be over for me! I wouldn't put up with something so disrespectful and rude. ... | |
| Confused | 2/1/2012 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old woman who is a bit confused by a man's actions. I have a good head on my ... A: You're asking every expert here??? Do you have any idea how incredibly rude and inconsiderate that ... | |
| Bully Boss | 2/1/2012 |
| Q: How does one deal with a situation where a boss is nasty and mean? (Assuming you are a good, honest ... A: Generally, I'd agree that it'd be best just to leave. However, with today's job market, I'd be very ... | |
| email address or cell phone number | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: I began communicating with a woman from an online dating site and after exchanging a couple of ... A: Didn't I already answer that question before? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| Keeping a relationship | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: Mu issue is somehow sophisticated, whenever i go into a relationship it starts that i love ... A: I actually hear stories like yours pretty often. I've found that it almost always comes down to ... | |
| Women's sexuality, violence, and control | 1/29/2012 |
| Q: Why is it, that throughout the world, women's sexuality is always tried to be controlled? Women are ... A: This is a great question and I'm happy to explore it here. First of all, a little perspective is ... | |
| email address or cell phone number | 1/29/2012 |
| Q: I began communicating with a woman from an online dating site and after exchanging a couple of ... A: Unfortunately, this is a ruse. It's time to move on and forget this girl. Here's why: First, digits ... | |
| Embarrassed about online dating? | 1/26/2012 |
| Q: Okay, well, I'm 18, and recently, I made an account on Okcupid because I'm bi and I was having ... A: You shouldn't be embarrassed about online dating. It's one of the most difficult ways there are to ... | |
| Hungarian arranged marriage | 1/25/2012 |
| Q: I have a best friend who is 35 and never married. I am 34. She has had several long term loving ... A: Are you asking me for advice for your friend or for you? I don't do "pass-throughs" with friends ... | |
| Do I over-react? | 1/25/2012 |
| Q: Dennis? I have been dating my boyfriend for 3.5yrs. I am 24 he is 28. Sometimes feel like am not ... A: What are you getting out of this relationship exactly? He's there when you're feeling bad and need ... | |
| Is there anything wrong with being a cougar for life? | 1/24/2012 |
| Q: my name is Suzanne and this is my question. Is there anything wrong with being a cougar for life? In ... A: LOL. I know what a "cougar" is. Let's talk about what you mean by "wrong". If you're using the term ... | |
| Is he interested? | 1/22/2012 |
| Q: I went on a date with a trauma surgeon. He's a busy guy with crazy working hours obviously. I'm a ... A: Hey Julie! C. All of the above Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO/Executive ... | |
| Dating | 1/22/2012 |
| Q: Neder, The question I have is the work involved in getting a dating life. I've been really ... A: The internet does offer some significant advantages particularly to homosexuals, but keep in mind ... | |
| Is he interested? | 1/21/2012 |
| Q: I went on a date with a trauma surgeon. He's a busy guy with crazy working hours obviously. I'm a ... A: I think he may be interested, but it seems however that he's rude and self-absorbed. At the very ... | |
| Dating | 1/21/2012 |
| Q: Neder, The question I have is the work involved in getting a dating life. I've been really ... A: Many guys (and girls) make this mistake. The reality is this: the three worst places to meet someone ... | |
| Virgin at 30? | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: I'm 30 years old and still a virgin. The longest I have dated a man is 2 weeks. Been on about 25 ... A: No. You're not a "weirdo", a "freak" or a "leper" (well, unless of course you have leprosy!) You ... | |
| How to attract my girl | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: I am from India and the below quoted incident is currently happening in India, so pls factor this. ... A: Your culture has nothing to do with nature's programming. We all operate in the same ways and even ... | |
| How to attract my girl | 1/19/2012 |
| Q: I am from India and the below quoted incident is currently happening in India, so pls factor this. ... A: Yes. In fact, women are women the world over. The only differences are culture. With that said, in ... | |
| Guy at the bar... | 1/16/2012 |
| Q: FYI I am 21 and a senior at a very small college in the Midwest. I am not sure how old the guy that ... A: First of all, of course he was looking for someone to go home with him. If the offer had been there, ... | |
| Developing emotional strength | 1/15/2012 |
| Q: Neder I am personally an emotionally sensitive person. That means my boats just shakes much more ... A: It's not that women don't like men that have deep emotions. Many do. It's far more about how you ... | |
| 1/15/2012 | |
| Q: I met a girl through facebook, and I have noticed some of these things 1. her profile pictures seem ... A: The internet - and that includes Facebook, dating sites, blogs and other sites - is doing what most ... | |
| Jealous Over Video Games | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: I am in an amazing relationship with a guy I adore. Unfortunately, we don’t share a lot of hobbies. ... A: Yes, I fully understand. You feel that the game is getting his attention instead of you. It is by ... | |
| Pls Help a Confused Single Mom - new to dating (*again*) | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: This might be a little lengthy; sorry; I'll try to be brief... I'm a 35yr old mother to two young ... A: First, your friends are wrong. You didn't have sex "too soon". You had sex when it was right for you ... | |
| Men being sour? | 1/10/2012 |
| Q: I've joined a dating site and go on about 5 dates a month. So after 6 months I've dated about 30 ... A: Advice? Probably tons! First of all, you need to understand that dating via the internet is ... | |
| ignoring is torture and abuse | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: Doc! I have spoken to you before about my now ex boyfriend. I told you about his son's mother who ... A: What the hell are you talking about? You didn't lose a man, you gained a life! You now have nothing ... | |
| marrying someone from another country? | 1/8/2012 |
| Q: I have a Polish friend that I've grown up with in NYC. She is marrying a guy from Poland that she ... A: This comes down to two things: arrogance and statistics. Ultimately, it's arrogance that makes ... | |
| Confused By Guy I Like | 1/5/2012 |
| Q: There's a guy I've been talking to for a year. When we met we dated for a few short months, then ... A: It's likely that he's actually seeing someone else or at least is interested in someone else and is ... | |
| A Question | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: I'm 27 years old and there's this guy in my church who really like me. He's nice, kind, and very ... A: All of that if well and good, but what about him? You've stated that you can't give him a "normal, ... | |
| A Question | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: I'm 27 years old and there's this guy in my church who really like me. He's nice, kind, and very ... A: Here's the reality about sexual abuse (and in fact, any sexual issues): you have the responsibility ... | |
| Am I her pet? | 1/3/2012 |
| Q: Sorry for the long letter. I'm a 28 year old man. I've been in a relationship with a 26 year old ... A: DO NOT MARRY THIS WOMAN!!! Peter, I have never seen a case where a sexless relationship turned into ... | |
| Ignoring the problem won't make it go away | 12/30/2011 |
| Q: My bf is a people pleaser. I talk to him about it all the time. He just can't say no. It has been ... A: Ok, we both agree: your boyfriend has a problem. In fact, he may have a bunch of problems here. ... | |
| Arranged Marriage in 2012 | 12/22/2011 |
| Q: llo, What are your feelings about arranged marriage? Please explain the positive things of this ... A: I agree that this entire practice is a hold-over from the past. You've mentioned the only positives ... | |
| Can I do anything? | 12/20/2011 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend of 4 months (yes that seems like a short time compared to others.) She is 19 and ... A: Well, she definitely seems conflicted about everything except for one: she doesn't think you're part ... | |
| argument turned disaster | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: allow me explain my situation. i have known this woman for two months and in that time we have had ... A: You're making some wild assumptions here that frankly just aren't true. Let's talk about this ... | |
| kissing | 12/8/2011 |
| Q: after asking a girl out for dinner when should you kiss her A: Many guys wait until the end of the date to plant an awkward kiss on their dates. That is simply ... | |
| Break-Up | 12/7/2011 |
| Q: My fiance and I recently broke up, about 4 months now. We had been on and off for over 2 and a half ... A: You seem to want me to hit a moving target here. What do <b>YOU</b> want??? Sure, you want me to ... | |
| more porn problems | 12/6/2011 |
| Q: Dr. Neder. A few weeks ago you helped me with a question about my boyfriend's need for porn. Even ... A: Unfortunately, I get so many questions every single day from this site, others and directly to my ... | |
| Turn on woman for erotic romance | 12/4/2011 |
| Q: i want to ask that how to turn on any woman for erotic romance instantly without touching her, only ... A: Sure you do. So does every guy out there. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| boyfriend help | 11/27/2011 |
| Q: So I have some questions. First off I just got into a relationship on Nov 6th 2011. I have always ... A: Wait a minute here. There's a lot you've left out. First of all, he asked you to go out with him. ... | |
| I don't know what to do... | 11/22/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I'm in a huge rut right now and don't know what to do. So many things are going wrong that I ... A: Thinking about him and regretting what happened - that "all you can do"? I don't think so. How ... | |
| this guy... | 11/21/2011 |
| Q: Well I have a question about my relationship with this guy. I wouldn't even call it a ... A: In fact, this *IS* a "relationship". It's just more of the friends-with-benefits ("FWB") type of ... | |
| Should I break up? | 11/21/2011 |
| Q: Is it right for me to think about breaking up with my bf of 5 years? he is my first and i'm happy to ... A: I constantly tell people this little fact: relationships are not written on balance sheets. In other ... | |
| When they're the One.... | 11/18/2011 |
| Q: Good Afternoon- For the past year, I've entered the world of online dating. There really is no ... A: In fact, online dating is VERY different from dating IRL (in real life) on many fronts and those ... | |
| What dose this mean at the end of a letter.? | 11/17/2011 |
| Q: i know a girl, we are communicating with each other through letters from past 2 months. Her first ... A: Just the fact that she's writing back all this time means she's interested in you. And yes, "xxx" ... | |
| dress | 11/17/2011 |
| Q: I stated dating my boyfriend like a month ago, but I been knowing him for 3 years. I went out with ... A: With Christmas on the way, this might be an opportunity for you to help him get started on a new ... | |
| Dinner woes | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: We have been living together for 5 months now. He does the majority of the cooking. I did a bit ... A: I have a rule around Chez Dennis...If you complain about it, you get to fix it! If he's the cook ... | |
| sick of playing mommy with no rights | 11/14/2011 |
| Q: The child is 3 1/2 and wakes up at least 3 times a night. Once for pee pee, then its to smooth out ... A: The key to wining wars and raising children is the same thing: superior fire-power. It's obvious ... | |
| "Busy" lady | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: I have been in communication with a woman I met online a few weeks ago and we've also chatted on the ... A: "Sound fishy"? No. But it sure "smells fishy". Here's the reality: everyone has the same 168 hours ... | |
| Question? | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: I have always enjoyed reading your answers; you are so smart and sensible and give well written, ... A: That's a rather odd question for a dating/relationship forum, but here we go: Yes, I believe that ... | |
| How can I get him to leave me alone? | 11/7/2011 |
| Q: I met this guy online and we started dating. We never actually met in person but at the time I ... A: First of all, blocking him isn't the same as telling him "no". I'll bet that you haven't come right ... | |
| Boyfriend and his best friend | 11/6/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we're both in our mid twenties. I'm feeling like that ... A: A man's friends are very, very important to him; often even more so than some women's friends are to ... | |
| To marry or not? | 11/3/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 32 year old woman who is struggling financially and with her career. I will start a very high ... A: You haven't told me what it is that you want. Thus, advising you can only be generic. I'll say ... | |
| Why does my girlfriend try to relate to me on things we don't have in common? | 11/2/2011 |
| Q: She seems to do this with a lotttt of things. For example, I know that I come from kind of a weird ... A: She obviously feels that distance between you equates to emotional and relationship distance as ... | |
| Does she like me or should I move on? | 10/31/2011 |
| Q: I met a girl several months ago through some friends of mine. To be honest, when I saw her I didn't ... A: Wow. Anthony, I'm just sitting here shaking my head in disbelief. Go tape the word "thick" above ... | |
| is it worth repair in your opinion? | 10/28/2011 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i are 20 years old and have dated since we were 16. this is his first relationship ... A: Do you have any idea how hard it is to read such a LONG, run-on message like this???? You're asking ... | |
| creating conflict when there isn't any | 10/27/2011 |
| Q: Neder, When things are good, and there's no conflict, and it's just a peaceful, pleasant ... A: On one hand, your parents were right. The times when your relationship grows isn't when things are ... | |
| dating | 10/26/2011 |
| Q: I have been working at a job where I work with a lot of men I drive from place to place I flirt with ... A: "It's ok" isn't any form of man-code. More likely it's him trying to not say what "it" is. ... | |
| Boyfriend Masterbates while I Sleep | 10/26/2011 |
| Q: I've been living with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We also work together. I'm 29. He's 23. ... A: [Chuckling...] No, you don't have to become "gel-woman"! In your discussions (and by the way, I'm ... | |
| Going away for a holiday together? | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: We're both 24 and been together for almost 18 months, and we've never been away together just the ... A: Obviously, I don't read minds and I can't say specifically why he won't go on holiday with just you. ... | |
| Confused | 10/21/2011 |
| Q: I am a 25 year old woman and I had my 1st relationship when I was 17. I dated a wonderful man for 6 ... A: This is really an excellent question. I get a ton of questions from both men and women in India and ... | |
| Your books | 10/20/2011 |
| Q: Hey Dennis! Where can I order your books? Best regards, Ian A: The books are available on my website: http://BeingAMan.com and then click on "Products". Best ... | |
| Where do girls approach guys? | 10/20/2011 |
| Q: Most girls have sent me signals or flirted with me at school. But girls never send me signals or ... A: Hey Matt! Here's the problem you run into today: women generally have no clue as to their own ... | |
| in a rut | 10/20/2011 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, I cannot seem to get myself out of this rut. At the risk of sounding cheesy, I suppose ... A: You didn't mention how long it's been since you first got together and that makes some difference ... | |
| Looks are not everything | 10/19/2011 |
| Q: Dennis. Here is a quote from you: <<Ummm...where did I talk about looks? That wasn't me you're ... A: Hey Ian! I discuss all of these (and a great deal more about how to USE them effectively) in my ... | |
| Can you please help, no one has helped me | 10/19/2011 |
| Q: i still think about him all the time and i know that he liked me too, can he come back on his own ... A: I can't predict the future and I can't tell you why he's done what he's done or what he'll do. Can ... | |
| Looks are not everything | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: Dennis. Here is a quote from you: <<Ummm...where did I talk about looks? That wasn't me you're ... A: 1. Power 2. Confidence 3. Sense of humor 4. Genuine 5. Masculinity/Real Man/Alpha 6. Conversation ... | |
| Looks are not everything | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: Dennis. Here is a quote from you: <<Ummm...where did I talk about looks? That wasn't me you're ... A: No, you're confusing me with someone else. You said that I mentioned looks and other than this ... | |
| When a woman gives out her email address instead of her phone number | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: Dennis Neder, I just recently joined match.com and I am looking for single women within my area. I ... A: Hey Ian! Ummm...where did I talk about looks? That wasn't me you're thinking of. Go back and ... | |
| Can you please help, no one has helped me | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: i still think about him all the time and i know that he liked me too, can he come back on his own ... A: You didn't ask me any question here. What is it you want to know? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| When a woman gives out her email address instead of her phone number | 10/16/2011 |
| Q: Dennis Neder, I just recently joined match.com and I am looking for single women within my area. I ... A: This "lady"??? If she even *IS* a lady!! Just respond with, "Let's go to voice instead". This will ... | |
| Where do girls approach guys? | 10/16/2011 |
| Q: Most girls have sent me signals or flirted with me at school. But girls never send me signals or ... A: As to your first paragraph, you're missing the point entirely. It's not what you're willing to do ... | |
| When a woman gives out her email address instead of her phone number | 10/16/2011 |
| Q: Dennis Neder, I just recently joined match.com and I am looking for single women within my area. I ... A: There are two reasons why women do this. The first is a scam. These "women" (usually not women at ... | |
| Where do girls approach guys? | 10/13/2011 |
| Q: Most girls have sent me signals or flirted with me at school. But girls never send me signals or ... A: Actually, this is a question I get often. There are really two questions here. The first one is ... | |
| Relationship/ Devastated | 10/12/2011 |
| Q: I was married almost 18 years, my Ex cheated on me for 2 years and we divorced in 2002. since then I ... A: You have a lot going on here. Let's try to make sense of it all. First of all, if you're on ... | |
| Dating rut | 10/12/2011 |
| Q: Dennis: Whenever I think of my dating and love life I feel soooo sad because I know I am not living ... A: Please don't feel "doomed". Now that you know, you can fix it, right? Further, you're asking the ... | |
| Asking the experts about men | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: i would like to ask for your opinion.the reason why i am looking for a men experts,i would like to ... A: Most men have cheating and lying issues? What kind of men do you hang out with??? That's not true at ... | |
| is my self esteem in danger? | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: first off I'd like to say thank you for taking the time to look at my question. Now, for my dilemma. ... A: I'm not clear on why you think your self esteem is in danger. Are you saying it's because he's still ... | |
| Dating rut | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: Dennis: Whenever I think of my dating and love life I feel soooo sad because I know I am not living ... A: While FWB isn't what you want, it has certainly helped you with building those skills you're going ... | |
| Picking up Girls | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 17 year old guy and currently not in school due to a long-term illness.I was hoping that you ... A: Being in school gives you access to a large pool of potential girls, but that's absolutely not the ... | |
| The women in my man's life | 10/7/2011 |
| Q: Ive been dating a guy who I care about very much. I believe that he feels the same about me. He ... A: Your boyfriend obviously had a life before he met you - just as you did. Did you purge all your ... | |
| dating | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: I'm Louis and I'm in high school right now. I just ask this girl to homecoming. Every time I talk ... A: Remember: she's nervous too. It may be awkward with her, but likely only because she's feeling all ... | |
| Is it wrong? | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: So I met this guy two years ago in the college I go to and we became really good friends. We lost ... A: Sleeping with him didn't exactly "ruin" your friendship, but it did change it. You now have a ... | |
| What do I do? | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: OK, so I met this girl recently that my friend introduced me to at his party. Immediately we started ... A: First of all, stop assuming that things went wrong because of your buddy. What in the hell does he ... | |
| dating | 9/30/2011 |
| Q: I'm Louis and I'm in high school right now. I just ask this girl to homecoming. Every time I talk ... A: Actually, these are really great questions! You already know that the best way to have something to ... | |
| Committment Issues but feels the same | 9/23/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for about 6-7 months now. We are both in our late 20's. Early on she ... A: Words again, not actions. Peter, telling her that you know what you want is 100% meaningless. ... | |
| Committment Issues but feels the same | 9/22/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for about 6-7 months now. We are both in our late 20's. Early on she ... A: Women say and do stupid shit like this all the time. She has "commitment issues"?? All that means is ... | |
| seoncd date | 9/22/2011 |
| Q: I have had a crush on this girl since the beginning of the year. She is sweet, intelligent and ... A: I think you gave up too early and didn't handle the awkwardness of the date very well. Unless ... | |
| trust issues | 9/20/2011 |
| Q: my name is Stelle. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we started dating in July of ... A: Let's get this out of the way first: he has a right to be "shady" with his cell phone. It's his ... | |
| dating | 9/20/2011 |
| Q: how do i approach a nice stranger while jocking ang i am about to pass herxbgki A: I don't know what "jocking ang" or "herxbgki" mean. Why didn't you even bother to proofread this ... | |
| Terrible trip away with my boyfriend | 9/20/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i are both 24 and been together for a year. We've never been away on a trip ... A: No, it's not selfish to feel that you deserve some personal attention from him. However, I'll bet it ... | |
| life is cruel! | 9/20/2011 |
| Q: I love my boyfriend,let me get that out of the way. It has been very difficult for me to come to ... A: Haven't you answered your own question? Yes, he has very few skills as a father and the child is ... | |
| Dating again | 9/18/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I am a twenty-eight year old woman who has just begun dating again six months after the ... A: You don't kiss on first dates!?? What kind of ridiculous "rule" is that? How does THAT build solid, ... | |
| men and online dating? | 9/15/2011 |
| Q: I've gone on about 40 dates with men online, and about 40 with men I met in person in real life, the ... A: I completely agree with you: when you meet someone online, you absolutely must move this into real ... | |
| RELATIONSHIP ISSUES | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: Hey there! I am really hoping you can PLEASE help me out-somehow. I am currently 5mths pregnant, ... A: Yes, you're right. This is one possible symptom of your pregnancy. I'm sure it also has to do with ... | |
| Should I run? | 9/13/2011 |
| Q: He was very polite and gentlemanly. We went to lunch outside at a restaurant's outdoor patio on a ... A: Hey! He doesn't have to answer anything he doesn't want to. That's a choice - and a poor one made ... | |
| Should I run? | 9/12/2011 |
| Q: He was very polite and gentlemanly. We went to lunch outside at a restaurant's outdoor patio on a ... A: Texting during a date is as rude as it gets. In my humble, that's game-over right there. Why would ... | |
| Should I run? | 9/12/2011 |
| Q: He was very polite and gentlemanly. We went to lunch outside at a restaurant's outdoor patio on a ... A: It sounds like this guy has a mild form of Tourette's Syndrome. That alone certainly isn't a reason ... | |
| Ending My Friendship? | 9/10/2011 |
| Q: Twenty years ago I was in a terrible car accident when a drunken driver crossed a red light and hit ... A: I think you should find a new therapist and sever whatever ties you have with her. Here's the real ... | |
| fell in love with the devil | 9/9/2011 |
| Q: i am 20 years old from ALgeria first of all let me start by saying i absolutely love this website ... A: First of all, I'm sorry to hear you're hurting. Breaking up like this is never easy. Ideally, you ... | |
| wife/serious girlfriend material | 9/6/2011 |
| Q: When a man is out looking for a serious girlfriend or a wife, what are generally his top 5-10 ... A: Here are the top 10 things that men report as being the most attractive aspects of women: 1. Looks ... | |
| move on? | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: I've gone on a few dates with a nice gentleman. We were supposed to go on a date on Friday. Friday ... A: You don't need to talk hypothetically. I definitely am a guy. I used the term "couple" because it's ... | |
| move on? | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: I've gone on a few dates with a nice gentleman. We were supposed to go on a date on Friday. Friday ... A: First of all, cancelling a date via text (especially on the day of the date) is rude, Rude, RUDE!!! ... | |
| last date? | 9/3/2011 |
| Q: I asked a guy out on a date for lunch. He is a very busy lawyer that works a lot of hours. 60 hours ... A: Hey! That's not what you told me in the first message. He cancelled, but called you up and set up ... | |
| last date? | 9/3/2011 |
| Q: I asked a guy out on a date for lunch. He is a very busy lawyer that works a lot of hours. 60 hours ... A: I can't tell you the chances. There's far too much about all of this I don't know. One thing I ... | |
| last date? | 9/2/2011 |
| Q: I asked a guy out on a date for lunch. He is a very busy lawyer that works a lot of hours. 60 hours ... A: In general you should wait two weeks. There are factors that change that but here's the reality: ... | |
| Prostitution | 9/1/2011 |
| Q: Dr Neder, There is something I would like to ask for your opinion on. What do you think about men ... A: Absolutely not. I don't think these guys are "desperate" at all. I don't particularly respect them ... | |
| how long to wait? | 8/30/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a gentleman that I asked out for coffee. I set up the date. He offered to take ... A: Hey Tina! When women do it, yes, sometimes. When men do it, almost never. This (by the way) is how ... | |
| how long to wait? | 8/29/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a gentleman that I asked out for coffee. I set up the date. He offered to take ... A: I'd be careful about reading into what's going on like this and then trying to draw conclusions from ... | |
| how long to wait? | 8/29/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a gentleman that I asked out for coffee. I set up the date. He offered to take ... A: Frankly, I think contacting someone the same day of a date to cancel is rude. Everyone claims ... | |
| Why did he fall in love with me on the first date? | 8/27/2011 |
| Q: Years ago I went on a first date with a man. He is older, very cautious, serious, mature man that ... A: First of all, I'm very, very proud of you for: 1) knowing what you want, and 2) going after what you ... | |
| living in squalor please help! | 8/25/2011 |
| Q: I love my boyfriend he makes me feel like the only girl in the world. However I'm considering ... A: Your plan to leave is only about two things: punishment (for not doing what you want him to do) and ... | |
| sex and marriage | 8/23/2011 |
| Q: Why do people in lousy relationships that have a great sex life stay together, and people in ... A: Not every one of them do, but most. There are actually a number of reasons. One of those is about ... | |
| how dating has changed in society | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: Dennis, How do you feel dating has changed in the last 5 years? In the year 2000, everyone was ... A: Hey Lana! In some countries, wanting a virgin bride happens, but in my own experience (since about ... | |
| how dating has changed in society | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: Dennis, How do you feel dating has changed in the last 5 years? In the year 2000, everyone was ... A: I think that living where you do might offer up a slightly skewed representation of the rest of the ... | |
| how dating has changed in society | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: Dennis, How do you feel dating has changed in the last 5 years? In the year 2000, everyone was ... A: You're absolutely right. Dating HAS changed in the past 5 years; but not nearly as much as it has in ... | |
| why DID he call me back? | 8/21/2011 |
| Q: serious guy. He is a corporate tax attorney and never smiles. His whole life has been book work and ... A: You think this guy has other options? Frankly, I don't think so. It'd take someone with enough ... | |
| hi | 8/20/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating a gentleman who I feel very comfortable with and who I feel genuinely cares for me. ... A: hi and hi to you too! This guy isn't just passive, he's almost dead! Are you really sure that this ... | |
| Should I Proceed? | 8/20/2011 |
| Q: I am a 24 year boy and 5 feet 3 inches tall.I am slowly falling in love with a girl who is 5 feet 5 ... A: You have to make a decision here. What do you want from this girl - a friend or something more? You ... | |
| Older lady hitting on me? | 8/18/2011 |
| Q: I am a guy in my early 20's. This lady at my workplace is in her early 30's. She is in a higher ... A: Yes, this lady is possibly hitting on you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| A confusing situation | 8/15/2011 |
| Q: I used to be good friends with this one guy until the night he professed his love for me. He ended ... A: It means he's over waiting for you to become more than his friend. He's tired of hurting all by ... | |
| Tough Situation | 8/15/2011 |
| Q: Doc, First, I want to thank you, and let you know your advice has gotten me through some of the ... A: There are a lot of things you can live without in a relationship and keep it going. I'm not sure ... | |
| Tough Situation | 8/15/2011 |
| Q: Doc, First, I want to thank you, and let you know your advice has gotten me through some of the ... A: You're very welcome. I'm glad to have been of some help to you. I'm not going to unload that crap ... | |
| doctor dating lawyer | 8/15/2011 |
| Q: We both work 80 hours a week From your experience in life... how do relationships like these ... A: Unfortunately, there's no general rule you can apply here. Well, that's not entirely true, but it's ... | |
| How to deal with a hot and cold situation | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: About a month ago, I started getting involved with a single mother and things moved very quickly ... A: That's an interesting standard she has! The "perfect guy"? Not only does he not exist, the far more ... | |
| am I making a mountiain out of a molehill? | 8/9/2011 |
| Q: Ive been dating this decent guy. We spend alot of time together. He seems to be very in to me. We ... A: Unfortunately, you can never have "enough" of this sort of evidence. If he were ever to go to court ... | |
| popular | 8/8/2011 |
| Q: how to become popular? i want to become popular and make lots of friends but i have no idea how to ... A: As the saying goes, be careful what you wish for. You may get it. Having lots of friends is about ... | |
| how love happens | 8/6/2011 |
| Q: I have 2 questions:- 1] How much time does it take to fall in love? one month or 6 months or 1 year ... A: 1) Your subconscious mind (where you fall in love) doesn't know about time. The passing of time is a ... | |
| insecurity pushing boyfriend away | 8/5/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months. He is my first real relationship, and I love him ... A: First off, by far the biggest problem you have here is that you're long-distance. I understand ... | |
| I need to know what does commitment really means | 8/5/2011 |
| Q: Greetings Dr, before i start with my question, let me just give you a summary about my ... A: This is really an excellent question! It's one that many women have. Let's start here: you (as a ... | |
| How to go about this situation? | 8/3/2011 |
| Q: Well this guy and I have known each other for about five years. Our relationship did not start off ... A: Frankly, all of this friendship may have killed off the one thing you really want and need: passion. ... | |
| Am I that naive | 7/24/2011 |
| Q: I'm 50 divorced 4 years after 19 year marriage and he's 48 divorced 3 years after a 5 year marriage. ... A: You're absolutely right about the change. It's a VERY different dating world in the new millennium ... | |
| Being just friends | 7/24/2011 |
| Q: My ex-boyfriend is a drug addict and currently in rehab. After lying to me about various things bc ... A: Wait a minute. What exactly is going on here? There's a lot you're not telling me. Did you break up ... | |
| boyfriend turning around | 7/23/2011 |
| Q: Im 23 and my boyfriend is 24. We knew each other through college first before dating. When we did ... A: First, let's talk about what trust REALLY is. You think trust is something you have for someone ... | |
| boyfriend turning around | 7/22/2011 |
| Q: Im 23 and my boyfriend is 24. We knew each other through college first before dating. When we did ... A: "Gift horse? This is Bek. Can I check your dental work please???" Seriously? Yes, this guy has ... | |
| How to make him attracted to you | 7/21/2011 |
| Q: I'm going to ask a question that's a slight bit crude, but here goes. When a woman asks a man out ... A: First of all, there's nothing "crude" about this question. In fact, it's an excellent one! All of ... | |
| Missing Intamicy | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I are both 21. We had our first daughter, Madison, 7 months ago. We live on our ... A: Here's the problem: you're trying to push this chain uphill rather than pulling it. You've tried ... | |
| I really need your help. | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: My gf and I were together for almost five years and were living together. Our relationship was ... A: I don't get the sense she wants you back at all. She wants you as her friend and ... | |
| please help me!!!! | 7/19/2011 |
| Q: 1st of all i love to thank you sir for this heartwarming help of u.i was in love with a guy for 5 ... A: Short answer: no, you can't trust him. The reason is that you want to believe him and don't want to ... | |
| marriage | 7/17/2011 |
| Q: i had match my horoscope with my lover thereis one problem about the death, i just want to know is ... A: Sorry, I don't do horoscopes. I don't believe in them and believe that individuals make their own ... | |
| I do like the guy and would like more of his attention.... | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: My name's Eveline and I'm writing from Poland. Here's my story. I will try to make it as short as ... A: I had to laugh at your comment. Actually, us guys AREN'T complicated at all. You girls want to make ... | |
| I do like the guy and would like more of his attention.... | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: My name's Eveline and I'm writing from Poland. Here's my story. I will try to make it as short as ... A: First of all, yes. You have a chance with this guy. However, you absolutely DO NOT want to become ... | |
| fear of commitment | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: im yasmin and have 20 years old.the problem im having is with my booyfriend who is 22 years old.and ... A: Here's the problem: he has very severe self-image issues. This is beyond just normal questioning of ... | |
| Girl I met in a class, and its the last class! | 7/14/2011 |
| Q: Ok, so I sit next to this girl in my 6 week college algebra class. The class is about 3 hours long ... A: No, that is the very definition of "long-distance". You only get to see her every other weekend. ... | |
| Girl I met in a class, and its the last class! | 7/14/2011 |
| Q: Ok, so I sit next to this girl in my 6 week college algebra class. The class is about 3 hours long ... A: Here's the real problem: you don't have any time to put something together. You HAD time, but she's ... | |
| scare her away | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: I was reading your past answers and in that I read a question, its subject is "hey". In that ... A: The answer depends on where you are in the relationship. When you're just starting to put something ... | |
| Next steps | 7/7/2011 |
| Q: Neder I'm 21 and I'm interested in this... well... 16 year old girl... That age difference is legal ... A: Well, thanks for coming for direction BEFORE things got bad! I really appreciate it since we can now ... | |
| Commitment issues | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy off and on for about 6 months. We have known each other for about 2 years. ... A: It's unrealistic to expect him to love you if you haven't done anything to make that happen. If ... | |
| Commitment issues | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy off and on for about 6 months. We have known each other for about 2 years. ... A: Absolutely it is. The trick however is to become more important and valuable to him than his fears ... | |
| loving a convict | 7/3/2011 |
| Q: my name is Cindy I am 43 and have been married to Jack for 7 years, I met him online dated for a ... A: Obviously, I can't speak for James' situation, but the reality is that many sex offense convictions ... | |
| hey | 6/30/2011 |
| Q: Hey im steve 19 years from ny ok so i went to florida to visit my mom last december. i met this ... A: You were "confused" about how she acted when you banged her and just left without any contact? ... | |
| How do I earn his trust back? | 6/29/2011 |
| Q: Let me start by saying I am not a cheater or anything. I will tell you the situations and appreciate ... A: Frankly, I think this is all a little too convenient for him to offload his insecurities onto you. ... | |
| low self esteem | 6/29/2011 |
| Q: Is it dangerous to have a relationship with a girl who has a low self esteem? I mean girls with low ... A: You can't directly equate low self esteem with the likelihood that a girl will cheat on you. In ... | |
| love is blind, i want to stay but i dont know if i should | 6/28/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for about 7 months now and were still not bf and gf. We had a few ... A: No, do NOT ask him about the other girls. Not only will that create an even greater rift between ... | |
| Who needs gay marriage? | 6/26/2011 |
| Q: Who needs gay marriage when you can wake up every morning to this? A: Hey Ana! You're baa-aaa-aaa-aaad Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO/Executive ... | |
| Keeping Options Open | 6/25/2011 |
| Q: (21, St. Louis) Hi Dr. Neder, my question is about understanding the push/pull or hot/cold tactic ... A: It's different for men and women; so the answer is based on for whom you're asking. Since you have ... | |
| I'm in love with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 16 year old male. And as the subject says, I have fallen for my best friend. And she's taken. ... A: Yes, you should ignore that fact. It's not for you to decide who is a better choice for her. That's ... | |
| I'm in love with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 16 year old male. And as the subject says, I have fallen for my best friend. And she's taken. ... A: Yes, you should cease these opportunities! No, you should NOT tell her your feelings! To this last ... | |
| A Couple's Incident | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: I have a question regarding an incident that took place over the weekend between a couple. They are ... A: Sorry, I don't do homework problems, hypotheticals or pass-through's. Best regards... Dr. Dennis ... | |
| why i dont have any girlfriend? | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: Most of the people i see have girlfriend but i didnt have a single girl till now, i am 23 years. My ... A: Based on what you've asked me, you're obviously looking for the quick fix; the single-word answer. ... | |
| Sex | 6/19/2011 |
| Q: I just turned 21, and attend school at a small college in the midwest. I have been talking to this ... A: First, I'm glad you're taking the right attitude here. You like this guy and you feel at least ... | |
| Help please | 6/19/2011 |
| Q: My question may be a little bit strange and is about a girl that I have been seeing. Basically is ... A: I agree. She's using the ticklishness as a way to deal with nervousness and yes, it'll subside with ... | |
| First Date | 6/18/2011 |
| Q: Hey Doc. Yesterday I met this girl at a concert I was working at. She wasn't there to see the show ... A: Hey Mike! That's actually a pretty huge question (too much for this forum) and something I answer ... | |
| First Date | 6/17/2011 |
| Q: Hey Doc. Yesterday I met this girl at a concert I was working at. She wasn't there to see the show ... A: I think you should definitely start looking elsewhere. Mike, it's unfortunate, but you had great ... | |
| First Date | 6/15/2011 |
| Q: Hey Doc. Yesterday I met this girl at a concert I was working at. She wasn't there to see the show ... A: Let's be clear here: you didn't just give your number to her, you got her number, right? If not, I'm ... | |
| dating | 6/14/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a guy, and since I'm 30 he kept on saying "your parents want you to get ... A: According to what you've told me, yes, but then, that's not the entire story is it? If I told you ... | |
| dating | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a guy, and since I'm 30 he kept on saying "your parents want you to get ... A: You want me to judge someone based on this little information? Ok, you've copied exactly what you ... | |
| Too much expectaion? | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: I met this gentleman online and started to date about 3 weeks ago. We went out about 6 dates, no ... A: You're wrong here. Sorry. First of all, he's taken you on 6 dates - and paid for them all. Don't ... | |
| is it break up or what ? | 6/8/2011 |
| Q: Dennis, hope you are doing well. me and my love met each other online and we have been in a ... A: I can't tell you what he's thinking and I don't know what he means by "taking a break". Only he ... | |
| undecided | 6/6/2011 |
| Q: My name is marcy im 19 years old ive never been the kind of girl who likes dating two guys at once ... A: People (and you're a "people") go through "ages". Being in your teens is one experience. Being in ... | |
| Ex-Girlfriend and giving up on Friendship. | 6/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm looking for some advise, Long story, i met my ex girlfriend 5 years ago, who at the time was ... A: First off, I'm treating this like a new question. I don't have the time to go back and re-read that ... | |
| i need advice | 6/3/2011 |
| Q: so theres a girl that i have liked for 3 years and is also my best friend. i kissed her the other ... A: Seriously? Nick, seriously? What is it you want here? Do you want a "friend" or do you want a ... | |
| male coworker...interested or not? | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: I've had a flirtation thing with a guy now for the last 3 months (we work together) an have hung out ... A: You know what it means when a guy tells you he "...honestly doesn't know" something? Answer: he ... | |
| Ex-Girlfriend and giving up on Friendship. | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: I'm looking for some advise, Long story, i met my ex girlfriend 5 years ago, who at the time was ... A: Hey Carl! If this guy is no longer your "m8" what in the hell are you trying to do with him here? I ... | |
| Am I being totally ridiculous? | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: Sorry this is going to be long, I don't want to leave out any information that might be useful. To ... A: Interesting rule about not dating a guy you meet in a bar. Where did you get that from? Your ... | |
| How to finally make it happen | 5/30/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 23 year old guy. About a couple of months back, I met this girl who was pretty awesome. She ... A: You should definitely ask her out; and who cares if she's single or not? It's not your job to decide ... | |
| Ex-Girlfriend and giving up on Friendship. | 5/30/2011 |
| Q: I'm looking for some advise, Long story, i met my ex girlfriend 5 years ago, who at the time was ... A: Aha! Finally, a question! Answer: because she doesn't have a real man anywhere in site. This isn't ... | |
| Sharing bad financial history with dates. | 5/30/2011 |
| Q: I purchased a house with a family member in 2005 and a few months later they experienced a loss of ... A: Short answer: no. Your financial history isn't relevant to dating at least, early on and thus, you ... | |
| date reappears after 7 weeks | 5/30/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I went on a date with a nice, pleasant gentleman approximately 7 weeks ago. I did think he ... A: Hey Rita! I can't possibly diagnose someone via someone else's experience with them. I don't know ... | |
| Ex-Girlfriend and giving up on Friendship. | 5/30/2011 |
| Q: I'm looking for some advise, Long story, i met my ex girlfriend 5 years ago, who at the time was ... A: You made me read that looooonnnnnnggggggg letter with tons of detail that didn't make any difference ... | |
| date reappears after 7 weeks | 5/29/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I went on a date with a nice, pleasant gentleman approximately 7 weeks ago. I did think he ... A: You go about this by dropping all the ridiculous games and being upfront and straight-forward about ... | |
| date reappears after 7 weeks | 5/29/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I went on a date with a nice, pleasant gentleman approximately 7 weeks ago. I did think he ... A: Let me guess: you met him online, right? Let's start here: Rita, you seem like a nice girl. If ... | |
| How to work with personality differences | 5/29/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both young adults who love each other very much. We are in an intimate and ... A: We all know that some commonalities attract, but what few people realize or accept is that ... | |
| Unusual Crush | 5/28/2011 |
| Q: I am constantly having crushes, seem to be so attracted to and maybe falling for men who are ... A: There are usually only a few reasons why some girls do this. The first is that you're going after ... | |
| Compliments | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I hope you're having a good day today. I just have a simple question for you. You see, I've ... A: Congratulations on starting to date John! In fact, most people are "compliment-phobic". They don't ... | |
| I don't understand my parents attitude? | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I am now 35 and am looking back at my life in my 20s. I have an opinion question for you. I realize ... A: Absolutely. Parents ALWAYS have an opinion of whom their kids date and marry. Obviously, it's ... | |
| Asking her out through email? | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I'm in college and today was the last day of my psychology class. There was this girl in the class ... A: Ok; first the good - you finally approached this girl and talked to her. Very good job! I know that ... | |
| I don't understand my parents attitude? | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I am now 35 and am looking back at my life in my 20s. I have an opinion question for you. I realize ... A: We all generally assume that when you become a parent, you magically get a bunch of caring, ... | |
| a new girl... | 5/23/2011 |
| Q: I am very appreciated by the previous advice you gave to me. Now, I have another question about a ... A: Hey Ryan! As the guy, it's your job to make the first move. That's just the way it is. To approach ... | |
| worried about a serial flit | 5/22/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now and met through work 2.5 years ago. Our ... A: Many people flirt not because they want to steal the other person away, but for their own ego ... | |
| girl im in love with | 5/22/2011 |
| Q: hey thanks for answering my question my names hake btw. so i really like this girl for bout 4 to 5 ... A: Hey Jake! Sorry to hear this. I hope you've learned a valuable lesson here. First of all, NEVER ... | |
| girl im in love with | 5/21/2011 |
| Q: hey thanks for answering my question my names hake btw. so i really like this girl for bout 4 to 5 ... A: You know the person that she's shown you - NOT the real person. That only comes with time and ... | |
| Was it a hint or just being nice? | 5/21/2011 |
| Q: My friends cousin which I used to like some years ago started asking about me recently and then she ... A: Yes, there might be some interest there. A far more important point however is that you only get a ... | |
| girl im in love with | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: hey thanks for answering my question my names hake btw. so i really like this girl for bout 4 to 5 ... A: First of all, you don't really love this girl. You've got to stop doing that to yourself. By telling ... | |
| At a crossroads | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: Neder! Thank you for taking the time to answer my question! I have been with my boyfriend for about ... A: First of all, whenever you write to me - or write anything, PLEASE throw in a few paragraph breaks! ... | |
| At a crossroads | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: Neder! Thank you for taking the time to answer my question! I have been with my boyfriend for about ... A: There's quite a lot going on here. Let's try to make some sense of it all. First of all, he's ... | |
| Dating advice | 5/18/2011 |
| Q: Neder, Hello and thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my question. My name is ... A: Before I answer your main question, let me give you a little perspective into why this happened. We ... | |
| Does this sound like he like me? | 5/16/2011 |
| Q: Well my names Ryan, Im 20 and live in Germany, and Im gay. I want some help regarding a guy who I ... A: First of all, yes, it appears he likes you. The problem is, you don't like yourself. Ryan, how ... | |
| Too late? | 5/15/2011 |
| Q: I am a 22 year old college student. I met a girl in early March through an acquaintance. We don't go ... A: While your timing isn't perfect, I wouldn't give up just yet. Yes, I suggest you make one more ... | |
| issues | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: I've dated quite a few men over my lifetime and gone on numerous dates. Whenever we started dating, ... A: I couldn't agree with you more on this. It's sad that people don't want to put in the work. Many men ... | |
| Mind games - Hurting for so long. | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: When I had just turned 14 I had just met my (technically) first real boyfriend. (He was 16, older) ... A: First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting - especially for so long. Yes, I have some ... | |
| boyfriend who friends and family hate | 5/9/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for around a year and a half. He has asperger's syndrome and ... A: Unusually, most people with AS are not so socially withdrawn as your boyfriend is. I suspect there ... | |
| Immature boyfriend | 5/9/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years. I'm 25 and he's 23. Things are quite serious ... A: I realize that you're not trying to set a date for marriage here. My problem is that it's on the ... | |
| Immature boyfriend | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years. I'm 25 and he's 23. Things are quite serious ... A: Frankly, I think you're both too young to be thinking about marriage. Do you know the realities of ... | |
| Insecurities | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: Nedar, First, let me say that you truly gifted in giving advice. I have read your other answers ... A: "Gifted"? Wow - talk about setting the bar low! ;) Do I want to know why you think people only ... | |
| Match | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: I saw a few people comment in your ratings that you can be pretty harsh. I think you're the man for ... A: "Harsh"? No - I'm a cream-puff! ;) It's very interesting that you're writing me this question. ... | |
| paradigm shift | 5/4/2011 |
| Q: I am now in my mid-thirties and have seen a paradigm shift in society. Namely the youngsters of ... A: This is not a relationship question, but because I am a Commissioner for the County of Los Angeles, ... | |
| comment | 5/1/2011 |
| Q: I went out to dinner with my parents. I am a 30 year old single never married woman and my parents ... A: If I were to get a vote (and I know I don't), it'd be that you continue to work on building your ... | |
| comment | 5/1/2011 |
| Q: I went out to dinner with my parents. I am a 30 year old single never married woman and my parents ... A: Let me get this straight: you're asking me to read your mother's mind??? How in the hell can I ever ... | |
| DON'T CHANGE | 5/1/2011 |
| Q: My Name is Cameron Barwick and I'm 29 year old male Since this specific girl came on the scene, me ... A: Yes, it's normal. That doesn't mean it's your best choice however. All new (potential) ... | |
| RE: Early days | 4/30/2011 |
| Q: I've known this guy I am currently now seeing for 2 years but nothing happened as we were both in ... A: "Rushing" - you call 2 years "rushing"??? Every relationship (or potential relationship) has it's ... | |
| confused | 4/28/2011 |
| Q: i met this girl we were dating for 4 weeks i thought it was going well but then she started crying ... A: Hey! There's this new invention you may not have heard of. It's called "punctuation". It's a great ... | |
| callback after first date | 4/27/2011 |
| Q: Two questions. First one. I went on a date with a guy. How long after the date should he call me ... A: 1) Yep. Time to move on. 2) Yep. Like I said, it's time to move on. NEXT! Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| callback after first date | 4/27/2011 |
| Q: Two questions. First one. I went on a date with a guy. How long after the date should he call me ... A: 1) My recommendation to guys: the next day or the day after that. Never longer. The reality: 2 ... | |
| Disappears and then rambles about marriage? | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a very pleasant gentleman who was extremely shy but sweet and honest. Kind and ... A: Ok, I know what you want to hear, but I'm not in the "want to hear" business. I'm in the reality ... | |
| Socio-economic class difference? | 4/24/2011 |
| Q: I've met a very kind, polite, generous, sweet, intelligent, handsome man who works as in investment ... A: Relationships aren't built on balance sheets. They are all about the connection between the people ... | |
| advice! | 4/21/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so long story short, I like this guy and it's pretty obvious he likes me as well. However, I ... A: Hooray for you!!! What you're hoping for me to say to you is that he's asking you to hook him up ... | |
| Break Up | 4/21/2011 |
| Q: So me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently broke up. It kinda came out of nowhere but I learned to ... A: What are you looking for, some trick or something? If the guy doesn't want to talk to you, what are ... | |
| advice! | 4/21/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so long story short, I like this guy and it's pretty obvious he likes me as well. However, I ... A: If this guy is used to being chased, you'd better figure out that he doesn't know how to ask you ... | |
| online date | 4/21/2011 |
| Q: i have been communicating with a guy online who i met from online date site for 10 days. he seems ... A: First of all, if you're not close enough (due to work or whatever reason) to actually meet then how ... | |
| Break Up | 4/20/2011 |
| Q: So me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently broke up. It kinda came out of nowhere but I learned to ... A: First of all, you don't want to be this guy's "friend" you want to be something more. Let's be ... | |
| Should I call again? | 4/20/2011 |
| Q: Neder! I'm a 22 yr old guy. Around middle of february, I got a girls number. We don't really have ... A: Of course she's annoyed. This has dragged on now for months. I'd be very surprised if she was even ... | |
| Is he interested? | 4/17/2011 |
| Q: .okay, I'm wondering if this guy is interested or is he just looking for an ego boost. I've known ... A: Let's deal with this being married thing and get it off the plate right now. I can't possibly sit ... | |
| conversation | 4/17/2011 |
| Q: I have problems in conversation, first of all when i talk to girls on the net i don't have any idea ... A: Hey Ajay! Ajay, you didn't read the article. You wouldn't be asking me this question - and you ... | |
| this guy | 4/15/2011 |
| Q: hey i was wondering if it is worth pursuing this guy i've liked for almost a year now. He is my ... A: I never buy this "not looking for a relationship" crap. Sure, nobody is looking for all the drama ... | |
| Can a renewed friendship work as a romance over a decade later? | 4/14/2011 |
| Q: Neder: Lately I bumped into a lady friend of mine from 13 years ago on an online dating site, and ... A: May you redirect what??? Yes, you ARE giving her too much power - and too much "understanding". We ... | |
| sex | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: i want to have sex but how will i get a women to have sex with me? what should i do? And also tell ... A: First of all, no, it's not appropriate to ask a woman on the streets to have sex with you unless ... | |
| psychological dating issues | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: am a cute guy who's who got no girlfriend until i travel to another town to continue my education ... A: You think you give her nothing of value? You don't understand women! Your male attention is of HUGE ... | |
| Dating wealthy men? | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: I'm a woman in her late 30's who has recently been divorced. I have swung from upper middle class to ... A: What you think has something to do with economic status in fact, has far more to do with just a ... | |
| Can a renewed friendship work as a romance over a decade later? | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: Neder: Lately I bumped into a lady friend of mine from 13 years ago on an online dating site, and ... A: Congratulations! You rarely get a second chance like this. You have one main advantage here; that ... | |
| Need help! | 4/12/2011 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, To ask someone I have never met for advice is not something I would do unless I was ... A: Yeah, I have a lot for you. What this girl is doing is throwing you misdirection. Yes, I'm sure she ... | |
| Do I continue dating him? | 4/12/2011 |
| Q: I am a 27-year-old woman. I've been dating a 33-year-old guy casually for about 4 months now. For ... A: Man, are YOU going to hate my answer?! First of all, never ask me a question like "what did he ... | |
| am i a stalker? | 4/11/2011 |
| Q: I think i am a stalker and i do it only with the girls whom i want only sex, i dont care about my ... A: It appears that you're going after the entirely wrong things for the wrong reasons and with the ... | |
| Something very interesting... | 4/10/2011 |
| Q: I was on a dating site, and that site has a ton of my former coworkers on it, and I didn't want them ... A: Hey Jacqueline! Herein lies one of the greatest problems women are facing today. As I write in my ... | |
| Something very interesting... | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: I was on a dating site, and that site has a ton of my former coworkers on it, and I didn't want them ... A: I sincerely doubt that, but if you're getting the results you want - good on you for it. Best ... | |
| conversation | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: I have problems in conversation, first of all when i talk to girls on the net i don't have any idea ... A: You may have skimmed the article (actually, there are 3 of them linked) but you didn't read it. I ... | |
| conversation | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: I have problems in conversation, first of all when i talk to girls on the net i don't have any idea ... A: If you go to my website (http://BeingAMan.com) you'll find my FAQ's under "Articles". There, I talk ... | |
| Something very interesting... | 4/8/2011 |
| Q: I was on a dating site, and that site has a ton of my former coworkers on it, and I didn't want them ... A: Well, they didn't get any of that from your photo - trust me. One thing I can say for sure is that ... | |
| How to deal with this? | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I'll try to make this as short as possible: I moved to X country to study postgraduate degrees, I ... A: I understand that you're not in the US. Unfortunately, no. New Zealand recognizes a "statutory ... | |
| How to deal with this? | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I'll try to make this as short as possible: I moved to X country to study postgraduate degrees, I ... A: What a fucking mess! Tony, you really screwed this one up. Letting her get pregnant was the first ... | |
| girlfriend's mother vs me | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: i am 23 and my gf is 20. we come from indonesian family with strong eastern culture. so we are ... A: There's one point I'm confused about. If you're going back to Indonesia in a month, will you be ... | |
| very confusing guy | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: I am an 18 year old girl and a freshman in college. So I met this guy in October and we have had an ... A: First of all, don't call him out on this. He didn't "lead you on" any more than you've "led him on" ... | |
| lonely in college | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I am an 18 year old freshman girl in college, and I am having boy issues. I can't seem to ... A: You claim to be doing everything "right" and aren't getting results. Sarah, what does that tell you? ... | |
| decreasing interest level | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: I have noticed that the high attraction and excitement that we feel for a person in the initial 2-3 ... A: It's not supposed to stay forever. It's supposed to evolve into something much more important: love. ... | |
| What is Power in dating? | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: I was reading some of your questions and in one question you have said "you gave away all your power ... A: Hey Sam! Please try to consolidate your questions together with a directed goal. It appears you've ... | |
| Commitment issues | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: So I have liked this girl for the past about 8 months. We went out once and have come close to going ... A: What is going on here? Is she "crazy-making"? It almost seems that she's creating drama by making ... | |
| sex for the first time. | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: im sorry but i have no idea what to do. i am scared to tell my mom that i had sex but i did.. my ... A: You have nothing to worry about. It's normal to bleed for up to a couple of days after having sex ... | |
| dating someone later on | 4/1/2011 |
| Q: Can I ask your opinion on this. From what you have seen throughout your dating experience. Ok let's ... A: Hey Angela! I don't guess these things. There are 1001 reasons why people do what they do and any ... | |
| stereotypes | 4/1/2011 |
| Q: I have been all over the internet looking for a list of different slang names and titles of ... A: Here's a list of frequently used terms from my own website: ... | |
| slow or disinterest? | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I met an incredible man through my coworker who is his friend. I thought he was gorgeous, she ... A: Why in the hell would you be ok with "taking it slow" with this guy? Are you seriously will to let ... | |
| What is Power in dating? | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: I was reading some of your questions and in one question you have said "you gave away all your power ... A: You're asking the wrong question here. OF COURSE she's interested in looks. Almost everyone is. ... | |
| dating someone later on | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: Can I ask your opinion on this. From what you have seen throughout your dating experience. Ok let's ... A: Ok, but that's not exactly an "approach", it's an "opening". Yes, absolutely there's a chance. ... | |
| What is Power in dating? | 3/29/2011 |
| Q: I was reading some of your questions and in one question you have said "you gave away all your power ... A: Men have many basis of power to draw from. Thus, I can't spend the next 3 days telling you every ... | |
| First Kiss | 3/29/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I'm a 21-year-old woman and this evening I just went on the first date of my life. We both ... A: Congratulations on your first date! I hear ya about over-thinking things. Don't worry however, I'm ... | |
| dating someone later on | 3/29/2011 |
| Q: Can I ask your opinion on this. From what you have seen throughout your dating experience. Ok let's ... A: Yes, it's absolutely possible. In fact, it's often even more than possible. The reason for this is ... | |
| only guys in relationships hit on me? | 3/28/2011 |
| Q: I'm 29 years old. I'll be chatting with a guy, and he'll be hitting on me like there is no tomorrow. ... A: I hear ya. Unfortunately, this is something you girls are actually doing to yourselves. Yes, I know ... | |
| I dont know how to deal with my inconsiderate boyfriend | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: We have been together for 2 months. He has been overseas, he is a DoD contractor and just got ... A: First of all, it's not your job to make up for past hurts by anyone. It's not his job to make up for ... | |
| Building a guy's interest | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: Let's say a beautiful woman is attracted to a handsome man. Both are single, straight, and available ... A: If you invite him to do something and he doesn't respond...NEXT!!! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| Building a guy's interest | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: Let's say a beautiful woman is attracted to a handsome man. Both are single, straight, and available ... A: Umm...is this hypothetical girl YOU??? I wouldn't give up from a single missed message. Many people ... | |
| hi more questions | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: 1. I mean what is a boyfriend girlfriend.. what is the definition for it... does it mean romantic ... A: Please be sure to include the previous questions/responses when you write. It's impossible for me to ... | |
| mind games! | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so my situation.. I recently met this guy and I'm pretty sure he likes me, or at least he ... A: Hey Lisa! You're welcome! You girls get these really dumb ideas from each other and other ... | |
| mind games! | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so my situation.. I recently met this guy and I'm pretty sure he likes me, or at least he ... A: Yeah...it makes a TON of difference, but in a different way than you think. It's actually YOU that ... | |
| mind games! | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so my situation.. I recently met this guy and I'm pretty sure he likes me, or at least he ... A: No, he's not playing mind games with you. You're simply using this as an excuse so that you won't ... | |
| Dying Relationship | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year and a half now. Recently, our relationship has been ... A: There are a couple of things you can do to help turn this around. First of all, it's not about the ... | |
| What am I doing wrong? | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: So here's the thing. People over the years have told me I'm quite pleasant and awesome and fun. I'm ... A: It more depends on what he things you mean by "take it up a notch". I can't tell you if it's too ... | |
| Dating/Love | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I am a single mother of 3 i have been supporting my kids by my self with no help from their fathers ... A: So, let me get this straight: you went from not loving him to loving him in 1 month? Really??? Ok ... | |
| misinterpret men's signals | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I apparently misinterpret men's interest in me. When a guy likes me, I have no idea. When a guy ... A: Welcome to the club! Almost EVERYONE has this problem. I've talked to many people (women in ... | |
| Inviting a guy to a concert | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: I bought tickets to a concert thinking I'd take a friend when the time came. However, I have ... A: Yes, you're making too much out of this. YOU have the tickets! It's not HIS place to ask you to take ... | |
| Dating my cousin's friend...? | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 17-year-old girl, and I live in New York. I'm in 12th grade, and I'm very close with my ... A: I'm not here to be your "vent". If you feel better, fine, but I'm not going to read all of this. I ... | |
| Men attracted to me but won't date me? | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: Interesting problem. I will meet a guy, we hit it off really well, he says he has a crush on me or ... A: Yes, some guys do this. They tend to not get any action by doing that either. Smart "players" (such ... | |
| Men attracted to me but won't date me? | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: Interesting problem. I will meet a guy, we hit it off really well, he says he has a crush on me or ... A: Wait a minute, there's something very wrong here. If these guys are interested in you, they would be ... | |
| lost and confused.. | 3/20/2011 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together almost 3 years. He is 24 and i'll be 25 in a few months. I recently ... A: No, it doesn't help. You're not being clear. I have no idea as to the timeline of your relationship. ... | |
| extremely handsome men? | 3/20/2011 |
| Q: Why are some of the most attractive men sometimes the easiest to get? I am talking about those ... A: That's a HUGE question! There are tons of ways, but chief among them is to NOT play all the "Dumb ... | |
| extremely handsome men? | 3/20/2011 |
| Q: Why are some of the most attractive men sometimes the easiest to get? I am talking about those ... A: No thoughts. What guy? What situation? You're drawing too broad a line here that simply doesn't fit ... | |
| lost and confused.. | 3/19/2011 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together almost 3 years. He is 24 and i'll be 25 in a few months. I recently ... A: Wait a minute. When you say "moved closer to him" what was your situation before? Was this a ... | |
| Does she miss me or just knows im there? | 3/19/2011 |
| Q: Me and my ex-girlfriend were together for 2 years. I'm 23 she is 21, we had our ups and our downs. ... A: Hey Geoff! Well, ok - you didn't dodge a bullet. It got you square between the eyes. I'm sorry to ... | |
| Does she miss me or just knows im there? | 3/19/2011 |
| Q: Me and my ex-girlfriend were together for 2 years. I'm 23 she is 21, we had our ups and our downs. ... A: The foundation of my original response remains intact. Think about this Geoff: SHE set you up to ... | |
| Need some advice on a bad break up and getting back together. I feel so helpless | 3/18/2011 |
| Q: This is the back story behind my question, its a bit long but I've tried to include all of the ... A: Unfortunately, yes. I think he'll come back. Then, you'll be happy for a few weeks and start all of ... | |
| Does she miss me or just knows im there? | 3/18/2011 |
| Q: Me and my ex-girlfriend were together for 2 years. I'm 23 she is 21, we had our ups and our downs. ... A: You keep saying "we" did this or that when in reality "SHE" told you and you simply laid down and ... | |
| Trusting | 3/17/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend received an unacceptable text message from another girl. Although he did nothing wrong, ... A: In a perfect world, yes. You should have your trust issues - and all your issues work through so ... | |
| Should I call her? | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: Neder! I am a 22 year old college student and I recently met a girl through a friend (we were all at ... A: You're terribly vague about the timeline here. I don't know if we're talking weeks or months and ... | |
| I want to see my ex | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: My ex and I broke up just over 2 weeks ago. He said that he did not feel in love anymore after 11 ... A: There are 3 phases of relationships: 1) The "excitement phase" 2) The "bonding phase", and, 3) The ... | |
| did he reject me | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: I met this guy and we really hit it off. he was single and i am single. we're the same age and have ... A: Frankly, it's rude to not respond to a message on either of these sites. I'd give him a week, but no ... | |
| rich handsome men | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: Really attractive men with high powered careers have a multitude of women hitting on them, they get ... A: I'm not sure your analysis is exactly correct. Wealth has very, very little to do with interest from ... | |
| Vacation | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend wants to take his ex on our next cruise because it is the last cruise their son will ... A: There is one child here and who are supposed to be three adults. If you three can't act like adults ... | |
| what is with this girl | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: I have a question I was hoping you could help me out with. There was a gorgeous girl who was a ... A: The last time a woman was with me (on my dime) and started texting, I got up and said, "You know how ... | |
| hard to get | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: few days ago I asked you about playing hard to get and you told me to read your article on your ... A: No, it's not a fact. It's a nice sound-bite, but nothing more. Ajay, here's the problem: we've been ... | |
| Boyfriend issues...mostly sex | 3/6/2011 |
| Q: okay, i'm 18. My bf is 22. I've been with hime for a long time and i really love him. But, he just ... A: There is something wrong with your boyfriend's sex drive. It might very well be that he's not ... | |
| long distance navy relationships | 3/4/2011 |
| Q: my boyfriend is leaving soon to the navy. when I think about it i end up crying. He knows that i cry ... A: Why should you be as confident as he is? You're different people with different ways of looking at ... | |
| want to become dominating | 3/2/2011 |
| Q: I am a shy guy and i am not very dominating. There is a girl who stays in our building and she is ... A: Working out will help to build the testosterone in your system. It will also give you more ... | |
| want to become dominating | 3/1/2011 |
| Q: I am a shy guy and i am not very dominating. There is a girl who stays in our building and she is ... A: The main reason why you react this way isn't really shyness - that's only a symptom. It's actually a ... | |
| Game Players? | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: Normally I'm pretty smart with men and I can tell when a guy is interested. But lately a LOT of men ... A: Unfortunately, the same rules don't apply. Men and women play games for different reasons - and they ... | |
| help | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: Ok my situation starts off when I met this woman at a sports medicine convention in AZ in AUG and ... A: You "respect" that? Are you kidding? Is that all you think you're worth? If that's the case, trust ... | |
| Too many sex partners? Too risky? Should I chance it? | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: Neder, I met this guy who I've developed a pretty good friendship with online. We met on an online ... A: First of all, congratulations on trying to build your sexual experience. This is a key factor in ... | |
| You're not me | 2/23/2011 |
| Q: why do i feel like my gf is a naggin complaing female puppy all the time? Because she is all the ... A: Because it's her only way of getting you to stand up and be a man. You're not doing your job and ... | |
| Careers and Long Distance | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I started dating 9 months ago. Only a month into the relationship he got word that ... A: [Quick side note: notice how separating the paragraphs (below) into short concepts makes this SOOOO ... | |
| fear, shyness, low self esteem? | 2/20/2011 |
| Q: i am 23 year old boy and till now i didn't have a single girlfriend in my life, and i feel very ... A: At 23-years-old, you're not "boy". You're a man. That's the very first attitude change you need to ... | |
| Pushing forward | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: Dennis. I am a 25 year old dating a 32 single father. Completely new grounds for me. Things have ... A: It seems that everything about exclusivity hinges on meeting his daughter when in reality, that has ... | |
| She said I'm like a brother | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: There's this girl I have been attracted to for a year. I'm 23 years old and she's 21. At first we ... A: No, you don't have a chance. You did when you first met, but that is now gone. Let me augment that ... | |
| Where is he coming from? | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: In September 2009, I met a man via an on-line dating site. We emailed each other and eventually ... A: You probably should be asking what *I* think about you after reading this! So, after more than a ... | |
| Doesn't want children | 2/16/2011 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old women (nearing 30 in a few months) and am dating a 39 year old man. We’re both ... A: First of all, at 2 hours away from each other, you DO have a long-distance relationship. You can't ... | |
| My boyfriend problems | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: Ive been with my boyfriend 4 and a half years and were in a loving relationship problems here and ... A: He doesn't appear to be trying to hide anything from you. That's an important clue right there. Of ... | |
| Okay, so here's a real question, finally | 2/13/2011 |
| Q: Neder: I'm emailing you about that same man from last week (the guy I'd been out with 3 times and ... A: Hey Sarah! Why, oh why did you invite him out with you and friends???? Come on here! Is that what ... | |
| Dating situation gone wrong.. | 2/13/2011 |
| Q: Neder, First off: Sorry if this is long to read. I want to provide details so you can help with ... A: Hey! I'm glad you've come to this understanding for yourself. One point of perspective: taking ... | |
| men aren't afraid of commitment at all | 2/13/2011 |
| Q: Why does everyone keep saying that men are afraid of commitment? I think that's hogwash. Every ... A: I think you're absolutely, entirely, 100% correct! What are you, a Mensa member or something? Men ... | |
| Rough Patch | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years and are both 24. I am a teacher and he just ... A: I agree. If you keep up this behavior, you ARE going to lose him. That would be tragic considering ... | |
| break up or keep trying | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for right at a year, and we are way apart on some issues. I have no doubt ... A: Yes, you are stressed, but yes, your issues are normal. I don't know whether you're ... | |
| very less friends | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: Please help me, i am very lonely i have only two friends in my life. And i never had a girlfriend. I ... A: Yes, I have some solutions for you. The first thing is this: people form friendships because of ... | |
| new g/friend dating others | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: am i wrong to feel bad?? I dated a girl one time and we both told mutual friends it was a great ... A: I'm sorry you're hurting. Yes, you are wrong here, *IF* things are moving forward with this girl. ... | |
| A quadruplet roommate debacle | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: A little back-story on me before I delve into the question. First off, I am a 23 y/o virgin. When ... A: This isn't a problem with dating your roommate at all. Frankly, that isn't a problem if everyone ... | |
| Shd i date someone who may not be good husband material? | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old girl. I met this guy who is from a different country, race, religion but is ... A: Why do you have to only date your future husband(s)? Dating is about connection and skill-building. ... | |
| Ex of 2 years or new guy? | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I was with my ex boyfriend for around 2 years plus! Our relationship was rather rocky at the start ... A: Don't waste your time with long-distance relationships. They simply never work out. Worse yet, they ... | |
| My boyfriend doesnt work | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 21. I met him at my workplace and we started going out on March 2010 and ... A: Yes and no. If the tables were turned (you were the guy in this story and he, the girl) very few ... | |
| Complicated dating start | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: Just to introduce myself... I'm 30 years old, met this girl 6 weeks ago, she's 27 and I'm ... A: She's "really stressed" at the moment and putting this much pressure on her doesn't help. Asking her ... | |
| seems like its not going anywhere | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: I hope you can help me a little. Ive been dating a guy for 4 months. At this point our relationship ... A: I wouldn't give this too much more time - maybe one more chance. Explain to him that you are ... | |
| What do I do with this girl? | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: Neder. I have known a girl for about 5 months. I met her in a class of mine (I'm in college). Now, ... A: Wow. I see some real problems here in your future. Let me start with this: these girls that are ... | |
| How to earn respect | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: pls tell me what is the most important thing to gain respect? People always loose respect for me ... A: 1] Yes, power *IS* attractive to women. Here's the problem however: every woman defines "power" ... | |
| How to earn respect | 1/14/2011 |
| Q: pls tell me what is the most important thing to gain respect? People always loose respect for me ... A: None of these things. Let me start with this: respect is important in relationships, but NOT in ... | |
| question | 1/12/2011 |
| Q: !! So I am wondering something, I started seeing this guy I really like, but am scared because i ... A: If you really want to be sensible about this, just forget this guy and move on. That why you won't ... | |
| Emotionally cheated... | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: So I completely messed up! Back when my bf and I were just dating for about a month I continued to ... A: The problem is that he's insecure. He wants to blame you for not being secure and this happens to be ... | |
| so confused | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: So my first boyfriend broke up with me a little less then a month ago. He broke up with me in a very ... A: My first question is this: why in the hell are you trying to prolong all of this pain? Why hang out ... | |
| chasing butterflies!? | 1/7/2011 |
| Q: I(30 yrs) first started dating this guy (36 yrs) in may 2010, everything started so fast and he ... A: Let's be clear here: you CHOSE to be a friend with benefits - and not for the reasons you think. In ... | |
| Am I right about my boyfriend? | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: I have just seen this site and I have a really confusing situation with my boyfriend right now. We ... A: I see quite a number of problems here and unfortunately, most of them are with you! You expect ... | |
| Opinion Needed | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: Im confused and in need of some opinion. I met a guy last year, he was the attending physician when ... A: This is yet ANOTHER example of long-distance relationships and technology-based relationships ... | |
| What should i do? | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: so i was really in to this girl and i'm like 99% sure she really liked me but i took too long to ask ... A: Here's what you should have done: acted when you have the chance. Mike, this is an important lesson ... | |
| Commitment Phobic Boyfriend | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: So my boyfriend has been very distant recently, and finally he agreed to sit down with me and talk, ... A: Don't just ask him questions and let him come up with answers. If he's even reasonably intelligent ... | |
| What causes jealousy? | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: Why am I jealous? What causes jealousy? From December 2008 to September 2009 I was in an abusive ... A: Jealousy usually comes from some form of insecurity; often the insecurity that someone else is doing ... | |
| how can i talk to him? | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: so i met this guy about a month ago and he would always wave and say hello. Now he doesn't at all, ... A: It's impossible to say exactly what is going on with him without knowing him, but it's only one of a ... | |
| Is this a hint? | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: I really like this guy at work at my new job (I changed careers late in life) but haven't made any ... A: I wouldn't take that as any sort of hint he means himself. However, with that said, this isn't ... | |
| Another Girl | 12/27/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We live together, and have been for about 1 ... A: First of all, don't contact this girl. This isn't her fault and what exactly are you hoping to ... | |
| Relationship Questions. | 12/23/2010 |
| Q: I've been with My bf for 3 years now going to four, and althought I feel secure in this relationship ... A: Frankly, I'm not convinced what you feel is love. It sounds more like habit. When two people are ... | |
| Why this guy rush into relationship | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: We both in our mid thirties. Although I want to get marry and have family, but this guy which I knew ... A: I can't answer as to why he's this way. I don't know him any better than you do. As to how to slow ... | |
| controlling behavior or not? | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: I really like this guy alot...many fine qualities. However coming from a previous marraige that was ... A: Since it's only been a day or two, give him some more time. If it turns out that he's punishing you ... | |
| controlling behavior or not? | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: I really like this guy alot...many fine qualities. However coming from a previous marraige that was ... A: To be clear, words are not actions; nor do they necessarily beget or indicate actions. No doubt ... | |
| How to survive being Pretty Woman | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: For my work position I have much to do with rich men and generally people of upper ... A: I actually did a show about this very thing - dating outside your comfort zone. Yes, this is a ... | |
| Confused - Head or Heart | 12/18/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 3 years, since high school (I was in year 10 - ... A: Ok, let's get this out of the way first: neither of you is mature enough to be in the relationship ... | |
| how to make it work? | 12/17/2010 |
| Q: i am anjali. i am 18 years old and am pursuing my degree. my boyfriend is my senior in college and ... A: Hey Anjali! Why are you wasting my time? You are in exactly the same boat you were before. ... | |
| how to make it work? | 12/16/2010 |
| Q: i am anjali. i am 18 years old and am pursuing my degree. my boyfriend is my senior in college and ... A: You can't live your life by what other people do or say. If you're going to do that, there's no ... | |
| Hey | 12/16/2010 |
| Q: hey whats up, i was ganna ask this question in the brother & sister problems but there are no ... A: First of all, yes, she likes you. Now, to the family thing. Just because her mother married your ... | |
| how to make it work? | 12/15/2010 |
| Q: i am anjali. i am 18 years old and am pursuing my degree. my boyfriend is my senior in college and ... A: Why are you making excuses for his bad behavior? His parents have nothing to do with the fact that ... | |
| Should I ignore my ex gf? | 12/15/2010 |
| Q: So yeah. Long story short, my ex entered college, whereas I am at my last year of college, my ex ... A: I agree with you. You do NOT want to be friends with her! What is that? Some consolation prize or ... | |
| Shes taken? | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 21 yr old guy in college. I wanted to know what your opinion is on the idea of going after a ... A: No, your friends are wrong. Let me explain. First of all, EVERY GIRL has a "boyfriend". This is ... | |
| I dont get her? | 12/13/2010 |
| Q: Neder. I am totally confused about a girl I met over the summer (in college). We hit it off really ... A: Ok, so here's what I know about this girl: she's an expert at manipulating you and keeping it just ... | |
| is it right to date this women? | 12/13/2010 |
| Q: There is a women i like in our church and she seems to be a very decent and veryyyy innocent girl. ... A: Huh? You think girls don't call guys first? Some do! I call these girls "winners" because they ... | |
| Argument | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: I was spending time with my boyfriend at his house and we started having an argument about his ex. ... A: Hey Jess! It depends on how you ask him. Don't be afraid of bringing it up as long as you do so ... | |
| Why is he acting that way? | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: My crush is acting kind of weird. I made him know about my feelings when I once tried to kiss me. He ... A: You're asking me to read this guy's mind and I simply can't do that. There's no possible way for me ... | |
| Conversation problem | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: I have problems with communication. Many times i dont understand what to talk with people. When i ... A: The problem here is that you're getting breadth without depth. Rapid-firing questions at a person ... | |
| Argument | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: I was spending time with my boyfriend at his house and we started having an argument about his ex. ... A: You absolutely should tell him these things, but keep in mind, he won't believe you. Neither would ... | |
| impression? | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: I just got hired at a new job. They are all men and I'm the only woman that interviewed, it seems ... A: Here's the sad reality: many, many women (far more than men) are absolute terrors to work with. They ... | |
| Argument | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: I was spending time with my boyfriend at his house and we started having an argument about his ex. ... A: You "specifically told him not to"? What are you, his mother or his girlfriend? No WONDER he's ... | |
| How To Deal With A Bully Boss | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: If a manager/supervisor/boss at a workplace yells at you or tells you off (they are super moody ... A: Even more so in a bad economy, your job is critical to your survival. We all want to get along with ... | |
| Conversation problem | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: I have problems with communication. Many times i dont understand what to talk with people. When i ... A: You're actually on the right path. Asking what you call "personal" questions is a great way to ... | |
| question | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years always wants to send his ex girlfriend/friend a message on her birthday, ... A: Ok, let's get this straight - this isn't about your boyfriend or his ex at all. This is entirely ... | |
| being told im being played | 12/5/2010 |
| Q: Im 22 and this situation has really been doing my head in so I thought I would seek some advice. Ive ... A: Yes, you're missing a sign, but it's not by him. You're being played by your jealous co-workers. ... | |
| what should i do now? | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: There is a girl in our church and i like her,i think she is made for me because she is my type . and ... A: Absolutely you should give her the right Facebook ID and yes, you should do it right away. Just tell ... | |
| Relationship problem | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a guy for 1 year..our relationship wasn't that serious.. and ... A: Here's the real battle you're fighting: this isn't about you at all and it isn't about your past ... | |
| re | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: Whenever I ask a guy out on a date, a HUGE nasty sneer spreads across his face. I get really creeped ... A: I don't know the "nasty sneer" you're talking about and I don't know the guy you're referring to. ... | |
| Running away from his problems? | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: Long story short my bf and I have been offered an amazing opportunity to live overseas for a while. ... A: First of all, you haven't told me why his moving away would be a "problem". I get that he'd be away ... | |
| Girl i like | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I love reading your advise on people and I do think you suggestion will be very helpful to ... A: 1. No, it doesn't appear she is implying anything. What "tactic"? As in "trick"? Why waste your ... | |
| EX GF | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I have a ton of anxiety about this but I have shown a lot of self control. My ex girlfriend and I ... A: Sorry, I don't read minds. I can't tell you why she did what she did or if this is about regret or ... | |
| Loan | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I went to another country for school, and when I arrived, I was told that my loan check had come in ... A: I really don't know what you're asking me here. What do I think of this? Well, I think it sucks. As ... | |
| women playing hard to get - solution? | 12/1/2010 |
| Q: What should i do when a women is playing hard to get? Whenever i call her she doesn't pick up the ... A: 10-12 calls??? Are you fucking kidding me?? The ONLY reason why she plays you is because you LET ... | |
| need a favor from you | 11/30/2010 |
| Q: Few months ago i asked a question to you and you told me some things like "You have so many ... A: An example? Unfortunately, I can't be very specific since I don't know the situation. All I can say ... | |
| need a favor from you | 11/28/2010 |
| Q: Few months ago i asked a question to you and you told me some things like "You have so many ... A: Why did I feel that way? Simple: all the dumb things you did showed me that you don't have any real ... | |
| stages of development | 11/26/2010 |
| Q: General question, from what you've seen in life. Where would an 18 year old girl (woman) be in her ... A: This isn't a question I can answer. WHAT 18 year old girl? WHAT 28 year old woman? WHAT 38 year old ... | |
| Irresponsible behavior | 11/26/2010 |
| Q: Having cancelled our second date once on the grounds of being busy at work,this girl accepted ... A: Yes, I agree. This is incredibly rude of her. Move on. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| What to do? | 11/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with guy for over a year. During the year, we did a lot of things ... A: First of all, what makes you think he was faking love? He may very well have been in love. It ... | |
| Irresponsible behavior | 11/25/2010 |
| Q: Having cancelled our second date once on the grounds of being busy at work,this girl accepted ... A: What do you want my advice on? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| boss screams at employees | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: Let's say you're on the job, and a boss, manager, supervisor, or a higher up on the company ladder ... A: nameless one! You haven't given me anything to work with here. I can't answer a question like "What ... | |
| boss screams at employees | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: Let's say you're on the job, and a boss, manager, supervisor, or a higher up on the company ladder ... A: I don't do hypotheticals and I don't do homework problems. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| 1st Date Etiquette | 11/19/2010 |
| Q: I’m a single divorced female (35yrs old) with 2 kids. After my divorce almost 2 years ago, I just ... A: First of all, I know what you're looking for - chemistry - but I see women making this mistake all ... | |
| It's never easy | 11/18/2010 |
| Q: So I've been spending time with this guy for the past two months. I wanna say we're dating, but he ... A: His discussion about the marriage has a direct impact on you and your relationship with him, so yet, ... | |
| dating | 11/17/2010 |
| Q: my question is why you think in this modern age of equality between the sexes it is still the guy ... A: Forget feminism. It's entirely artificial and has no bearing in this sort of discussion. I only deal ... | |
| rich kids vs poor kids | 11/17/2010 |
| Q: Why do children of extremely rich people seem to have a hateful, dismissive attitude of others? They ... A: Actually, the question should be "Why do *I* believe that children of rich parents are hateful and ... | |
| women misinterpret men's signals | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: As a woman we are taught to never approach men and not pursue men at all. Men are hunters, women are ... A: You, my darling, are a fucking genius! You are a rare, sage, clever representative of your gender ... | |
| Do you think i'm getting played? | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: So we're both 18. I'm pretty quiet and she's the opposite. we were talking and she said she wanted ... A: My age has nothing to do with my bias against texting. In fact, I'm far more technologically-savvy ... | |
| Do you think i'm getting played? | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: So we're both 18. I'm pretty quiet and she's the opposite. we were talking and she said she wanted ... A: No, you're not getting played, you're demanding that she play you and she's accommodating your ... | |
| can it work? | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: I have copied and paste my last question and your response. My question will be pertaining to your ... A: If he felt pressured, it was because that's what he picked up from you. Part of using this technique ... | |
| dating tips | 11/14/2010 |
| Q: Dennis, I hope you can help me with this question. My problem is that whenever I approach a guy, ... A: I just answered the second part of your question via email, but I thought I'd address the first part ... | |
| bully laughing and jeering? | 11/12/2010 |
| Q: I was violently bullied at the workplace by another coworker. I reported her anonymously and she got ... A: You want to know my impression? I think what you're unhappy about is that you didn't get the ... | |
| can it work? | 11/11/2010 |
| Q: I have copied and paste my last question and your response. My question will be pertaining to your ... A: Why wait at all? Why not start using that new information right now? You're not pressuring him at ... | |
| Never been asked out | 11/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old, about to graduate college and have never been properly asked out before! Does ... A: I could be a number of reasons for this. First of all, very few guys even know how to ask a girl ... | |
| can it work? | 11/10/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can give me a little advice about my situation. Right now I have been seeing a guy for ... A: Hey Candice! Why did you feel like an idiot? You did exactly what you SHOULD have done! The one ... | |
| Mixed Signals? | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl that I met at work for a little over a month. We have been on about 7 ... A: OF COURSE she's going to go for the easy-out. That's just human nature. If you try this and then ... | |
| Mixed Signals? | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl that I met at work for a little over a month. We have been on about 7 ... A: Here's the problem: she's ignorant. She doesn't really know how to date or even what her ... | |
| Mixed Signals? | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: I met this woman on the internet and we have been chatting on skype for about a month. Originally, ... A: You're very welcome. She showed you disrespect by disregarding what YOU want. She has rights too; ... | |
| I basically am moving on but I just want to know | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: My gf broke up with me about a month ago, saying that she can't do the relationship because of her ... A: Possible, yes, but not likely. By the time she gets back from the university, she's going to be a ... | |
| can it work? | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can give me a little advice about my situation. Right now I have been seeing a guy for ... A: Your choices don't match your actions and your actions don't match your goals. This all gets pretty ... | |
| Guy went out with | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy on singlesnet.com we went on our first date, he came over to my apartment, we had ... A: Hey Joan! I'm not being rude. You came to me for help, right? If you don't want to listen to my ... | |
| never thought this would happen | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I met a guy at my work in this tiny office building. We only work there 1-2 days a week, for 4 hour ... A: First of all, be absolutely sure about the age of consent in your state. That is a critical factor ... | |
| Mixed Signals? | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I met this woman on the internet and we have been chatting on skype for about a month. Originally, ... A: In other words, she preferred to let any potential chance of real connection between you die before ... | |
| can it work? | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can give me a little advice about my situation. Right now I have been seeing a guy for ... A: Why would you tell him that you're not interested in being "boyfriend/girlfriend right now..." when ... | |
| Guy went out with | 11/7/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy on singlesnet.com we went on our first date, he came over to my apartment, we had ... A: Desperate, stalking, commitment issues, pushing women. I hear this ridiculous crap all the time. Ok ... | |
| Crafting a great second date | 11/7/2010 |
| Q: How're you? 1-How to craft a great plan for the second date? 2-As for the second date,ASKING ... A: I can't give you a generic "second date plan" like this. Your dates should be unique and should be ... | |
| Conflicting Feelings | 11/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm 37 yrs. old and I'm friends with this 45yr. old man who admittedly wants to be more than just ... A: I don't put a lot of weight on intuition. I've seen it be wrong more often than I've seen it be ... | |
| Too much time to drive myself crazy | 11/7/2010 |
| Q: I've been talking to a girl for a while and we really like each other. It's over the internet, ... A: You think being afraid to talk to people makes you "mature"? Sorry, but I beg to differ. Travis, ... | |
| Guy went out with | 11/7/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy on singlesnet.com we went on our first date, he came over to my apartment, we had ... A: I think he WAS interested. Now I'm doubting it. There are two misconceptions we need to clear up ... | |
| relationship | 11/6/2010 |
| Q: we and my boyfriend have been together on and off for almost 5 years and i just dont feel like im in ... A: After 5 years and you're so mellowed out about the relationship, what do you have, but just a ... | |
| getting an ex girlfriend back | 11/5/2010 |
| Q: I found your site and need advise! I will try and make this as clear as possible. I was in a ... A: You guys are in a self-destructive pattern that is going nowhere. You need a reset. Here's what you ... | |
| Is she playing me or is it over? | 11/5/2010 |
| Q: I started hanging out with an old high school friend whom I haven't seen in years. I had a major ... A: It's over. You have so many mistakes here I don't even know where to begin explaining them. At ... | |
| Boys... | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: So I started working at this local store when I turned 16, almost 5 years ago. There was a boy who ... A: Why are you so wrapped up on him asking you instead of just being the girlfriend??? You say you ... | |
| Should I call her? | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: ,I had a first day with this girl.It went very well:I have found her very attractive.She was ... A: You sure make it tough to understand what you're saying when you leave out entire words. Just think ... | |
| compare secular dating w/christian dating | 11/2/2010 |
| Q: What do you say is the main difference between secular and Christian dating today is? IS there ... A: If you want me to help you with your paper, please write to me at my email address (in my bio on ... | |
| Im confused | 11/2/2010 |
| Q: Ill try to make long story short. I have been dating a man for 19 months. He went through a horrible ... A: Why is he the only one with a choice here? Don't you have options too? If this was totally out of ... | |
| Getting back together | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: I am wondering whether there is a real chance that me and my ex could get back together. The ... A: Being sincere doesn't change the fact. You simply don't (or refuse to) see it. Yes, I think you ... | |
| What to do next... | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a week ago. Our relationship has had many ups and ... A: Why in the hell would you do so much damage to your relationship only to hope it would get back ... | |
| Feel trapped in a relationship | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: Hey Dennis, How are you doing? I am a 24 year old guy from India. I met this girl, aged 24, some 8 ... A: What is it you don't understand here? You've CREATED this situation! You refuse to give her anything ... | |
| Getting back together | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: I am wondering whether there is a real chance that me and my ex could get back together. The ... A: Oh my god! The drama! It became so thick here it was trying to walk through a river of honey! ... | |
| Lost contact with a girl? | 10/30/2010 |
| Q: I'm sort of in a confusing situation with a girl and I'm clueless. You see, I met this girl a few ... A: Here's what happened: things took too long and got weird. Now, she's reacting to that. The reality ... | |
| Ex-Boyfriend or potentially more? | 10/29/2010 |
| Q: Earlier in the year (8 months ago) I started dating my best friend. We'd both had feelings for each ... A: I get the feeling that he's fully processed the break up and may even have someone else he's ... | |
| Tips for LDR | 10/28/2010 |
| Q: I am contacting you today because I am in need of advice concerning a path my relationship will soon ... A: Your situation is only slightly different than most of the LDR's I deal with in that you have and ... | |
| Confused | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: There is this guy that I have always had a little bit of a thing for. He is a super sweet guy, ... A: Sometimes people just "subtle" themselves right out of incredible relationships. I'll bet you're ... | |
| dating a workaholic | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: ive been dating this guy for 3 months now. we were friends for 3 years first before it turned ... A: Seeing your significant other only once a week isn't as unusual as you may think. Many people are ... | |
| Sexual Expectations for Financial Help? | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: This is a strange scenario; I will make it as succinct as possible. I lost my job and had to sell my ... A: Now wait a minute. Did you tell him about not being able to be in a relationship because you'd ... | |
| hello | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: I recently met this woman this past august in arizona for a sports medicine convention and we ... A: Great! Welcome to the world of the long-distance relationship (LDR) and texting! This is EXACTLY ... | |
| Dating Military Trouble | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend lives on a military base because his dad is in the military. I only get to see him once ... A: You've asked me two separate questions here that are diametrically opposed to each other. Please ... | |
| Second date | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: Dr. ,how're you? Now,to my questions: 1-Should the second date last longer than first date,as I will ... A: 1. It depends on how long and what of quality the first date was. Part of the problem with this ... | |
| Sexual Expectations for Financial Help? | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: This is a strange scenario; I will make it as succinct as possible. I lost my job and had to sell my ... A: By nature, many women are nurturers and many men are protectors. These tend to be natural conditions ... | |
| Lack of intimacy | 10/23/2010 |
| Q: Sorry I got the names mixed up. I've been having a little bit of trouble in my relationship and I ... A: Mixed up names or are you simply sending this to everyone on this board? If you're doing the latter, ... | |
| Should I stay or should I go | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: I've been having a little bit of trouble in my relationship and I don't know what move to take. Me ... A: Sorry, I'm not "Jeff". Please send this to him instead. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| When to call or text messaged back | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: Hey there, Dr. Neder! :) You're right that I should be meeting her on my terms, but I am somewhat ... A: The real problem here is being totally missed. You think it's about "the next step". It has ... | |
| Stealing | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 20 years old female and have been dating a 26 year old man for 10 months. I have a 3 year old ... A: So, let me get this straight: you fucked up and accused him of something without any proof and your ... | |
| Why am I mean to a WONDERFUL boyfriend? | 10/21/2010 |
| Q: A little background here. I recently got out of an awful relationship. His name I wont mention. ... A: You said it yourself: you don't feel that you're good enough for him. Thus, you're trying to ... | |
| When to call or text messaged back | 10/21/2010 |
| Q: Hey there, Dr. Neder! :) You're right that I should be meeting her on my terms, but I am somewhat ... A: If you don't copy the previous message(s) when you write me, there's no possible way for me to ... | |
| When to call or text messaged back | 10/19/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I had a first date set up this past week with this woman, but at the last minute, she told ... A: Hey Paul! For a game-player, it does no good to play the game and not see the outcome. You want to ... | |
| types of men | 10/19/2010 |
| Q: Are there certain types of MEN that are submissive in bed? What types of men are dominant in bed? ... A: Just as women are experts at keeping their real agendas secret, men are experts at not exposing ... | |
| types of men | 10/19/2010 |
| Q: Are there certain types of MEN that are submissive in bed? What types of men are dominant in bed? ... A: Well, don't you have a lot of questions this morning???? Yes, there are many men that are ... | |
| When to call or text messaged back | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: Neder, It's Paul again. I forgot to ask another followup question. After I wait 5 days to call her ... A: Hey Paul! No. As I said before - no ultimatums. Instead, you follow the "call plan" (from "Being a ... | |
| When to call or text messaged back | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I had a first date set up this past week with this woman, but at the last minute, she told ... A: What makes you think that working in the news industry changes anything? Do you think she has ... | |
| When to call or text messaged back | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I had a first date set up this past week with this woman, but at the last minute, she told ... A: You completely understand? I sure as hell don't. Paul, that is a game, pure and simple. Think about ... | |
| I like her but she has a boyfriend? | 10/17/2010 |
| Q: Well at school i like this girl but i refused to talk to her after she mentioned her bf in class. ... A: Wow. Eli - seriously? You're actually wondering if this girl likes you or not? I sure wouldn't be ... | |
| What to wear on the first date | 10/15/2010 |
| Q: Dennis Neder, I have an upcoming first date this weekend at Borders Cafe and I'm contemplating as ... A: As far as the shirt, jacket and tie, it depends on how old you are. If you're below 40, probably not ... | |
| my girlfriend doesnt trust me | 10/14/2010 |
| Q: i have been with my girlfriend now for 10 months, and all through our relationship i have been ... A: You have something of a severe problem on your hands. What's she's actually trying to do is to ... | |
| Is she attracted to me? | 10/14/2010 |
| Q: I am in college and there is this girl in my class who is attractive. She was in my class last ... A: I can't say specifically if she's attracted to you from this little information; however, it seems ... | |
| are they hitting on me? | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: The moment I meet a guy in a professional sense, whether it is at a job, at a convention, at a ... A: There are a bunch of considerations - and unique opportunities - that women have in approaching men. ... | |
| Inquistive or Immature? | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: I've just got off the phone with a girl I met on the net. It was our first conversation and it went ... A: Hey Sean! There are many problems with using the internet to meet women. Beyond some of those that ... | |
| Inquistive or Immature? | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: I've just got off the phone with a girl I met on the net. It was our first conversation and it went ... A: First of all, she's very UNLIKELY to call you. That's not her job - it's yours, and she damn-well ... | |
| How do I become her boyfriend? | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: Nedder. I'm kind of in a mess. I recently met this girl and we've gotten kind of close...but not ... A: I agree. She's interested in you. The question however is for what. There are two common scenarios ... | |
| are they hitting on me? | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: The moment I meet a guy in a professional sense, whether it is at a job, at a convention, at a ... A: Yes, this likely means that's the first interest. However, keep in mind that knowing that doesn't ... | |
| Inquistive or Immature? | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: I've just got off the phone with a girl I met on the net. It was our first conversation and it went ... A: You're going to have to understand that this sort of behavior is absolutely COMMON with people you ... | |
| Relationship Break | 10/11/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together going on 6 months. We met shortly after both of us ended ... A: Here's a great title for this relationship: "When Control Freaks Collide". Seriously? You two have ... | |
| ditch him or give him a chance? | 10/11/2010 |
| Q: Ive met a guy through mutual friends, we've started texting and we've met up twice. All he wants to ... A: First, some foundation: Yes, sex is important to men AND women. However, we use it very ... | |
| what does she mean? | 10/10/2010 |
| Q: I have met this girl at restaurant she is a new waitress, so couple of nights ago I went there with ... A: You've taken a situation that was probably at least a 50% chance and turned it into 10% or 5%. Why ... | |
| advice about an ex | 10/9/2010 |
| Q: I was involved in a long distance relationship with my ex we were friends for 4 years and then it ... A: No, there's no feelings from him for you. He realized what you don't: that these long-distance ... | |
| WHy is this girl so aloof? | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: Neder. I've known a particular girl for about 3 months. We go to the same college. None of us live ... A: You are experiencing exactly what so many others do - that texting (and technology in general) gets ... | |
| what does she mean? | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: I have met this girl at restaurant she is a new waitress, so couple of nights ago I went there with ... A: Sex is "boring"?? Let me be clear on this: if that's the case, you are doing it completely wrong! ... | |
| My girfriend and I broke up about a week ago | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: We were dating for about 8 months. She is 18 and I am 24. It is her first year on the university and ... A: This isn't love Eric; at least not from her part. People that really love each other work through ... | |
| Question | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 21 and never been in a serious relationship, and I think I am maybe afraid of them. I will like ... A: Why do you think they have "ulterior motives"? What motives are you worried about? Why would you ... | |
| Introducing myself | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I have a question in how to introduce myself to this girl I'm attracted to. We both went ... A: No, what you like is your IMAGE of her - not her. You have an impression of who you THINK she is. ... | |
| Interesting... | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: 2 questions ~ 1. Male musicians, such as famous rock stars - guitarists, vocalists, drummers, etc - ... A: 1. Well, again, that's not been my experience. I've played with some real greats in the industry and ... | |
| How to get passed these jealous feelings? | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: I am contacting you about an issue I have within myself regarding my relationship. I have read your ... A: Be careful what you ask for! I may just give you a healthy dose of "upfront" and "no-nonsense"! ;) ... | |
| Interesting... | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: 2 questions ~ 1. Male musicians, such as famous rock stars - guitarists, vocalists, drummers, etc - ... A: 1. Well, being a musician myself, I certainly feel qualified to speak about this. Your image of ... | |
| Do I continue? | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am divorced for almost a year and the man I am talking to hasn't been in his last ... A: You have a ton working against you here. First of all, this is a long-distance thing. Just because ... | |
| trust? | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating someone I love very much and care for very much. Unfortunately, I did things that ... A: No, let's be clear. You may be in love with him, but he doesn't love you. How could he? He hasn't ... | |
| common interests | 10/4/2010 |
| Q: Is it a bad sign when a couple doesn't watch the same tv shows? I mean, does it mean they don't ... A: Well, yes, I do think it speaks in some way to maturity level. Why are you so unable to see the ... | |
| common interests | 10/4/2010 |
| Q: Is it a bad sign when a couple doesn't watch the same tv shows? I mean, does it mean they don't ... A: Absolutely not. In fact, I think this is a very GOOD thing. There are some things where it's good ... | |
| I dont understand | 10/3/2010 |
| Q: I walk on the beach every weekend. I spotted this women "jean" we complemented each other ... A: Because she knows you're too much of a coward to ever make her feel safe and secure so that she ... | |
| trust? | 10/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating someone I love very much and care for very much. Unfortunately, I did things that ... A: OMG. I'm just sitting here shaking my head Kristen. What in the hell were you thinking??? Can you ... | |
| I like this girl but shes taken? | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: I met this girl in college. We had a class together. She seemed to show me ALOT of attention. I ... A: Where do I start with you??? First of all, guess what she's telling the guy with the motorbike? ... | |
| When a woman asks a man his phone number | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: I met this woman on an online dating site and send her a message. Not only did she respond, but she ... A: First of all, exchanging numbers on a dating site is simply the ticket for admission. Some women ... | |
| growing up | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I'm a 29 year old woman and I am still a virgin. I was raised in a strict household where ... A: Advice? Yes - a ton. First of all, you need to come to grips with the fact that your household was ... | |
| How do you ask? | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I'm sending this from my blackberry so I will keep it brief. I'm 24 and have just started ... A: Actually, the sodomy sandwich is more 3rd-date fodder. The second date is all about the ... | |
| Breaking the ice | 9/25/2010 |
| Q: I've been on this online dating site for a while and found this woman's profile very appealing. I'm ... A: You're looking for a magic bullet. Tom, seriously, there isn't any sort of thing like that! I can't ... | |
| Breaking the ice | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I've been on this online dating site for a while and found this woman's profile very appealing. I'm ... A: She likes to laugh? Well, that sure is different - NOBODY else likes to laugh! Wow! (You see, I ... | |
| Stay or go??? | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: Neder, My goal in writing this question is to help me decide whether the dating relationship I'm ... A: He seems into you to a degree, but the reality is, he's simply not in a position to start a solid, ... | |
| boyfriend's kids, etc. | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm divorced and dating a guy who is almost divorced. He's got two kids who I've only met one time ... A: Here's an interesting point about psychologists: they all have their own therapists. The reason is ... | |
| My Feelings | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for the past 14 months, and we have endured many situations. The ... A: Damn dude! You have a lot of issues going on here! You blame your inability to trust her on her ... | |
| Why did she cry during sex? | 9/19/2010 |
| Q: I've been seeing a girl for the past 6 weeks. Things have been going really well -- we really get ... A: First of all, you're asking the wrong person - and the wrong question. Have you ever heard a woman ... | |
| What does she want? | 9/17/2010 |
| Q: Neder. I just wanted to get your opinion on a couple of things. I'm a college kid from a big city. ... A: Here's what I think: you had a great opportunity very early on and you totally and completely blew ... | |
| Dating a not so girly girl. | 9/12/2010 |
| Q: I recently met an awesome girl in my college (a couple of months ago). We hit it off really well. ... A: What in the hell do you need here? This girl isn't going to write you a long letter just to make ... | |
| Needs space | 9/10/2010 |
| Q: Neder. My names Alex, I'm 19, and I've been dating this girl who's 20. We started dating over the ... A: So, what is this: her relationship and you're just along for the ride? Don't you get a say in any of ... | |
| My boyfriend's kids | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and living together since last October ... A: Huh? You don't feel it's your "place" to tell the kids that they are being disrespectful, selfish, ... | |
| Relationships | 9/5/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend likes boasting, speaking about his achievements (or his friends' and family members' ... A: and... My boyfriend talks about his ex-girlfriends a lot. He also thinks that he really knows ... | |
| first time dating | 9/4/2010 |
| Q: im a 21yr old female and ive never had a boyfriend before. Ive know this guy for almost 2 years now ... A: I know a week seems like a long time to not hear from him, but to many guys it isn't that long. ... | |
| No consolation price! | 9/3/2010 |
| Q: i'm 26 and i've never had a serious, adult relationship ever. Since i was 17 to this day, I've had ... A: I don't know you and I've never seen how you date or who you go after, but if you're like many, many ... | |
| threatened by women's sexuality part II | 9/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm an older woman who's a virgin. I am comfortable with my sexuality however, and I do masturbate ... A: Your title says "...part II". Was there a "part I"? If so, I'd never know it if you don't copy the ... | |
| People are threatened by women's sexuality? | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: You know I have noticed something. Men are, by nature, comfortable with their sexuality. I have ... A: It is with no lack of personal pain that I have to tell you that you are absolutely correct. I hope ... | |
| question | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: If a girl likes a guy, are there any signs that a guy gives off that makes it obvious he's not ... A: So then, they're not specifically telling you to fuck off, they are turning you down. I can't tell ... | |
| Asking someone out | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: Good morning Dr. Neder, first thank you for taking the time to read my question. My name is Nick and ... A: Well finally! After 23 years, you have an opportunity drop in your lap and you've done nothing ... | |
| Questions | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: I have a few questions. Firstly, I just turned 20 and am a junior at a small school in the Midwest. ... A: I fully understand your frustration here. That's correct - most guys (especially in your age range) ... | |
| question | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: If a girl likes a guy, are there any signs that a guy gives off that makes it obvious he's not ... A: I have never seen any guy ever tell a girl to fuck off if she asks him out on a date and does so ... | |
| Dealing with players | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: Recently my ex has been making trouble for my friend Allie and me. He went out with both of us ... A: You want a "simple explanation" and apology? Why? More important, why do you think you deserve these ... | |
| Best friends bf drama | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: Okay so I know the headline sounds weird but recently my BFF and her bf broke up it was a nasty ... A: Relationships are messy things. While I agree that loyalty to your friend is important, it's not the ... | |
| i just dont know | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: I've been talking to this guy for awhile,he's been in Afghanistan for the past year...what's ... A: I can't possibly answer these questions about him - what he's doing, where he is, what he's thinking ... | |
| Dealing with players | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: Recently my ex has been making trouble for my friend Allie and me. He went out with both of us ... A: What are your real goals here? It's obvious that they are NOT to move on with things. It sounds to ... | |
| Facebook obsessed | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I am 24 and he is 22 and have been together now for about 8-9months. Long story short he has issues ... A: Here's the reality: his insecurities are going to completely ruin your relationship. If things ... | |
| I'm Going Crazy. Literally | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: Crush I am fifteen and a half years old, and have had absolutely nothing to do with boys my entire ... A: Actually, this is an excellent lesson for you to be learning so young. I know it doesn't feel that ... | |
| help | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: I am asking this question as a very concerned friend. Everyone in this story is in their mid 20's, ... A: One thing I can't do is to give your friend advice through you (called a "pass-through"). That's ... | |
| i love my boyfriend but.. | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: whenever i look online for "how to tell if he's your soul mate" or whatever there's always one that ... A: Really? Ayley - really? Just because this guy isn't intellectual in the way your parents think he ... | |
| Commitment Phobia | 8/28/2010 |
| Q: I know that a commitment phobe is a person who fears commitment. So what is the case with a ... A: I don't know "this man" so I can't speak about him specifically. Certainly, it might be for selfish ... | |
| hey | 8/28/2010 |
| Q: hey i have quite a few questions,im 16 straight and have a few problems in the dating area, i have ... A: Part of learning to communication with someone is to learn to communicate properly. For example, ... | |
| Commitment Phobia | 8/27/2010 |
| Q: I know that a commitment phobe is a person who fears commitment. So what is the case with a ... A: First of all, the term "commitment phobic" is a huge misnomer. Someone that is "phobic" has a ... | |
| Question | 8/26/2010 |
| Q: I need to learn to have more confidence in the dating world. How do I do this? Anytime someone i ... A: This is less about confidence and more about insecurity. You're letting your insecurities control ... | |
| break up or taking a break? | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: For the past 3 years I’ve been seeing the man I like to spend the rest of my life with. He is 48 and ... A: The idea that "love conquers all" is a myth just as is if you love someone you work through it. In ... | |
| how can i get him back, hes dating someone else | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: i am in love with someone (his name is Jim) who is dating someone else for 6 months now. we dated ... A: Hmmm...let's see here. You try and try to get this guy back. He finally does come back and you make ... | |
| break up or taking a break? | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: For the past 3 years I’ve been seeing the man I like to spend the rest of my life with. He is 48 and ... A: These sorts of promises are easy to make when you're afraid of losing someone, but very, very tough ... | |
| is he interested? | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: This guy I met was totally all over me at this restaurant, he was a waiter, constantly flirting with ... A: Maybe he did or maybe he just thought he lost a good tipper. I don't read minds and thus, I can't ... | |
| is he interested? | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: This guy I met was totally all over me at this restaurant, he was a waiter, constantly flirting with ... A: This means this guy is a game-player. AVOID HIM! Look: I warn guys about these same games you girls ... | |
| Difficulty forgiving and forgetting | 8/22/2010 |
| Q: I'm at a loss. I have a wonderful boyfriend that i've been with for just under two years. We've had ... A: Crass? Absolutely! It's actually part of my charm. :) Here's what you need to know: any man that ... | |
| Odd response? | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I need help from an older person. I went to speak with a staff member of my college, the financial ... A: I can't sit here for the next 10-12 hours and tell you "everything". I have a ton of these questions ... | |
| Should I tell me date that I have kids? | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I met a sweet girl online and after a few days of virtual chatting, we had our first date. She’s 2 ... A: Yes, you're absolutely correct! You *DO* have that control and more to the point, get to use it to ... | |
| Difficulty forgiving and forgetting | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm at a loss. I have a wonderful boyfriend that i've been with for just under two years. We've had ... A: I'm going to answer your question, but you are NOT going to like my method to do so. Considering ... | |
| Should I tell me date that I have kids? | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I met a sweet girl online and after a few days of virtual chatting, we had our first date. She’s 2 ... A: Stop making such a big deal about your kids! Further, bang this girl already! Zvi, there are some ... | |
| I dont know what I feel. | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I have a male friend who is in love with me. He took me out for my bthday, and tried to kiss me. I ... A: You're asking me to tell you how you feel? Wow Mariana, you really give me a lot of credit I don't ... | |
| Odd response? | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: I need help from an older person. I went to speak with a staff member of my college, the financial ... A: What do I think of what? His job? His response? His lack of concern? The school? What are you ... | |
| love or not | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: I am 33 and I have been dating my girlfridned for over 2 years. I am rather confused. The girl I ... A: Staying in a relationship that's not meeting your needs simply because you don't want to be lonely ... | |
| video games addict | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: . My boyfriend and I live together and after bills and rent is paid, we don't get much for anything ... A: Well, you're absolutely correct - this IS an addiction for him. An addiction is any activity that ... | |
| Big decision | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are in a serious relationship and he has two small children. We are wanting to ... A: Households are not democracies. Everything isn't balanced nor are relationships built on balance ... | |
| Girl moving out | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I have this friend that I love very much but I never told her that, she is with this jerk of a ... A: First, no. Moving out simply means moving out. What else it may or may not mean only they know - and ... | |
| follow up | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: ------------------------------------------- I asked a guy out for coffee at this business expo ... A: 1) Opposites attract. 2) Don't quit just because of something you think you feel unless you're ... | |
| awkward encounter after lawsuit? | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: I got involved in a lawsuit with another student at my school. I had reported very bad behavior of ... A: How do you act for the next two years? Act righteous and indignant! If she was mistreating you and ... | |
| Honesty?? | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: I would like to thank you in advance for reading this. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 30. We've been ... A: What a terrible, ridiculous, absolutely guaranteed-to-fail decision! OF COURSE you're being ... | |
| arguments | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: .we've been together almost a year and we live together. Our relationship is pretty good until we ... A: Here's the source of this particular conflict from last night: YOUR inability to deal with your own ... | |
| follow up | 8/15/2010 |
| Q: ------------------------------------------- I asked a guy out for coffee at this business expo ... A: Yo! Yes, I can explain it, but you need to be very careful trying to read into this too far. The ... | |
| interest after rejection? | 8/15/2010 |
| Q: I asked a guy out for coffee at this business expo thing, and he said no, that he had a girlfriend. ... A: Hey! You're looking for absolutes here and there simply are none in dating, sex and relationships. ... | |
| BBQ | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: Long story short, I'm getting jerked around by a woman, and I'm too nice to blow her off. Not even ... A: Ok, you have a lot of problems going on here. The net effect is that this girl is playing the hell ... | |
| interest after rejection? | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I asked a guy out for coffee at this business expo thing, and he said no, that he had a girlfriend. ... A: Yes, there's some interest, but that doesn't mean there's attraction. That's a different thing. It ... | |
| Right way to ask a guy out? | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: What's a good way to ask a guy out? Say "wanna go get a coffee or something?" and give him your ... A: First off, I'm very, very proud of you for doing the approach. Do you know how few women will ... | |
| interest after rejection? | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I asked a guy out for coffee at this business expo thing, and he said no, that he had a girlfriend. ... A: You're asking me to read his mind and I simply don't do that. With that said, far too many people ... | |
| Girl I'm dating is moving away | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm 24, and have been dating a girl of the same age for a couple months. Even though we live about ... A: First of all, you must be a genius. Do you have any idea how many people write to me with similar ... | |
| Is he interested? | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 29 year old woman. I won a week gym pass to the new gym right next to my house from a lottery. ... A: Actually, I don't see that as "taking advantage". Somehow for men it's view this way, but for women ... | |
| Is he interested? | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 29 year old woman. I won a week gym pass to the new gym right next to my house from a lottery. ... A: From your story, I can't tell whether he's interested or might be a personal trainer hoping to score ... | |
| Question | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: okay so long story. I met this guy, and he then he wanted to go out sometime so I did a couple ... A: Can you see that you created this entire problem for yourself? You think it's him. It's not - it's ... | |
| confident guy seems scared of me? | 8/7/2010 |
| Q: for the past year this guy and I have been talking and getting to know each other. We met through a ... A: Confidence is not something you ever get to own. You can only borrow it from time to time. In ... | |
| Guys | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: We are both attorneys, I met this really hot guy at work, but he was on and off with his girlfriend. ... A: Hey Tracy! I don't know your uncle, so I can't comment on him specifically however there are some ... | |
| break up | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: I recently got dump by my girlfriend. She said she did not feel a connection between us. As well, ... A: First of all, DO NOT agree to be her friend. Frankly, that's insulting. Is that really all you're ... | |
| Splitting bills | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: .we have the same ongoing issue that can't ever seem to be worked out. For starters he brings home ... A: A household isn't a democracy. It's more like socialism or even communism than anything else. You ... | |
| My Ego Won't Let Me Move On | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: It's been 7 months since my recent ex and I broke up. We were together for 7 years and have a child ... A: For any particular benefit, you need to know that this is completely normal and in fact, common. ... | |
| Dating | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: Is it a unusual for a straight 22 year old male never to have kissed, romnatically dated, had ... A: It's not common to not have had these experiences by your age. "Unusual" or even "odd"? That's more ... | |
| Should I initiate kiss? | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: I've been hanging out with this guy and we're both at the stage where I feel like we like each other ... A: Abso-freakin'-lutely it's ok! In fact, I think you may very well be something of a ... | |
| help please | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: I'm 18. There is a girl i love so much though she is a year older than i am. We've been having good ... A: Two months doesn't change your foundational problem: you're still at a distance for most of the ... | |
| Being Stood Up | 7/31/2010 |
| Q: Dennis! Boy, if my sister ever found out about Natalie playing me, she would kill her. Anyway, ... A: Yo! Dennis! Why should her problems be inflicted all over you? She doesn't even know you yet! No, ... | |
| A hard to figure out woman | 7/31/2010 |
| Q: I've been friends with a woman named Natalie for many years and we've decided to take it to the next ... A: Hey Dennis! It's not "probably" true. It's a fact. I've seen it here many, many times. Why would ... | |
| A hard to figure out woman | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: I've been friends with a woman named Natalie for many years and we've decided to take it to the next ... A: There are a number of reasons why women do this: insecurity, fear, inability to be straight and ... | |
| Ex-boyfriend | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can help. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. We were together for almost ... A: First of all, forget closure. You rarely get it and if that's what it's going to take for you to ... | |
| A hard to figure out woman | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I've been friends with a woman named Natalie for many years and we've decided to take it to the next ... A: Wow - what a fantastic first name you have! Your parents must have been naming-geniuses! I don't ... | |
| Is he interested? | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I was hoping if you can give me some answers on whether he is interested in me or not. I'll try to ... A: Hey Misa! How in the hell are you ever going to get him to believe that you're not the type to play ... | |
| Is he interested? | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I was hoping if you can give me some answers on whether he is interested in me or not. I'll try to ... A: Like I said before, you've sunk your own ship. This guy doesn't believe you're interested and he's ... | |
| Ex-boyfriend | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can help. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. We were together for almost ... A: How can I help you when I don't know what you want? Are you getting back together to just check in? ... | |
| He dumped me because of an accident | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: I dated someone for 3 MONTHS . WE HAD great time together , he told me I am the one . and we ... A: Sorry, I'm not a mind reader. The only one that knows why he broke up with you or why he's ... | |
| Is he interested? | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: I was hoping if you can give me some answers on whether he is interested in me or not. I'll try to ... A: Absolutely not! Guy "friends" don't pay for their friends. Guys pay for dates. Any guy that takes ... | |
| does he want a relationship? | 7/27/2010 |
| Q: ok, so i met this man about a month ago, and he insisted on taking me on a date. i gave him the ... A: Hey Elle! That talk to his friends about your first date was to impress them - not to send you any ... | |
| lack of sex | 7/27/2010 |
| Q: I am rather young a senior in college as well as my girlfriend. We have been together for just a ... A: It's perfectly normal for the frequency of sex to decline over time with a partner. In fact, you're ... | |
| does he want a relationship? | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: ok, so i met this man about a month ago, and he insisted on taking me on a date. i gave him the ... A: Yeah, I hear you. I'm often direct and blunt, but I can't apologize for it. It's usually the only ... | |
| Guys | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: We are both attorneys, I met this really hot guy at work, but he was on and off with his girlfriend. ... A: You're confusing a couple of different issues here. Regarding this guy, he's told you via his ... | |
| Guys "window of opportunity" sex | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: We are both attorneys, I met this really hot guy at work, but he was on and off with his girlfriend. ... A: I'm not sorry to tell you that yes, this guy is no longer available to you at all. That's a great ... | |
| Bff to Bf | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: Okay so i like this guy that I've known for my whole life (our parents dated in high school) we are ... A: Don't ask him out on a "date". That's too much pressure. Instead, ask him just to hang out. I don't ... | |
| does he want a relationship? | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: ok, so i met this man about a month ago, and he insisted on taking me on a date. i gave him the ... A: I'm not sure where to start with you on this. First of all, you game him for a week (and frankly, ... | |
| Confused | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: "My Ex and I broke up after a year around 6 weeks ago - it was mutual and based on a breakdown in ... A: What exactly is he supposed to do with this time away from you that he can't do when he's with you? ... | |
| Jack Farrel is my boyfriend but... | 7/22/2010 |
| Q: I have a problem, my name is Lindsy and I'm a supermodel from Dubai UAE. I'm infatuated by my ... A: NEVER hint at things with a man. ALWAYS ask clear, specific questions with the guaranteed of a ... | |
| Bad Judgement or character flaw? | 7/22/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 2 years is a high school teacher. Today on the answering machine was a message from ... A: Here, let me get you some Kool-aid. Lee Ann, you have little idea of what you're talking about. ... | |
| Bad Judgement or character flaw? | 7/22/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 2 years is a high school teacher. Today on the answering machine was a message from ... A: Oh, come on here! Seriously??? If this happened 20 years ago, nobody would even bat an eyelash. ... | |
| My Girlfriend Hates Me of what I did. | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend for over 6 months now. Its kind of a long distance relationship. She's moving ... A: The problem here is the distance. The solution is her moving back. There's really not much you can ... | |
| Not in love with him | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: Plain and simple I love him but I am not IN LOVE with him anymore. We have been together now for 5 ... A: Part of being in any relationship is about being responsible to it and to the person you're in it ... | |
| Jack Farrel is my boyfriend but... | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: I have a problem, my name is Lindsy and I'm a supermodel from Dubai UAE. I'm infatuated by my ... A: There's so much about this story that doesn't make sense I don't know where to begin. What are you ... | |
| getting rid of a girlfriend | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: You looked professional, so I chose you. I'll keep this short, unlike all the others. I have a ... A: "Professional"? Looks can be deceiving. Well, you've really got yourself backed into a corner, ... | |
| How should I make my next move? | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: Ok, first off, I'm 21 and I stay near a pretty small town thats big enough for a Wal Mart but the ... A: John, stop doing this already! Come on here - do you REALLY think that she'd "forget" she gave some ... | |
| Conflict help! | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm writing because I have a situation I just can't make sense of. Last night I ... A: Hey Claire! Yes, sending him a message about how you feel is a bad idea. Keep yourself occupied and ... | |
| How should I make my next move? | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: Ok, first off, I'm 21 and I stay near a pretty small town thats big enough for a Wal Mart but the ... A: Sure - plan to hang out instead, bore her to tears and have her go all lukewarm on you instead. What ... | |
| Conflict help! | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm writing because I have a situation I just can't make sense of. Last night I ... A: What you do next is to give him a few days to cool off. Give him a call maybe Wednesday of this ... | |
| Conflict help! | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm writing because I have a situation I just can't make sense of. Last night I ... A: I can't begin to tell you what he's thinking. I just don't read minds! The only one that knows what ... | |
| Guy best friend complications | 7/17/2010 |
| Q: Hey, my name is Kathryn, and i have recently turned 20. So as much as I am the age of an adult, I ... A: You're right - I can't read this guy's mind. But then, I don't have to either. He's very close to ... | |
| decisions, decisions... | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: Neder! Thanks for being an expert and for your feedback. My situation is likely a common one. I ... A: Why choose neither of them - just because everything isn't perfect? Welcome to the world of ... | |
| Dont know what to do help!!! | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: Well umm im so embarrassed I dont know where to start haha. I am a 19 year old Male who has a normal ... A: I think you have some real problems here. Actually, just one problem: she's 14! Even in the states ... | |
| Long Distance Love. | 7/15/2010 |
| Q: I met a man while in vacation in another country. He's a very good friend of the family. I kept it ... A: Wow. I'm sitting here just shaking my head. You're writing to me to tell me you're interested in ... | |
| Getting Over My Boyfriends Past Lovers | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: Hey, My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly seven months now, and he is great. He ... A: As with so many things regarding relationships, the single key you're missing to get over all of ... | |
| Masturbation | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my Fiance for over a year not and recently moved in about 4 months ago. Before I ... A: Actually, you'd be shocked at how common this issue really is! You're certainly not alone, but that ... | |
| Relationship anxiety | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We are both 23 years old. We recently broke up last fall ... A: Live "alone together"?? Oxymoron like "jumbo shrimp" and "government intelligence". Why do you let ... | |
| Understanding Women | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: I am living with my sister temporarily until I head off for graduate school. I find one of my ... A: "The age of marriage"??? What "age" is that: 90 years old??? Come on here Brian, you don't talk ... | |
| a break | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: SO i see you have given plenty of other people relationship advice. So here goes with me. I have ... A: So, let me get this straight: SHE decided to put YOUR relationship on a "break" in order to punish ... | |
| break-up after 5years-What is to be done? | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: Well Imet a guy during my post graduation who was totally opposite of me.Iam more emotional girl and ... A: Hey Seema! What's going to change in a year that isn't there right now? Answer: he's going to ... | |
| Lack of Confidence | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: My bf is 21 and I am 24 and we have been dating a little over 6 months. We have exchanged I love you ... A: You've got a real problem on your hands here. The distance is going to PREVENT you from doing what ... | |
| BF's hygiene issues | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: I feel really stupid for asking for advice on this but my boyfriends hygiene is starting to gross me ... A: Don't feel stupid at all. This isn't exactly a *clean* problem! Harharharhar...(sorry). Why are ... | |
| Lack of Confidence | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: My bf is 21 and I am 24 and we have been dating a little over 6 months. We have exchanged I love you ... A: What do you mean your "distance"? Is this an LDR? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| break-up after 5years-What is to be done? | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: Well Imet a guy during my post graduation who was totally opposite of me.Iam more emotional girl and ... A: I'm not sure his family is worthy of respect, but that's an entirely different discussion. This ... | |
| Relationship issues | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have alot of problems that we are currently facing. The most pressing is i think ... A: Yes, I agree that all of these things are ridiculous. Further, you've got to get this straightened ... | |
| break up | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I were dating for 8 months. at first i had no interest in her because she just got ... A: I completely agree. You shouldn't beat yourself up over any of this. However, there is something ... | |
| break up | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I were dating for 8 months. at first i had no interest in her because she just got ... A: This is the most disgusting, toxic relationship I've seen in a while. She is mentally ill and you've ... | |
| Dealing with a recent change... | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together since late in high school. We have been together for close to ... A: What you "have"? You have nothing but a fantasy! That's why you're having trouble letting go of it. ... | |
| Dealing with a recent change... | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together since late in high school. We have been together for close to ... A: It CAN just be the long-distance! Distance continues to kill off otherwise great relationships and ... | |
| Worries about my fiance and his bad habits | 7/5/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my fiance for over a year- we just recently got engaged- but there are some serious ... A: Do NOT get married! At least now while these problems exist. They aren't going to get better on ... | |
| should i dump him? | 7/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years now. We have been having our ups and downs at times ... A: "Understanding"??? About his mother making him "choose" between her and you! What a pathetic little ... | |
| ending a 5 year relationship | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years now and our relationship is just not as good as it ... A: I'm confused too. What's the problem here? It's obvious that you both have grown entirely apart and ... | |
| Friends hate my boyfriend... | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: My two best friends and I have been inseparable since we were in diapers. We are extremely close and ... A: I'm about to beg you to leave your friends here! Sharon, think about just how disrespectful this is ... | |
| Asking someone out on FB (or getting to know someone on FB) | 6/29/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I recently trained for a marathon, and I met a guy in my marathon training group. We ... A: What about scanning his cousin's friend list to see if he's there? Then, you'll have a direct link ... | |
| Asking someone out on FB (or getting to know someone on FB) | 6/29/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I recently trained for a marathon, and I met a guy in my marathon training group. We ... A: Let's begin here: GREAT, FREAKIN' JOB TERESA!!!! Seriously! I'm very proud of you for being ... | |
| Engagement | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: So my boyfriend of over a year proposed to my about a month ago, and he said he knew that I loved ... A: He's probably not having second thoughts about the marriage, but he's coming to realize that; in ... | |
| Follow up question | 6/26/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I asked you a question a few months back about this older woman who is in her early 40's and ... A: Cool. You're obviously far more the expert here than I am. Go do it your way. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| Follow up question | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I asked you a question a few months back about this older woman who is in her early 40's and ... A: Yeah - how dare you actually thinking that you have any rights here! After all, you're just there to ... | |
| He broke up with me, and started crying? | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend (25, i'm 22), is going through a lot right now, finishing up his degree and some other ... A: When someone in a couple is going through problems (as we all do) the TEAM deals with them. You ... | |
| Why do young men feel needy and insecure in a relationship | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: Does insecurity stem from a core inner confidence issues? Or is it something that merits a ... A: You've asked this same question in two different groups. Thus, it's obvious that you're just ... | |
| texting overload | 6/23/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I'm 35 and started dating after a year-long hiatus earlier this year. I've gone out ... A: There's nothing "old fashioned" about not wanting to hold your dates via text. In fact, texting ... | |
| Does he really like me or is he using me? | 6/23/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I have this guy in my life and we've been friends for about four years. Actually, we used to ... A: Did YOU use HIM for your own benefit??? I can't tell you if he's interested in more than friendship ... | |
| hello | 6/22/2010 |
| Q: I have a problem when guys like me but i don't neccessarily feel the same, I just feel really bad ... A: Ummm....yes? Is that really your question??? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| He never called back! | 6/22/2010 |
| Q: so, this guy got my number from one of my friends,and he started calling me. At first, he called me ... A: Is there something you did to cause this? Are you kidding me? You should be asking yourself if there ... | |
| perpetually single | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: i am 38 years old. i think i am approaching mid life, if not already in it. my problem is that i ... A: There's no reason why you should have to "succumb" to anything you don't want. On the other hand, if ... | |
| Dating Advice | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: I have been friends with this guy for three years I didnt have feelings for him until i got to know ... A: Yes, you did the right thing, but not for him - for you. Unfortunately, you changed your number to ... | |
| trying to figure out how a girl feels about me | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, So I am a 20 year old male. I got a job back in April. Since then I have realized that ... A: Hey Ryan! Yes, absolutely that's what I'm saying. The difference is critical. The reason you want ... | |
| trying to figure out how a girl feels about me | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, So I am a 20 year old male. I got a job back in April. Since then I have realized that ... A: Be careful about reading into anything here. She's very likely to be vague and give you responses ... | |
| should i dump him? | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy, really nice, sweet and handsome. Dressed well, in graduate school, has a good job ... A: Seriously? How in the hell can I know if he's changed? I don't know this guy! Has he done anything ... | |
| Boyfriend just stop talking to me | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend. Told me not to call him anymore. Dose that mean. Its over with me and him. He hasn't ... A: Are you serious? YES it's over!!!!!!! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| trying to figure out how a girl feels about me | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, So I am a 20 year old male. I got a job back in April. Since then I have realized that ... A: I don't read minds. I can't tell you what she's thinking. What I can tell you is that she's playing ... | |
| Does he think I am to fat? | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: So my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now and I weigh less now then when we met. ... A: What are you confused about? It seems he's pretty damn clear on things. It's you that is trying to ... | |
| Is This A Sign He Does Care | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: "Me and a guy ended on bad terms and since we both have moved on. Admittedly, I do still have ... A: You don't think it's disrespectful to your boyfriend or your relationship for you to be carrying on ... | |
| Need Advice | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I have been talking to this girl for about 4 weeks now and i have never been so confused about what ... A: This isn't about jealousy, it's about respect and courtesy. Flirting with other guys when you're ... | |
| Is This A Sign He Does Care | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: "Me and a guy ended on bad terms and since we both have moved on. Admittedly, I do still have ... A: Here's what you're fishing for: Yes, he's still totally and completely in love with you. He still ... | |
| call him or leave it like that | 6/6/2010 |
| Q: i just recently started talking to a guy that i knnew from a few years back. we were hanging out in ... A: Huh? You've already said that there's not going to be a problem between your ex and this new guy. ... | |
| keep making the same mistake with girls | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: Ok so before my question I will give a brief history of my love life. I am a male and I am 20. All ... A: Umm...well, this is exactly why I write books. This is exactly what these books do - teach ... | |
| ex-girlfriend | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: me and my ex dated for 5 months and have been broken up for 8 months. we did not have contact for a ... A: Huh? I don't get your question. You ARE friends. Why are you asking for help with what you already ... | |
| keep making the same mistake with girls | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: Ok so before my question I will give a brief history of my love life. I am a male and I am 20. All ... A: First mistake: looking for "the one". Really? How would you know her when you found her without ... | |
| Dating | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: There's this girl that I've become real good friends with that I and my parents suspect like me, and ... A: I can't possibly tell you if she likes you from this. The only one that knows that is her. You have ... | |
| Dealing with ex-girlfriends amung other things... | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I’m struggling… with it seems like a mountain full of issues and I’m looking for some clarity. My ... A: I took one look at this loooooonnnnnngggggg letter and my heart sank. With 30 more of these to ... | |
| New Relationship? | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I will try to keep this question as breif as possible. So I met this girl 3 weeks ago on my boat and ... A: "The cardinal mistake of trying to start a relationship"???? That "play book" you're talking about ... | |
| respect | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: ok, dating her 4 years, about to eat, my place, her cell rings, she takes the call fr some guy ... A: Hey Joe! How do you know it was unimportant? Maybe it was extremely important - to her. You're ... | |
| respect | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: ok, dating her 4 years, about to eat, my place, her cell rings, she takes the call fr some guy ... A: The difference in time is that you likely wouldn't have known who this person is and for her to ... | |
| blind love or unhelpful advice? | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: I am a 31-year-old divorced mother. My husband and I are very good friends and share custody of our ... A: Here's what I'm certain of: your boyfriend isn't a good match for your co-worker, your ex-husband, ... | |
| respect | 5/31/2010 |
| Q: ok, dating her 4 years, about to eat, my place, her cell rings, she takes the call fr some guy ... A: If you and she had been dating for 4 weeks rather than 4 years, I'd say yes, it was disrespectful. ... | |
| hello | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: I have a question but is it wrong to have a certain type of person as far as looks that you go for? ... A: No, it's not bad - just very, very limiting. It's just as limiting for these guys. You're free to ... | |
| Should I give him another chance? | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months now. A few weeks into the relationship I was at his ... A: First of all, it doesn't matter whether you're with this guy or some other guy. Because of your ... | |
| porn and your period? | 5/28/2010 |
| Q: When I am on my period, and I watch porn, it helps me with cramps TREMENDOUSLY...all the backed up ... A: There aren't that many people that are 100% heterosexual or 100% homosexual - the vast, vast ... | |
| porn and your period? | 5/28/2010 |
| Q: When I am on my period, and I watch porn, it helps me with cramps TREMENDOUSLY...all the backed up ... A: It doesn't exactly happen to "women". Some women experience this (like you) and others don't. It's ... | |
| Broken relationship | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: Doc, My girlfriend of 2 years and I broke up a little over 1 week ago and I have found myself ... A: Your being over-controlling was a reaction to not being able to deal with her wild mood swings. ... | |
| He didn't tell my that he's a father | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: I've been dating him officially as his girlfriend for the last three months. Before then it were ... A: He's a father? Oh - thank god! I thought you were going to tell me he's a communist or something! ... | |
| Want my ex back | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: Good afternoon, Sharon! I am senior in high school and 18 years old. My ex-girlfriend is turning 18 ... A: First of all, no. You do NOT want to be her "friend". She is only doing that to ease her own ... | |
| ex issues | 5/24/2010 |
| Q: My question is in regards to my boyfriend's relationships with his ex girlfriends. He had an ... A: I'm afraid you're focusing on entirely the wrong thing here. You want to blame him for your trust ... | |
| 2 men in my life | 5/24/2010 |
| Q: I have a history with a guy friend dating back to freaking middle school. We've always been friends ... A: So, you want me to tell you why you can't stop thinking about the friend and whether you're falling ... | |
| Does my Ex really want me back?? | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: About a year and a half ago I broke up with my ex-boyfriend "Steve". We dated approximately 10 ... A: I'm sure that all the things he told you was true as well. The problem however was what he didn't ... | |
| Breaking UP and Getting back together | 5/22/2010 |
| Q: I am now a divorced mom of teenagers who was married for 15 years. When I separated from my ex, I ... A: Let's start with what you want me to say: he's totally and completely in love with you and can't ... | |
| how to handle the situation | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm new at my workplace and ever since I came there is a lot of tension and trouble brewing. They ... A: While I think shutting her down is the best option (unless of course, she thinks it's recreation and ... | |
| Did i misread the signs | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: Dennis "I met a man about 42 years old while on my travels. I'm 33. At that time he was traveling ... A: Apparently you did, but as to what, I can't say. Are you sure this man is mentally stable? It ... | |
| how to handle the situation | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm new at my workplace and ever since I came there is a lot of tension and trouble brewing. They ... A: They don't like you? Hmmm...it seems you don't like them very much either! I can't tell you if this ... | |
| Dating a player | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been casually seeing this guy since February. Its been going good..very slow and progressed ... A: Jaded? Yes, I know. I can tell from your writing - and choices! Unfortunately, you have a lot ... | |
| Dating a player | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I have been casually seeing this guy since February. Its been going good..very slow and progressed ... A: Let me get this straight: you've been "taking this slow", and HE'S the player??? You don't see the ... | |
| experience | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for about 2 months and I think that I am falling in love with him. I am ... A: You should wait until you cross that bridge and it comes... ...and comes and comes and ... Best ... | |
| Did I screw up with a girl that liked me? | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, For several weeks I've been talking to a girl on Facebook (and through video ... A: Exactly my point Matt. You haven't met her yet - you used the internet to meet her and to try to ... | |
| Should i Give up on him? | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I have a really close guy friend that I am romantically interested in.We have been friends for ... A: Think about this: he doesn't need you for emotional closeness - he has his "ex" for that. Maybe; if ... | |
| confused | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: Dennis. I've been with this guy for 2 months. Everything was going well until a month ago that I ... A: Do I really need to scold you for creating these problems for yourself? Well, no, I won't. I'm sure ... | |
| Should i Give up on him? | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I have a really close guy friend that I am romantically interested in.We have been friends for ... A: Sure, he loves you and cares about you - as long as he's having sex with you. Sounds like a pretty ... | |
| Did I screw up with a girl that liked me? | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, For several weeks I've been talking to a girl on Facebook (and through video ... A: Great job! You used Facebook to string yourself along and right out of dating this girl so that ... | |
| Dating with a divorced man | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I have a question. Assume, a guy in forties, divorced with someone. He has a child or ... A: The real problem here isn't when you should ask at all. It's WHY you want to ask it. By the way, ... | |
| Went from dating to friends | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for a few months and we have become very close, we've been sharing our ... A: Yes, this is normal behavior and yes he wants to move on. The best way to support him is to let him ... | |
| I had been through a break up after 5 years of my relation. It happened 4 months ago. can i get him back? | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: I had been through a break up. It happened 4 months ago. I was having 5 years of relation. My bf ... A: Just seeing how much you wrote to me about this gives me a little indication about what your ... | |
| I feel horrible | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: Dennis I'm not even sure this is a question. It's a situation that I don't know how to deal with. ... A: Ok, let's take a deep, cleansing breath and relax here. Ok, ready....here we go....breathe! Ok, now ... | |
| What to do Now | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I am writing to ask your adivce because I am in the dead end and do not know what to do next. There ... A: First of all: GREAT FREAKIN' JOB SARA!! I'm so very proud of you for approaching this guy! Further, ... | |
| Dating-first 3 months | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for about 3 months now. We spend time together (when i can i am a single ... A: I agree that you should keep your son out of things until they are more solid. Just him asking ... | |
| Jealousy - crossing the line? | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I've been on this site for awhile now, reading the questions and situations of other people, and let ... A: You think I may be the most "honest", "upfront" and "straight to the point" expert here? Well, maybe ... | |
| He got me pregnant and went back to his other childs mother... | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: He approached me..and I've knew him..but this is first time we have came in contact like this. Well ... A: I think it's interesting that you seem to pick-and-choose what religious tenants you listen to. ... | |
| Dating-first 3 months | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for about 3 months now. We spend time together (when i can i am a single ... A: Titles are nothing. Actions are everything. Are you ACTING like boyfriend/girlfriend or are you ... | |
| Friend's relationship | 5/6/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so I have this friend that I've known for two years and she lives with me. She's basically my ... A: You do nothing. You act; in fact, you BECOME happy for your girlfriend and you support her all along ... | |
| My mom hates my GF | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: My GF and i have been dating for 13 months now. My mom hates my GF, she says shes a user and too ... A: Sure, I agree. If they could get along it'd be very nice. Do you have a question? Best regards... ... | |
| Places | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: dated him right before entereing another relationship and it's been about 2 years and now we are ... A: Well, you don't let him know by saying non-committal things like "let's see how it goes". As to ... | |
| workplace haters? | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: When you move to a new school or a new job, and it seems like everyone doesn't like you, what can ... A: If you're finding that when you go somewhere new and everyone there doesn't seem to like you, the ... | |
| My mother and personal issues | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend had dated for almost a year. I am 21 years old and she is 23. She has a lot of ... A: It's impossible for me to know all the dynamics that lead to this breakup, but I'll say this: I'll ... | |
| Should I stop talking to her? Was she ever attracted to me | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: There is this girl in two of my classes and I have recently begun take interest in her. We have ... A: Ok, yes. She's interested in you. For what, I can't tell you, but frankly, it doesn't matter anyway! ... | |
| Letter Writing | 4/26/2010 |
| Q: Neder. I was seriously involved with my ex-boyfriend for 9 months. We love eachother very much and ... A: What you think was a "good relationship" simply wasn't what he wanted or needed. The stress issue ... | |
| Letter Writing | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: Neder. I was seriously involved with my ex-boyfriend for 9 months. We love eachother very much and ... A: First of all, don't be so selfish. OF COURSE you should wish him a happy birthday! Come on here ... | |
| She wants to keep it going | 4/25/2010 |
| Q: I liked this girl for a while but I didn't think she liked me back. Then after I stopped liking her ... A: Be honest about things. Think about this: if you don't like her any more (and frankly, I can't ... | |
| for real? | 4/24/2010 |
| Q: i've recently started going out with a really sweet guy who treats me like a princess :) but all ... A: What's wrong with him having both? In other words, what's wrong with him being proud of having a ... | |
| The Ex-boyfriend issue | 4/24/2010 |
| Q: My ex and I broke up last year. He broke up with me b/c we had been fighting a lot. Eventually, ... A: Neither of you wants a relationship right now. What do you want then? A friendship? A friendship ... | |
| Should I tell her the truth or not? | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: Neder, There is this girl in my job who really likes me and I have absolutely no problem with that. ... A: Yes. Be honest. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| greetings | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm going to have my first date this Saturday in a year. I joked with her for two weeks and then ... A: Too soon to hug? Absolutely not! In fact, it may be too little! DO NOT shake her hand unless you ... | |
| dating and getting to know | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I am divorced. Started dating an old friend who is a great woman. Has so many qualities my ex ... A: How can you be sure that she's being honest with you? Answer: you can't. How can you insure that ... | |
| psycho women | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I am a 33 year old woman. There is this guy I work with at a restaurant named James. He actually ... A: Hmmm....I have a question for you: what makes you think I can read Tina's mind? Yes, I'm good - ... | |
| Pre teen girls dressing too sexy? | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: What do you think of all these preteen girls dressing like whores nowadays? I see 8 year old girls ... A: What do I think about it? I'll bet you think I'm going to tell you how wrong this is, how ... | |
| Still can't stop thinking | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I've written you before and your answer helped me tremendously. Since then, I feel more ... A: Wait...my answer helped you tremendously? Maybe you didn't read it right? Yes, this is something ... | |
| Catastrophic fights | 4/14/2010 |
| Q: My gf and I have been going out for 14 months now and I won't lie, things have been rough. Granted ... A: Going from one blowout to another isn't a "normal high school relationship" at all. You're certainly ... | |
| Fielding the | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: On my second date with a guy I have a fairly high interest in, he asked me if I'd had a long-term ... A: Without talking to him, there's no way to know why he didn't call back. He's the only one that ... | |
| reconnect with ex | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, Its been about 8 months since Ive talked to my ex. We,ve been broken up for a year and ... A: Women aren't confusing - unless you try to apply your own rule book to them. That's the mistake men ... | |
| Attitude towards women | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: I came to notice, early in my life, that treating women as if they are a goddess is a sure fire way ... A: I know, I know. It just seems to fly in the face of logic, doesn't it? We constantly hear women say ... | |
| Fielding the "past relationships" question. | 4/10/2010 |
| Q: On my second date with a guy I have a fairly high interest in, he asked me if I'd had a long-term ... A: How is that baggage? I have no clue! I wasn't there to hear exactly what you said and I don't read ... | |
| relationsip advise | 4/10/2010 |
| Q: I need an advise about relationships I am currently in ( or kidding myself ). I am a 34 years old ... A: After reading everything here, it seems that you have no insurmountable problems except for one: the ... | |
| confused | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: Haven't coped well with this.I still love her and would take her back in the morning.Iam trying to ... A: If you don't know what you want, how can I possibly tell you? First of all, you're going to have to ... | |
| do I call him if he asks me to? | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: I just recently started communicating with a guy on a popular dating site, and he emailed me and ... A: First of all, you're right that it's his job to call you (although, not to chase you - that's a ... | |
| penis size | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating online for a year and am looking for a serious match..sex is very important to me ... A: I have to wonder what you consider "adequate equipment"? The average male penis size is between 5-6 ... | |
| Confused | 4/2/2010 |
| Q: I asked a question a few weeks ago, about my man who is currently living in supportive living for ... A: I'm afraid I don't know what this is due to. I can't read minds. The only person that knows his ... | |
| Is There Potential Or Is This A Dead End | 4/2/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy and we started texting, talking back and forth over a month before we met. To make a ... A: His signals aren't mixed at all. You are just trying to read into them what you want instead of ... | |
| Aftermath of the first date | 4/2/2010 |
| Q: This is a past experience that I've had on a first date with a girl that I like. I'm 16 years old, ... A: No, they aren't likely "gone" but they're going. First of all, don't text a girl you want to date. ... | |
| Can we be more than friends? If not, can we stay friends? | 4/2/2010 |
| Q: I've been friends with a girl for a little while and I really am starting to like her alot. We've ... A: First of all, make a freakin' decision here already! What do you want with this girl a friendship or ... | |
| Boyfriend failing classes | 4/1/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend John and I have been together for nearly two years now (with a couple months break a ... A: First of all, the long-distance relationship ("LDR") thing is a really bad idea. You didn't ask me ... | |
| approaching a salesgirl | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: how are you doing? As regards approaching a salesgirl working in a supermarket or a bookshop,given ... A: Frankly, not a very good idea. They are all working - not just the salesgirl. It'd be far better to ... | |
| Sandra and Jesse | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: What do you think about the whole Sandra Bullock/Jesse James fiasco? Do you think Jesse James is ... A: No, I don't think Jesse James is "gross". People have all sorts of tastes. You can't apply your own ... | |
| awkwardness | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: okay, im 15 and i have been dating for a while... like 2 years... but with a few different girls. ... A: The difference between dating and a relationship comes down to two simple things: habit and ... | |
| asking a guy out on a date | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: Asking a guy out on a date presents some new challenges. If he says yes and you do go out, it seems ... A: Unfortunately, many men are totally clueless as to how to handle women approaching them. It's not ... | |
| Give and Take | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now. We are pretty open as far as our love life ... A: Directly - very directly. Ever time you go without and keep your mouth shut about it, you enable it ... | |
| Why did mother nature make women more beautiful? | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 34 year old straight women who loves men. When I see hot guys at the gym, I get really turned ... A: Over the millions of years we've been on this planet, we've evolved some very interesting traits. ... | |
| should i have broken up? | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so me and my girlfriend of 2.5 years are both 20 and I just broke up with her. I am having ... A: Frankly, I see people get themselves into all sorts of trouble with these "gut feelings". People ... | |
| Girls interest | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: I met this girl online and I am curious to how much she likes me. She has said "your so nice" many ... A: Here's what I think: absolutely nothing. I don't know you or this girl or your situation online. I ... | |
| should i have broken up? | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so me and my girlfriend of 2.5 years are both 20 and I just broke up with her. I am having ... A: You completely danced around the exact information I needed to help you. You keep telling me you ... | |
| Average-looking women versus hot women | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: I have a question about getting a woman’s phone number in situations where they are the ones that ... A: 1) You don't have to be as careful because women with higher self-esteems are going to jump to ... | |
| Issues | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: I used to work with this woman at our office, she had some kind of psychiatric disorder. She was ... A: If you're having trouble losing this emotional reaction to the event, you may need to see a ... | |
| finding the one | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: ,how're you? I am seeking an attractive woman ,who has a life of mind ,a woman who could make a ... A: Here's the problem with youryou're assuming that these women all gather in the same place so that ... | |
| First Relationship | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years now. A few days ago my boyfriend told me that he ... A: Yes, I think it matters. More on this in a second. I always have to chuckle when someone tells me ... | |
| women | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: a girl in my class recently asked me out via text message. I responded back that doing that was ... A: No. Here's the reality: it WAS disrespectful for her to ask you out this way and that was very ... | |
| Average-looking women versus hot women | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: I have a question about getting a woman’s phone number in situations where they are the ones that ... A: No, it's not different at all. Guys try to MAKE it different because they assume it should be. You ... | |
| I did it. | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: Dr Neder, I don't know if you remember me, I asked you a few days ago about this guy I'm ... A: Hey Tina! I'm very, very happy for you Tina! Now, the real work begins... Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| what to do? | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so basically i was kinda dating this guy for bout 8 month then in Janurary he ended because he ... A: I don't read minds in order to tell you why he called. There could be 1001 different reasons. What ... | |
| Religious Girl | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: Hey. A girl I am currently seeing is pretty active in her church. She is morally on the right track ... A: She's wrong about thinking this will keep you around. The reality is that she's going to lose that ... | |
| I did it. | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: Dr Neder, I don't know if you remember me, I asked you a few days ago about this guy I'm ... A: Who knows men better - me or your girlfriends? This is a myth you girls continue to inflict on ... | |
| I wont introduce him | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together now for about 3 months. I am 24 and he is 22 and still legally ... A: Why in the hell is his being married any business of your girlfriends? Why would you introduce him ... | |
| Religious Girl | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: Hey. A girl I am currently seeing is pretty active in her church. She is morally on the right track ... A: So, let's be clear here about what we're talking about: she's had sex with other guys before, but ... | |
| relationship | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: We have been good friends, hanging out a couple times a week. The two months we were together we ... A: Probably that he thinks the excitement phase of relationships is the only phase. When the excitement ... | |
| Women that approach you first and show interest | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I have a question about getting a woman’s phone number in situations where they are the ones that ... A: First, your looks have nothing to do with your success with women, trust me. Second, I have an ... | |
| Same Birthdays | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: i'm going out with a guy at the moment that is born exact same day exact same year, is that freaky? ... A: Stars and birthdays don't predict the success or failure of relationships. People have complete ... | |
| Help me PLEASE? | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: Ok..so my special other and I were in a long distance relationship, and a few months ago had ... A: Your ex-boyfriend is right. Your relationship *IS* dying. In fact, it's likely dead. You have three ... | |
| What now? | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: I have a pretty big crush on this guy in my acting class, which is once a week. So far we got along ... A: Wait a minute. Why in the hell are you a virgin - at 20??? More on this in a minute. As far as ... | |
| Two best friends dating and I'm stuck | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, Two of my best friends, we'll call them Reba and Cory, are dating. I've liked Reba for ... A: So, if you liked Reba for this long, why in the hell didn't you pull the trigger when you had the ... | |
| From friends with benefits to serious dating | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I just have a question. How do you tell a guy who is your FWB(friend with benefits)that you're ... A: Sayonara? No, not necessarily. You can still have the same things you have now, but if you're ... | |
| Does she like me and how long should i wait? | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: One of my good friends from primary school has recently come back into my life. We have a few ... A: Look: if you don't want to ruin the friendship in any way, then do nothing. You can't go after ... | |
| From friends with benefits to serious dating | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I just have a question. How do you tell a guy who is your FWB(friend with benefits)that you're ... A: You don't tell him. Instead, you show him and start acting like his girlfriend. You find out what ... | |
| Dating | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently a senior in college and graduating this May. I have come to like this girl in my class ... A: GOOD! Be sure that you do! What a minute!!! More pussy behavior? You're going to say "...would you ... | |
| Confused | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: I met David through an online social network. He works as a proof editor in a law firm in Chicago ... A: Chicago: FORGET IT!!! Tanya, you are NOT in love with this guy! You're in love with the image you ... | |
| asking for her number | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: Hey, im 18 and im thinking of asking a girl ive known for years and went right through school with, ... A: Wait a minute. If you don't have her number, then how are you going to call her? In other words you ... | |
| Want to Date | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: I’m almost 20, and a sophomore in college. I’ve wanted to meet someone for awhile, and after a few ... A: First of all, I'm oh, so, damn proud of you and your adorable self! Sounds like some good self-image ... | |
| celibate sex | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: is it reasonable for a celibate wife through choice to deny her husband loving sex with another ... A: No, it absolutely is not. That is her choice by being celibate. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. ... | |
| need to make some changes | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm directing this Q your way bc you're one of the more brutally honest advice givers out there and ... A: You want brutal honesty? Well, ok...let's see what I have for you... ;-) You're insecure. It's ... | |
| Dating | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently a senior in college and graduating this May. I have come to like this girl in my class ... A: Hold on a second here...I'm getting a vision of your future...yep, it's coming...yep there you are - ... | |
| players who marry | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: There are many very handsome men who are longtime confirmed bachelors, such as George Clooney, etc. ... A: If you're trying to use Hollywood as an example of the real world, don't. You simply can't draw a ... | |
| emotional rollercoaster | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: I have been on again off again with my son father for the past 6yrs & I'm just feed up with it ... A: Oh My God Christina! You are so absolutely adorable! I could just eat you up! You actually believe ... | |
| when i was younger | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: hey im 18 and i am going to ask a girl i have known for years and went through school with, but ... A: My opinion? Go for it! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| asking for her number | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: Hey, im 18 and im thinking of asking a girl ive known for years and went right through school with, ... A: What do you need an opinion on? Of course you should get her number! However, I wouldn't "ask" at ... | |
| confused?!?! | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I have recently met a gentleman and we hit it off right on the spot. I am soon to be divorced ... A: Are you his girlfriend or his therapist? In reality, there isn't much you can do to help him here. ... | |
| Pattern | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I am a freshman college student and I seem to have a pattern of unsuccessful relationships with ... A: It happens because: 1) you're waiting way, way too long to pull the trigger - months Thomas? ... | |
| Awkward communication | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I recently bumped into a guy I had not seen for 4 years. He was very chatty and interested in ... A: Texting. I don't need to say anything more. Frankly, I wouldn't respond to you either! Ok...I ... | |
| I think she likes me | 3/14/2010 |
| Q: we also work at the same place , but have recently finished school and not seen each other for a few ... A: Absolutely it'd be ok at work. In fact, it's easier and makes better sense! What you do is to walk ... | |
| Asking a girl I know out.... | 3/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm 17 and the girl I like I have known since the beginning of school anyway we havn't seen each ... A: I've already answered this question for you. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| Oral | 3/13/2010 |
| Q: Why would a man eat a vagina and not have an orgasm or sexual relations with the person he's doing ... A: No, I wouldn't necessarily consider you "not normal" for being in such a relationship. I might ... | |
| mountains and molehills | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I (late 40's) have been dating a man (late 20's) for about 6 months. We are exclusive and ... A: The night before isn't exactly "last minute". In fact, you were unhappy with him changing the plans ... | |
| Mixed Signals... | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: What I’m trying to figure out is what his feelings are for me… Background: I have been friends ... A: He DOES want you - for sex. He knows what to say to get you confused and you fall right into the ... | |
| Oral | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: Why would a man eat a vagina and not have an orgasm or sexual relations with the person he's doing ... A: Yes, I find this to be "not normal". He very likely had some issue or problem with himself which is ... | |
| Mixed Signals... | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: What I’m trying to figure out is what his feelings are for me… Background: I have been friends ... A: Don't be confused at all. Like so many women do, you're trying to read into what he said and did as ... | |
| I think I had unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently in a relationship with a girl (I'm 17 and shes 16, I'm a junior she's a sophomore)l ... A: Hey Jake! First of all, I'm not going to help you to further torture this woman. If you don't know ... | |
| Oral | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Why would a man eat a vagina and not have an orgasm or sexual relations with the person he's doing ... A: They only person that knows the answer to those questions is him. All I can do is speculate - which ... | |
| I think I had unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently in a relationship with a girl (I'm 17 and shes 16, I'm a junior she's a sophomore)l ... A: What did I tell you before about breaking up in stages? Remember that dog's tail? Trying to keep ... | |
| I feel inadequate | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis Neder I've been a reader for quit some time now, and I have a question ivebeen with this ... A: First of all, all the mistreatment in the world isn't your fault. You didn't do any of it and it's ... | |
| Should I keep my mouth shut | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 31 y/o guy, I'm trying to decide if I should tell my friend how I feel about her. Here's the ... A: So far, I've only read your first sentence. My answer is: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Don't do it! If you do, ... | |
| dating | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: i,m 19, living in nyc. pretty much the adult life. i date mostly guys in their mid or early 20,s. ... A: You don't want to be rejected? Well, who does? Welcome to the world! ;) First of all, if you want ... | |
| guys | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: hey, alright, so i met this guy like 3 weeks ago, he came up to me while i was workin one night an ... A: So, you and this guy start some ridiculous, impossible-to-keep, relationship-killing text pattern ... | |
| relationship | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: you know I can't believe that my friend broke up with me because of a misunderstood message that he ... A: You're writing to me as though I know what we've talked about. Jewell, do you have any idea how many ... | |
| I think I had unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently in a relationship with a girl (I'm 17 and shes 16, I'm a junior she's a sophomore)l ... A: First of all, knock off this "break" garbage. It's cruel and selfish. Would you cut a dog's tail off ... | |
| Spontaneously coming on a trip with me...does she want more than friendship? | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: Here's my 'story'. I'm 25 and last year I started my first job here in London. I met this girl at ... A: So she's not the kind of girl that's "easy to read"? You mean like every other girl? The reality is ... | |
| Girlfriend or not? | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I've been seeing a guy for a little while now. In the last few weeks when we have been out with a ... A: Oh, I get it! You seem to think I can read his mind! Well, ok, let me give it a shot... Ok...I'm ... | |
| caring about addiction | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: ive been told that men are addicted to porn ;women love ,and told why should i care ,thats why im ... A: Men aren't addicted to porn, nor are women to love. SOME are, but these are unusual conditions. ... | |
| Things were great, what happened | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: So this is sort of a long question but I figure the more detail the better, and I couldn’t tell you ... A: Well, I'll say this: if there was a mistake to make, you made it! You didn't miss a single one! ... | |
| What do I do next? | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm going to give you as much information I can because I really am confused and I don't know what ... A: Well, I agree with at least one thing you said: you're far, far too young emotionally to be having ... | |
| Insecurity with My Boyfriend | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I am in my first serious relationship. I am 29. Live with my boyfriend -34. He was previously ... A: 1. Having effeminate mannerisms doesn't make a person gay. 2. Relating to other gay men doesn't make ... | |
| relationship | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: my friend is in the army, he is a nice man. I am going to follow your advice and I will keep in ... A: So you actually have a built-in break then because of him being in the service? That at least gives ... | |
| Moving too fast? red flags? | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I am a 30 year old woman who has for the first time tried internet dating. I have received ... A: You need to go watch my video on "Dating Via the Internet". You'll find it by going to: ... | |
| porn and your period? | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I've been watching a lot of porn lately and my period is coming 2 times a month now (every 2 weeks) ... A: There is a slight correlation here - but only slight. Porn (and the masturbation that usually ... | |
| managing celibacy | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: i can mentally manage celibacy of my wife but not physically how do i manage this? ANSWER: Hello ... A: Hey Jef! It's true. The only time someone can use you is if you let them. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| managing celibacy | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: i can mentally manage celibacy of my wife but not physically how do i manage this? ANSWER: Hello ... A: Why is that a problem? There are incredible women all over the damn place! Hell! You can't swing a ... | |
| Should I ask her out again | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: A coworker of mine who I am very interested in broke up with her boyfriend about a month ago. We ... A: I agree to some point with persistence. The problem however is that it's such a fine line. You can ... | |
| Should I ask her out again | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: A coworker of mine who I am very interested in broke up with her boyfriend about a month ago. We ... A: First of all, you've asked her out twice and she turned you down. Don't go for a 3rd time unless she ... | |
| thoughts | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: I like a man in my age range, he is quite experienced with women sexually, having had a number of ... A: I'm afraid I don't read minds in order to tell you what they meant by what they said. The only ones ... | |
| So what now? | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: over the holidays I began to start talking to a girl I had a crush on since the summer. The first ... A: Hey Alex! You didn't mention that this was a long-distance situation. That makes a huge difference. ... | |
| Oral | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: Why would a man eat a vagina and not have an orgasm or sexual relations with the person he's doing ... A: Well, I don't know this hypothetical man you're talking about? Is it you? There are two possible ... | |
| should i break up with my boyfriend | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: i have been dating my boyfriend for four months (were in middle school) but he still wont put his ... A: If you've made it clear that these are the things you need to feel loved by him and he refuses to do ... | |
| The art of appraoaching | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: How're you? As regards approaching,apart from some factors over which we do not have any control( ... A: I don't know what you're asking me here. There are a TON of important factors in approaching women ... | |
| So what now? | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: over the holidays I began to start talking to a girl I had a crush on since the summer. The first ... A: You're asking some huge questions here. In order to answer them, I'd have to write entire books to ... | |
| Follow up: Are Some Things Unforgivable? | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: Almost a year ago now I asked a question on here that was answered by Michael. He was very helpful ... A: Yes, I know you're confused - you really are all over the place here! I can't imagine why you'd ... | |
| how to reject? | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: How to reject someone's advances but still keep the friendship? An older coworker who is a dear ... A: Frankly, that's a rather strange standard - because he child is 3 years younger than you, but then, ... | |
| So what now? | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: over the holidays I began to start talking to a girl I had a crush on since the summer. The first ... A: or, should I call you "Mr. Mild"? Yes, you did something to provoke her actions. She wanted to be ... | |
| The Next Step | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, My good friend Max has asked you a few questions on here and has spoken very highly of ... A: Max spoke "highly" of the advice he received here? Hmmm...maybe he didn't understand it then! ;) ... | |
| managing celibacy | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: i can mentally manage celibacy of my wife but not physically how do i manage this? A: I don't know what you mean by "mentally manage celibacy", but frankly, that's not the issue at all ... | |
| Too different to work? | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: Okay so iv been talkin to this guy for a while, i met him through friends, and we get on well and we ... A: While sex isn't the most important aspect of a relationship, it's right up there in the top 3. What ... | |
| Confused over a girl | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: In a situation that really stumps me, and not really sure what the best way to go is. I have known ... A: Why do you say she won't go out on a date with you? Do you know this because you've asked her or are ... | |
| roommate situation! | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm writing again with a pared-down question as instructed. Sorry, I didn't realize my question was ... A: Hey Katy! As I said before, if your question is so complicated as to require that much detail, you ... | |
| Confused over a girl | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: In a situation that really stumps me, and not really sure what the best way to go is. I have known ... A: Ok, so let me state what you simply danced around: you want this girl. Why not just say that ... | |
| TORN BETWEEN 2 MEN | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: Neder, Let me begin by saying that, just writing this email is making me feel guilty. I was ... A: Guilt is such a waste of emotion - and energy. Why waste your time with it? Now, regarding your ... | |
| bad behavior makes you fat and ugly? | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I noticed an unusual occurrence. I went to my high school reunion and saw something very ... A: Consider this: beauty is a very relative thing. I don't know what part of the country you live in, ... | |
| roommate situation! | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm writing again with a pared-down question as instructed. Sorry, I didn't realize my question was ... A: I began reading this into the second paragraph and stopped. This is very rude of you! Do you have ... | |
| bad behavior makes you fat and ugly? | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I noticed an unusual occurrence. I went to my high school reunion and saw something very ... A: No, that's not how the universe works - as though *I'M* any kind of spokesperson for the universe! ... | |
| hm ? | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: i think i am wasting my time on him too . but then he says he loves me and things like that and i ... A: Without the original message(s) there's no way for me to know what we've talked about. I get a TON ... | |
| Need help with my boyfriend | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I broke up with him last week on thrusday because i realised i didn't love him, i met this other guy ... A: Being with someone out of convenience is a terrible waste. Part of the problem is that you don't get ... | |
| break up | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: So i was dating this but toward the end of dating i could tell his mind was somewere else.Last night ... A: Hey Jacqueline! Not if you want to get him completely out of your head. Every time you connect with ... | |
| the attitude | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: After approaching a great many women,I have come to understand that the attitude one has toward ... A: What you're saying is absolutely true. It's your attitude - not your aptitude - that determines your ... | |
| Seeing A Cheater..... | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Neder. I have been seeing a man for 8 months. He lives with a woman, and was supposed to be ... A: Forget "distrust". What about "respect"? That's really what this is all about. You don't have any ... | |
| two months of dating. | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy on an interent dating site in 2006. we went out on two dates but didn't feel it for ... A: Well, you're tenacious, I'll give you that. Why in the hell would you go date after date; not being ... | |
| im confused what do i do? | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend started dating on June 4th 08, i graduated high school 2 days later and he still ... A: No. Not wanting to give up your best friend (under these circumstances) is not wrong. He's the one ... | |
| "Booty Call" | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: Dennis, I'm interested in knowing your thoughts on the term "booty call". Is it wrong for male or ... A: No, it's not wrong at all. The problem you're having here is one of perception. There's the reality ... | |
| Porn | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend loves reading playboy magazine. My problem is this: Although I understand men have a ... A: There isn't an issue out there that you can't find two differing opinions. Yes, there are articles ... | |
| From fling to dating? | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: So, I met this guy who is a friend of a friend here at college. I was very upfront and contacted him ... A: I'm sitting here shaking my head. I can't believe how many cowards are out there! Yes Katy, I'm ... | |
| a guy | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: what does it mean when a guy purposely taps on the back of your chair A: You may as well have asked me "What does it mean when a guy eats a cheeseburger?" At least that one ... | |
| Porn | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend loves reading playboy magazine. My problem is this: Although I understand men have a ... A: First of all, by today's standards, Playboy can hardly be considered "porn", but I understand your ... | |
| What do you think is his intention? | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy on a house party arranged by my best friend and that first meeting with him was quite ... A: He tried to kiss you? That's it and then you physically assaulted him?? Seriously? And you think ... | |
| Girlfriend finds it hard to trust me. | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I'm here asking for help not for me but for my girlfriend. I care for her quite deeply, she's ... A: Who are you, this girl's boyfriend or her therapist? You have to pick a side because you can't be ... | |
| dating | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: me and my ex hang out a lot, but she says she only wants to be friends. i have told her that i still ... A: When she tells you she only wants to be friends, you say, "Absolutely not! No way!" Think about ... | |
| Strange Question? | 2/13/2010 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help me with a rather strange question. I'm Devon, 20, UK. I have been visiting ... A: What makes you think this is a strange question? I get this question at least 6 times a day! Maybe ... | |
| help | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: I have a situation: I have been dating my current girlfriend for like 5 years off and on, the ... A: There's nothing particularly wrong with dating more than one girl at a time. However, I can't tell ... | |
| what did i do wrong? | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: Okay. Met a guy a week ago at a bar. We really hit it off. He said he had a gut feeling about me ... A: Are you claiming I told you he lost interest? If that had happened, he wouldn't be texting you at ... | |
| Hoe or Hope? | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: Dennis, I've been dating this girl and to me it seems that she doesn't value herself enough. She ... A: What makes you think it's not "common" for women to talk about sex all the time? Have you ever heard ... | |
| Confused relationship | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: well I have been seeing this girl for 7 months. we hang out all the time and have alot of fun with ... A: Of course it's the reason! She's a whore, pure and simple. She bangs him for gifts and money. It ... | |
| Met this guy | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: So I have noticed this guy for a while and finally got the courage to speak to him recently. I ... A: Yes, it's ok for you to invite him out. In fact, if you don't you're not likely to see him again. ... | |
| bullying | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: Yo! Ana! No, you didn't say exactly that nor did you say anything to her with complete conviction - ... | |
| How long should i wait to put out (have sex)? | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: im 21 years old, im not a virgin & i recently meet this great guy about two weeks ago. we clicked ... A: When are you girls going to get over the notion that sleeping with a guy "ruins" anything? ... | |
| dating a distant cousin | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: How're you? There is a gal,a distant cousine,I will be seeing in a family party for the first ... A: No. She's very likely to feel uncomfortable giving it to you. You really want to try to get her ... | |
| Met this guy | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: So I have noticed this guy for a while and finally got the courage to speak to him recently. I ... A: Unfortunately, this guy doesn't realize that it's his job to move this forward, not yours. With ... | |
| My husband's past | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: I've been married for 2,5 years. When we were engaged my husband told me that before he met me, he ... A: No, you are not right at being angry with him. In fact, you're trying to hold him to completely ... | |
| how to move on | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: its been a year from my silly break up,we dated for 3 yrs i opened myself up to this man. he is 32 ... A: Let's try a little experiment, shall we? Take just a few moments and relax. Take a few deep breaths ... | |
| bullying | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: Hey Ana! Frankly, it'd never happen to me. That may sound arrogant (and frankly, it is), but again ... | |
| cyberdating not working | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: if dating not working ive been advised to absorb myself in work,the problem is im already working ... A: I suggest these women aren't the problem; YOU are the problem! Jef, I've never been accused of rape ... | |
| cyberdating not working | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: if dating not working ive been advised to absorb myself in work,the problem is im already working ... A: Cyberdating is one of the worst ways there are to meet women. It's no wonder you're not seeing ... | |
| Attracting guys | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend and we started dating in high school and now we are at the same college. We just ... A: They key to what's going on is in the word "hint". Wendy, I see women using this word - and doing ... | |
| dating and dogs | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: im put of by dogs at dating i have the feeling im dating the dog as well as the owner A: Make no mistake about it - when you date a woman with dogs, cats OR kids - you are dating the entire ... | |
| dating energy | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: does energy not spent on sexual relations develop other aspects of us A: Even a broken clock is right twice a day. That metaphor applies here because yes, in fact ... | |
| hello | 2/6/2010 |
| Q: How can I nicely i guess, tell this guy I am seeing that I am not going to wait around for him, and ... A: So what exactly are you hoping to do here, punish him for not being how you want him to be? Do I ... | |
| Am I being a mug? | 2/6/2010 |
| Q: Ok, so I've been seeing this guy, about once a week, since November 09. I'm 21 and he's 32 so ... A: You have some, umm.... "interesting" ideas about things. First off, I don't think you're a slag ... | |
| hello | 2/6/2010 |
| Q: How can I nicely i guess, tell this guy I am seeing that I am not going to wait around for him, and ... A: I have no idea what you mean by "commitment", how long you've been together, what you're expecting ... | |
| Im really not sure what to do or anything. | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: Alrighty, So I was dating this guy for three months, but for the last month I started liking someone ... A: You don't want to be with your ex-boyfriend, you simply don't want him to be with anyone else. What ... | |
| what does he mean he needs time? | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: me and my bestfriend met 5 years ago.... we became intimate in 3 years ago and i took his virginity. ... A: I don't know if there's someone else or not. What is clear is that he's no longer interested in you. ... | |
| what did i do wrong? | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: Okay. Met a guy a week ago at a bar. We really hit it off. He said he had a gut feeling about me ... A: I wasn't there to tell you what you did wrong. What I can say however is that impressions are real ... | |
| Need Honest Opinion | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: This Question may be long because of the complexity of the situation but I appreciate your patience. ... A: Blowing up doesn't show that you have a backbone. It shows that you're not in control - even more ... | |
| Should I have given him my number? | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: I went for dinner (by myself) and I only ordered a small appetizer. It was a very romantic place, so ... A: First off: GOOD JOB! I'm glad you were flirting with him and trying to build interest. So few girls ... | |
| Undeniable Sexual Attraction | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: So theres this guy that I work with who I have an incredible sexual attraction for. I know he shares ... A: First of all, consider logistics. You're probably not going to be able to bang him at work and thus, ... | |
| Should you stay best girfriends when she steals your boyfriend? | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: My best girlfriend lied to my boyfriend and told him that I was going to break up with him. She had ... A: Are you kidding me? This girl isn't your "friend" at all, let along a "best friend". Friends have ... | |
| Need Honest Opinion | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: This Question may be long because of the complexity of the situation but I appreciate your patience. ... A: First off, this "break" is a "mistake". You two shouldn't be doing this alone. In fact, she IS ... | |
| Do I contact him? | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a 46 year old female, who met a man online with whom I had a lot in common. We went on our ... A: I hope you have some contact information for him - at least a phone number - if you no longer can ... | |
| etiquette | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: Even more reason to stand up for yourself then! If the other girls like being around you, then these ... | |
| Undeniable Sexual Attraction | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: So theres this guy that I work with who I have an incredible sexual attraction for. I know he shares ... A: Why do you girls continue to sell each other on the same misconceptions, half-truths and flat-out ... | |
| Out of practise | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can help me as I'm a little out of practice and a little confused. I was in a 5 year ... A: LOL...no, this doesn't come off as "big headed" at all. It sounds like the beginning of a single's ... | |
| what does this mean?please help? | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: ok,I've known this guy for over a year and I like him alot.we've talked off and on and had ... A: Come on here. Do you really think I'm clairvoyant? Do you really think I can tell from your ... | |
| Strengthening, I guess. | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis W. Neder, I hope you can help me. I'm going to give you as many details as I can... I'm ... A: Thoughts are real things. By that, I mean that by thinking a thing - especially when you add strong ... | |
| etiquette | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: Have you read much of what I've written here? I'm not sure "etiquette" is the word many would use! ... | |
| Time for a change | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, So here's the thing, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's the type that seems ... A: Hey Corey! Yes, I understand the difficulty. The examples we men see in media, our own families and ... | |
| This girl is really confusing to me. | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: There is a girl that i met about a year ago. For some reason she just automatically hated me for no ... A: There are 1001 different reasons why someone does what they do. What you wanted was for me to say, ... | |
| This girl is really confusing to me. | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: There is a girl that i met about a year ago. For some reason she just automatically hated me for no ... A: Oh, I get it. You think I can read minds. Hmmm...ok, let me give this a try. Where's my crystal ... | |
| Embarrassing Sexual Incident with Boyfriend | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: So I have been dating this guy for about two months now. Things have been absolutely wonderful, and ... A: Unfortunately, I can't delete messages to this board. You'll have to write to the administrator ... | |
| Time for a change | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, So here's the thing, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's the type that seems ... A: Yes, you're right about her not flirting with men online - or in real life. As I said, it's damned ... | |
| Time for a change | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: Hey Doc, So here's the thing, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's the type that seems ... A: I can't say you SHOULD like the way she deals with other men either! In fact, it's damn ... | |
| Embarrassing Sexual Incident with Boyfriend | 1/27/2010 |
| Q: So I have been dating this guy for about two months now. Things have been absolutely wonderful, and ... A: Wait a minute. This "disturbed him"? What the hell Marie? Ok...let's begin here: There's ... | |
| my girlfriends financial irresponsibility | 1/27/2010 |
| Q: My question is a two part question. I don't know what to do about the situation?, and am I just ... A: Well, here's the good news - something she's probably learning right now. She makes far too much ... | |
| Making A Mends( Part 2) | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i are having some issues. He went out of town for the weekend, he did not call me ... A: Again, more painful reality: by "maintain the love", you mean to keep it alive and the reality is ... | |
| confused and keep coming back | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder (Basically this short and simply) OK, I'm 29 yr old and my girlfriend is 22 yr ... A: You don't want to change her - or yourself! Communication is simply a skill that anyone can learn. ... | |
| Making A Mends | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i are having some issues. He went out of town for the weekend, he did not call me ... A: First of all, your boyfriend is right here. You overreacted and have likely damaged your ... | |
| what to do next?? | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: Ok, there is this guy that i have known of for about 2 years and seen a few times....and he is hot!! ... A: "En vino, veritas." Now, what the hell??? You actually TOLD him that you'd be "fine" with being a ... | |
| Friends trying to set me up on a date... | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: So I have two friends who are going out. I'm really good friends with the guy decent friends with ... A: I think you're one heck of a good friend! Consider this: in your life, there are going to be lots ... | |
| Should i write an email to my ex boyfriend? | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: Im Isa and im having an issue on deciding if i should write an email to my ex boyfriend or if i ... A: You no longer lie? That in and of itself is a lie! What about all this lying to yourself that's ... | |
| hello | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: ..so I am 21 almost and I have been seeing this guy (same age) from India that i met at school for ... A: Yes, it's too early to ask him this. What you're trying to do is to get into a totally risk-free ... | |
| whats with men nowadays? | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been single for almost 2 years now and WOW! I sure am living the life I always wanted. All ... A: Ok, I hear you, but let me point something out here: YOU CHOSE YOUR EX! Did all of this violence ... | |
| whats with men nowadays? | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: I have been single for almost 2 years now and WOW! I sure am living the life I always wanted. All ... A: Huh? Is this a serious question? Could you really be this thick or are you just yanking my chain? ... | |
| Relationship Advice | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: Hope this isn't too long but I need to give you some background info first. I recently met a guy on ... A: Yes, it's a bad sign, but then, no worse than having met on the internet in the first place! This is ... | |
| FOLLOW UP: what is the next step??? | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: Alright, so I wanted to ask a follow-up question about my situation that I asked about just after ... A: Do you have any idea how many of these questions I get EVERY DAY? I can't possibly remember your ... | |
| strange mixed emotions | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: Not a relationship question in the romantic sense, but a relationship question nonetheless. So I had ... A: I don't know them so I can't tell you what they're feeling or thinking. Maybe they miss harassing ... | |
| Should I call it quits? | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I've been seeing a guy for almost 6 mos. now and I'm quite unsure of the relationship or where it is ... A: I can't tell you what he's doing or feeling as I don't know him. Frankly, his actions aren't that ... | |
| how to make him stop drinking | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: dennis my fiance started drinking 3 years ago,, he drinks with his friends every weekend + ... A: You're a girl, so this will make perfect sense: you know when someone asks you to do something you ... | |
| Addicted | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: I think I am addicted to having sex. I am safe while doing so but have been cheating on my bf ... A: First of all, you should try to determine if this is a real addiction or not. If you can't do that ... | |
| how to make him stop drinking | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: dennis my fiance started drinking 3 years ago,, he drinks with his friends every weekend + ... A: First of all, why do you want him to stop drinking. You haven't given me a compelling reason here. ... | |
| dating dilemma | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: So, I been dating this guy for over 8 months. We see each other about once a week. We live about an ... A: He's right - he DOESN'T have a girlfriend. You live too far away to be one! Oh how often do I hear ... | |
| hello | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: ..i am seeing this guy from India actually...he is going to college same place I am...but where I ... A: It appears you've written to me before, but if you don't copy the original message, I have no idea ... | |
| confused... | 1/17/2010 |
| Q: I recently started having some problems with my boyfriend of 6 yrs. We have two children together ... A: You have no option here: long term. Here's why: when you got pregnant and decided to keep the kid, ... | |
| ex-gf? or Girlfriend? wanted a break and decided to give second chance. | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: Hey, its a long story but ill sum it up the best i can. We've been going out for 2 years and 8 ... A: Why would you put your own life on hold waiting for someone else. Do you really think that makes ... | |
| hello | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: what does it mean to appeal to someone's emotional side? And how would u do this? Or in ... A: Your question lack context and thus, I can't answer it. Appeal to their emotional sides how? In what ... | |
| ex-gf? or Girlfriend? wanted a break and decided to give second chance. | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: Hey, its a long story but ill sum it up the best i can. We've been going out for 2 years and 8 ... A: Here's where she's going with this: you're the guy she sees when she's not seeing the guy(s) she ... | |
| Ex GF | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I read your answer to Jackson's question about his ex-gf and it hit me like a much needed dose of ... A: Really Tom? Really? Is a friendship all you think you deserve with this woman? Think about this: ... | |
| relationships | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: I am a 27 year old female. I have a tendency to go back and forth with relationships. Breakup, get ... A: If you're asking me to diagnose you via messaging, I'm afraid I can't do that. There's no why for me ... | |
| questions about life | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: I have a general, random question. You seem smart about life experience. How do you deal with a ... A: That's called "harassment" and a hostile workplace. If you don't get management involved right now, ... | |
| questions about life | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: I have a general, random question. You seem smart about life experience. How do you deal with a ... A: Why in the hell are you focusing on 5% of the people that don't like you? Why would you put any ... | |
| What is it he wants? | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: After briefly viewing other experts answers it's clear to me that if I want an honest, upfront ... A: The issue really comes down to whether or not you'd be able to move on if you are still hanging on ... | |
| What is it he wants? | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: After briefly viewing other experts answers it's clear to me that if I want an honest, upfront ... A: That's for that comment/compliment, but be careful what you ask for! ;) No, this isn't likely a ... | |
| My Approach | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I went on a date with someone that now in retrospect I think I should have avoided to keep things ... A: Hey James! What do I think about what? I see no problems here. Either you want to go bowling with ... | |
| My Approach | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I went on a date with someone that now in retrospect I think I should have avoided to keep things ... A: No. I don't think it's bad. It think it would be bad to let her continue to think she had a chance ... | |
| Falling in Love | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: Neder- I've been dating a nice guy in his early 40's for several months now. He's never been ... A: That I know of, there's no proof that all humans are capable - or not capable - of falling in love. ... | |
| 23-year-old in need of advice... | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I am in somewhat of an interesting situation… there is a nice young lady who is really into me, BUT ... A: Have her move to where you live. What I would do is exactly what you need to do: realize that this ... | |
| My Approach | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I went on a date with someone that now in retrospect I think I should have avoided to keep things ... A: Huh? What makes you think that it's "unheard of" for Floridian women to ask guys out? It's a new ... | |
| Girlfriend Broke Up With Me | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: i been dating this girl for almost 2 years been up and down lately we been fighting alot. well the ... A: You're very welcome. Just heed those words and MOVE ON! No, age has nothing to do with it at all. ... | |
| Making the first move | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: My name is Joe and I have a question on making the first move. The other day I was driving around to ... A: The thing you need (and are lacking) is "context". You need some way to contact this woman again. Is ... | |
| Girlfriend Broke Up With Me | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: i been dating this girl for almost 2 years been up and down lately we been fighting alot. well the ... A: Dude! OF COURSE she was listening in at your door! What the hell else could she be doing at 2:30 am ... | |
| men players online | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: when u are talking to a man online and all he talks about is sex and how excited u make him feel is ... A: No. In fact, it's an indication he's NOT a player! True players will never let you see them coming. ... | |
| 24-year-old in need of advice... | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: I am in somewhat of an interesting situation… there is a nice young lady who is really into me, BUT ... A: I'm not entirely sure what you're asking me here. Are you asking me if you should go for it or back ... | |
| Dating | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: Say that i am dating this boy and he says he wants our realation ship to be private like he doesnt ... A: I don't know you, the boy, the relationship or the situation. There are no specific "rules" as to ... | |
| Should I break up with him first or be patient and wait for his answer? | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm Karen, and I'm 26. Joseph is 28 and he is a medical resident.I've been dating Joe since Oct 09. ... A: Here's even more unfortunate reality: you almost NEVER get closure in relationships. You're going to ... | |
| Should I break up with him first or be patient and wait for his answer? | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm Karen, and I'm 26. Joseph is 28 and he is a medical resident.I've been dating Joe since Oct 09. ... A: Why should you sit there in agony while he makes up his mind? Who's relationship is this anyway? His ... | |
| Persevere or...NEXT? | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: Neder, I've got a huge dating dilemma with women who don't seem very interested in me as a date ... A: I have a saying that my students learn: "sell what your customer is buying". In other words, don't ... | |
| I accept the fact that I am not good with girls... | 1/1/2010 |
| Q: ADHD guy again... the guy who asked about the "remember" girl. Remember me? So I accept the fact ... A: My dad had a great saying: "Practice does NOT make 'perfect'. Only PERFECT PRACTICE makes perfect." ... | |
| Hello! | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I need some advice...everytime I start seeing a guy I get all nervous and put so much pressure on ... A: We call this "insecurity". You don't feel worthy of the person that's interested in you and so you ... | |
| problem with husband's ex | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 18 months after dating my husband for three years. During the dating, he was ... A: Ok, I'm not going to ask you how you know this has happened - please don't tell me! Let's make sure ... | |
| Did I do something wrong? | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: First off let me explain that I have problems with my ADHD all the time. It messes with my social ... A: No, that's not what that means. Of course she remembered. She was just throwing you a "Mini-Test" to ... | |
| i have lost my girlfriend cause i lied | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: i was with my girl friend for 9 weeks before we split on Christmas day!! everything was perfect we ... A: Hey Nick! Dude! STOP apologizing here! You are taking all the blame for yourself and making her ... | |
| Telling boyfriend | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: I want to explain to my boyfriend I'm submissive. We are both 16 but live in seperate countries. We ... A: First of all, don't try to do this via texting. You simply can't express the emotional components ... | |
| i have lost my girlfriend cause i lied | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: i was with my girl friend for 9 weeks before we split on Christmas day!! everything was perfect we ... A: Ok, it's official. This day will now forever be known as the "3 D's": the "Day of the Delusional ... | |
| have any insight on this kind of girl? she confuses me! | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm in my late 20's and this girl is in her mid 20's. we take self defense classes together. me more ... A: Dude, what in the hell are you doing here? This girl is an idiot. The problem you're having isn't ... | |
| Should I call her? | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: first off,greetings for the new year! wish you a very happy new year! I've called this lass to set ... A: First, #2: this isn't a "relationship" yet, thus, it's neither healthy nor unhealthy. #1: Don't ... | |
| What is the next step in this situation????? | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: He Dr. Neder, I met an interesting guy at work in October. He's from the West Coast and he's moving ... A: Yes, you should try contacting him again, but do it through private email - NOT on his facebook ... | |
| Is he interested | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I went on three dates with this guy. He initiated all of the dates. After the first two dates he ... A: Ummm...what about YOU inviting HIM out (finally?) Why does he have to do all the work here? If he's ... | |
| Question | 12/26/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem with when I start seeing a guy I get all excited and whatever, and then if it ... A: I think you have two issues going on here. The first is expectation, the second is interpretation. ... | |
| Confused | 12/25/2009 |
| Q: I asked a question a few weeks ago, about my man who is currently living in supportive living for ... A: What you are experiencing is his growth and change and you interpret it as though he's moving away ... | |
| Too good for him | 12/24/2009 |
| Q: My question is the following: What does it mean when a guy pictures a girl as " too good for him"? ... A: Again, you're not getting it. First of all, I don't do homework problems. If this is a real ... | |
| Dealing with a break up | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: So I was with the love of my life and very comfortable in my relationship which I know started the ... A: You're looking for "incite"? Trust me, you'll get plenty of that! So, this girl is upset because ... | |
| Too good for him | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: My question is the following: What does it mean when a guy pictures a girl as " too good for him"? ... A: I'm afraid I don't know the context or circumstances in which this happened, thus I can't tell you ... | |
| question | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: Why is it that people who are highly intelligent, sneaky, sly, and cunning...tend to be the most ... A: I'm not sure if you're saying that they are sneaky, sly and cunning BECAUSE they are intelligent or ... | |
| different Q's | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: im 14 and i was wondering how can i know if a boy is interested in me? do they send any signals? is ... A: Yes, you CAN know when a boy likes you. When boys show interest in you or try to impress you, you ... | |
| Womanising guy strings me along :( | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: There is this colleague of mine and we dated for over 2 months. Our jobs are such that he travels a ... A: First, let's be clear on this point: everyone "uses" everyone. You "used him" just as much as he ... | |
| Moving on from an Ex to a new man | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: Let me start off at the end of the beginning (if that makes sense) my ex moved out Sept 26th and I ... A: Well, you're certainly thinking a lot about the past rather than the future. Why are you worrying ... | |
| My Boyfriend and His Son's Mother | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. The problem is that his son's mother wants to get back ... A: He needs to get a good attorney. Frankly, it's shameful for her to use their son this way. Perhaps ... | |
| The Other Girl | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: I found out recently that my boyfriend has another girlfriend, that he has dated for the last 8 ... A: Frankly, if she's in another country, SHE is "the other girl" - and she's no issue for you at all. ... | |
| Did I scare him away? | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: I graduated with my BA, complete siked I decided to go out for drinks with my friends. Well I didn't ... A: Congratulations on your graduation! No, you didn't blow it at all. You're simply working on too ... | |
| Does he like me: | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: In a week, a friend of mine will be coming all the way to where I live ( in Canada) from the U.S. It ... A: Yes, he likes you, but before you rush off to pick out the music you'll play at your wedding, you ... | |
| hello | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: i am 20 yrs old, in college, and have had some bad experiences with friends over the last few years ... A: =) Wait a minute. You think that this guy is going to have problems with you because you've had ... | |
| control and bars... | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: Long story, as short as possible..we met..instantly spent almost every night together, which became ... A: In a way this IS a control issue. Consider this: when he sits in a bar by himself, he can easily ... | |
| Love and Test | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: #1How can a man show/tell he loves her? my girlfriend asked me why i love her and i replied by ... A: Hey Boon! Boon...do me the courtesy of sitting down and actually THINKING about what you want to ... | |
| how can a man show that he loves you? | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend asked me why i love her and i replied by saying: - i love holding her in the night ... A: See my previous answer. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| love signs and test | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: In terms of friends we all know that real friends will always try to be there for you! At least they ... A: Let's be clear about your girlfriend. What she doesn't know isn't about expressing her true feelings ... | |
| sleeping around and bisexuality? | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: I've noticed that both men and women who are very attractive, intelligent, and have really high sex ... A: Are you asking me why they are bisexual or why they seem to have hi sex drives? First of all, ... | |
| after getting her digit | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: ,how're you? I met this lass yesterday(she's 3 years younger than me) ,got her number;In fact she ... A: You only need to wait a couple to 3 days or so, and never more than a week but always be sure to ... | |
| Phone # Etiquette | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been corresponding with this guy on an online dating site for about a week now. He was the ... A: You need to have "standards" and to express them to him. I completely agree - texting is very ... | |
| Jealous girlfriend | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a single female. I think my girl friend may be jealous of me this is the second relationship I ... A: "Is she suspect"? In fact, suspicion is all you have! You obviously don't know this girl very well - ... | |
| Does he want to commit? | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating a guy for about 6 mos. he has met my children but no one else in my family. He has ... A: First of all, I don't read minds and thus, I can't tell you what he wants. The only one that knows ... | |
| Phone # Etiquette | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been corresponding with this guy on an online dating site for about a week now. He was the ... A: Unfortunately, yes, you did the right thing. I say "unfortunately" for two reasons: 1) It's his job ... | |
| Love test | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: my parents and friends told me that i'm a nice guy that do nice things for girls i like; - walk a ... A: Let me answer your question with awhat makes you think that Hollywood is in ANY way reality? It's ... | |
| Broken Heart and Coping | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: Last Oct (08) I went out with this girl I've known for years, I always had a thing for and her and ... A: Hey Nikki! I don't think you should be ashamed by it. While it's not exactly the best attribute ... | |
| married griflr | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: We are both in our 30s, she is married im single. We have so strong attraction to each other and we ... A: I don't know enough about your relationship to tell you what you should do. What I do know is that ... | |
| Love test | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: my parents and friends told me that i'm a nice guy that do nice things for girls i like; - walk a ... A: First of all, you have me rolling my eyes here. Being a "nice guy" usually works against you with ... | |
| Broken Heart and Coping | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Last Oct (08) I went out with this girl I've known for years, I always had a thing for and her and ... A: You start by accepting the fact that you almost never get closure. Some guys will spend years trying ... | |
| Broken Heart and Coping | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Last Oct (08) I went out with this girl I've known for years, I always had a thing for and her and ... A: Well, I'd like to help you, but you didn't tell me what you wanted. You've told me you're ... | |
| losing interest or scared of getting too close? | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I had been dating a guy for about 2 months now. I am 23 and he is 26. He has a son about 7 years ... A: Hey Ashley! I'm glad you contacted him although I wish it hadn't been through texting. Texting = ... | |
| Am I wasting my time on this gal? | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I met this gal in the university.We hit it off.Strangely enough,she insisted on having dates in the ... A: You find someone that is smarter than she is. For someone of college age, she's acting like a ... | |
| Its Complicated | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I use to date this guy for about 3 years..we loved each other very much..but of course we had our ... A: Hold on a minute. You dated this guy for 3 years, never had sex with him, he went out and found what ... | |
| How to let him know... | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: Hey Dr. Neder, I am 19 and attend a small college in the Midwest. Soon a few friends and I will be ... A: First of all, forget "subtly". Us guys aren't subtle creatures! You can throw all the subtle hints ... | |
| general q | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: 1. in a surrounding where there are women strangers left and right, in the front and back. ..lets ... A: 1. First of all, if you've never met these women before, how do you know they are strangers? ;) I ... | |
| Is it worth waiting for her? | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: a few weeks ago, a girl came up to me who i didn't know and just started to talk to me. we got on ... A: How do I explain the mind of a woman to you? Women's minds work very differently that yours or mine ... | |
| How to get this girl back | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I was recently seeing a girl, for a very short period of time in which we got mildy sexual and hung ... A: No, I'm sorry. Sometimes I get the exact same question from the same person. That's obviously not ... | |
| losing interest or scared of getting too close? | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I had been dating a guy for about 2 months now. I am 23 and he is 26. He has a son about 7 years ... A: Sorry about that - I just dashed through the name to get to the question. My bad. Yes, you didn't ... | |
| How to get this girl back | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I was recently seeing a girl, for a very short period of time in which we got mildy sexual and hung ... A: Didn't I just answer this question for you? What are you looking for, different advice? The advice I ... | |
| Should I break NC with ex-gf? | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: Dr Neder, I am writing for the 2nd time in just over a month. I find your advice very helpful, sir. ... A: You got "good advice" last time? Lucky you! You see, I start off answering these questions by first ... | |
| losing interest or scared of getting too close? | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I had been dating a guy for about 2 months now. I am 23 and he is 26. He has a son about 7 years ... A: First of all, I don't read minds. I can't possibly tell you what he's thinking or feeling. The only ... | |
| I fell into the friend zone | 11/27/2009 |
| Q: Neder, So I was seeing this girl and I thought things were going well. (6 dates) It seemed like ... A: You didn't want to sleep with her and "ruin" your relationship? Yeah, that's a great idea! It's ... | |
| confused | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 10 months. Recently we found out that i ... A: Study after study continues to prove that children raised in single-parent households (the vast ... | |
| confused | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 10 months. Recently we found out that i ... A: If you're not ready to get married (reasonably so) then what in the hell makes you think you're ... | |
| What you do call when you're trying to prove to your ex your doing o.k? | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: i have a new girlfriend and doing go.k for myself. anyway i'm starting to think my motivation is ... A: I have no idea what you mean by "doing good for myself". Doing "good" how? Personally? ... | |
| Dating/Flirting | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: Does she considers me as a friend or the other guy? Here's the sequence of events in order: 1) Met ... A: First of all, as much as you'd prefer it if she'd simply tell you what she wants/feels, she's not ... | |
| coworkers don't like me? | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: I just started a new job, and I get the feeling I'm not well liked. I am 34 years old and everyone ... A: So, if my math is correct, you've been working at a job since you were 13??? For the party, instead ... | |
| drama queens | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Why are some fat, ugly girls so hateful and have the worst attitudes? Not all...but a lot of them ... A: Are you saying that regular, attractive or thin people don't sometimes treat others like shit? In my ... | |
| No sex, and other things | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years and we are getting to the point ... A: The long-term results are based exclusively on how much YOU learn and implement these things. It's ... | |
| dating a younger guy | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I am a 46 year old divorced woman who has become involved with a man 18 years my junior. ... A: Sure - why not. Let's see just how strongly we can hold on and control all of this. Maybe if you ... | |
| advice | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I have a bachelors degree in biochemistry and biophysics. Throughout college I had some ... A: You're very welcome. Good luck with the search! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO ... | |
| What to do? | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: so I have posted to you before. I was seeing this girl about once a week. We had six incredible ... A: Yes, it could be another man. In fact, that's likely. It's also that you didn't pull the trigger ... | |
| advice | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I have a bachelors degree in biochemistry and biophysics. Throughout college I had some ... A: Yes, the job market is very, very thin right now. On the up-side, I do have a number of ideas for ... | |
| building attraction continued | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: Hey dear Dr. how`re you? I`ve had 2 successful dates with this new girl.I did my best to share ... A: Don't try to be too formulaic with dating. Try to go after "every Friday night" or "twice every ... | |
| Starting a new relationship | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, This is Sai. I am 22 years old male Doing my engineering studies. I'd ... A: I agree that you missed those years. The good news is that it's never too late to start. I didn't ... | |
| meeting older men | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm 30, but for some reason I keep getting 19-21 year old boys hitting on me. I would like to meet ... A: What's your real question here: how to meet older guys or how to prevent younger guys from hitting ... | |
| Too much too soon? | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: I've only known him for two weeks, and we've recently gone on a few dinner dates and one group ... A: You think the nice gesture of making him a pie is too much, too soon? Karolyn, we're coming into the ... | |
| Online Dating | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm on a highly reputable dating site. I was matched with an AMAZING guy who is about 800 miles ... A: You're asking the wrong questions here entirely. What you should be asking is "How can I even HAVE a ... | |
| My ex | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: When i was dating my now ex boyfriend and cheated on him with my now boyfriend. Is it ok to be ... A: It is neither good nor bad. The quality of the relationship is based on what you make of it. If your ... | |
| Love on Wallstreet | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm 23. Single. Never married. Live alone. Get paid well. Have a cat. Clean my kitchen regularly. ... A: I'm glad you're happy with the answers. I can only make 4 people happy a day and it just happened to ... | |
| can we be together again? | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: A year ago I was in a relationship for two years and we were very much in love. We were only in ... A: Wow - you sure have a lot of pop-psychology behind your rationalizations here! You say you've grown ... | |
| Starting Over | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: I have started dating again after a couple of devastating relationships. I don't want to elaborate. ... A: Here's the problem: you're leaving everything (including your own trust) in these guy's hands rather ... | |
| Love on Wallstreet | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm 23. Single. Never married. Live alone. Get paid well. Have a cat. Clean my kitchen regularly. ... A: Wait a minute - wait a minute. You have a cat???? ;) I had to laugh at your equating dating ... | |
| building attraction | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: Hey dear Dr. how`re you? I`ve had 2 successful dates with this new girl.I did my best to share ... A: The first thing I'd recommend is this: healthy relationships are built on equal investments from ... | |
| What is going on? | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: I met a man 4 mnths ago but just recently started seeing him again after I broke things off with him ... A: I hear what you're saying. The problem is that he already knows you're willing to break up when ... | |
| getting an ex back | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: Neder I've asked for your advice a dozen of times and every single one helped me far more then you ... A: I'm happy I've helped you so far, but maybe it's time to get ALL the information you need in one ... | |
| What is going on? | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: I met a man 4 mnths ago but just recently started seeing him again after I broke things off with him ... A: Oh Patricia. Really? This is the type of relationship you want? You seem to think that it's all his ... | |
| Declining a date | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: I get the sense that a friend of some friends of mine might ask me out. I only met him once, but I ... A: Denigrating someone's lifestyle choices isn't a very good idea. He smokes for whatever reason he ... | |
| plan witht he ex girlfriend | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: 1. what are the some of the easiest and best excuses to use when a ex girlfriend ask if you want to ... A: Hey Chris! Well now! Aren't you just full of questions today??? Simply saying "no" is a rejection; ... | |
| love, caring, lust, jealous | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: 1. what questions do i ask myself if i want to marry my girlfriend? (my friends always say ask ... A: 1. "What in the hell am I thinking?" is the first one to ask. Chris, why marriage? I'm not against ... | |
| feelings for ex girlfriend | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: What should i do about my feelings for my ex girlfriend? we broke a couple of years now and we both ... A: OF COURSE you still have feelings for your ex! That's something of a gift from Mother Nature! After ... | |
| Help! | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I don't like any of my boyfriend's friends but I love my boyfriend, is that healthy or not? Also, ... A: When a woman tells me that her boyfriend doesn't tell her the truth or hides things from her, my ... | |
| Help.. | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: Alright so my gf and I have have been dating for a year and a half. We have no problems except for ... A: You like to give "...once and a while..."??? No wonder she doesn't want to have sex with you! ... | |
| HELP! | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, College started up again, and I began talking to this guy for about 2 months. During this ... A: Ah yes. The old "Window of Opportunity" ("WOO"). Let me explain what happened: We all want to think ... | |
| confused | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: The problem is that he was living with this girl for 4 years and now she has pitched again claiming ... A: No, it's not wrong to feel that way, but it is wrong to try to punish him for not doing what you ... | |
| Am I wasting my time? | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together for 1 1/2 years and we are both 23. I am currently in grad school ... A: Let's be clear on what you mean here: when you say "...the effort a long-distance relationship ... | |
| Is it really over? | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: Haven't talked to a guy I had been seeing in about 2 weeks. He's been avoiding my calls or responds ... A: Because he controls everything and he doesn't want things to be over. The reality of relationships ... | |
| Chase versus Commitment | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: I'm dating this wonderful girl, but we've been going through issues in regards to the "chase" ... A: Yes, I know exactly how you feel. Frankly, this is a dangerous, ridiculous game! If you get too ... | |
| Need help recovering from a breakup | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I would be very grateful if you can read my story and give me some advice. I'll try to keep ... A: You're making decisions about yourself for girls you haven't even met yet! These girls aren't going ... | |
| Sex | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have had sex a few times. Sometimes it feels like it is take take with her. She ... A: I'm assuming that you're male. Heterosexual relationships differ from homosexual ones in this case. ... | |
| am i a jealous boyfriend?what can i do? | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: everytime my girlfriend says a guy is hot or attractive, even a celeberty i start to ahte the person ... A: "Too jealous"? No, I don't think you're too jealous, but there's a balance here. There's a very big ... | |
| What now? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: This is a rather involved question. Sorry about that. Im 27 years old and the girl I am referring ... A: Four years??? Andrew - four years??? What in the hell are you doing here? She knows how you feel ... | |
| chance | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: So I like this guy Jason at school and I was talking to a group of men at lunch when he walked by. I ... A: Hey Tess! Sexuality is a very complicated subject. I can't tell you specifically why you have this ... | |
| chance | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: So I like this guy Jason at school and I was talking to a group of men at lunch when he walked by. I ... A: These are actually really great questions! Let me talk about the bad aspects first. Many guys use ... | |
| Should I expect him to call? | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: Here is what happened. Last Saturday, I got hooked with this guy on a party. He is a long time ... A: I'm sorry you haven't heard from him yet. Today being Friday puts this at 6 days since you've seen ... | |
| chance | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: So I like this guy Jason at school and I was talking to a group of men at lunch when he walked by. I ... A: It's a generic remark made by guys that watch too much porn. Since they see all this hard fucking ... | |
| meeting men | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I'm 31. I would like to meet some great guys. I work on Friday and Saturday nights and most ... A: Wow - you sure think I'm dumb! You can access THIS website but not mine? Come on here Tina, give me ... | |
| bf | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: Been with my BF for 6yrs. We’ve drifted apart and got back together thousands of time. We are two ... A: What to do??? Answer: TALK TO HIM ALREADY!!! Tameka, you don't know what's on his mind because ... | |
| Should I expect him to call? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: Here is what happened. Last Saturday, I got hooked with this guy on a party. He is a long time ... A: 1. Yes, I think he'll call. It's Thursday and he should have called you by now. 2. No, it wasn't ... | |
| disappearing | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: I am a divorced 40 year old woman. I have been off and on dating websites for five years. My ... A: Therein lies your first problem: dating websites. Abigail, the reality is this: when you meet ... | |
| meeting men | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I'm 31. I would like to meet some great guys. I work on Friday and Saturday nights and most ... A: I agree with you: bars, pubs, clubs, the internet, etc. aren't great places to meet great guys. On ... | |
| what should I do? | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: Ok, I have a friend. I like her brother. he is amazing. blonde hair,blue eyez,sweet,funny, ,ostly ... A: First of all, you can get your girlfriend to help you here by setting you two up. Second, if you ... | |
| Relationship issues | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a month. In the last week Ive been staying at his ... A: I have no idea what happened to him. Only he knows. If you have a relationship, then you should call ... | |
| Approaching a guy | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: My question you probably get very often lol but anyway here it goes: There is this guy I'm ... A: Yeah, there's actually a ton of things like this. Check the e-book as it's pretty detailed. Best ... | |
| problem | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: What should I do?I want to go out with her. There's a girl that lives about 35 minutes away,and I ... A: You contact her on facebook and start a little small talk like "what are you going to do with your ... | |
| long-distance relationships | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: I was introduced to this gal by a friend of mine,in fact my friend gave my number to ... A: Please, please don't do this to yourself. The reality is that long-distance relationships never work ... | |
| being in the control of the relationships | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: what does it mean to be in the control of the relationship?Generally speaking,what should guys do to ... A: This is a short, but excellent question! I wish more men thought this way. Being "in control" of ... | |
| Approaching a guy | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: My question you probably get very often lol but anyway here it goes: There is this guy I'm ... A: No, don't compliment him on his looks. That's a very weak approach and after you've done it, where ... | |
| Confused about her behavior | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: Neder. Ok. My problem involves a woman I met last summer. Here's some background info. I was 41 when ... A: If you can pare this down into just the essence of the problem, I'm happy to try to help you. Best ... | |
| Confused about her behavior | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: Neder. Ok. My problem involves a woman I met last summer. Here's some background info. I was 41 when ... A: I'm sorry dude, I simply don't have the time to read this huge, long message! Remember: you only ... | |
| Shy | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: I took the girl, I've been crushing on for almost 1 year, to "Where the Wild Things Are". We met at ... A: Weird? Why? Frankly, it's a lot of fun! You might bring a frisbee or a board game with you to play, ... | |
| Getting an ex back | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: ok, I know their are lots of books out on the net claiming that you can get your ex back. Does any ... A: Even a broken watch is right twice a day, and yes, many people DO get their ex's back - some from ... | |
| Shy | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I took the girl, I've been crushing on for almost 1 year, to "Where the Wild Things Are". We met at ... A: This is why I tell people to avoid movies, concerts, comedy clubs, etc., on first, second and even ... | |
| Awkwardness after making a move on a friend | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: There's this girl I am interested in that I've hung out with for a few weeks. A couple days ago we ... A: No, I don't think it went too fast but she's worried that you do. This is why she's acting distant ... | |
| confused | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: The problem is that he was living with this girl for 4 years and now she has pitched again claiming ... A: Frankly, you only have two choices: either agree to live as the second woman or tell him to make a ... | |
| Trouble etting over ex GF who dumped me | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: Sir - I have just been dumped (5 weeks ago) by what i thought was the love of my life. We met at ... A: DO NOT send her a rose or a card or anything! You need to get entirely over this girl - not try to ... | |
| how to meet guys? | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm 29 years old. I have moved back in with my parents for the next 6 months. I've finished my 2nd ... A: Huh??? They expect you to be home on Friday and Saturday nights? Why - is that when they get their ... | |
| the plan for the date | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: how`re you?I`ve had two successful dates with this gal.To create more rapport with her,in the second ... A: Yes, talking about the novel would be a good idea. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| on a break | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm 23 and currently on a "break" from a 4 month relationship. She gave me every indication that she ... A: Here's my insight: this girl is a fucking rude, self-centered, inconsiderate bitch and you're an ... | |
| Teacher/Student - How to become close friends? | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: Neder, Firstly, I would want to say thank you for taking your time to read my question. I really ... A: You're very welcome. When you can figure out what's in it for him, you'll then have a basis for ... | |
| my (nonexistent)love life. | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I am 18 years old. I graduated high school early, I'll be done with esthiology school in December ... A: Ok, so you believe you can "read" guys and they aren't worth "it" (whatever that is). You don't want ... | |
| Teacher/Student - How to become close friends? | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: Neder, Firstly, I would want to say thank you for taking your time to read my question. I really ... A: You're really playing with fire here. He has a ton to lose - at least right now - and further, ... | |
| lying | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend of almost a year now keeps lying to me. she goes out with her friends to the bar, and ... A: First of all, if this were simply about lying, it'd be yelling at you. The reality is that EVERYONE ... | |
| girl | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: There is a certain girl that I have not spoken to in about 2 years. Recently I texted her and we ... A: Yes, they are. Seriously, is that your question? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder ... | |
| relationship and the past | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: I loved this girl very much but everything became pretty different when we both went to college and ... A: As the song goes, "Love the one you're with". Sure you have lingering feelings for your ex. You ... | |
| Give up? | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: I recently became interested in a boy that my bestfriend (JD), his girlfriend (Sara) and I had met ... A: You do have a chance, but I think you need to work on other options as well. Start meeting and ... | |
| A little confused here.... | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: I will have to apologise in advance because this is going to be quite a long question and I feel it ... A: Is there hope between you? Byron, there's always hope. That's really not the question to ask ... | |
| Being in the control | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Dr.how`re you?Two dates with this gal had gone well until yesterday;today as I had the plan to ask ... A: I don't know what she's doing, but I know what you're doing: the weakest, wrongest thing you could ... | |
| I asked her out | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: I asked her out and all she said was 'can we just be friends?' I have never hung out with her before ... A: The answer to the question, "Can we just be friends" is always the same: "Nope!" Then, when she ... | |
| date someone i met online & hooked up with? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: A few months ago I was feeling really implusive, got on craigslist (oh all places!), and ended up ... A: Beyond the sexual attraction, you need to ask yourself if this guy is really what you are (or might ... | |
| Group Dinner | 10/17/2009 |
| Q: I met a boy on Sunday (we're both 19). He had been talking to my best friend (JD) and his new ... A: Hang out = friends That's a pretty simple formula, so good job if you want to be this guy's friend ... | |
| How to? | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: this is my first question. I am a 17 year old male who likes a girl my age. We been going to the ... A: You have a number of issues going on here. First, let's deal with the shyness: so you're "shy" huh? ... | |
| Advice | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 36 and never married and for a long time I had online (e-mail) contact with a woman (34) which ... A: Here's what you're missing: women never say "no". What you want is an absolute, but women simply ... | |
| Group Dinner | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: I met a boy on Sunday (we're both 19). He had been talking to my best friend (JD) and his new ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you for taking the initiative here. Do you know how few girls will ... | |
| clingy? | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: I recently started dating a girl about three months ago, we are both 23. My problem lately is that I ... A: No, you're not being clingy. On the flip side, don't reorganize your schedule unless you have first ... | |
| Sex - female orgasms | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 6 months now. We are in our late 20's. I ... A: First of all, congratulations for being concerned about this. Many guys simply brush it off and just ... | |
| Break up | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I started dating this guy sometime around March. Things went fairly well but he wasnt the type of ... A: What you want is a name. What he wants is everything you had before without that name - and his ... | |
| My lingering thoughts about her past relationships | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with a wonderful girl, who is totally into me, and I am totally into her! ... A: You're very welcome. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| I have a problem | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: Neder! Ok, I really need some good advice for this one and I hope you can help me. I took this girl ... A: Your parents, friends and older siblings are wrong - if they have the same story I have. Either way, ... | |
| which way of speaking is a turn-on for women ? | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: ,how`re you?As the way of communication and speaking with women can be a MAJOR turn-on for ... A: As with most things in life, it's not a single answer. In fact, it depends on the situation and on ... | |
| My lingering thoughts about her past relationships | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with a wonderful girl, who is totally into me, and I am totally into her! ... A: Yes, I agree - this is a non-issue and you shouldn't be having these strong, negative reactions to ... | |
| I have a problem | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: Neder! Ok, I really need some good advice for this one and I hope you can help me. I took this girl ... A: You want some "good advice"? Well, sorry brother, you're just going to have to step up and take the ... | |
| No Contact | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am writing because of a breakup with my girlfriend that happened about 7 weeks ago. ... A: Yes, it's perfectly normal. When you break up with someone, you feel like you've lost that part of ... | |
| FAKE MARRIAGE | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to know if 2 people committed fraud because they married each other and they are ... A: What in the HELL are you doing here? This is none of your damn business! Why are you getting ... | |
| ex boyfriend | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I just met the most wonderful women a little over a month ago. I was actually on a blind date when I ... A: I agree that you need to fight this, but you need to do so wisely. If you simply tell her that you ... | |
| He's contacting me! Why? | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 5 and a half years (the last two were long distance) broke up with me in the middle ... A: When you spend 5 years with someone you develop patterns that are difficult to break. It's often not ... | |
| my boyfriend loves me way more than i love him | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: Neder, Thank you in advance!!! I met this guy online six months ago..He looked much older than his ... A: You're welcome in advance!!! Now, I'll go read your question... OF COURSE he's being obsessive ... | |
| Clueless | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: A little over a month ago, I went out with a person I had contact only through msn (messenger) for ... A: I don't get this. First you're telling me how much time you and he are spending together and in the ... | |
| dating advice | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I was speaking to a guy constantly on msn and through texts, we met up and had an amazing weekend ... A: Actions, not words. Actions, not words. Actions, not words. Continue to repeat that phrase until it ... | |
| what should i do after sex? what happen next? | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: So i've been dating this guy since May. IT's been over 4 months. Last saturday, we went over to his ... A: You absolutely need to contact him. If you pull back now, you're going to lose him. Let me explain ... | |
| no subject | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: I've dated several men throughout my life and had mainly positive experiences with each one. I have ... A: First of all, don't discount seeing a therapist about this. So far you haven't found one that will ... | |
| Asking her out | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: "Hey Dr.how`re you? today,in the first session of our econoimc class in the university ,I met ... A: Absolutely! You should also ask for her phone number. Personally, I never meet any woman for a date ... | |
| I don't know how I feel about her. | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: Ok, this will be quite a long one as there are many areas I need to touch on so that you can ... A: In this looooooooooooong letter you have me absolutely nothing to work with here! I can't make out ... | |
| Fingering. | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend fingered me yesterday and now im getting pains in my vagina when i use the toilet to ... A: No, it's not normal. It could very well mean that you might have a scratch or a small tear that is ... | |
| cousin | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: neder I had a question and I feel rather embarrassed by it. But me who is 18 and my cousin who is 14 ... A: Don't be embarrassed by these questions. Where else are you going to get them answered??? When you ... | |
| Seasonal Dating | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: For many years since I was a teenager I have noticed that during the months of September thru March ... A: I don't know that there has been any particular research done on this however, it might be due to ... | |
| the plan for the date | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: ,How`re you?It`s Siavash again.I`ve had a first date with this gal,which went very well.As far as ... A: I agree with her. Every 3 weeks? Why are you waiting so long? If you're trying to build a ... | |
| Break up | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: Good Afternoon, I am writing you today because last month my year-long relationship with my ... A: Regarding your ex, yes, you cut her out of your life completely - in every way. Think of it this ... | |
| Simple Question Dr. Neder... | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: I have dated girls anywhere from 5'1 to 5'5 inches tall and even had girls 5'6 or 5'8 be attracted ... A: You shouldn't be worried about your height. You're actually above average! The average height for ... | |
| Break up | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: Good Afternoon, I am writing you today because last month my year-long relationship with my ... A: You are absolutely right - you DO NOT want to be her friend. That's like her just throwing you a ... | |
| Confused Love | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: The situation is quite complex. I am coming up on my 3 year anniversary with my girfriend. We met in ... A: Yes, everybody wants to believe that these LDR's can work and I'm not surprised at all that you do ... | |
| Gay friend. | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Ok Dr., here is the basic info for this-I am in my early 20s, so is she. -We went to high school ... A: So, he's gay AND he's an Attention Whore? Absolutely you can ask for what you want. However, don't ... | |
| Couple Games | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: "Me and my boyfriend sometimes have trouble with conversation. Sometimes, we play games like "The ... A: How about the game, "Let's ask the expert that should be helping people with real problems"? Heard ... | |
| Need advice | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Neder! I need some advice badly. I am 17, senior in high school and no experience with woman. But ... A: Here's something you need to know about the dance: it's not about the dance itself. That is a ... | |
| Gay friend. | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Ok Dr., here is the basic info for this-I am in my early 20s, so is she. -We went to high school ... A: Well, I'll say this: you've been paying attention in class! By the way - you've been using the ... | |
| Confused Love | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: The situation is quite complex. I am coming up on my 3 year anniversary with my girfriend. We met in ... A: Medical school is a very difficult, time consuming experience. I fully understand why she's asked ... | |
| The girl in my college class | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I'm a college student over in San Diego. There are literally beautiful looking women every 10 ... A: You're lost because you're giving her all your power. You don't want to make a mistake here (and ... | |
| hey dr nader | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: you answered one of my questions about my girlfriend who went out with another guy a while back. i ... A: If you appreciated my feedback, it seems only common courtesy to spell my name correctly. Oh well, ... | |
| Getting back together w an ex-boyfriend | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: Neder! Here's theWhat do you think about getting back together with a partner who has cheated? I am ... A: First, there's nothing "traditional" about being impersonal. Men aren't that way by nature, that is ... | |
| Should I care about this? | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: I am dating a man age 56. I am 55. He is a remodeler/handyman by trade. He has been on unemployment ... A: I couldn't be more pleased to hear about your decision. He's very lucky - too. Best regards... Dr. ... | |
| booty call or not? | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: My best friends boyfriend is in the navy and he lives with his friend downtown. When we go out ... A: I can't tell you what he was thinking. I simply don't read minds. He's the only one that knows that ... | |
| Should I care about this? | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I am dating a man age 56. I am 55. He is a remodeler/handyman by trade. He has been on unemployment ... A: If you can, let's try a little experiment. Let's turn the tables and make you the guy here. Would ... | |
| Dilemma! | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I hope that all is well with you. My dilemma is that I still have feelings for someone ... A: Wow, you have a TON of issues going on here. I'm particularly concerned with your fear of being ... | |
| not calling too soon | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I`ve got this gal`s number today,how many days should I wait before calling her for the first time ... A: I don't know enough about the situation to advise you. How old are you? Where and under what ... | |
| she said my friend | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: .i asked this girl out 2 times and she said no.. so i ignored her now she talk to me in very nice ... A: It means that she no longer sees you as potential boyfriend material. You have become the "friend" ... | |
| Pulling a college number. | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: Ok Doc, so heres the long and short of it: -I am 21 and a college senior at a good school -She is a ... A: Wait a minute here. There are some very big issues unrelated to whether you can get hard or not. ... | |
| relationship | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: ok it all started 4 months before me and my girlfriend were going out.i was at the skatepark and ... A: Why are you so afraid of a period (".")? If you throw a few of them in there, I can actually ... | |
| We had sex lastnight, how long should I wait for him to call? | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm a single 29 year old female, I met a guy (he's 24) on a popular dating website. We met up for ... A: Have you ever noticed that when you look at a jigsaw puzzle that's missing one last piece, your eye ... | |
| New relationship. Girl I like. | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: (Sorry for extremely long length) OK. Here's the situation, in which I have a few questions.(I'm 15, ... A: Hey Steve! Yes, kiss her. Hold her hand. Talk about her and get to know her. Find out what she ... | |
| confused and heartbroken | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: i would like to ask you some questions, hope you are able to answer it. Thanks Recently (about one ... A: Dare I ask how you know this? No, please don't tell me. I'm just going to yell at you. You have a ... | |
| I still love my ex. | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: Recently, my ex-boyfriend from three years ago contacted me. First off, we were engaged and he got ... A: The emotions came rushing back - as they always do. This is absolutely expected. You want absolutes ... | |
| Called girlfriend out on her past, now were broke up. | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: It seems my girlfriend of 2 mos has a rocky past in previous relationships. She introduced me to a ... A: You want this girl back??? Tim! What in the hell are you thinking??? First of all, what's wrong ... | |
| advice | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: I have two questions rolled into one. It's both a dating and career question. I'm a 32 year old ... A: Yes, I agree. If he were truly interested in you, he'd have at least responded. I suggest it's time ... | |
| New relationship. Girl I like. | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: (Sorry for extremely long length) OK. Here's the situation, in which I have a few questions.(I'm 15, ... A: How does that make you a "pimp"? Come on here! We're only talking about a kiss - you're not trying ... | |
| advice | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I have two questions rolled into one. It's both a dating and career question. I'm a 32 year old ... A: Some people have a very hard time saying "no" - especially in the corporate world. they will give ... | |
| Hard to accept my boyfriends relationship with his ex wife | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I been dating for a year, this is a long distance relationship. I love him very ... A: Well, you obviously know a lot more about all of this than I do. Why are you wasting your time ... | |
| Hard to accept my boyfriends relationship with his ex wife | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I been dating for a year, this is a long distance relationship. I love him very ... A: Are you insecure? Yep! Here you are snooping through his phone - looking at things I'm sure he ... | |
| sex | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: I do all the loving things like commenting how she looks , smells ,massage her, how i love her body ... A: No, your ages have nothing to do with this, however most women don't reach their sexual peaks until ... | |
| an attractive female-friend | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: I have this very attractive female-friend.Not surprisingly ,she has lots of beautiful friends (many ... A: If this "friend" really IS just a friend (and you'd better be sure of that before you do anything) I ... | |
| approaching before sex | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: my names dustin and i have a very important queston. iv been dating this girl for year now, and ... A: This is actually an excellent question and I'm glad you've asked it. Far too many guys get into this ... | |
| Can't attract a man | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: Okay so when I was with my ex, if I went out with my girl friends I could always pull any guy I ... A: Yep - you have the "stank". It's weird, but people seem to be able to "smell" your single-ness. In ... | |
| New relationship. Girl I like. | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: (Sorry for extremely long length) OK. Here's the situation, in which I have a few questions.(I'm 15, ... A: First of all, GREAT JOB on getting digits and an impromptu date! You've actually done very, very ... | |
| New relationship. | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a man I meet online for 2 months now. We see each other three times a week and ... A: Oh, come on here. Is that really how fragile you and your relationships are? Are you seriously ... | |
| is he really that into me? | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: So i been dating this guy since the beginning of may. We would normally see each other on weekends. ... A: I don't get this. You're the one holding him off from sex and you're surprised that you haven't had ... | |
| sex | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: i met this guy and he asked for my number he called me tree days after and we agreed to meet , the i ... A: I tell my students to call the very next morning after having sex for the first time - and often the ... | |
| boyfriend | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: i have been dating this guy for 1 year and 9 months now he is totally in love with me but im also ... A: What? You want me to choose for you? Ok, choose guy #1. No wait - choose guy #2. No, wait again, ... | |
| ex calls again | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: Sorry this is so long but it requires every detail....Well, in January of this year, i met this guy ... A: Why, oh why did you make me read that whole tedious thing?? I didn't need all that and about 5 ... | |
| cosplay | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: I really like this guy...he is really handsome, sweet, kind, polite, smart, funny, and cute...he is ... A: Didn't you ask me this question before? What you are hoping for a different answer? Just as before, ... | |
| Told her how I feel, things are a little awkward, what do I do | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: Sorry for the length, but I want, more than anything, not to screw this up more than it is; or in ... A: Do NOT send her an email to clarify anything!!! Let's start by analyzing this situation a little ... | |
| boyfriend with ex's pics | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I'm dating a guy who has an "archive" of all his recent ex's pics. They broke up a year ago, and he ... A: Yes, you're being unreasonable. You didn't explain what you mean by "intimate" and must assume I ... | |
| she said i will think | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: . what that mean????? A: They mean: "since you asked and gave me the choice rather than being direct and making things happen ... | |
| love | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: is it possible for a guy to still love you if he has hurt you but throught the relationship he has ... A: Yes. Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~. ... | |
| commitment | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for over 7 months now. It's been the most wonderful relationship for ... A: I can't tell you why he changed his mind - because I don't read them. He's the only one that knows ... | |
| dating her friend | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: First off I would like to thank you for the your helps and advices so far, they have been really ... A: Don't ask her for her friend's number. She'll take offense at it. Instead, turn this girl into a ... | |
| Miserable and Scared | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I have been with this guy for about 10+ years, I took him on as my best friend when I fell ... A: Yes, he probably should have done a lot of things and not done others, but then, he didn't write to ... | |
| Miserable and Scared | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I have been with this guy for about 10+ years, I took him on as my best friend when I fell ... A: Why would a person be so heartless? That's funny, because I was thinking the same thing about you as ... | |
| dating,especially first dates | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: , I am a Teenager who was wondering on an issue that i can't seen to get an answer to.Is it better ... A: Absolutely, positively NOT! DO NOT wait for a girl to ask you out! If you do that, you're going to ... | |
| Conversation | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I am 17 years old and I don't know how to talk to girls. There have been a few girls that I ... A: Hey Greg! Way to re-glance! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| Conversation | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I am 17 years old and I don't know how to talk to girls. There have been a few girls that I ... A: You glanced at the articles, but didn't bother to actually read them. Now, don't write back to me ... | |
| Conversation | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I am 17 years old and I don't know how to talk to girls. There have been a few girls that I ... A: This is actually a great question! Even better, the answer is very simple. The mistake you're ... | |
| Not over him | 9/6/2009 |
| Q: My first boyfriend (Adam) broke up with me about three months ago. We had been dating for six months ... A: Sorry, I missed that point about him breaking up with you. Since he broke up with you because he ... | |
| Is 1.5 years too long to wait for a proposal? | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Neder, My boyfriend and I have been together 14 months. I am 37 (biologist) and he is 35 ... A: You sure seem to have your timeline down! The problem is that it's only yours and nobody elses. ... | |
| engagement subject | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm an international student here in United States and I'm about to finish my Master study. My ... A: Yes, I fully understand that this is a cultural thing and I understand the pressure it puts you ... | |
| Break Up | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis, I've been dating this girl for 9 months straight. We were also dating last summer, but ... A: Hey Luke! Wow dude, I've totally changed my opinion of you. Most guys today actually believe that ... | |
| getting her email or number | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: hey Dr. how`re you?my routine way for getting gals`info goes like this:Given that girls are less ... A: So what if they say "yes, I check my email everyday?" Then, your plan won't work very well. As long ... | |
| engagement subject | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm an international student here in United States and I'm about to finish my Master study. My ... A: You're "looking forward" to hearing my answer? Let's see if you feel that way when you get it! ;) ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: There is a guy I've been dating since feb.21,2009. I've known him since 4th grade and now we are ... A: Welcome to the long-distance relationship! (LDR). Jayda, you're experiencing what so, so, so many ... | |
| Break Up | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Dennis, I've been dating this girl for 9 months straight. We were also dating last summer, but ... A: Reading this story made me want to retch! How pathetic this all is - and I'm not talking about the ... | |
| whose right? me or him? | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: so me and my boyfriend are 17 yrs old and have been dating for 4 years but he is really jealous and ... A: First of all, you should go. Second of all, you're both right AND wrong. The biggest wrong (by the ... | |
| Accused of stealing money from boyfriend | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: I am having some problems with my boyfriend's family. It started out with an issue surrounding his ... A: First of all, this $800 should be pretty damn easy to track down. All he needs to do is to go ... | |
| past trauma | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: In a past relationship I was abused very horribly by someone (I left the relationship after this ... A: You didn't mention the type of abuse you suffered and that has some small bearing on things. ... | |
| Money and relationship | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: In my past relationship my ex spoiled me with gifts, expensive dinners and romantic getaways. The ... A: Here's the reality: in any healthy relationship there's a balance. Even when your boyfriend spends ... | |
| Should I call her? | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: hey ,I had a first day with this gal,it went very well.However,when I called her today to set up the ... A: No, don't do that. If she's not answering your calls; or finally returning your voice mail, it's ... | |
| He Blamed Me! | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: So let me summarize this situation as best as I can. I started my new job a month ago and this one ... A: You sure give me a lot of credit thinking that I can read minds. I can't. Every single person is a ... | |
| relationship question | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: hey thanks for taking the question, i have been dating my gf for about a year and a half. we love ... A: You tend to disagree? No surprise there! Here's what I mean: you tell her that it's ok with you if ... | |
| He Blamed Me! | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: So let me summarize this situation as best as I can. I started my new job a month ago and this one ... A: Really? That's your question? Why he would do that? Well, ok then. Frankly, I would have asked ... | |
| After the first date | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I went on a date with this girl and after a couple days I sent her a text message "Stop talking to ... A: When, oh when are you people going to learn that texting is a RELATIONSHIP KILLER?????? Therein ... | |
| hidden romance at work | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: .he likes me back too...but our head boss would flip out and fire us both if she found out. (she is ... A: Keep it hidden. Your romance is none of the boss' business - as long as you don't make it any. Best ... | |
| how do i get him | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I really like this guy...but he has a steady girlfriend that he has been dating for a year. The girl ... A: There you go - putting your own expectations on someone else! First, I'm proud of you for getting ... | |
| What do I do? | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I don’t even know where to start. I have no idea what to do and am at loss. I have been ... A: You don't tell her. Melita, I don't know where to begin with you on all of this. The fact is, ... | |
| Flirtatous Boyfriend | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: First off, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He was married, but cheated on ... A: Keep in mind that your account of these incidences are likely tainted due to your expectation that ... | |
| Stacey | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: Neder, My name is Dave. I’m 23. I just graduated from college and landed a job as a stock broker. I ... A: First of all, congratulations on your graduation and new job! Oh Facebook - how you've RUINED ... | |
| dating a widower | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: he and i are from the same childhood neighborhood he three years my senior. him and his wife are ... A: It's never a good idea to try to pit your needs against the ghost of someone else. You're going to ... | |
| Should I call her? | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: hey ,I had a first day with this gal,it went very well.However,when I called her today to set up the ... A: No, it's your job to set up the next date. I generally recommend that you set it up at the end of ... | |
| should i pass on him | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: i like this guy at work and he has made it obvious that he in interested in me. he always flirts ... A: Why are you so worried about everyone else? If they wanted to hook up with this guy they'd either be ... | |
| should i pass on him | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: i like this guy at work and he has made it obvious that he in interested in me. he always flirts ... A: Yes, of course you should pursue this. Not only do you owe nothing to his current girlfriend, it's ... | |
| dating | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm extremely attracted to a male coworker and he seems to like me back a lot. He seems very ... A: If he's not treating you how you want or expect to be treated - and you're not even dating him yet - ... | |
| Follow Up to dating in the workplace | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: I have a follow up, and I know you get a lot of questions, so I included the question below so you ... A: Yo! Tina! No, do NOT try to make this a "friendly gesture". All that will do is confuse him and ... | |
| Is he impressed by me? | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: I recently started working at a new company, and the general manager interviewed me for the office ... A: I don't know if he's impressed by you, but I know this - you sure are! I'm afraid I don't read ... | |
| Follow Up to dating in the workplace | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a follow up, and I know you get a lot of questions, so I included the question below so you ... A: Hey Tina! Him jumping up to look at your answer doesn't tell you very much. I'd be careful about ... | |
| Follow Up to dating in the workplace | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a follow up, and I know you get a lot of questions, so I included the question below so you ... A: It makes it much easier to answer this follow-up knowing what I've already answered. No, I don't ... | |
| Deeply Hurt | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a 47-year-old divorcee for 3 years now. The first 6 months was ... A: Well, he was completely within his right to explode on you for considering a Mac instead of a PC. ... | |
| dating in the workplace | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: So I just started a new job as a host at an upscale restaurant, I am not planning on staying in this ... A: Here's what I absolutely know: YOU think he's attracted to you, and you are certainly attracted to ... | |
| the right time to use endearments | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: hey ,I had a first date with this gal(which went very well),but during our first date I was feeling ... A: What I'm concerned about is the weight you're giving these little endearments. To believe they are ... | |
| Break up and forgiveness | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: This is a break-up question. I tried not to make it too heavy. Here goes... Just after my most ... A: These are powerful emotions that you're carrying around. It's very difficult to push emotions like ... | |
| Lady in the British Council Library | 8/8/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I was in a British Council Library some months ago.After reading for about 30mins I glanced ... A: What a waste! That broad smile was her way of saying, "Hey jackass! Come over here and talk to me ... | |
| advice | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: Dennis, I have a lot of questions. Bear with me, I decided I didn't want to send you 12 different ... A: 1. It's different for each and every person. Some researchers put it at 18 for men and 35 for women, ... | |
| advice | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: People keep asking me for relationship advice. I don't know why. Anyway, so now one of my friends ... A: I've used to do these "pass through's" but don't any more. I have found that not only does good ... | |
| Breaking up and getting back together | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: So I had been dating my ex-boyfriend for three years and he broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. He ... A: Here's what's going to happen: you're going to continue on acting just like you're back in the ... | |
| complaint | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm a PHD student and I was verbally harassed by another student, who was screaming obscenities at ... A: Why am I getting this exact-same question every few days now? Have we become a nation of weak, ... | |
| success story ,the first date | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: I`ve met this gal in the university ,got her number and I am going to call her to ask her on a date ... A: Congratulations on setting up the first date - I'm very proud of you! Talk about her favorite ... | |
| how to deal | 8/2/2009 |
| Q: I'm a late bloomer, as a young girl in my teens and twenties I was ok looking, not ugly, but ... A: First of all, you're absolutely right about small changes having a huge effect. I'm very proud of ... | |
| asking her on a date | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: I`ve met this gal in the university ,got her number and I am going to call her to ask her on a date ... A: This all seems rather convoluted and a little much to me. I prefer a more direct approach (after ... | |
| new environment | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: I started a new job today. I had one boss and a senior associate working with me for the first day. ... A: No, I didn't say I would have told her off. What I was was that I wouldn't have hesitated to say ... | |
| new environment | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: I started a new job today. I had one boss and a senior associate working with me for the first day. ... A: She may be of "higher authority" but she's not your boss. Further, if your boss just sits there and ... | |
| stuff in common | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you have to have stuff in common with the person you're dating. I was told that ... A: Yes, I understand the confusion. That's because the answer is sometimes "yes" and sometimes "no". ... | |
| Should I walk away? | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating a guy for well over 7 years. He is 12 years older than me, has been divorced twice, ... A: So - what's your question? Help with what - making a decision as to what to do next? Anna, you and ... | |
| Breaking The Ice | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: Ok i've been wondering how do I break the ice for kissing a girl and is there anything i can do to ... A: There are actually two separate questions here. The first is how to "convert". That is, how to go ... | |
| I can't figure him out. | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: So i basically been dating this guy since MAY. We never made it official but was just dating. We ... A: Two months is too fast? Worse yet, you want to trade sex for a relationship? Yes, I'm sure you ... | |
| Relationships | 7/26/2009 |
| Q: I went to a concert with my boyfriend and he wanted to leave a little early right before the last ... A: The time to say these things is when you're feeling them. Why are you carrying resentment with you ... | |
| How do i let her now, without hurting her and keeping a small friendship?? (Please help) | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: Jai Sita Ram Hello Dr.Dennis i need your help and fast please (First of all is my first time on a ... A: While I appreciate your attempts to not hurt this girl, I think you're somewhat misguided here. ... | |
| should I email her? | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: sorry it`s a bit long. Me and this gal hit it off.last month I emailed her asking her on a date.She ... A: No, it doesn't mean she's not interested. It means that she's "bookmarked" the date for when it gets ... | |
| long-distance? | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: There is this guy, David that I have been dating for a few months. We are not official although ... A: Here's the reality: long-distance relationships never work out. That's the way it is, for so many ... | |
| Just started dating | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: I've just started dating someone for the last four weeks. We get on really well with each other and ... A: I have no idea what not being in any kind of relationship has to do with speaking intimately. They ... | |
| appraoaching | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: I don`t have any problem apparoaching a gal in a group and going for her email,but when her mother ... A: You don't approach the girl directly, you approach the parents instead and talk to them. When they ... | |
| Just a quick dating questing | 7/16/2009 |
| Q: I've read your answers and so far you give great advice. Here's my little question so please be ... A: You absolutely don't want to be forward with your intentions. It's only your second date! That's ... | |
| Good or bad? | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: I apologize if this is kind of long. I'm 20 years old and for about two months now I've been seeing ... A: Yes, he could simply have a different way of showing affection. In fact, everyone has a different ... | |
| urgent need help | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: Ples help me i love a girl to much and she also love me to much we are very far from each other she ... A: This is just one loooooooonnnnnnngggggg run-on sentence! I can't tell where one thought ends and ... | |
| dont know whats going on...please help!! | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I have been living with my boyfriend for about 5 months now when we first got together everything ... A: He can say that nothing's wrong all day and all night. If you're not getting what you want in the ... | |
| girlfriend issues | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Neder! Thanks for your response. I have one more question about my issues with my girlfriend, ... A: I understand that you don't want to hurt her, but frankly, more damage is done to people because ... | |
| What if her friend hadn't appeared? | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I spent my last vacation in London. One night I was in a club and overheard the following ... A: How can I possibly answer a question like this? I wasn't there. I don't know these people. I don't ... | |
| girlfriend issues | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: Dennis Neder. I’ve been dating for quite some time and several months ago I signed up to an ... A: Sorry, but I'm going to have to begin with some science in order to deal with your question. Stay ... | |
| negative attitude? | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: I dated a man for years and he was very moody and miserable. He never mistreated me per se, for the ... A: First of all, yes, this guy was toxic - very toxic. What a waste of energy! Second, why in the hell ... | |
| Sex | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost two years now and we've been having sex almost ... A: You first need to find out why she's lacking interest in having sex with you. There are only two ... | |
| revenge? or being smart? | 7/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey Not a relationship issue in a romantic sense, but a relationship issue none the less. I had a ... A: Huh? You can't speak of them here? Where else can you speak of them if not here??? This leads me to ... | |
| Tongue tied in a taxi! | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: A week ago I go into a cab headed for a major shopping district. As soon as I got in there was a ... A: It's too bad that you had such a great opener - and nowhere to take it. That was a waste of energy ... | |
| What the heck? | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a single female, mid-40s been divorced 7 years. I have dated a couple of men over the years ... A: Hey Annie! ATTENTION MALE READERS: YOU TOO CAN THIS WONDERFUL WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE! You sure can ... | |
| What the heck? | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a single female, mid-40s been divorced 7 years. I have dated a couple of men over the years ... A: Well, there's one thing we're sure of. That was the best sex that guy has ever had! Yeah, I get to ... | |
| What the heck? | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a single female, mid-40s been divorced 7 years. I have dated a couple of men over the years ... A: I think you're asking me the wrong question. You want to put this all on the men you are meeting; ... | |
| being attacked? | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: I need some advice. This keeps happening to me. 99% of the people I meet are totally nice to me. ... A: This is a hypothetical. I don't do hypotheticals. When you actually have the problem, come back and ... | |
| Good or bad? | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: I apologize if this is kind of long. I'm 20 years old and for about two months now I've been seeing ... A: Every relationship has it's own speed. This seems to be moving fast - to you. In fact, it's not ... | |
| women in general | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm 22 and I've never had a girl friend. I've had sex but only a single one nighter. I'm tired ... A: Hey Mike! Dude, you must be an effing genius! You're going to get more from that little book than ... | |
| my girlfriend going dump me | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: i am in very bad condition.i love a girl to much and she also love me to much.my family also accept ... A: Here's a key to understanding relationships: whoever wants it LEAST is in charge. If your girlfriend ... | |
| sexual being | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: I am a female and a virgin. Haven't had much experience with men. I watch porn occasionally and ... A: Yes, squeezing your legs together, moving your hips, rubbing against a pillow, using your fingers, ... | |
| women in general | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm 22 and I've never had a girl friend. I've had sex but only a single one nighter. I'm tired ... A: "Trying" to sell you something? No. I'm "trying" to help you. How did you know you weren't wasting ... | |
| women in general | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm 22 and I've never had a girl friend. I've had sex but only a single one nighter. I'm tired ... A: Welcome to the dating world! "Just be yourself"? How's that working out for you? Not very well I ... | |
| Should my friend move in with his girlfriend to help get himself out of debt? | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: My friend has a large amount of debt. He owns his own house which he lives in. His plan is to sell ... A: Thoughts? Tons. What's your question? Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President ... | |
| Should I be worried about my boyfriend's lifestyle? | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: I've been seeing a guy for the last few months who has a lot of things going for him - he's very ... A: Romantic relationships don't exist on balance sheets. Business ones do. Let's say that you met some ... | |
| Where are they? | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: I am asking the infamous question most women my age ask. Where are the men? I live in a small town ... A: I know that sometimes it feels like dying of thirst in a dry desert, but in fact, there are men out ... | |
| shocked and confused | 7/3/2009 |
| Q: I really really like this guy at my school. The attraction seems mutual. Whenever he sees me, he ... A: Haven't you asked me about this before - about 20 times? Is this really the kind of guy you want to ... | |
| Uncertain | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: I met a man a week ago today. He is really sweet and kind, late 40s and a product of a marriage ... A: I feel trepidation too; so no, I don't think your concern is "needless". There's a bunch of red ... | |
| getting back an ex | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: Well I was in a long distance relationship over Yahoo and it ended 5 weeks ago. Basically I screwed ... A: Being in a long-distance relationship means that you were in no relationship at all. The ... | |
| To take the risk, or run | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 and have been a very independent woman my whole life. I have a great job, education, my ... A: Oh my god - another victim of the "independent woman syndrome", ("IWS") eh? Hmmm...do you think ... | |
| Worried | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Neder, I have a dilemma. I am currently dating someone who is an ex-addict. He had been addicted ... A: Wow, you really have some great people in your life! This "friend" emails you and stirs the pot as ... | |
| REBOUND | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: I met a man who was really only looking for friendship because he told me he was in"transition" he ... A: Everyone has the capacity to love someone else. As to whether he will do this, I can't possibly say. ... | |
| Does he still love me? | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: We dated for about 3 years. This is how the break-up went: He got weird for about a week, I knew it ... A: I'm afraid I can't tell you if he still loves you - or ever loved you. What I can tell you is that ... | |
| REBOUND | 6/28/2009 |
| Q: I met a man who was really only looking for friendship because he told me he was in"transition" he ... A: Your dad is right: actions, NOT words! This is a mistake so many people make. However, one key ... | |
| How to get her | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: So here's the thing, there's this girl that I've known ever since I was about 14. I never really ... A: First of all, there's ALWAYS "this other guy". Every girl you're going to meet is going to tell you ... | |
| " He cant commit" What is wrong? | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been seeing/ dating this guy (we'll call him J) for a year and a half on and off. I left my job ... A: After a year and a half you're wondering if you should still wait? Come on here Brittney, do I ... | |
| clashes | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: What do you do when people pick stupid clashes with you like this? ... A: Why would you want to work with the unbathed? Is this a farm you work on? Unfortunately, you DO ... | |
| is she self serving | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a woman for just over a year and a half when ever she comes to my place i offer ... A: Poor memory is when she doesn't remember HER birthday. Forgetting yours - the person she's supposed ... | |
| Being too nice | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: I have read about how being too nice is not good for a man in the relationship because it makes him ... A: I totally hear you. In fact, we practice being nice our entire lives. It starts with our mom's ... | |
| is she self serving | 6/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a woman for just over a year and a half when ever she comes to my place i offer ... A: What the hell Mike??? YES, YES, YES this woman is self-serving! In fact, she's one selfish, ... | |
| couple of q's | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: 1. is it a deal breaker if i just met a girl who i am attracted to and interested in, but DO NOT ... A: 1. Since I don't know this girl, I can't say what's a deal breaker for her. If all you want is sex, ... | |
| My ex girlfriend contacted me, what should I do? | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 6 months dumped me just before Christmas. She said she needed space and wasn't ... A: Yeah - she needed space - to start seeing the other guy! What a gem she is! I'm very proud of you ... | |
| confused | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a straight woman, I'm 30 years old. I'm crazy about men. I notice that when I see insanely hot, ... A: Yes, human sexuality IS complicated! You must REALLY love going to the beach! ;) First, don't ... | |
| clashes | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: What do you do when people pick stupid clashes with you like this? ... A: I change the channel. Let me ask you something: why are you asking? Are you looking for a lesson in ... | |
| Too old to change? | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am 35 years old and I've always been shy with girls, although despite that, somehow ... A: You've got what I call "the stank". This is when you have a situation where you are actively looking ... | |
| teenagers and emotions | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: Am 20 and am being shown some concern by a girl of 17 since i started visiting their home. My ... A: She's trying to tell you she's interested in you. Do you feel the same way? If so, what are you ... | |
| I did it again!!!! | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating an amazing girl for almost ten months. I screwed up a couple of times but we ... A: So what - are you going to lie to her yet AGAIN? That's what'll be if you tell her it'll never ... | |
| 1st Black girl | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: We have been close since we met and its only been like a month. We are both in relationships, but ... A: Wow! You really give me a lot of credit, thinking that I can read this guy's mind! ;) Answer: yes, ... | |