Ghosts and Hauntings/Thoughts


If there are frequent thoughts of someone who has passed is that just memories and missing them or something else? Does that mean they are visiting my dimension?

Hello Brig,

 The answer to both of your first questions is yes. Your thoughts are both memories and they are due to missing them. It is completely normal to miss those who have passed away, and the closer that they were to us the deeper and longer our grief, at least for most of us. Everyone handles grief in their own way, there is no set "standard" of personal grieving,  although society and culture may place different expectancies on us.

 What you are feeling is normal grief. There is no length of time where one is expected to "get over it", but prolonged grieving can lead to depression. Should you suspect that, or anyone notice changes affecting your behavior to the worse there are grief councilors available to help you through the crisis. From another point of view, over grieving has kept the deceased from moving on to their proper realm. That is why some societies and belief systems keep grieving to a minimum, some actually celebrate the passing [think of passing as a promotion].

 Memories are one of the most precious things that a human is capable of, especially the memory of those who have touched us in special ways. I feel so sorry for those who through disease have lost their ability to remember those who were close to them. It is indeed sad.

 As time passes you will find that you grieve less, but the memories will stay strong. There will be many times in the future when a certain event will bring back fond memories of those who have passed before us. These are times when you may share a story about the passed one or just silently smile captured in thought of a warm happy time. Fond memories are precious.

 There is a good chance that they are not visiting, although it is not impossible either. Most people who pass actually go into the light. They have a new life there, but they are capable of, and do come back in visitation to people and places dear to them in life. They are not ghosts nor are they earthbound. On the contrary, they are free spirits and are briefly visiting the earth realm much as the living visit their friends and go to favorite places without "moving in". However, what I gather from your letter is that your loved one or friend is not visiting. Many people who pass over and go into the light will usually stay there as they find that compared to this earthly presence that we call life, they are literally in paradise. But depending on the spirit, they may from time to time drop in to be closer to an event. Many spirits return for Christmas [holidays] or weddings or in time of overwhelming stress.

 Brig, enjoy your memories. They are the essence of those who have passed. Your grief will subside and remember in all things to create the memories of your self that you want others to carry with them in their hearts after you have passed over.

 I hope that this has in some small way helped. If you need any more answers, I'm here to help.

Take care,  

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