Gifted Children/Gifted child?


I have read quite a few articles on gifted children. My daughter is 3 years and 4 months old.  When she was 1 year and 3 months old, she could identify numbers and alphabets. By 2 years and 3 months she could do simple additions and subtractions , read simple words. Now, she can do carry over additions, knows time to a certain extent and can read sentences.  The thing is she is interested only in math and not at all interested in reading or doing any other activity. Whenever she feels bored, she just starts doing math problems. Is my child gifted? A few weeks ago we unknowingly told her that there are other concepts such as multiplication and division.  From then on she was hell bent on knowing to multiply and divide.  She knows simple 2 and 3 multiplication tables.  Is it ok to teach multiplication concepts at such a young age? Her grandparents are against my teaching her multiplication as they think she cannot grasp the concepts. My husbands' IQ is 160 and am I wrong in considering my child to be gifted as well? If she is, do you think teaching her what she wants to know and likes doing, would be wrong on my part? As you might already know, you cannot force a child what he/she doesn't want to learn. It's certainly impossible with a child of her age.

Giftedness does run in families. I can't say your daughter is gifted with so little information, but I certainly think that is the case.  Testing isn't useful until 4-5 years old; that's when the word is usually applied.

It's good that you are following her lead about teaching the things she has shown an interest in.  It seems a bit odd that her grandparents feel she shouldn't be taught something she may not be able to grasp.  There is no reason not to teach her about what she's interested in. If she gets frustrated she can learn it sometime in the future. It's common for kids to be 100% absorbed in one topic, then suddenly have a new interest they're 100% interested in.

There is an answer posted 2/18/12 "very interested in books" which has a lot of information that will be useful for your daughter also, even those she's older than the child in that answer. You'll find a list of resources you can trust. You'll especially be interested in Free Spirit Publishing. You'll find materials there that will be useful throughout your daughter's childhood. Be cautious about other things you might buy from sources I didn't list.  There's a lot of things that people want to sell to parents trying to give their child a bright future, but they really just want your money.

It would be a good idea to suggest that her grandparents do some reading too.  It will be important to know more and you may be able to avoid conflict with them in such things as you described above. And certainly it's you and your husband who are the decision makers; it isn't your job to make sure other people are happy with the way you raise your child.

The most important thing you can do for your daughter, for your family unit, is to make your marriage high priority.

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Faith A. Coleman MD


No questions are off-limits. My strengths are understanding what questioners are really trying to ask, knowing the right questions to get to useful answers, and putting complicated, subject-specific words and concepts into language accessible to lay-persons. The topic is fascinating and can be surprising, the opposite of what might logically seem expected of giftedness. I am skilled in identifying giftedness at any age, including very early in life.


Children constitute about one-third of the patients in a Family Medicine practice. I was Director of Children's and Women's Public Health Education Programs with the Northeast Texas Public Health District. I have two highly gifted children, one of whom attended Roeper School, listed first in this site's Sponsored Links. I was the health expert for Roeper's board of directors; I maintain contacts there. I'm on the board of directors of several organizations of which I'm a member. I spent a summer as the Medical Director of a camp for kids with ADD, ADHD, and psychiatric disorders. Editor, Medical Economics Publishing Co. licensure to teach K-12 in Oklahoma, with added qualification in Journalism

Champions for Children: Advocacy, resources, quality assessment, for early childhood daycare (Board of Directors). American Academy of Family Physicians. Michigan Academy of Family Physicians Society of Teachers of Family Medicine. READ: Advocacy, education, resources for teaching and encouraging literacy in adults. East Texas Network for Children (Planning Board).

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BA, Journalism MD University of New Mexico School of Medicine. Internship, Detroit Medical Center. Family Practice Residency, Top-100 Hospital - Beaumont. Clinical Faculty appointments to three medical schools. Faculty, Family Practice Residency, Detroit area.

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Two official commendations awarded by United States Army for service and contributions to young soldiers and families. Publishing Internship, Medical Economics Publishing Company. Research Internship, Hastings Institute of Society, Ethics, and the Life Sciences. Woman Medical Student of the Year. Numerous others.

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As above in experiences, publications and awards. Many thousands of patient/family encounters.

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