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angel walker wrote at 2009-05-31 03:33:51
My 4 year old son just went through the same thing. He cried very badly about how he didn't want to die or want us to die and leave him. We dealt with it by listening to his fears about dying and talking him through them as they came up. Answer all his questions as honestly as you can, but word it so that he understands and doesn't become more upset. Most of all, hug and kiss him alot. I took my son about a month to stop worrying about it. It's been a few months now and he doesn't talk about it anymore at all.

Sue wrote at 2010-12-10 14:03:12
My daughter is 5 and has been very worried about dying, and me dying on and off for several months.  It is very distressing, as she asks me to promise that I wont die.  Obviously I can't make a promise like that, so I explain I love her very very much and am not planning to die, and am looking after myself so I last for a long long time.  I reinforce that she will hopefully also live until she is a very old lady.  My other 2 children have never had this fear, so I didn't know how to deal with it.  She is also very bright, doing the year ahead at school.  

Janine wrote at 2013-01-07 21:19:27
My daughter is currently doing the same thing. She will be 4 in March. She has been asking my husband and I the last 2 weeks, every night, "Please don't close your eyes. I don't want you to die" Every single night and asking my husband to "Please be careful and don't close your eyes" . It has completely freaked me out since she is always pretty bubbly and upbeat.  I remain calm and tell her I feel bad she feels that way but were not going anywhere.

major changes in her life right now so I am pretty sure it's about something she saw on TV.

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