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Mare wrote at 2013-02-13 03:10:55
My daughter used to do this. She started before school though and she would rock or pump her body. I always assumed it was a self soothing activity. I asked my pediatrician and he said that it was a type of stimulation (masturbation). I did not agree and it seemed like she was trance like and was not pleasuring herself. This behavior was brought to my attention numerous times in elementary school. Either teachers thought she was distracted and in her trance, pleasuring herself or just distracting and giving herself negative attention. As she got older, she enjoyed swing on the swings outside...spring, summer, winter and fall. She is now 18 and does not rock, still swings or rocks while listening to music. She has been diagnosed with anxiety issues and it is her way of dealing with the over stimulation.  She had been tested in school and her processing rates were at the 99 percent level and her IQ is average or slightly above average. We were told that high level of processing can be exhausting, causing children to miss steps, misinterpret information and also have issues with impulse control. She has issues sleeping, being unable to turn her mind off. I am not saying your daughter will have issues but I think there is a lot more to it than self pleasuring oneself like many people conclude when observing that behavior.

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Carol Bainbridge


I can answer most questions on parenting gifted children, from infants on. Questions can be about parenting, advocacy, and support and I can provide suggestions for toys and books gifted children love. I can even help you determine whether your child is gifted or bright, and I can point you to more information you might need. I can answer some questions about programs for gifted children, but can`t help much with information on colleges. Visitors wanting to know if their children are gifted might want to read the article "Is My Child Gifted?" before asking a question.


I am the parent of a gifted child and have been working with other parents of gifted children for 13 years, helping them find support and providing them with information. I founded a local gifted organization and helped organize a parent day for a national gifted conference. I have been an active member of my state's gifted association since 1999 and created and maintain their Web site. In addition, I have created a website for parents of gifted children who are looking for toys and books for their children: I am also the Guide Gifted Children Site.

I have a bachelor's degree in psychology, an MA in English, and completing a PhD in linguistics with a focus on verbally gifted children. I have been helping parents of gifted children for nearly 20 years and am currently the guide to gifted children on

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