AboutDiane Wooley Expertise Do you want to talk to a woman about "How to Have a Great Date"?
Feel free to ask me any question and I'll see how I can help. Please include your ages and where you live (such as big city, suburbs, etc).
Experience I'm 57 years old, am married now but have had much experience in dating in the past.
Education/Credentials Some college and travel degree.
Expert: Diane Wooley Date: 5/28/2008 Subject: dating
Question I can't believe i am asking this but here it is
I manage to talk to a beautiful women and ask her on a date
we been out 3 times and there is physical attraction both ways
the little problem is that i am 24 and she is 34
she don't like to do things i like so we been to the movies dinners play pool. i don't know what to do with a girl that is 10 years older,
she always tells me to take charge, to plan things , i ask her because i just want to be nice to her and don't want to force her to go or do things she don't like but it looks like girls like when men plans things
we are going out this weekend again and i don't know where to take her or what to do , things are going to get boring quick and i don't want that to happen
thank you for any advice
Answer Just wondered what you thought of what advice I gave you. Please respond if I can help in any way.
Dear Andy,
The first question I would have for you is that can you envision yourself married to this woman of 10 years older. I would caution you only because you are saying that she does not like to do things you like to do. If you are in a relationship or married, this is not healthy. You will resent (sooner or later) that you are doing things she likes to do and not what you like to do. I think you are being polite and sensitive to ask her what she wants to do. If you can envision you two married, then I would say go for the relationship. But if you see this only as dating and eventually breaking up because of the incompatibility or even the age difference, then I would say don't even pursue this dating relationship. It will be a big waste of time and heartbreak for you and possibly her as well. I'm sorry to be so negative but often times it helps to have an unbiased person tell you what they think. You cannot see this because you are attracted to her and like the dating at the moment. Think about what I have said and please ask me a followup question and tell me what you think.
If you are for pursuing the relationship, I can give you some ideas for dates. Above all, do not get into a sexual relationship right now.
