Expert: Megan - 11/20/2001

Question
My girlfriend and I ahve been together for about a year.  Because we both wish to save sex for marriage, we rely a lot on kissing for intimacy.  If we weren't already, I think we have become very good kissers, and we both enjoy it very much.  However, can you think of any kissing that is slightly "outside the ordinary" so to speak, that we might be able to try for variety? Thanks for your time...
Jonathan  

Answer
Hey Jonathan! I first want to apologize for taking this long to reply. :( Here are some kissing tips; hopefully some of them will provide some insight. :)
You're going to think this is a much too repeated statement
but it's a fact and should always be remembered: Having a connection with someone is the key to creating a good kiss. The best kind of kissing comes with someone who you are attracted to emotionally, mentally, and physically and it also comes a lot more naturally. Remember not to worry too much about your technique, either, because that can ruin
everything. Try to enjoy the moment. =)
First of all, remember and practice the four P's of kissing: Passion, patience, pace, and pressure. They will always guide you along your necking journeys. Apply these to
your current kissing partner and adjust them to each kissee; they will slightly change with each person. Pay attention to their preferences and the "moment" (i.e. getting hot and heavy or just a little make-out session) and you'll know how much pressure to add and stuff. Keeping
your eyes closed also adds to the concentration level but there are some people who prefer to keep their eyes open so try different things.
Now, if you're bored and want to spice things up a little, here are a few suggestions:

Lightly nibble the bottom lip or neck
Kiss other parts of the body (some of these are FULL of nerves!) like the neck, ear, and chin
Enter a little tongue into the picture (remember, less is more!) and try some Frenching or playfully licking the perimeter of the lips, the neck, or from the neck to the lips
Be sure to use your hands, too! Run your fingers through your partner's hair or place your hands lovingly on the side of her face
Kiss your sweetheart someplace unexpected or from right out of the blue
Give Eskimo kisses (rub noses) for a sweet change of pace
Remember that you should always have fresh breath and clean teeth, too. Poor hygiene is a total turn-off!
As far as Frenching goes, keep in mind that it can be a hard kiss to master so you most likely won't be wonderful at it overnight but with practice and a patient partner, your skills will improve fairly quickly. First of all,
remember that less is more and 2 things can happen if you use your tongue too much; 1. Your tongue gets tired or 2. Your partner gets tired of your tongue. So, if you're, say, in a heavy make-out session, French kiss off and on for a minute or a minute and a half and then quit for a couple
minutes and bring your tongue back. You really just don't want things to get old. Don't deep-throat your lover, either. Most of the time you'll only use the tip to the middle of your tongue and it will extend to about the middle of your sweetheart's mouth. This way no one is strained or gagged and it's enjoyable for both parties. Move your tongue up and down, side to side, clockwise, counter-clockwise, where ever it feels best or play "tongue hockey" with your honey (not tonsil hockey!). Open your mouth a little wider than you would for a normal kiss but don't gape it. And be sure not to leave your mouths open and play with each other's tongues for too long of a time; trust me, it can feel weird. Sometimes surprise your mate and when she thinks you're going to French and begins to stick out her tongue, kiss her tongue instead. Also, don't
move your tongue around too fast in your better half's mouth. Keep things slow and sensual, at least at the beginning of each kissing session and/or until you are
better prepared to speed things up.
Butterfly kisses are sweet to give and receive. Some people consider them the ones you blow off of your hand while others believe them to be very soft kisses or "rubs" (from the cheeks and lips and such) against the face or neck. They resemble the feeling of a butterfly's wings brushing
against your face.
But most of all, don't be afraid to talk to your partner and be sure to experiment and have fun! Things will come easier than you think!

                         Megan