About Christian Ratnam Expertise All questions that involve straight sex I would able to answer, basically the 'how to' questions and the 'why' questions.
Experience Thoroughly experienced and very well read and exposed in the area.
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts in Interdisciplinary Studies (Communications and Sociology)
LTCTL In Theatre Studies
Question Hey there friend, I'm needing your help. My girlfriend and I are both still virgins and we've agreed it'll stay that way until we're married. But we've been dabbling in oral sex a bit recently. Basically I did convince her to start giving me blowjobs.
Now up to last night it was never anything all that special, she just sort of put it in her mouth and slid her lips up and down the foreskin, nothing major, felt alright but I figured she was getting used to it.
Now last night, she did that for a longer period of time then normal and then she was giving me a handjob. Now she's grabbed my dick before but she gave it a nice good jerking last night. But, something was wrong and this is where my question comes in.
I wasn't feeling anything. I had my penis in this girl's mouth, and had her vigorously stroke it for a good few minutes, and....nothing. I never felt close to orgasm, and I had to go into the bathroom to finish myself off. When I came back into the room afterwards she seemed pretty bummed out. And I was a little upset that I couldn't get off for her.
Is there something wrong with me? I always pictured myself shooting right off when I had a girl blow me or give me a handjob (this is a first experience for me as well as for her). Should I just give it some time until we're both more comfortable with it? Maybe there's something different she can do? I found a couple of links online to deal with better fellatio and sent them to her. But, if you have any advice on what the problem could be, I'd love to hear it.
Thanks.
Answer Dear Matthew,
There basically are a few reasons for this. 1) You probably aren't really focusing on what she's doing for you and how it's turning you on. 2) You masturbate rather frequently and that's reducing the sensitivity of your penis. The fact that you could still cum in the bathroom after that pretty much proves it. I am not sure which of it could be the problem. But I'd be able to help you more specifically if you can identify it for me.
