Expert: Christian Eliab Ratnam - 9/1/2008

Question
How do you get a girl comfortable enough that she will take her clothes off on demand? (Just so you know, I wouldn't have her do it in public, we would be alone at home or something) This is for those times when I just want to see her naked but don't necessarily want to get it on.

Answer
Dear Robert,

    I wouldn't recommend this at all. Your wife naked should be part of foreplay and it should get you on. You would not want to desensitize yourself (trust me). I understand that you probably just would like to admire her body, but too much of it is not going to be healthy. However, if you really want that, I suggest you have an open conversation with her. Talk to her about it. Ask her what she thinks about it. I did not like the use of the word 'demand'. The last thing you want to do, is objectify her. That's not going to enhance your sex life or your relationship. Her getting naked for you should be something she wants to do of her own will and something that will always be special. You wouldn't want it to be something taken for granted would you? It wouldn't be all that nice anymore. Try talking to her...but get your objectives straight first. Hope this helps.