Expert: Gabriella - 8/1/2009

Question
hey! i am sixteen years old and i am a virgin, my boyfriend and i are wanting to have sex, he isnt a virgin and i am a little scared to have sex for the first time because he has had sex before and i dont want to be bad at it. i want to pleasure him and i want it to be special. what can i do to make sure everything goes good? any tips to make it seem like i no what i am doing? please help!

thanks

Answer
Hi Laura,

A word of advice: just because your boyfriend has had sex does NOT mean he will be good at it, nor will he necessarily be able to tell if you are good at it too. There are no special tricks involved...if two people love each other, the sex will be magical no matter what. Just relax and let everything happen. PS -- the only way a woman can be 'bad' at sex is if she is completely stiff, doesn't respond or doesn't move (almost like a dead body). If you are relax and excited, it will be great!

Good luck!