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How to Have Great Sex/The Big O why cant I do it?


I'm married but I have a habit with my hubby of overthinking not imagining. Honestly I need help badly with obtaining the Big O. How can I get ready and warmed up for him so I can cum to please my husband and have better sex?

It is easier for most women to reach orgasm by masturbating rather than in intercourse.  If you can't masturbate to orgasm, it is unlikely you will have them with your husband.  So you should start by working at masturbating to orgasm.  Once you know how to do that, it will be easier to get your husband to help you have orgasms in intercourse.

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Doug Adams, Ph.D.


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