About Jonathan Expertise I will field questions on human sexuality to include heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, lesbianism, sex therapy, fetishes, abberations, perversions, adultery and fantasies.
Question Hi there. I have two questions. I am a bisexual female, who has an on again off again relationship with a female friend, and I am not involved with a man at the moment.
My friend and I are spending the night together tomorrow(for the first time in awhile) and I want it to be romantic and exciting. I sometimes have a hard time orgasming with her. Do you have any tips as to what new things we can try to spice things up?
And how can someone who is uncomfortable with her body enjoy sex? Should I tell my partner what I dont like about my body, or hope she dosnt notice? Please help. Any advice or information you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Answer You and a few billion other females are bisexual as are all men according to Freud and others. Anyway, new things. Well to deemphasize your self consciousness about your body try low level of lighting and you may want to purchase two or more red lights. The red light will give your body a glow that makes it appealing and hides imperfections. The red light has always had this effect. People look a lot different in daylight. I would try some champagne if you both drink. Cleanliness and incense goes a long way to creating a pleasant atmosphere. I refrain from candles due to the fire hazard especially if mixed with alcohol. They are not worth it. As for new tips I don't know what you have been doing. The usual things a lot of kissing, showering together, then reclining kissing her lips and neck then kissing and licking her breasts and sucking on each nipple one at a time and moving down to her belly using your tongue and caressing her body and then move into her pelvic area but don't necessarily use your mouth and tongue there yet. Kiss her thighs and legs and inner knees and lower legs. If she is slender and clean you may want to kiss her feet and then tuen her over and take each of her toes in your mouth one at a time and suck on them and finally lick the soles of her feet several times, then kiss her calves licking thm also and the back of her thighs and rubbing her buttocks squeezing them and kissing them and then use your tongue on her crack, then kiss and lick her back and her neck and finally kiss and use your tongue on the backs of her arms and finally lick the palms of her hands and take each finger in your mouth one at a time and suck on them individually. You can then engage in digital stimulation of her vagina and also use your mouth and tongue on her . Use both your mouth and fingers on her and if you have one try to use a small dildo on her while using your tongue on her clitoris. One of her most sensitive parts is the area between her vagina and her anus if you use your tongu on her here it will give her great pleasure and while doing this use your fingers on her. You can also try a kind of 69 position where in you lie on your back and she gets above you on all fours and have her slowly spread her legs out to the side while her pussy is over your face and have her lower herself on you. You can then have her practice the same techniques on you if she is willing. Some lesbians try to use dildos in both places but neither of you may be ready for that. Do not tell her what you don't like about your body its not necessary. The real important thing is to have complete privacy and solitude and be undisturbed by doorbells, telephones, cell phones, pagers, alarm clocks etc. An electric supply house will have red light bulbs. 25 watt is what they usually are. You each can shave each other if you like to add some spice to the evening. Another thing is to buy some vaseline intensive care lotion and massage each other first before you do anything. Hope this gives you a few ideas. You did not mention your ages so I do not know how advanced you are.
