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Question Hi,
I am planning to start a game up with a bit of a sexy twist to it in the hope of trying something different and seeing where it leads us.
Anyway, I am having trouble thinking up of any forfeits and would really appreciate some ideas.
We are a man and a woman- both 28 and are both sexually very comfortable with eachother so are happy for the dares to get pretty sexual.
The aim of the game is for it to lead on to sex eventually.
Many thanks,
Laura, London, England.
Answer Laura
That sounds like an interesting game. I am very very jealous because you are in London and I miss London. I have the Arsenal-Chelsea game on tape and I'll be watching it today. Rather than think of dares and forfeits, since you're open minded and want to spice up sex, I'll just tell you ALL the ways I recommend spicing up sex, and then you can pick out some dares and forfeits from all the stuff here.
SEX ALTERNATIVES FOR OPEN-MINDED PEOPLE
1) PUBLIC. You've probably done this already, but variation is a huge part of great sex, so if you've already done it in every room in the house, watched every porno you own while doing each other, done it to every CD in your collection, it's time to go outside, just like George Michael said (and did)... Like...
In a church
In a graveyard
On the beach
In the ocean
In a public bathroom (on the floor - oh yeah :-D)
In a train station, bus station or airport
On a train, bus or plane (welcome to the mile high club - gives a whole new meaning to snakes on a plane, hmm?)
While driving (don't blame me if you die, but I never died)
In your friend's bed
In your parent's bed
On your boss' desk
In an elevator
In the desert (that was great)
In front of famous landmarks
You get the idea
(2) ANAL. Have you tried it yet? It would take ages to tell you how (look below), but if the guy is careful and slow at first, and the girl is relaxed and oiled up, anal can be the sexiest sex and nastiest fucking you've both ever had.
(3) FEMALE DOMINATION. My favourite... the girl pretends to be like a total BITCH (not sure if she has to pretend in your case, joke), and dominates the male and hurts him and uses him and abuses him and makes him worship her. This can involve making him lick her all over, her ass, her pussy, her feet, her legs, under her arms, her shoes... all of it. It can involve spitting in his mouth. Making him lick his cum off her or out of her. It can involve trampling him, beating him. Making him eat other guys' cum out of her, or suck another guy off for her (if you're really extreme) or take him up the ass for her. Making him eat the other guy's ass or suck his balls while he fucks her. Making him eat her ass while her pussy gets fucked. Making him lick the skin between her two holes while she gets fucked by two cocks. Making him lick the soles of her feet and suck her toes while she fucks big cocked men. Make him drink her piss from her pussy or from a glass, or just piss on him. Make him eat her - you know. Make him lick her period blood. Make him suck the condom clean after fucking with one. And ALWAYS making him eat his own cum out of her. More commonly, S&M where the girl is violent, bitchy, evil and dominant is like SO sexy. One of the most common forms of femdom is the female fucking the male in the ass with a strap-on. It doesn't mean he's gay. A man has to be attracted to men to be gay. Sex acts with a woman can never be "gay" not that it really matters anyway. It just means that, like every other man, he has a prostate gland (aka male g-spot) and when some sexy girl rams a strap on up there he cums like crazy like he never came before. There is also the forced feminization scene and the taunting scene. Forced feminization is when the woman makes him dress up in her clothes, high heels, maybe make up, stockings. You can both be girlie girls, or the man can be the girl and the woman the masculine figure. You can even do #4 - rape and violence - but female-on-male rape. Taunting is easy. If he'd like to hear about how his cock is tiny and he's pathetic and the woman can't even feel him and she's going to go and fuck bigger cocks and make him do all those things I mentioned before - make him feel like a sissy boy - that is very popular among a log of men. Of course, there are MANY women who like S&M and donation the other way - like, the man being the master and she the slave. That leads me into #4. If you like any of those ideas, ask me, and I'll tell you a lot more about them. I've done them all before - yummy. I get hard just from writing about this stuff.
(4) RAPE AND VIOLENCE. Many women have rape fantasies. Many, many, many women. The difference between female rape fantasy and what most male rapists do, is that (a) most women do not want to be raped, period, and unless a man has permission to rape a woman (which technically isn't rape), it is and should be punishable by a long time in jail. It's one of the worst crimes there is. There are some women that would like to be raped, and a lot of women that would like to be raped only in fantasy but most women with rape fantasies want to be raped because they are so desirable that the man cannot resist her and just has to have her, now. Not because the man hates her and wants to abuse her and bring her down. You can discuss this with each other, and if you both like it, the man can then pretend to rape the woman. He can even LITERALLY rape her, with a mask and a knife or something, when she's not expecting it. He shouldn't hurt her badly unless that's what she wants, though. And always have a SAFE WORD that you both know, so that if the woman REALLY wants him to stop, she can stop him - usually during rape fantasy "no!" and "stop!" aren't supposed to work. VIOLENCE is becoming more popular. If the girl likes it, him spanking her, slapping her, CHOKING HER (that one is a favourite), spitting on her, scratching her, biting her, and in doggy style position PULLING HER HAIR is a great one - there are lots and lots of girls who like all or some of the above. Choking is a favourite because it cuts off the air supply, which intensifies and magnifies the orgasm greatly. Try them out - but make sure you talk about it first and figure out what your limits are. Remember they work best (and sometimes only) when the man is inside the woman, fucking her. Violence can be a lot of fun. One of my former girlfriends was into extreme violence and abuse, and I have to admit, even though I never was, brutally abusing someone and them enjoying it - is addictive. It's the sadist in me.
(5) PLAYING DRESS UP... I already mentioned the possibility of dressing up the man as a woman, which is always very sexy. But what a lot of people don't realize is, the way you look is a huge part of great sex. Once you get into a rut, the slightest change for either of you can really make a difference in the spicing up of the sex. FOR MEN: have her dress you up like a woman, the whole nine yards, like a whore, see (3) for more on that. Shave. Or grow a beard. Use new cologne. Dress up like a male stripper. Try leather. Latex. Try fireman. Try police officer. Try just wearing some new stylish clothes for her. Get your hair did. Look at the men that she idealizes and lusts after and do a little something to fulfil her fantasies in the appearance department. FOR WOMEN: there are so many things you can do. Bikinis, whore dress up, stripper clothes, check out the models or pornstars or famous women he's into, and do a little something something like them, cover yourself in baby oil, get bikini waxed, get a deep dark fake tan out of the blue, wear whore make up for him, get a sexy tattoo for him, some whore high heels, thigh high boots, latex, leather, something obscene... manicure and sexy pedicure... try temporary tattoos like on the lower back saying "fuck my whore ass" or something silly like "daddy's little princess", it really depends on what he's into. Play off of his fantasies and his fantasy girls and do something for him to turn him on visually. You can also dress like any of the things in the "roleplay" section coming soon.
(6) WORSHIP HER BODY. If a girl is really hot, my favourites are the ass, the legs and the feet. I can make out with a sexy girl's ass for hours, just like he would her pussy. The first thing you notice when a horny man gets to fuck a pornstar or model or some gorgeous stripper, is, he'll start eating her ass madly. There's something extremely guttural and instinctive about it - like dogs do. Some girls really like it. Some girls get all dominant and push his face right up in there - that's great. If you haven't tried it yet, try doing the man sucking her toes thing. Lots of girls like that. Lots of guys do too. It can start with a foot massage. it can lead to great things like stiletto-heel S&M and sexy oily footjobs. And of course my best advice for a man being a great intense and worshipful lover is for you to read (in past answers) or request my "how to pleasure a woman - full version" advice, which is the advice that made me famous, and will abso-fucking-lutely blow any woman's mind. Also part of worshipping is to CLEAN HER OUT. It's really sexy and intimate when a guy goes down on a girl AFTER he cums inside her, then shares the cum with her. Some people think it's gross. Also, when he cums on her, he (or she) can lick it off. I mentioned this in the female domination, but it's so kinky and sexy that it deserves a second mention.
(7) GROSS! OR HOT? This follows on from the male and female domination categories. It can go both ways. A lot of people find pee sexy. I know I do You can pee on each other, or in each other, or right in each other's mouths, or in glasses or bowls... you get the idea. It's not that bad for you. You can be tame and do it in the shower together, or you can do it on each other's bodies and then make love (or if you're really crazy, lick it off). Even better, him on her face or her on his. Inside her pussy (or all over his cock) is very popular for peeing, but that risks infection, like, UTI. It's worth the risk though. It's hot. Drink a lot of water before you guys pee and it won't taste too bad. It still tastes fucking bad though. If you like that, there's the more extreme toilet play and then there's spit and puke and blood and anything else you can think of. Spitting in each other's mouths - puking on each other - her making him eat menstrual blood - other blood play, cutting, blood tasting, swapping - and of course brown showers, which are the brown version of golden showers, and are particularly popular in Japan and Germany. If you'd like more information about that, let me know. I'll stop grossing you out now.
(8) SHARING is great. This is one of my personal favourites, since I make sure all of my girlfriends always love to take lots of cocks and get sometimes tied up or blindfolded, and fucked by my friends and by hot strangers from online and such. It can be "cheating" (behind each other's backs), or it can be arranged with each other, or it can be in front of each other. Swinging, wife swapping, or just random hook ups using Craigslist or the Internet, or bars, or anything else. If you both trust each other completely, fuck other people. Suck other people. It's so much fun. You find out quickly if you're jealous people. I'm not a jealous person. Love does not come into it. Whether you're eternally and completely in love, or still in early days, it's not about how much you love each other, it's about whether you get jealous or whether you can handle it and see it for what it is - just fun, and sex, and nothing more. Either just tell each other about it, or just fantasize about it, or best of all: threesomes. Wife-swapping never did it for me ('cause one of the two you're fucking is probably unattractive so one of you gets a raw deal) so I prefer threesomes. One of you can bring other girls into the equation. Threesomes are great. Watching two girls do it and being able to join in - paradise. If you're truly open-minded and he's secure in his manhood, you should also let men that she's hot for come into the bedroom and fuck the woman. Then you can also get into the female domination stuff I talked about, making him do things with a man. But there is NOTHING better for a woman (aside from squirting) than having TWO big cocks in her (one in each hole - double penetration - or two in the pussy - or one in the mouth and one in the pussy) and if he lets her have it she'll love him for it. It's not slutty! Slutty is just a word made up by misogynists for the same things that a man calls studly, if it's a man doing them. If you're really crazy, you can go into gangbangs and orgies. Imagine the man and four other guys just tearing the girl up. Would you like that? Would your partner? How about the girl and your girl and four of her friends? Five girls, one guy. It doesn't get any better. If you guys don't know any girls/guys willing to do it with you, prostitutes are cheap and often very sexy, and there's actually not that much disease risk because they will insist on safe sex and especially if you get mid priced or high priced escorts, or are in a place like Holland or Nevada where it's legal, the girls are *spectacular* and clean and very very enjoyable. Bars and nightclubs are full of hot willing girls and horny guys who'll do one of you or both for free. Craigslist is the new mecca for sex hook ups of all kinds for free. Also try alt.com and adultfriendfinder.com if you have a little money to splash. And local swinger clubs.
(9) PRETENDING / ROLE-PLAY is a tame alternative to sharing. But it doesn't have to be tame. For example, last week I came across a beautiful NY based model who also does phone sex and specializes in "snuff" phone sex. I.E. either, they act out him raping and killing her on the phone, or her killing him. That's pretty wild. A prostitute friend of mine offers these roleplay ideas as part of her "price list" for $25 each. Haha. No you can't have her name. She says this: "i will be anything u want, teacher nurse stripper whore (haha) pornstar model actress singer celebrity (u name her ill be her) cheerleader teenage bitch 8yr old ill be ur mama ur daughter ur daughters friend ur sister i dont give a fuck ill be underage a vampyre or a serial killer or victim whatever u want"... wow. So yes, basically, that says it all. Some of the things that people like. Either one of you can pretend to be other people, specific people or strangers (for her, pornstars, celebrities, family members and girls you both know are always good ideas), or just talk about other people while fucking. My favourite is: the girl pretends to be a hooker, dressed in the sluttiest nastiest fishnets and 7-inch stilettos you can find - and he comes and picks her up (in front of people, why not) and go fuck. Another great one is, she's dressed up real sexy, she goes in a bar alone dressed very very promiscuously, turns down all the guys that hit on her (and there will be plenty), then he walks in and "picks her up" and takes her home as if you both just met, while all of the unsuccessful men look on jealously. If you want to combine this cool idea with the "sharing" idea, then she can pick up two or three "strangers" including him. That way the other guys think she is just a sex crazed woman picking up three strangers, without ever knowing one of the men are actually her partner. Dressing up in uniforms and stuff also fall into this category, if you're feeling more tame. Most guys like the stripper, the porn star, the nurse and the french maid, the little schoolgirl (yawn), but sexy outfits like teddies, latex, leather and thigh high boots drive me WILD... most girls like military (boo), firefighters and teachers.
(10) MOVIES. Film yourselves having sex, doing any of the above things. Then watch it and fuck while you watch yourselves having sex. You can also take nude pictures of each other, she can do a photo shoot for him, in Playboy style, or more hardcore nasty porno style. They'll be great for when she's not around and he misses her (trust me), and if you ever break up, well, trust me, he'll be glad he has them. It's a beautiful way to remember someone and think of them fondly and hornily - with naked photos of the woman he loved and probably still loves. If there's one thing we never regret about past relationships, it's good sex. Hopefully you guys never break up, though. So yeah, make some home movies. If it's good enough for Pam, Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton, it's good enough for you.
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