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Experience My favourite thing in the world is performing oral. Over the years, I have perfected mindblowing techniques. Every woman and man is different, but there are things you should know that will DRIVE YOUR PARTNER CRAZY! Write to me and find out... this could change your life and rock your world...
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Question county durham.
hi im 19 years old and ive never had an orgasm before. i was just wondering what it actually feels like just incase ive had one and not realised.
Answer Amy Hannah darling...
is that County Durham, like, near Newcastle in England? Oh MAN I miss England. I'm in DC, but I grew up in Oxford. I have a friend, Hassan, who lives in Durham. How are those Magpies? Been to Whitley Bay lately? Ever watch Bykahhh Grove?
Anyway, let me answer your question darling. You would KNOW if you had had an orgasm, although there are, like, seven or eight different types. Let me explain the different types:
(1) hard clitoral
When your clitoris is stimulated with a lot of pressure and speed from side to side or up and down with fingers or tongue or lips or toes or any other part. It is often called "frigging" and leads to very sharp, very intense, and often multiple orgasms. I once made my gf cum over 100 times in 1 hour this way - it can be very productive, and take as little as 30 seconds to reach the peak.
(2) soft, building clitoral
One of the most popular kinds, it involves the slow, gradual stimulation of the clitoris, with wet or oily hands, or with someone's tongue or lips... think swirling, caressing, gentle... it can take anything from two minutes to thirty minutes but it usually takes between five and ten. This is a much more sustained orgasm, an overwhelming peak, a complete tensing of the body and a much more head-to-toe intensity.
(3) internal orgasm
Usually from being fucked, from your hole being stretched by fingers or a cock, especially if it is very hard, especially from behind, in doggy style. Very intense and wild orgasm. Can be great, can be multiple, the most common during sex... you will feel your pussy muscles spasming uncontrollably around his cock - impossible to miss.
(4) anal orgasm
The most unusual, but some girls have orgasms FROM THEIR ASS from being fucked in the ass. It feels really good and can lead to white stuff leaking out. When it happens, you'll feel your ass wildly contracting and throbbing.
(5) non vaginal
Some girls can cum from a man's hand running down her spine, or from nipple licking, biting, pinching, or from toe sucking, or neck biting, or ear licking and kissing... these are rare and usually known as "aftershocks" which are felt right in the clitoris when things are done to a girl after a lot of orgasms.
(6) g-spot squirting
a really incredible orgasm, called a g-spot squirting orgasm... it's when your saturated sponge-like tissue behind the clitoris (the g-spot) gets stimulated and probed, as it spasms with orgasm, it releases (in bucketloads!) the clear fluid (cum) that sprays everywhere... it's totally natural. You will love it - it's the best orgasm a woman can have.
If you're having one of these orgasms, you'll KNOW it - it should feel like the peak of a mountain, like all your pleasure intensifies and you just explode... you'll know it.
Here's how to make yourself cum:
For fingering your clitoris, many women like to do it in the bath, or the shower, because the running water makes them feel wonderful. There are also different ways to do it, and I will discuss those with you now. I don't recommend using a vibrator, because although they can be WONDERFUL, they can also condition you to tose very specific types of orgasms, and then it's hard for men (or yourself) to make you cum in other ways.
FINGERING YOUR CLITTY – soft and slow
While it may be fun to slide your fingers in and finger inside your pussy, I'll concentrate first of all on playing with your clitty. Most girls, when they masturbate, concentrate on the clitoris, which is actually not inside the pussy at all, it is above the entrance. And for internal fingering, it's much better to read my "how to make a woman squirt" advice (ask me if you want it) and get a man or another woman to do it - so you can have the best orgasm of your life...
As I'm sure you know, when the pubic hair gives way to the beginnings of the pussy slit itself, you are right above the clitoris. It is less than half an inch below that point at the very top of the pussy, and it is often hidden behind folds of pussy meat and protective layers – at the very very top of the pussy, on the outside.
It is between the two pussy lips, but at the top of them, where they meet. You will know when you find it because it sticks out a little from the rest of the pussy, and there is nothing above it but pubic hair (or shaved, sexy girlie skin, if you shave down there).
Now, the way lots of girls like to finger themselves to orgasm is slow, soft, and very very gently. First, make sure it's nice and wet (using spit and licking your fingers is always a great idea), you can use lube or even better – wet your fingers with your mouth. If you're really wet, you might even want to dip your fingers gently into your hole, and get them wet like that, before placing them over your clitty.
If you're not wet, don't start playing with the clitty before you've touched your thighs and your pussy in other places: lick your lips, fantasize, pinch your nipples, run your hands up and down your body, along your inner thighs and your legs, maybe finger your ass: whatever it takes to get you wet, whatever you like. You can talk dirty too - lots of girls find that a big turn-on even if you're talking to yourself.
When you're ready, place one or two fingers (your first and middle finger, usually) over your clitty, when it's wet and slippery, and start to gently rub and tease. Rub it slowly from side to side, or up and down. Rub around it, too. Not hard. In fact, you might not want to have too much contact between your fingers and your pussy. Try to be as light and delicate as you can, just tease it and play with it as if it were the delicate petals of a flower.
You can vary the motion, firmness of your touch, and the speed with which you touch her, but at the end of it, you should be turning your clitty on and you should feel it swelling and expanding. If it's getting less wet, spit on your hand or use pussy juice or more lube and keep it REALLY wet.
Once you're getting really into it, try to relax and let go, and eventually find a regular motion that you like, and repeat it again and again. Not necessarily harder or faster (unless that works), but perhaps more firmly, more repetitive. Circular motions usually work well. Sucking your nipple if you can while you're doing it often helps.
When you're squirming and getting into it, just keep doing what you're doing, continue with the motion, and before long, you should start throbbing (you'll feel it pulsing) and you'll gyrate and have a really powerful orgasm. This can take anything from one minute to thirty minutes, but it's usually between five and fifteen. Don't keep going after five minutes if you're not enjoying it at all, you're probably not in the mood and need to try something different, or you're not relaxed enough. If you starts enjoying it less, vary it, because the idea is to BUILD the pressure and the pleasure. It's a very slow, gentle process.
If it doesn't work, don't worry, it doesn't work on every girl. Try a partner for the squirting one (write me again if you want that advice).
FINGERING YOUR CLITTY – harder
Some girls are hypersensitive and like it rough. With these girls, the above will work, and can often lead to more powerful orgasms, but there is a quicker, faster way. That way is fingering your clitoris (same place) much harder, pressing fairly hard down on it with your finger, and rubbing it from side to side.
This way, again, make sure it's really wet and you're horny, then find the clit with your finger (this works standing up really well) and start moving your finger from side to side while pressing on it. As you starts to enjoy it, do it harder and faster. After thirty seconds to two minutes, you'll start really enjoying it, and just keep going harder and faster. Make sure it's wet. Press even harder on the clit itself and keep rubbing from side to side, over and over, as fast as you can.
If this hurts at any time, or you feel like you don't like it, you should stop.
If it works, you'll have, like, a mini-orgasm, where you suddenly go tense and peak and cum, quickly, then come down again. You can keep going and make yourself cum again. It's not hard. Keep doing it till you gets sore if you like. Some women can orgasm ten or more times like this. My girlfriend and I broke the record when she came over a hundred times this way in less than an hour. So as you can see, this is very very very productive if you're hypersensitive and you do it right.
If those two don't work, and you can't figure out how you like it (maybe ‘cause you doesn't know), you need to try the squirting orgasm. This is the BEST of the three and involves going inside. You need a man or woman for this one... Are you ready? It could change your life. If you need to know about that, let me know. Your boyfriend will have to read it too...
And here's how he can make you cum in the most spectacular way (number six)
There are many ways to use your fingers to make a girl go crazy, and some of the best are to be found by simple exploration - try different things, different numbers of fingers, different parts of her pussy and ass, and be innovative and inventive. Some of the best fingering comes in conjunction with oral... but there is one, shining act which transcends all sexuality, and gives a woman - any woman - the best orgasm of her LIFE. If I am sharing this advice with you it's because I think you're a nice guy or girl. This is not the kind of knowledge which should be bestowed upon predators or misogynists. You should only know this and use this if you LOVE women.
Here goes:
Start by performing a little oral on her inner thighs, labia and clitty especially, to get her nice and wet. The rest of this (except for, perhaps, the very end) can be enhanced by continually sucking and licking the clitoris throughout the duration of the act - oral definitely increases the power and pleasure or the female ejaculating orgasm.
Now, take the hand that you write with, and take the two fingers closest to your thumb (your pointer/index finger and your middle finger) and make them wet with your mouth, with hers, or with her pussy juice (she should be glistening wet for this to work properly). MAKE SURE YOUR NAILS ARE TRIMMED AND NOT SHARP.
Slide those two fingers in, with the fingerprint part of the fingers facing up (nails down), slide them in firmly but slowly, as far as they will go without using too much pressure. If she is really tight you make need to start with one, and if there is a lot of wetness but resistance, you may need to tease and taste her pussy some more. Once you get those fingers in, tease her inner walls slowly with the pads of your fingers, and get her even more juicy. When you think that she is ready to have the orgasm of her life, you may begin:
Now you will maneuver your fingers to find her g-spot. Yes, it exists, and yes, every woman has one. Slide your fingers in about 2 inches, UP, and then BACK towards the front of the pussy (like you're going up behind her clitty). Her g-spot is actually a patch of her inner walls which is on the FRONT INNER WALL of her pussy, above the hole itself. So, in, up, and back towards the entrance. You should feel, on that wall, a very rough patch of skin – rougher than the rest of her smooth inner pussy. You've found it. Congratulations.
By making a beckoning motion with your two fingers (a come hither, bending fingers motion), you should be able to pull the fingerprint/pad part of the tips of your two fingers against that spot. Try it. Pull back against it with your two fingers and press a little. Tease it, stimulate it with your fingers. Make her feel good. She should be squirming and breathing very heavily by now.
As you start to rhythmically tap/press/pull your fingertips against the g-spot, she should start getting wetter. If you're doing it right, and she's comfortable with it, you'll start to hear squelching, sponge-like sounds. The g-spot is like a sponge, it contains a lot of liquid, and feels rough. Keep pressing your fingers against it, over and over, rhythmically, with the same kind of rhythm as if you were sliding your cock in and out of her pussy.
As she starts to get wetter, and enjoy it more, start doing it harder. The more she thrashes from side to side, the harder you do it. Eventually, you can replace the tapping/poking of the g-spot with an outright speed-sliding of those two fingers in and out of her hole. Do it faster and faster, maintain the rhythm, but increase the force. Even when you're slamming them straight in and out of her hole, try and maintain an upward, outward force with the fingertips, so you're still pressing up against that g-spot even as you're slamming her with your fingers with reckless abandon.
Through all of this, she should be squelching, squirming and OBVIOUSLY loving it. If she's not, you should stop. If she says it hurts (especially if she says it more than once, you might want to stop or at LEAST slow down or not do it so hard. Make sure she's always wet – not dry for any period of time.
Now here's the crucial part. When she gets close to ejaculation, she will say that she needs to pee. SHE DOES NOT NEED TO PEE. It's just a temporary sensation that will pass, but you have to make sure she knows about it beforehand, and you have to make sure she does not stop you, and you do not desist in your slamming. Hold her legs apart with the other hand, if you have to. You can even use your head or knees or whatever to hold her legs open, but make sure she stays relatively still (or she might get hurt on your fingers) and that you KEEP GOING. In fact, when she needs to pee, that's when you should start doing it harder, cause orgasm is around the corner.
10-50 seconds after the pee sensation begins, she will start to cum. When she does, DON'T STOP. Just do it harder and harder and harder, pressuring the g-spot upwards all the while. Now she should start to ejaculate. She'll scream, and her pussy will start shooting clear (transparent), odorless liquid all over the place. There could be a lot of it, it might soak you completely and soak the sheets and everything around her, so make sure you're prepared.
I guarantee you, if she's never had one before, the squirting orgasm will be the best orgasm of her life. In my experience, 97% of women are capable of having them, and in certain circumstances, I think it's more like 99.9%. If you want her to ejaculate in great volumes, have her drink lots of water before you do it, and stay well hydrated. Once she's finished squirting, SHE CAN SQUIRT AGAIN. Especially if you didn't do it too hard, and still got her to cum, you can usually start all over, and between one and ten minutes later, she'll be squirting again. Usually, you have to do it harder each time. My record is seven. The girl that squirted seven times in 45 minutes passed out for 6 hours afterwards (it's physically exhausting and dehydrating) so be careful if you try more than 2 at once.
Most girls pass out after a couple of them. This can make a girl fall in love and at the very least want to fuck your brains out, so use it wisely rather than to your advantage. Don't take advantage of people using this. If you do it wrong, or if she's on her period, she might bleed. That's usually okay, but just make sure you don't hurt her, and you stop if she's screaming with pain, rather than pleasure. You should always have a safe word with your partner, and you should always make sure she knows what you intend to do and that she's fine with it. Enjoy this, and I hope it works out for you; I hope it works out for HER, even more so. If it does… well, just wait and see. I'm jealous of women because of g-spot orgasms! There's NO male equivalent – it's just absolute ecstasy, nothing less. Remember there are at least fifty ways to make a woman cum (actually lots more) and at least five different types of orgasms so don't limit yourselves to this whether it works or not.
And finally, here's some tips for him to make you cum if he's not getting it done...
(1) Make sure she is really really wet beforehand and during sex. If she is wet and naturally lubricated, she is excited, and you have a much better chance of making her cum. When you're actually fucking her, make sure you're trying to get her off with your penis, preserving your erection and using it to stimulate her, rather than simply moving it around for your own pleasure without getting her off. You should put plenty of energy and effort into fucking, and be very worn out and well-exercised afterwards - if you're never like that, then you should try harder. If you're always like that, maybe you're not gentle and romantic enough, maybe you're TOO athletic and energetic and not sensual enough?
(2) If she is not wet (or even if she is), try foreplay. If you need more advice on foreplay, let me know. It involves making out, kissing her all over, oral sex (you on her then her on you), fingering her pussy, making her cum with your mouth, teasing her erogenous zones, talking sexy, those kinds of things.
(3) Talk to her during sex. Tell her how beautiful and sexy she is, touch her in places and make it exciting and different and new every time. Help her relax. Take it slowly and experiment with positions and moods and settings. But most of all, be vocal, communicate and talk to her.
(4) Play with her clitoris while you are giving it to her (it is the ridge in her upper vagina, on the outside, at the top of the pussy where the labia meet and below the pubic hair). Even better, she can play with her clitoris whilst you're fucking her, and she can control and stimulate her own orgasms at will. She will have to be comfortable with you to do this, but if she is, it will work.
(5) Most of all - ask her how she likes it. Maybe you're not doing it hard enough, deep enough, long enough or slowly enough. Maybe the angle or position or rhythm is bad. Maybe you're not being romantic or rough or talking enough or too much - who knows? Every girl is different. The only way to find out what will make it more enjoyable for your particular girl is to ASK her and find out directly from her. Otherwise you're just guessing. Communication is the key to sex. That's it!
If you're having sex for an hour, that's great, but it should be productive sex. Is she enjoying the hour despite the lack of orgasms? If so, it's not that big of a deal, you're turining her on, at least. If not, then you need to work not just on the orgasms, but on the lovemaking in general. It should all be enjoyable. Not just the orgasms.
Let me know how it goes and keep in touch...
If you need a personal demonstration, I'd be glad to help.
