Help with College & Grad School Applications/Art Grad School


My daughter is not enthusiastic about many things but she is very interested in New York Academy of Art.  She applied and was not offered admission but was offered to be placed on the waiting list. The schools website includes details about past year application, acceptance and enrollment numbers but nothing about the waiting list!  Will they hate it if she sends another recommendation letter , financial ability letter or other additional info?  Is the waitlist basically a rejection, or does she have a realistic shot?  I guess I'm especially wanting to help if possible because she's uncharacteristically excited about this school and I think it would be a huge step forward for her. She's concerned that if she asks them these questions it could hurt her chances of being accepted from the waiting list as she would be considered a "pest."  Thanks, E.M.

Dear E.M,

Being placed on a waiting list does not mean rejection. It will not hurt her chances to ask reasonable questions. If she had done anything noteworthy since she initially applied to the Academy, than I strongly recommend that you send that information to their admissions office.  At this point, it is a waiting game.  While many people may have been offered admission, that doesn't mean that they will accept, which means spaces usually become available.  

Here is what concerns me.  What does she plan to do with a degree from the Academy?  I understand that her lack of enthusiasm (this school being the exception) may have prevented her from having other success and while attending the Academy can be a great experience, it is also a great deal of hard work.  Aside from the commitment of years and finances, she will need to be proactive in networking with instructors, alumni, potential employers, etc. My question is why this school is of interest to her.  Is that interest strong enough to carry her through the hard work that will be required?

Being determined doesn't make you a pest.  It makes you a winner or at least not a push-over.  Having you in her corner is probably the best asset she has.  Your love and determination may carry her through to places she might not visit otherwise.

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As a Harvard graduate with almost 20 years of experience, I can accurately answer questions on how to be competitive in the admissions and scholarship process. I can also answer questions on achieving academic excellence in high school/college and how to obtain excellent internships for future employment success. You will need to visit the websites of the schools of your interest to learn the answers on specific questions, such as expected SAT scores or deadlines. I will not advise on athletic scholarships.


Since 1997, I have been helping students to reach their professional goals by helping them to understand how to successfully operate within high school and college environments. These environments have seen a dramatic change over the past twenty years, making them far more competitive. In turn, I have helped students learn how to shop their professors, create internships and identify extra-curricular activities that will distinguish them in both admissions and scholarship situations. I also work with military academy and graduate school applicants.

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