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Expert: Alana Date: 6/18/2008 Subject: my girlfriend and her past
Question Hi Alana,
ok first off i would like to say that I've read your answers to questions and they seem to be very knowledgeable so kudos to you.
anyway my girlfriend and I have been going out for just over a month now and so far we're great and truthfully I've never been happier but it seems like all she does is talk about stuff she has done with her ex-boyfriends and i really don't give a shit (pardon my language) I don't think she is cheating on me it's just that all she does is talk about them and it's kinda pissing me off is there any way that i can get her to stop talking about them 24/7.
and also do you have any ideas about things she and i can do to build our relationship and build experiences together?
thanks for your help
Zero
Answer Dear Zero,
Haha thanks! I try my best.
Well, first off, how old are you?
So, she talks about her ex's? Oh that isn't good. It means she is thinking about them. Now, listen carefully. If she thinks of them when she is with you, she could possibly be using you to fill her relationship status. Have you kissed yet? It is possible that when she is with you, she thinks she is with her ex's. That's not a good thing.
You should try talking to her. Talking is how we communicate, right? It may not always go well, but it's the most efficient. Tell her that you feel a upset that you always talk about her ex's. Say that she is with you now and it bothers you that she mentions them. If she really likes you, she will stop. If she doesn't stop, I wouldn't take a chance with her. You could like her more then she likes you. That's a problem in any relationship.
Ideas, hm. Well, I could go out on a limb here and say something crazy like rock climbing, maybe at a local gym. Go with each other. It's like romantic yet not. Romantically, you are climbing up a 'mountain' and you are in the other persons hands. To make it really awesome, go to a mini mountain, maybe with an instructor and do the real thing. Otherwise, go ice skating. Summer activities are the beach and swimming!!
Hope this helps you! Feel free to ask a follow-up ^^
