AboutNorthstar Expertise I can answer questions about dating, sex, abuse, conflict with teachers, conflict with parents (or siblings), applying to colleges, time management, playing sports, and anything else you can think of to throw my way. I have been involved with sports all my life, and I played for a Division 1 college so I know a lot about time management and how difficult it can be to juggle being social and hitting the books. I have had many different kinds of romantic relationships and have dealt with abuse first hand. I have two siblings so I know how rocky things can get sometimes. My parents were very strict while I was growing up, and I understand how suffocating that can feel. I graduated from college in May with a B.A. in History and I know how stressful and intimidating college life can seem. I have valuable life experiences that will allow me to help people with a wide array of problems. Although it's been four years since I was in high school, I have not forgotten what it is like to be a shy freshman walking down unfamiliar halls, wondering if I'll like my classes or make any friends. I also have experience with long distance relationships, and grieving with the loss of a loved one. I am very patient and thoughtful and I will do everything within in my power to provide useful answers and meaningful pieces of advice.
Experience I have coached high school aged women in both basketball and volleyball, and as a result I got to know all of them personally and helped them navigate their problems. I have dealt first hand with everything from relationship abuse to severe fatigue as a result of over exerting myself. I understand the demands of a busy life, and also the social pressures that teenagers deal with today. Furthermore, I have experience with underage drinking and I know how difficult it is to stand up for what you believe in when all your friends are pushing you to do something you rather not.
Education/Credentials B.A. in History, I have also mentored many high school aged women in athletic camps.
Question So I'm a junior in highschool and I haven't had a real boyfriend yet or been in a relationship or even just dated. Most of that was because up until the end of sophomore year I struggled with depression so I didn't even try with guys. But this year I decided I wanted to get into the dating game becuase I feel like I'm missing out on a big part of being a teenager. So recently met this really nice guy in one of my classes. He commented me on facebook last week and we talked back and forth for a while and eventually he gave me his number and told me to text him which I did. And that night we talked for 5 hours until 230 in the morning. The next night he texted me and we talked for 4 hours. And over the week we texted back and forth I'd say almost everyday. He always asked me questions about myself and found any way to keep the conversation going. So I thought he was interested in me. But once when I textedhim and we were in the middle of a convo he didn't text back. And then I saw him in class he just smiled but barely looked at me. and the other day I went up to him and started a conversation and it went well. But i can't tell if he really likes me or not or if he's just being g nice and wants to be friends. How do I figure out what he wants and ifhes interested? Am I over analyzing what he does and says? And how can I let him know I'm interested in dating him
Answer The first thing you need to learn is how to NOT over analyze everything. There could be many reasons why he didn't text back: maybe he was in class, didn't get the text, or was in the middle of something. Also, there is only ONE way to find out if he likes you, and that's to ask him.
If you want to know if he is interested in dating, then ask him out to a movie on the weekend or something. Don't play mind games with yourself, and consider this a learning experience. There's no rule that says girls can't ask guys out, and I can tell you from personal experience that guys almost always enjoy it when a girl makes the first move. It not only takes the pressure off of them, it also allows them to enjoy being chased for once.
So take a deep breath, and when you see him again, suggest going to a movie. Whatever you do, DO NOT ask him via a text, email, or over the phone.
