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Question okay so im 16 and a sophomore in high school. i have this best friend whos a senior in HS and graduating this year. we've been through kind of a lot together, including a time when i was in a really bad depression. she helped me to feel better and now ive been feeling pretty great, which is a huge difference from the past 2-3 years. but we havent been talking as much as we used to or as much as i'd like. i usually dont text her first because ive always been shy and idk i just never was able to take that risk before. so shes usually the one to do it. but she hasnt been. and lately ive been trying really hard to text first because i really want to talk to her again. i keep telling her we should hang out and everything and shes always like yeah defff. we will. but it never happens. and i feel like thats the most i can do because i cant drive yet so its not like i could offer to pick her up or anything. and since its spring break, we hung out for one day - the first time in literally four months. she said i could come over again the next day and that she'd pick me up later, but she never did. she said it was because she was feeling sad, and i want to believe that, but something tells me she just didnt want to hang out with me again. or she found something better to do [she smokes and drinks a lot]. i know i should trust her but i dont know what to do anymore. i feel like shes giving up. like she doesnt want to be friends with me anymore. and i understand that she's going to college in august anyway and that we might not talk after that, and that i should probably move on and just kind of get over it. but she really means a lot to me because she helped me so much. and i dont want to lose her without trying as hard as i can to hold on. and if it still doesnt work out after that, i guess thats how its supposed to be. but i want to keep trying for now. she might not be the best role model in the world or the best friend, but i do believe that she tries to be a good person. so what should i do about her? wait for her to talk to me again? text her? try to make plans? give up? please - help is greatly appreciated.
Answer Hey
Well in all honesty, there's not really a lot you can do. If you put the effort in and she doesn't respond, at least walk away knowing you gave it your best shot and it was completely out of your control. But to tell you the truth, it doesn't sound like she doesn't wanna be friends with you, it just sounds like she's being a teenager (ie unreliable). Lots of teenagers will just think in the short term and will take the most fun opportunity that comes along. Like, if you planned to hang out and watch movies tomorrow and then she got a call saying there's a huge beach party on, I wouldn't be surprised if she went there instead. I know it's hard to believe, but it's really not that much about not liking someone, just being unreliable. Don't worry, just keep being friendly to her and try your best. Every now and again ask if she wants to hang out and if she does, great! But if not, don't beat yourself up about it.
