About Mollee Expertise I can answer almost any questions about high school life. I've been through most of it, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and I would love to help you through it as well. Questions about high school drama, boys, girls, classes, relationships, what to do in certain situations, I'd be happy to answer them all.
Question O.k. so im 14 years old. I think I've been through alot to be so young. In the month of January, I moved to a new school. Well, at my old school their were two principle's (Mrs.Murdock and Mrs.Walker) because their were two different school's within one. I moved to my current school because my parents had found out about me having sex at my old school. Dontey, the boy I was having sex with, was 16 at the time, his aunt (Mrs.Murdock) was the principal of his school and had a hard time liking me. The school was totally unorganized, and we had found out later, that it was really a school for at-risk kids. But back to Mrs.Murdock, she tried to make it seem like we were cool, but I knew she didn't like me. So... Me and Dontey had sex "4" times AT SCHOOL. I got to running my mouth and being very childish, so then I ended up telling my friends and then they ended up telling their friends and next thing you know, we're both in Mrs. Walker's office (My principle) trying to lie our way out of it. So then my parents ended up finding out the truth. Me and Dontey denied it, but my mom went through my journal and found out that we weren't telling the truth. So when she found out the truth, I went ahead and told both of my parents about all of my sexual partners (which were only 3-including Dontey) and then I told her about the drugs and alcohol that I had did the previous summer. Then my mommy took me to the doctor to have a Pap-Smear. I wasn't pregnant, but he had given me an S.T.D. Chlamydia to be exact. So then me and my parents were like really not cool at the time. And it had hurt me so much, because we weren't talking or anything. It went on for a couple of days, but it was still like the worst time of my life! After all that drama, my Dad decided to start taking me to church again I had always been to church as a little girl, but at this time in my life, I had really needed it. By the way, when my parents took me out of the school, they started taking me to a counselor also. My parents didn't want me in the school anymore anyways, and Dontey doesn't know that he has Chlamydia. I tried to plead with my parents, but they knew that if I kept going back to the school, that I would tell him about the S.T.D. and that my reputation would be ruined. At first I thought that this was childish, but deep down I knew that he would probably over-react. And plus he had to be the one who gave it to me, because I used a condom with the other two guys. The thing is, ever since I came to my current school, I've been better, my whole attitude has changed, I've gotten closer to God, and me and my parents' relationship is better than ever. I have a new boyfriend now. He seems to really like me, and seems to want more than just sex. Actually, he's the first boyfriend who's ever helped me study for a test! I've been trying to pray more and get closer to God when I have the chance, my grades are going up and all is good. But I miss him alot. He really made me smile. I just wish I knew whether to leave him alone or not. I've been trying to get a hold of him, but everytime I call, he doesn't answer. I left a voicemail, and he told his cousin J'vante (Who is now at my school) that he would call me back. But I called blocked. I don't know what to do. Move on, or fight for something that I may never have again.
Please Help.
Diamond.
Answer okay. my answer for this is simple. and it may sound all adult like and you may not like it. But if you have such a good thing going for you right now, DO NOT go back to something that is one hundred percent guaranteed to have problems. I know its tempting and i know you like him, but its bad news, dont do it. And i dont mean to sound harsh or anything, but heres a few things to think about: 1) this guy gave you chlamydia. which means that he has slept with other girls, probably more than one, and not even cared to get tested. 2) he is sixteen years old. and i know thats only two years and that wont even be a big deal in a few years, HOWEVER 16 and 14 is a HUGGGGGGGGEEEE gap in maturity level, no offense to you. A 14 year old and a 16 year olds brain function completely differently. You might not like it now, but you'll know what i mean when your sixteen. 3) you said you guys were having sex, you didnt say anything bout a relationship, which means he was definitely taking advantage of you, even if it does seem like it wasnt like that to you, thats what players do. they play people, without making it obvious. I mean he couldnt even offer you a bed to have sex in? From an outside perspective this guy has asshole written all over him, and i hate to tell you, but the outside perspective is usually right. Stick with the good stuff you have going on right now, you'll be okay :] i hope this helps.
