Expert: Dan - 6/5/2009

Question
Hey, it's me, Dave. A WHILE back i asked this:

Hi, umm okay, I really like this girl but there are a few problems. First of all she's a Senior(17 or 18) and I'm a Sophomore(15). She is so sweet, funny, kind AND beautiful, literally MY perfect girl! I've loved her since my freshman year(I used to be kinda emo and she was the first in high school that was nice to me). She even got me into the drama club in which I made many friends and had several people compliment my singing! This girl basically gave me a life and I love her for that.(as you can see, I'm the sensitive shy type). The problem is that I don't know if I should try anything with her. For such a sweetheart, she sure knows how to intimidate my nerves! Should I try to get closer to her(like more friendly) or should I move on right here? It's so hard and stressing and my friends get pissed off when I'm all depressed like this. Should I ask her to take me to her senior prom? Please help me and respond soon.
~David

I know it took a while but I know you wanted to hear more about this, and i could use more help.

So I asked her out this Monday, and I got rejected. I was feeling so confident! She said that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend right now. But she's leaving me next year! The way she rejected me, she was so sweet the whole time, though. She apologized twice, and even said that what i did was really brave. I thought it would be alright, but now it's awful. I feel crushed, broken, shattered (shall i go on?) It's so depressing when i see her she smiles at me like she always did, but i just don't know what she thinks now, and if anyone's making it awkward it's probably me! I just don't know what to do, and the LAST thing i want to do is make her feel bad. I can't stop thinking that she, a huge part of my world, is going to leave me for the rest of my High School life. And I still don't want to let her go! I've been heartbroken before, but this one is just awful, like some kinda love disease. I love her so much, and now I feel shattered. Please help me, and thanks for listening.
~David

Answer
Hey bro,

Yeah, love sucks, aye?  But don't worry, you just need some time to get over her.  If she doesn't like you, then she just doesn't.  And unless you're willing to completely change yourself, there's not a whole lot you can do.  Why would you wanna go out with someone who makes you be someone you're not anyways, right?  

Just give it time man, and you'll feel fine.  Try and push any awkward thoughts from your mind when you're around her.  I know it's hard, but just be cool and casual.  Give her some time, maybe she didn't know you liked her and it was just a big shock.

Best of luck,
Dan