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Question hey thank you so much for your time!
am a 14 year old indian girl and i just shifted to LA 3 months ago.this is my first time abroad.i have been speaking english since birth so i don't have a communication problem. i also have the correct accent.
i started my sophomore year in a high school and well on my first day before going to my classes i was attending my locker when this guy just comes along and gives me 3 pats on my butt saying "hey what a cute ass you should not be wearing those pants" i never got such a comment before so i lost my temper and slapped him really hard saying"how dare you do that" it was just then that he kissed me forcefully infront in front of so many other students.
this was my first kiss and it went to such a jerk i gave him another slap and a punch and pushed him away. then he asked me if it was the first time i kiss. i without a though said yes and just then he and everyone around him started laughing. then he said to me "aren't you an innocent little pure bud" yes i am a virgin and i've never had a boyfriend or been on a date or had any sexual acts.
ever since then its been like popular girls come around and make fun of me and call me an orient. actually i doesn't bother me what they say to me cause i believe high school is the time one should focus on their career building. there plenty of time to have fun once you have a ground under your feet.
i only have two friends who too like me get picked on. they call us the geeky sisters. but is doesn't matter what the crap they say or spread about me. i have my morals and i am not going to ruin them.
i told my mom about the that very act of that boy on my 1st day and she launch a complain to one of my teachers.
he got a warning but now its like they think of every way possible to pick on me. it's like he won't leave me alone he also sweared the he will be my first time just like he was my first kiss.
he is very popular( a junior) and i heard that he has slept with 12 different girls. he told me that he can get any girl to sleep with him and i am no exception. i told him loud and clear that my parent have done a good job in raising me and i will never disgrace them by going against my morals. it was all okey until he and his popular group abused my parents, my culture and my country.
i completely lost it upon hearing all that and i just decided to leave just then he, his name is Squall by the way, he forcefully kissed me again and touched my breasts, hips, butt and even forced his hands up my shirt.
i bit his lips and pushed him away and ran from that place.
now am really scared to go to school, i mean i just wannted to study hard (i had always been a good student back in india) and i was doing pretty good here too but am scared that i might get raped i want to tell my mom but she in india working on her transfer and will be back after 2 months my parents are already having a hard time trying to adjust in a forien country and i don't want to worry them more.
but the way teenagers act at sckool i mean they smoke, take drugs,drink,have sex and mank your life hell if you don't do the same!!.
is it necessary to have sex and all that other stuff to be popular. its not like i want to be popular espesially if thats what one must do for it.
and that guy squall why is he after an orient old fashioned girl like me? he's soo popular he can get any girl to sleep with him!
the way he everyday looks at me comes around saying things like "your mine i'll have you, i'll give you and you'll love it"he also said that" slap me against please at least it's worth your sweet touch". he makes me sooo mad!!
i ignore him and avoid him as much as possible but then he somehow got my cell no. and texts me saying "your so beautiful why hide yourself with cloths?" and all because of him i always have to keep my phone off. i don't want my parents to lose faith in me . i want to be a good girl. i heard that he broke up with his recent girlfriend and she thinks i am the reason behind it so she too comes along abusing me.
i have never faced somthing like this back in india, everyone over there is so into school work and studies.
they call me a nerdy orient looser sucker.
like i said it doesn't bother what they say to me but now they have also started abusing my country saying that is a backward, undeveloped black country!
and Squall well he comes around smirks at me, sometimes push me against the wall and whispers things coming real close to my face as i could feel his breath on my lips.
what can i do??? pleas pleas help me!!! i don't think i can go to school like this i might just get raped!!oh please tell me what i must do!!
Answer Hey
Well, there's not a lot you can do besides sleep with him that'll make him stop. You could tell somebody, like a teacher, but I don't know your school, would that help at all? Unless he's actually seriously getting close to rape, charges wouldn't hold with cops, but you could take it to higher authorities if you're actually genuinely worried.
But mostly I'd just advise you to ride it out. I was bullied when I first started high school and didn't know how to act around New Zealanders. But you just ride it out, and eventually they stop.
