Question Dear Brother William, though this is quite a personal question, I still wish to ask: Can one pay back the burden of love, affection and personal attention and/or care? For eg. if a relative/friend has helped you (even by physical care) earlier but at present is not in good terms with you for any reason(s) whatsoever and one intends not to continue having any relation with him/her. I know one cannot pay back love but still if the circumstances so demand that separation is best and one do not want to carry the burden of gratitude since at the end of life one wants freedom from any burden/favor. Is this possible and if so, how?
Answer Dear Abhishek,
Thank you for your question.
Make every action a yaj˝a , a sacrifice to God/dess, and your life will be blessed. True freedom comes when you realize the Ātman, the Self of all. Then karma falls away like water from a lotus leaf. You dream you are bound, that you have obligations. Dream higher dreams. Serve others as the manifestation of the Divine. There is no thought of obligation here, no "payback" idea. God/dess gives and then takes away. It is simply the nature of things. Remain detached, and you will be free of sorrow.
I can answer questions about Vedanta philosophy, Patanjali Yoga philosophy and practice, Tantra, Bhagavad-Gita, Upanishads, Vivekachudamani (Shankara`s Crest-jewel of Spritual Discrimination), Advaita (non-dualism), the Ramakrishna-Vivekananda tradition, Goddess worship, meditation practice, Hindu monasticism (sannyasa), and Sanskrit.
I've been studying and practicing Vedanta and Tantra since 1969.
Organizations I'm the founder and spiritual director of Ashram West, a gay spiritual community based on traditional Hindu Tantra. I have been a member of the Vedanta Society of Southern California since 1969.
Publications I have three books in print: GAY TANTRA, ESSAYS ON GAY TANTRA, BLOOD OF THE GODDESS.
Education/Credentials I hold a B.A. in Sanskrit (UC Berkeley 1975) and an M.A. in clinical psychology (Antioch University 1986).