AboutMike De Bruyn Expertise I can answer questions on Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, NLP, and general personal change work. (I have some experience in EFT and EMDR, but not as much as hypnosis.) I will not debate the subject, attempt to justify it, or argue which modality is better than another. Please ask serious and specific questions so that I can give a specific answer. The more information you provide the better answer I can give.
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Experience I trained in stage hypnosis and have worked in the field since 1968. I use traditional hypnosis, Ericksonian hypnosis and NLP in my work with private clients. I teach classes in Hypnosis and NLP and moderate the highly popular Hypnosis-Hypnotherapy group on Yahoo.
Question QUESTION: I feel like a different person for almost 5 years.I feel depressed,anxious and guilty.The strange thing is that i this state wich seems like it was programmed by me like some sort of hypnosis.I wonder if it is possible that i might have been hypnotized to feel that something is wrong with me,that i am guilty,to be in this state when my father would offend me and often for about half an hour would use his convincing voice that i did things wrong that nothing is going to work for me,that i was stupid and when he was talking to me i felt like i was totally focused to what he was telling,i was totally tuned in and feeling so bad about myself.And this happened numereous times during my childhood.Now i feel weird,blocked in this state,like my mind is blocking me,if pulling me back.it is preventing me from being happy,something that i can not explain I almost feel my body is pressed,like i have a weight on my shoulders,i almost want to cry.
Do you think i was hypnotized by my father loud and convincing voice and what treatment would you recommend?
ANSWER: Yes, in general one can say that we are all "hypnotized" when we are acting automatically with no understanding of the reasons. Not "hypnotized" like you see in the movies, but in the sense that our subconscious minds accepted something and we are not aware of what was accepted. Since our subconscious mind controls our automatic actions it feels like something else is running us.
Treatment? I would suggest that you embark on a journey of self-improvement, possibly aided by the advice of a professional. Depending on how much impact this has on your life, you might want to seek the help of a psychologist. That is something I can't address here.
If you elect to do something about this for yourself, the first thing I'd recommend is to "get out". I'd suspect (just from my general experience) that you don't do a lot of active things. If that is so, start now. Take a walk first thing every morning. Go out with friends for lunch. Engage in a hobby.
Beyond that, start keeping a journal. But do NOT "wallow" in your feelings there. Use it as a way to discover what you are feeling. Don't concentrate too much on the "why" of things ... it does not matter all that much. Focus on HOW to feel better.
Make sure you have a goal. Something you are working toward that you are doing FOR YOURSELF.
Every night, before sleep, ask yourself what was GREAT about the day. What went very well. And what great things are in store for you tomorrow. In the morning, first thing, ask what GREAT things you will do today. Then plan your day and go after them. (But don't forget that brisk walk ;-)
During the day, should you feel bad about anything, don't ask questions like: "Why me?" but ask questions such as: "What can I learn from this? How can I make it better?"
If you really want to get into the whole self-help program, start reading books on NLP. Authors such as Steve Andreas, for example are very helpful. "Core Transformation" comes to mind.
The thing that stops most people is looking back. Who cares what your past was? It is your future that counts and you have to look forward to see that!
Please let me know if I can be of further help.
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QUESTION: You know all these positive thinking and behaviour sounds great but ,no matter what i do,go out,listen to music,thinking positive etc,trying to be happy ,all this things dont work fully ,it feels that the just hit a wall,i feel my mind is blocking them,refusing feeling great because i feel with a weight on my shoulders,i can never let go,i play football with my friends and i feel better but it is like all this actions wich were supposed to make feel better and confident are not accepted by my mind,i feel somehow guilty,i feel i need to do something before i can recover,because there is something underneath of all this depression.
Answer If you are not able to work on the problem yourself, then clearly you need to get help from someone who is experienced in this area. I would recommend a psychotherapist. You can seek help from a hypnotist, but be sure that he is experienced in treating depression.
Yes, there are things underneath depression, but I think that you'll eventually find that what the reason for it matters less than just getting past it.
