AboutJurriaan Plesman Expertise I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Post Graduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition. I have had many years of counselling people with a variety of emotional problems, such as Depression, Anxiety Attacks and Self-Esteem Problems, Drug Addiction and Alcoholism, Gambling, as well as the whole gamut of personality disorders.
I am also the editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia. It web site, with a self-help course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited free of charge at:
http://hypoglycemia.asn.au
Degrees & Certifications:
BA (Psychology) Sydney University and Post Grad Dipl Clin Nutr
Experience Depression, Anxiety Attacks and Self-Esteem Problems, Drug Addiction and Alcoholism, Gambling, as well as the whole gamut of personality disorders.
Publications Author of the book "Getting off the Hook". It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
Question hi. i am a 15 year old female sophomore in high school and
i need help! there's these 2 guys... i just recently started talking to guy 1,but he's really cool, &and we have *a lot *in common.
but i only like him as a friend and he asked me out a couple days ago...how
can i tell him without hurting his feelings?
...Then there's guy 2,he's my friend, a player, and oh my gosh he is so sexy! We also have a lot in common, and i know he likes me back because every time i see him, he looks me square in the eyes as if I'm the only person in the room...and we instant message each other almost EVERYDAY and it's tearing me to pieces. Can you please help me get him to show his TRUE feelings for me?
Answer Hi candace,
Honesty is the best policy in romantic relationship. If you want to reject a boy's attraction to to you it is best to acknowledge him and thank him for the compliments, BUT that, unfortunately, you cannot reciprocate your feelings towards him and that you prefer to remain friends if this is at all possible. In other words, have respect for his feelings.
My advice is that having regard to your age the boy who ,likes you, may be at risk of committing an offence if sex is involved. Try to delay any (properly protected) sexual relationship, till you are somewhat older. If you can, I suggest, that you should discuss your relationship with a non-judging adult. We all had to face these similar questions. when we were young.
Another strategy is to discuss your dilemma with as many other people as you can (young and old), and then make a decision after you have heard all the opinions. But please understand that YOU still are still responsible for the consequences of your decision.
Cheers
Jur
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Jurriaan Plesman
Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman
