I hope you can help me here a bit.
Here is my story:
I live with my bf (we've been together for over a year and have been living together for a year now) we have good relationship overall,love each other and thinking to get married one day(despite the fact that we've been fighting) recently I became extremely insecure about myself and feel like I'm acting needy at times and I know that this is such a turn off(even for me) when I see myself acting like that I feel disgusted with myself. I don't know where the insecurities came from,but I feel that they ruining my relationship. I get jealous,question him because I think he's cheating on me(and I know for a fact he's not) I check his email,phone whenever I get the chance. I know this is sooo wrong and I wanna change so bad,but don't know how.
I came from a broken family and maybe this is the reason I become like that in pretty much every relationship after awhile--i hate it!
Do you have any suggestions on how I can keep myse busy and stop obsessing about him and build my self esteem back.
Btw..we're both 25
Your answer is greatly appreciated!!!
Answer Dear Darla
Only you can bring happiness to yourself. Having a boyfriend will not make you happy, obviously it is bringing you suffering. Self-esteem is based on the concept that we are perfect just the way we are and do not need someone else to make us complete, happy, or socially acceptable. When you have fears that you are going to lose him, simply remember that you don't need him to be who you are. You can go to counseling, or get meditation tapes to help you with this. Good luck.
