AboutRavindra Expertise i am in the field of self-improvement, hypnosis, natural treatment of simple disorders etc for the past 30 years.(age 69). Retd. Engineer and well-settled in life with good coping skills
Experience have been advising students and engineers for the past 30 years in career advancement, self-care and help and troubleshooting. very successful, as per the feedback.
Organizations secretary of Carnatic Hypnotists circle.
member of NatureCure Society.
Education/Credentials Engineering, Management Degree from British institute of Management.London.
Question Sir,
I am suffering a lot from the problem of not adhering to my
plans and having a guilty feeling later. Sometimes i stick
to my plan and principles but only for a week. For eg, I
had planned to work out everyday, i did it for a week and
then suddenly stopped doing it, don't know why. I had
decided to do away with Porn, but couldn't control myself
after a week's time. Its not only regarding my habits, but
in almost all aspects of my life. If i decided to stick to
anything i'm not able to continue with it after a week or
about 10days.On the other day i had vowed myself as not to
day dream and to concentrate in class, but after some days
i was back to my day dreaming. When ever i break my Vow, i
feel guilty and i ponder as what could be the reason for
this but my mind just wouldn't find the answer. Its as if
there is force within myself thats preventing myself from
following my vows. I don't know whether this force is lack
of self control or Laziness thats doing the damage. I
really want to lead my life following a set of principles
guided by self control, but i lack in controlling myself in
almost all occasions. When i don't follow my own set of
principles this guilty feeling arises causing me to hate
myself and i become low on self esteem.
Hope i'm clear,looking forward for your advice.
Regards
Anand
Answer since i dont know your age, i cannot give you specific steps.
at an young age the mind is still formative and goes thro' phases which are illogical, indisciplined, and dissatisfied with itself.
also the mind takes the lazy route to protect itself against harsh realities of the world. looking for a reason would not help.
here are my suggestions:
no need to be too harsh on yourself, go easy and slow. choose one area of your life where you want quick improvement. in this area decide to stick to your plan. do it even if you dont feel like doing it. reward yourself for sticking to the schedule.
if you do it regularly for 21 days, it becomes your habit then and almost second nature.
then you take up another line of activity and so on. but in the meantime have fun, dont worry too much about being strict etc. you need to be mature to get all these.
