AboutJacky Tustain Expertise If you feel bad about yourself or lack confidence to do or try things I can help you with techniques that will help you overcome your current view of yourself and develop more confidence and better self esteem.
Experience I am a Life Coach that works with people who are struggling to work things out for themselves. By helping them tap their inner resources and presenting a fresh altenative viewpoint I help them reinvent or rediscover themselves.
Publications I regularly have articles published on various sites and add to my own blog.
Question I really need help increasing my self esteem.I don't like a lot of things about me. I'm a really quiet and a shy person. I think I'm unattractive for any girl to like me. I'm not strong or extremely smart. What can I do to increase my self esteem?
Answer Hi Joe,
Self esteem is all about what we believe about ourselves and as such can be flawed in a positive or negative way. The trick to feeling better about yourself is finding, focussing and believing in the good things about yourself. Low self esteem comes about when we focus on our faults or weaknesses. Healthy self esteem comes about by developing a balanced view of ourselves as we truly are.
You can start this process quite simply by watching for times when you knock yourself down verbally or persist in pointing out your flaws to yourself. These are ways you are being your own worst enemy and re-inforcing your negative views about yourself. No-one is perfect; we all have good and bad points and finding both and learning to accept ourselves as we are will move you towards a more balanced view.
Girls are not just interested in noisy, strong or super smart boys. The best relationships are founded on friendships and understanding. Being kind, considerate and a good listener will win out in the long run.
Also remember that you can change some things about yourself, if you want to get stronger start working out. You want to appear smart take an interest in lots of things and read books, learn to listen and discuss things. You want to appear more attractive, pay attention to your personal care and smile.
