Question I don't want to sound self-pitying but as this is a big problem for me I feel like I have to speak out and ask.
I'm a 15 year old girl and I'm going to be a sophomore in August. My freshman year was more than depressing; of all the girls I've come to know, I'm the ONLY one without a boyfriend. I've always been chubby (I'm 5'7"—5'8" and I weigh around 175) and I'm not even close to pretty, so I'm assuming the reason I haven't found a boyfriend this year is because I'm ugly and fat. Why else? I have never had a boy like me before (EVER) and I've been teased, ignored, made fun of, scorned and anything else negative you can possibly imagine from boys since I can remember. All my friends have found someone to be with; but I'm left in the dust. I've tried talking to boys but they act like I'm a disgusting pig. I AM ugly and I AM fat, and although I try hard to make my appearance 'better' it has done nothing. How can I compare to the thin, attractive, beautiful girls out there? My school seems to be full of them and I feel like the ugliest one there. I cry a lot because of how I feel, and I just want to find ONE boy who will like me, just to make me feel like I'm not a total failure in life and that I need to kill myself (because I HAVE thought about it in the past.)
All I'm asking for is your advice. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope you can help me get through this before I do something that I can't take back.
Jair M.
Answer Dear Jair
Stop worrying so much about boys, they are a lot of trouble. If you would look for things to do that help others, you will start feeling a lot better about yourself and probably find that boyfriend that you want so much. Volunteer your time helping people who need your help and your life will definitely change. Good luck.
