AboutJacky Tustain Expertise If you feel bad about yourself or lack confidence to do or try things I can help you with techniques that will help you overcome your current view of yourself and develop more confidence and better self esteem.
Experience I am a Life Coach that works with people who are struggling to work things out for themselves. By helping them tap their inner resources and presenting a fresh altenative viewpoint I help them reinvent or rediscover themselves.
Publications I regularly have articles published on various sites and add to my own blog.
Question My son is in the 10 grade and has began with the scholarships applications. Many questions ask mostly the same question. "Why do you think you deserve the scholarship?" My son has shattered in tears and just can't think why he deserves it. He has been very sheltered and nows very little about the world we live in. He is a piano player for ten years now and is very talented. He has won the spelling bee once. He is a straight "A" student, very respecful of others and has tryed to do his best everywhere he goes. His defects, I would say are that he can't dress himself, he can't figure out what to eat, he is shy, he does not fix his hair, he does not help around the house, he is sloppy. I would say he is confused about his own talens and thinks that I tell him he is very tallened because I am his mother. What can you tell me?
Answer Hi,
If your son struggles with his self esteem then he needs to work on learning to accept himself. It is difficult to give you advise to give to him as I do not know what is causing his low belief in himself. Check out my website for some information about boosting self esteem at www.becandolifecoaching.com and this may give you some ideas as you know him better.
To tackle the issue of the scholarship applications ask him what is worrying him. There will be an underlying cause. Perhaps he is worried that if he doesn't get in you will be disappointed or angry. Maybe he does not feel that he deserves to get in. The main thing is that you try to listen to him, assuming he will open up to you as 15 is a difficult age!
By using the word 'deserve' it implies that the scholarship is a reward. Get him to think about why they should choose him instead of him 'deserving' it. Then you will have the opportunity to discuss that he is a hard worker and will do his best, taking away the focus on him possibly feeling he is not good enough. The form is looking to see what he is willing to give if he is given a place. He does not have to be perfect, the college wants to be sure that he will make the most of the opportunity. By considering it from that angle he should find it easier to complete.
