Question What is self esteem? what are the main causes of low self esteem?
I'm not too fat, average. got decent looks, not ugly either. My issues related to low self esteem are not related to mtg body, but my mind. My skills. My brain power. I'm not sure if I can change that.
I completed my mechanical engineering and joined family business. In a way, I'm te owner of a large organization. But in me, I fear, that I am not capable of doing the job - of leading people. I don't want to do an Mba, cuz I feel, practical learning is better the textbook learning. But I don't know how to learn practically. I can learn about machines, manufacturing etc. But I can't learn finance, or accounts, or leadership etc.
This makes me depressed almost every 2-3 weeks, and then I procastinate a lot. Which further causes more depression.
So I am just wondering, is there a cure to get out of this vicious cycle? I like machines, I don't know anything about finance etc. And my cousins are picking up fast. Cuz they did an Mba. I did engineering. Even if I agree, that I made a mistake in my career, I can't change anything now.
I have to learn practically from people. But I'm not a peopl's person. Do you see how this is going? Even if I decide to go for an Mba, I can't go, too complicated to explain here.
How to talk to people and learn from them. They take me as an owners son. I take them as my teachers. I have failed to get their respect, and my dad is sick worrying about me. He doesn't know how to train me. I dont know how to communicate with him. After spending 10. Yrs away from him, I got this huge space between us. We hardly communicate. I feel so lost right now. Don't know how to start, and where to start. Just want to get out of this situation.
Should I do an Mba? If not, what would be the right way to go about?
Answer Dear Rohit
Getting an MBA won't raise your self esteem or make you closer to your Dad. Low self esteem comes from comparing yourself to other people and deciding that you are less than they are. This makes you wish that your life was different somehow, and that is the main cause of suffering and misery. You are perfect just the way you are. Allow things to happen, do the best you can, and you will achieve everything you are meant to achieve. You can't avoid your destiny. You don't make people follow you, you become a leader by being confident and accepting life and people as they are without judgment or criticism. Being you is enough. Good luck.
