AboutDom Cal Expertise I can answer questions about self-esteem and give advice about self-esteem concerns you might have. I've gone through some major self-esteem issues, so I'll try to relate to each situation as best I can. I'm here to give advice and be a friend to anyone who needs it, my mailbox is always open!
Experience I have gone through self-esteem issues before, but I have overcome them and am now much more confident in myself. I can do the research needed for each question; I have a vast number of resources at my disposal. I am confident in my ability to encourage people to work toward stronger self-confidence.
Publications Published short story in My Mom is My Hero.
Education/Credentials Majoring in Applied Networking and Systems Administration, in pursuit of a Bachelor's Degree.
Question I'm a 16 year old guy going into his junior year. I need help on how to boost my self esteem. I'm a really shy person and I don't have any close friends. I never get to hangout with people or anything like that. When I do make friends they don't ever contact me or anything. When I do try to message them they never reply. I'm really bad when it comes to talking to girls I like. I never can get a conversation with them. How can I boost my self esteem?
Answer Johhny,
I was in the same boat you're in at your age. I found that the most important thing is to not worry about what people think of you. That was my problem with meeting girls, I always kept thinking they would find something wrong with me, but after I stopped focusing on the negatives, and just acted like myself and opened up it was a lot easier and took a lot of pressure off of meeting people. Another thing you could look into doing is trying to completely relax yourself and trying to carry that relaxing feeling with you when meeting new people. There's nothing you can do about the people who decide not to get back to you, so don't worry about them, it's their loss.
Try to join clubs or organizations, or maybe even a sports team, and get yourself out there with a group of people. When joining a club or organization it might start out slowly, but I've found that often enough the people in the club will want to get to know the new members, and from there stronger ties can be made, hopefully leading to friendships outside of the club. Another great way to meet new people is to volunteer for local charities or events. I've also used this approach in my life, and I've found that people in these organizations are very approachable and very thankful for the help you've given them; in a couple instances I've met lifelong friends through volunteer work that I have been involved in.
There's a few suggestions, but there are other ways you can go about increasing self-esteem and meeting new people. The main things to keep in mind are to just be yourself and not care what other people think of you, since they will probably end up liking you for you once they get to know you. With meeting new friends and talking to girls--it helps to get involved in things outside of the classroom, since those are the people you'll probably remain close with.
I hope I was of help, and feel free to ask me any more questions you have.
