Increasing Self-Esteem/im ugly?

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Expert: Dom Cal - 9/5/2009


Question

me
hi,why do people call me ugly im only a 12 year old girl and people call me a boy with 'stache' or they call me gay all i want is an honest oppinion i want to feel better about myself i hate myself 'cuz people call me ugly it makes me cry to sleep

Answer
Aminah,

You are not ugly, people can be cruel at your age and say mean things just to put you down, but that doesn't mean that they are true.  In most cases the people saying these things are most likely jealous of you in any number of different ways, and use these insults to make themselves feel better.  I know it's a hard thing to do, but you can't let these insults get to you, the only person who matters in this is you, and how you feel about yourself; don't let the things that other people say about you affect how you feel.  From looking at your picture, it seems to me that many girls would kill for your hair, and I don't know where they got this idea of a "stache" from.

When people say these things they are just trying to hurt you for some reason, they're not saying it because it is true, and you must keep that in mind when dealing with this.

Thank you for the question, and sorry for the late response, I have been extremely busy the last couple of weeks.

Thanks, hope I could help!

-Dom

Dom Cal

Expertise

I can answer questions about self-esteem and give advice about self-esteem concerns you might have. I've gone through some major self-esteem issues, so I'll try to relate to each situation as best I can. I'm here to give advice and be a friend to anyone who needs it, my mailbox is always open!

Experience

I have gone through self-esteem issues before, but I have overcome them and am now much more confident in myself. I can do the research needed for each question; I have a vast number of resources at my disposal. I am confident in my ability to encourage people to work toward stronger self-confidence.

Publications
Published short story in My Mom is My Hero.

Education/Credentials
Majoring in Applied Networking and Systems Administration, in pursuit of a Bachelor's Degree.

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