AboutJacky Tustain Expertise If you feel bad about yourself or lack confidence to do or try things I can help you with techniques that will help you overcome your current view of yourself and develop more confidence and better self esteem.
Experience I am a Life Coach that works with people who are struggling to work things out for themselves. By helping them tap their inner resources and presenting a fresh altenative viewpoint I help them reinvent or rediscover themselves.
Publications I regularly have articles published on various sites and add to my own blog.
Question I'm 16 years old and a junior in high school and I have very low self esteem. I don't have that many friends, I am quiet and shy too. I'm not funny or anything like that. I'm not muscular or really that strong. I'm not attractive at all either. No one really wants to talk to me, or keep in touch with me if they have my cell number. I don't know why that is, sometimes I think it is because I'm part black and all those stereotypes about blacks being violent, players, and many more. What can I do to get better self esteem.
Answer Hi Jimmy,
Overcoming your shyness will help you a lot. It actually takes quite a bit of effort making and keeping friends. People can be busy or pre-occupied either with themselves or their lives and don't intentionally ignore or neglect others (which is exactly why I have taken a few days to answer this ;) ). If you can try to push yourself forward a little, make conversation, ask people about themselves (people love to talk about themselves!) and be a good and thoughtful listener you may be pleasantly surprised to discover you start to build friendships.
The other thing you need to be aware of is that you need to start being kinder to yourself. You need to understand that low self esteem is something you are insisting on putting on yourself. It is an overriding imbalanced view you have of yourself. The good thing is that you have an awareness of it, so now you need to work on letting yourself know that you are being pretty mean to yourself and it is time to start treating yourself better.
The part black thing - not relevant - let people see who Jimmy is - not what Jimmy is.
