Increasing Self-Esteem/How can I help my fiance

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Okay, I'm 22, and I am a dance teacher. My fiance, Robert, is 25. He is from Sweden and he moved here with his parents when he was 18. We met at college and immediately hit it off and started dating. We moved in together when I was 20 and we got engaged 3 months ago, and I'm so excited to marry my best friend. He is sweet and kind and he makes me laugh, but he has some problems with anxiety and depression. He's a graphic designer, so he works from home. Sometimes he is just fine, and he likes to go out and be social, but he'll have these days where he doesn't want to leave home because he is so depressed and anxious. It usually lasts about a week where he'll sort of hibernate and won't go anywhere. I know that a lot of his anxiety stems from how he talks. He has a thick Swedish accent and is very self conscious about it. He's easy to understand; he just says a few words wrong or forgets a word sometimes. In private or with friends, he isn’t afraid to mess up the pronunciation of a word or say “what’s that word again?” but in public, he gets nervous. I can see the gears turning in his head every time he has to talk to a stranger, trying to think out the words and how to say them, and I can tell he's nervous. He says that he’s afraid that people will think that he’s stupid. It’s sad to me, because I love how he talks; I love that about him. It doesn't make him sound stupid at all, but he's so worried all the time. I don’t know how to help him get over this. What can I do? Or how can he help himself?

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Hello Adriana,
Depression is not so much a “mental” disorder as it is physical and biochemical disorder, that fortunately can be treated by means of a change in diet Most people with depression ion suffer from hypoglycaemia (http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2011/what-is-hypoglycemia/). This interferes with the production of biological energy necessary inn the production of feel-good neurotransmitters such as serotonin.


Thus the adoption of the hypoglycemic diet (http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2011/the-hypoglycemic-diet/) should be able to overcome the problem.  When you suffer from a metabolic disorder affecting your feelings, it is natural to have a low self-esteem.Once the physical illness has been treated his self-image will improve by itself. Please read:

Depression is a Nutritional Disorder
  http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2011/depression-a-nutritional-disorder/

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Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutrition
Editor of the Hypoglycemic Association of Australia
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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist

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I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition. I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”. I am also the ex-editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems. Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at: http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au

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Depression, Anxiety Attacks and Self-Esteem Problems, Drug Addiction and Alcoholism, Gambling, as well as the whole gamut of personality disorders.

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Author of the book "Getting off the Hook". It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. My articles can be found at: https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1M3x0ciu21Q8-KJO3tcIuxE-Mn97OIxCKzuhHDY8umrU#id.m9k24s-yjf9sc

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BA (Psych) (University of Sydney), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr (International Academy of Nutrition)

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