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QUESTION: Hi

I wanted to ask you,I returned to College as a mature student of 35. And it's my 2nd year in the College, at the beginning of this year. I think because it was all new and different in that,had new subjects and meeting new people in my class. My confidence was very high in being excited delighted to be back to the College. Three friends from last year also came back to do a second year. As the year went on one by one of my friends from last year left the course. Have now got to know others but it's not really the same. I think when they left my sense of security left also. Put particularly with one friend of the three we got on really well. She brought out of me who I am, felt comfortable having her around. Felt confident to express myself, this confidence  had be more comfortable to speak out in class. To speak to others in class because I felt good within. A guy I like in the class at that time, when I was in a good positive confident mind. Really liking be back to, I had no issue with making an effort to make conversation with him. As the year went on class {assignments} subjects kinda put a dampner on, the enjoying being back feeling. And family matters kinda sucked the energy out me, also.So keeping up my feeling good confidence dropped. The guy I like and I think likes me notices I think, me not being so chatty.And in turn hesitates to talk to me, for me to be talking with him like I was at the beginning, it's not happening a lot. With my positive confidence enjoying college is gone, would like to have it back. The confidence state, because it helped me so much to be around the guy I really like, to get back feeling of ease talking with him. He's chatting to every other girl but and its because I'm not very open confident as I once was, it makes him uncomfortable to talk to me.  Thanks for your help ! What can I do?

ANSWER: Hi Julie-Ann,

This must be very difficult for you. It is not always what goes on in your environment or in your mind, that could cause you to lose confident in yourself. It may be that something is going on in your gut that interferes with the production of feel-good neurotransmitters and hormones. The most common illness that can cause you to feel insecure is hypoglycemia (http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2011/what-is-hypoglycemia/)

This can be treated by going on a hypoglycemic diet (http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2011/the-hypoglycemic-diet/)

This is mainly because hypoglycemia triggers the release of excess stress hormones, that function to convert sugar stores in your body (glycogen) into glucose, whenever the brain is deprived of glucose. This happens in pre-diabetic insulin resistance. Because you have no conscious control over your stress hormones, it will affect your self-image. You can test yourself for hypoglycemia by

Testing for Hypoglycemia,
  http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2012/self-help-website-for-personal-growth/#Testi

See:

Treatment of a Low Self Esteem
  http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/2012/treatment-of-a-low-self-esteem/

Discuss with your doctor if you wish. Let me know how you go?

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Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutrition
Editor of the Hypoglycemic Association of Australia
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
List of my articles: https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1M3x0ciu21Q8-KJO3tcIuxE-Mn97OIxCKzuhHDY8umrU#id.m9k24s-yjf9sc
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QUESTION: Thanks so much for your email, its funny how you went into a dieting related  issue. I do have meals but maybe not enough, have dropped weight to 71/2 stone usually 8 but should be more. So would my weight contribute to my self esteem,In that my mood level drops,due to lack of vitamins etc..?

I have also had days, where I'd be emotional as in crying. And its not due to my monthly cycle. I do have things in my life going on, but it seems I'm  feeling more sensitive to them. So I have been trying to eat a bite more & drinking more water. Also I picked up vitamins from the chemist, I thought my iron {I am anemic} in take was low & the lack of not eating enough could be the cause of my low negative mood.
The vitamin tables are a box of Vitamin B6, B vitamins, Vitamin C & Selenium, Zinc. There not separate in the box, there those all in one kinda tables. Do you benefit from those tablets that are all in one, as you would to have all those vitamin tables being separate? Thank you !

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Hi Julie Ann,

It is not so much as taking single vitamins although necessary, but the hypoglycemic diet as explained before.  Also, look up
Index at: Index of Specific Topics at:
  https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1sKYIT2wfJquvtHQNuCGRp78eeuOFE915cw9-cWhCVLw

and then look for hypoglycemia or diabetes and obesity for more information.

___________________________________________________
Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutrition
Editor of the Hypoglycemic Association of Australia
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
List of my articles: https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1M3x0ciu21Q8-KJO3tcIuxE-Mn97OIxCKzuhHDY8umrU#id.m9k24s-yjf9sc
Skype:jurplesman
Also at Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183150461841144/

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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist

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I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition. I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”. I am also the ex-editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems. Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at: http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au

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Depression, Anxiety Attacks and Self-Esteem Problems, Drug Addiction and Alcoholism, Gambling, as well as the whole gamut of personality disorders.

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Author of the book "Getting off the Hook". It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. My articles can be found at: https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1M3x0ciu21Q8-KJO3tcIuxE-Mn97OIxCKzuhHDY8umrU#id.m9k24s-yjf9sc

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BA (Psych) (University of Sydney), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr (International Academy of Nutrition)

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