AboutJurriaan Plesman Expertise I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Post Graduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition. I have had many years of counselling people with a variety of emotional problems, such as Depression, Anxiety Attacks and Self-Esteem Problems, Drug Addiction and Alcoholism, Gambling, as well as the whole gamut of personality disorders.
I am also the editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia. It web site, with a self-help course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited free of charge at:
http://hypoglycemia.asn.au
Degrees & Certifications:
BA (Psychology) Sydney University and Post Grad Dipl Clin Nutr
Experience Depression, Anxiety Attacks and Self-Esteem Problems, Drug Addiction and Alcoholism, Gambling, as well as the whole gamut of personality disorders.
Publications Author of the book "Getting off the Hook". It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
Expert: Jurriaan Plesman Date: 12/23/2007 Subject: Self Esteem and Boundaries
Question I think I have low self esteem issues in relationships with the opposite sex. I
am currently building a close friendship with someone who has his own
issues about his failed marriage; we were talking about spending Christmas
together a few days ago when a family crisis meant he had to rush off. He
only sent a text saying that he would have to look after his mother for the
next few days. It is Christmas Eve tomorrow and I have heard nothing from
him and I am feeling annoyed. I don't want to contact him to ask if he is
coming or not but at the same time feel really awful inside and difficult to
concentrate on my own life...I know I should pull myself together and just
face having Christmas on my own. I feel it is a lack of respect for me and I
should just tell him it's too late if he rings about Christmas.
Answer Dear Susanne,
It is difficult to say what's going on. Take it one day at a time. It is up to him to arrange to see you. Why couldn't he have taken you along to his mother?
People with a negative self-image can be manipulated. Read my book starting at page 36.
IF you improve your self-esteem , you set the conditions an d terms and not the other way around.
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Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr
Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
