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| Subject | Date Asked |
| low self esteem | 1/11/2012 |
| Q: I am a 29 years old Indian married woman. Recently, I have realized that my basic problem is low ... A: now it is scientifically proved that we can rewrite our brain functions. analyzing the past is a ... | |
| Inferiority Complex | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: I'm a south Indian. I'm having a dark complexion, looking very lean. My friends tell me that I'm ... A: ok. i have read your account and here's my reply: with the present advancement in the neurosciene, ... | |
| Suffeting depression and low self-esteem at work! | 2/4/2011 |
| Q: Ravindra, This note may seem a little long winded and vague, but it explains why I am depressed and ... A: what is your age? certain aspects of life keep bothering us at times. there is nothing seriously ... | |
| mom age 84 me age 55 | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: Am I projecting and worrying for nothing -mom is in her 80's and I am in my late 50'sAm I projecting ... A: this is not the forum to discuss such things in detail and find full fledged solutions. it is not ... | |
| mom age 84 me age 55 | 12/22/2010 |
| Q: Am I projecting and worrying for nothing -mom is in her 80's and I am in my late 50'sAm I projecting ... A: it is always tricky to take care of elders and that too ones with short temper. it is a testing time ... | |
| self esteem | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: I am a 55 year old female in the nursing profession. My problem is I have a hard time saying no, or ... A: these are my suggestions: 1)re: your daughters: let them advice, there is nothing wrong in reversal ... | |
| i've lost interest | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: hey am Dhitika .. am 15.. n the past few yrs I've realized that I've probably lost interest in ... A: the teen years there are hormonal changes and many youngsters go thro' periods of self-doubt, ... | |
| Low Self Esteem and no confidence in myself | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: I am an indian who came to the US in fall 2009 to study masters in Computer Science from Caltech. I ... A: ok, i understand how you feel. but my suggestion is get your priorities right. you are there to ... | |
| I'm feeling self conscious about my ears | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I knew since I was little that I was born with 2 different shaped ears. My self esteem has always ... A: self-esteem does not depend on external factors. it is solely on one's faith in oneself regardless ... | |
| My nephews one 19 and one 26 and I am 55 but I am upset at their remark | 7/7/2010 |
| Q: When my mom and I went over to give my nephew (her grandson) his birthday presents on his birthday I ... A: got the picture. It is your life and you are free to select anything, repeat ANYTHING, provided you ... | |
| -___- | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: am Dhitika from india.. um.. my problem is very silly! i've tried finding methods to get rid of my ... A: to learn the bicycle at your age is no big problem. find a bicycle of smaller height 2" less than ... | |
| Requiring help with low self esteem and self confidence | 4/17/2010 |
| Q: basically here`s the jist of it. I`m a 2nd year college student and I haven`t talked to a lot of my ... A: to make friends: 1)believe in yourself. you are of this world and made by the greatest craftsman(GOD ... | |
| help me | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: i m 22 year old girl. my problem is i am very fat... like i am around 5 feet tall & weigh 74 kgs... ... A: there is no need to be so despondent. yes, you have a weight problem and that need not turn to a ... | |
| If you are insecure about something how do you feel secure about it | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: If you are insecure about something how do you feel secure about it Any one have pointers on how ... A: now that makes a difference. and i believe you have arrived at the right age to get the correct ... | |
| If you are insecure about something how do you feel secure about it | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: If you are insecure about something how do you feel secure about it Any one have pointers on how ... A: first you have not told me your age so cannot give specific advice. also your question is not ... | |
| Phenomena | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: I want to know the this phenomena interpretation and reason where it is ( joying of thinking , ... A: first, your english expressions do not clarify things for me. i also do not know your age. this ... | |
| depression suicide | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: My life at my house is more or less hell for me. I am 18 years of age but I am already screwed up. I ... A: nothing wrong with you except that you are Severely DEPRESSED. in your case, you need HELP from a ... | |
| No self esteem at all. | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: I don't want to sound self-pitying but as this is a big problem for me I feel like I have to speak ... A: at your age, this is not a major issue. life is for the long haul and not a few tricks and appear ... | |
| Guilty Feeling | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: Sir, I am suffering a lot from the problem of not adhering to my plans and having a guilty feeling ... A: Whatever i told you earlier still holds good. here's a viewpoint now our brains have different ... | |
| Guilty Feeling | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: Sir, I am suffering a lot from the problem of not adhering to my plans and having a guilty feeling ... A: since i dont know your age, i cannot give you specific steps. at an young age the mind is still ... | |
| eating disorder/low self esteem | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if starving yourself is considered an eating disorder. I have only gone four days ... A: you haven't revealed your age! anyway, self esteem is the only problem here. going 4 days on a fast ... | |
| I have wierd personality, please advice me about it. | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: I need some advice about my half human half machine sort of personality . The James bond sort of ... A: the mere fact that you are able to analyze your emotions or lack of it shows that your mind is NOT ... | |
| do boys like tomboys or girly girls more? | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: hey... i'm a 13 year old girl and i have a question about whether boys like tomboys or girly girls ... A: hold on my dear, you are just 13 and there is plenty of life left. Having dates with boys is not ... | |
| Need help increasing my social network | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: In theory, I would expect myself to have a number of friends. I’ve been shy most of my life and ... A: how old are you? because at an young age, all persons are not endowed with the skill reqd to make ... | |
| problem | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: i feel very bad about the way i look(even if it isn't true or not). Can i send a picture to you to ... A: GOD made you, right? there is some purpose unknown to you. i have a large number of friends who ... | |
| anxiety,depression,guilt | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: I think i am having a problem with determination,and proposing what to do.I can not propose,and be ... A: i understand your problem. first, the mere fact that you want to change yourself is a good sign. at ... | |
| my mom age 82, and I am age 53 | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: You see the reason that I get like this is because I keep wondering what my mom is thinking if I ... A: when i say it is your fault, you need not blame yourself. it is only to indicate the source of the ... | |
| my mom age 82, and I am age 53 | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: You see the reason that I get like this is because I keep wondering what my mom is thinking if I ... A: you need to change your perspective. your reactions need not be based on others' remarks,actions ... | |
| chatting | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: My 15 years old boy uses to be till 3 am chatting in Internet and I am afraid to get involve in a ... A: there are 2 options, depending upon his intelligence and behaviour. if he is smart let him learn the ... | |
| Self-Confidence Problem | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 years old. I have realized that I have very low self-confidence. That affects me in ... A: i can understand how you feel; the stranglehold of one's own mind is suffocating and does not allow ... | |
| Should I just give up? | 10/9/2008 |
| Q: I’m a 14 year old girl who just finished my first quarter of high school. The first nine weeks were ... A: at your age, it is quite natural to feel others may be more attractive and one is not having enough ... | |
| care what people think of me | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: my name is joey im 32 and i goto hairstyling school and i always wonder if people like me that day. ... A: there is one thing that you should ALWAYS keep in mind. Your feeling bad when people give you a ... | |
| My Body | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I'm a girl and I'm 13 years old and I hate my body! I'm really skinny and my boobs and butt are very ... A: 1) for 13, you are too early for this game. wait, life isn't going to runaway. there are plenty of ... | |
| My self-esteem | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I know this probably sounds like ranting but I really need some help because I feel helpless…I am ... A: first, at your age it is normal to feel doubts, unloved, and end up feeling bad. it has something ... | |
| i am sorry | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: i had a stupid fight with my friend. she wanted to go for shopping and i really wasnt feeling like ... A: if you are 15 then just take the pressure off on yourself. it is perfectly ok to miss the ... | |
| hey | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: i had a stupid fight with my friend. she wanted to go for shopping and i really wasnt feeling like ... A: yours is a very interesting question. first i dont know your age so it is a bit difficult to give ... | |
| Self Hypnosis | 8/24/2008 |
| Q: Does self hypnosis work for helping yourself stay motivated to work out and eat healthy? Any ... A: almost everything about ourselves is a result of self hypnosis. It my come under the banner of ... | |
| sad | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: well I am just going into 8th grade and i see that all the other girls have breast and are all ... A: increasing self esteem will not increase breast size. It gives you a perspective that you are OK ... | |
| Insecure | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: I have confidence with people I can trust around me but by mouse I am like a mouse caught by 2 ... A: you have not asked any question ! at your age it may be common to feel insecure for different ... | |
| how do i not ruin a good relationship? | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you can please help me. Ive been in many relationships over the years, a lot ... A: *self esteem is only one of the links of a relationship. * also i do not know your age to determine ... | |
| help ! | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I never used to think about the stuff that i have been ignored,disrespected or insulted by anybody ... A: first, i don't know your age. you have already been thinking of awareness, esteem etc for some ... | |
| Anxious and stressed out | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: My folks keep telling that I'm not studying for my CA inter exams and their lack of trust in me is ... A: you have given me the background of your problem but have not asked a specific question. also no ... | |
| i hate me | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: i hate being around people, i hate being seen, i don't feel comfortable around nobody not even my ... A: your breaking of mirrors indicates that you are unable to bail out yourself from these concepts ... | |
| Self-Esteem issues | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old male and I have a self-esteem issue, I have gotten a lot of sh*t because of how ... A: i understand your problem. The world is famous for its diversity. some are black, some fair, some ... | |
| Down and out with someone new | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: I recently started dating a long time friend of mine, after ending a 6 year relationship with ... A: to change how you feel about yourself... the only option available to you regardless of ... | |
| How do i raise my self esteem | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: well im 14 female and i have had problems with my selfesteem ever since 7th grade. its gotten better ... A: at 14, you need not consider this a problem at all. for your age you are aware of subtler ... | |
| swallowing | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: When I was in grade 12, we always went to church on sunday. It was half an hour trip and I would ... A: what is your present age? Ok this has some roots in lack of self esteem but that is not the way to ... | |
| self help | 7/31/2007 |
| Q: Im 22, and I just graduated college, with a BS in chemical biology, and i got about a 2.5 gpa. That ... A: well, why does one not do things knowing that it would be worthwhile? 1) Immediate discomfort ... | |
| Trusting | 7/22/2007 |
| Q: i am well educated in the mental world, i use to be a expert on this site for 4yrs.. Here;s my ... A: here your question focuses on your feelings due to the actions of others. Yes, this is a good place ... | |
| eating | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: I can't stop eating and I think it's because I'm stressed about school. When I stay at home, I keep ... A: you have not told me your age. sometimes, at some age, persons start on an eating binge but it goes ... | |
| im an ugly whore | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: im really ugly and i have freckles and no one likes me. i think im so popular when really im a fake ... A: The beginning of self-esteem, is how you normally refer to yourself. if you constantly think that ... | |
| please help | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: I was normally a really carefree girl until recently, where i have been getting really negative ... A: between 15 to 18 yrs, one is likely to be over sensitive and feel hurt for small things too. this is ... | |
| Issues with women | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: I am quite a confident person at workplace and related activities. But i have problems mingling with ... A: i do not know your age and the country you are in. these things come into the equation. basically ... | |
| fs | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: hey, im 16 years old and i have very low self-esteem i am fat and put myself down for that everyday ... A: 1)you are at sweet 16 so don't worry if you are fat. There are millions who consider fat is ... | |
| shyness | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: my problem is when ever i get around my boyfriends friends I don't know what to say to them, I get ... A: God made people differently, some are smart, some dumb, some bold and some shy and so on. basically ... | |
| hey | 10/31/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been on a break for a couple of weeks now... last night we talked and she ... A: this has nothing to do with self esteem. my observation here is: In life do not force things. let ... | |
| self-esteem | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: I previously had some issues... You answered my question here ... A: okay here is an article for you to study; When we walk to the edge of all the light we have and take ... | |
| help | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going ... A: just be supportive and do not intrude into her plans unless she asks. Has she asked you for any help ... | |
| making friends/habits/self help | 10/22/2006 |
| Q: I've been having issues. Both with myself and with others. Its been going on for years, and now ... A: i offer these suggestions. it is natural to look for approval and recognition but not compeltely ... | |
| Need help improving self and social skills | 10/19/2006 |
| Q: I've always considered myself a sensitive person, but I wanted help on not taking everything so ... A: you haven't told me your age and how long you have been feeling bad. anyway my suggestions are as ... | |
| Self Esteem Self Image | 8/10/2006 |
| Q: I just turned 20.. And I have been dealing with some problems since I first began dating. My first ... A: there is one fact of life that you need to understand. There is no such thing as TRUTH out there ... | |
| Pain in Limbic System | 7/23/2006 |
| Q: This is Vipul Patel from India.. i hope you are also an Indian because your name is Ravindra.. by ... A: vipul, the presence of pain means that your body is trying to tell you something. having depression ... | |
| help | 12/8/2005 |
| Q: I am a mid-teen girl. I am going through tough times with my image. I have zero confidence. This ... A: here are some thoughts for you: How do we get self-confidence? WHAT IS SELF-CONFIDENCE? ... | |
| shyness | 10/27/2005 |
| Q: I am shy and people either think i'm boring or mean which i'm not i've told that a lot but i would ... A: HOW TO ATTRACT TERRIFIC PEOPLE - written by Mike Moore ** ... | |
| Please help... | 7/30/2005 |
| Q: I am 18 yrs old and expecting a child by the end of August the father has left me, he is in ... A: Tips for Happiness in Daily Life By Remez Sasson Daily life can be made happier. It is a matter ... | |
| Comparing Myself | 7/27/2005 |
| Q: I am 15, a female, and a high school student. I am on a dance team and I have a lot of fun. ... A: Self-esteem versus Self-acceptance A common misconception is that a person's competence is ... | |
| How do i get more self esteem... | 6/21/2005 |
| Q: How do i get more self esteem when talking to people? A: Successfully Meeting And Greeting - Ten Strategies For Getting Off To A Good Start ~~~~~~~ A day ... | |
| Taking things too seriously | 6/12/2005 |
| Q: I have a big problem taking things too seriously and personally. I always have to some extent, even ... A: by reading your letter, the emphasis of the question is not clear. is it relationship or your job ... | |
| help | 6/7/2005 |
| Q: I am 45 years old and am truly suffering. I've been married since 1985 to my college sweetheart and ... A: the trouble with depression is , it is partly physical and partly mental. you need to work on both ... | |
| This problem | 5/24/2005 |
| Q: 19,Male,Banker. My problem is,and im unsure if you will be able to help me, that i recently saw a ... A: your reaction, at your age is normal and i feel the capacity to visualize someone else in your ... | |
| Confidence | 1/2/2005 |
| Q: I tend to be a pretty out going person. I wasn't always, I actually used to be very, very shy (to ... A: a human being is a mixture of many characteristics, including opposites. a person is not 100 % ... | |
| Shy in College | 11/17/2004 |
| Q: I'm an 18 yr old male freshman in college. When I was younger I used to be the most outgoing and ... A: at your age, it is quite common to feel lack of skills in making friends and keep the conversation ... | |
| Fear | 10/23/2004 |
| Q: I have problem. The problem is “I have the guts to say something to another person. But when I get ... A: first i do not know your age, the words in your letter, surprise me; gang, guts,enemy,scold. you ... | |
| speech | 9/30/2004 |
| Q: When I speak alone to a micro-recorder I sound ok but when I have to speak to a group of people or ... A: public speaking comes with practice and the know-how. the best way is to join a group for learning ... | |
| speech | 9/30/2004 |
| Q: When I speak alone to a micro-recorder I sound ok but when I have to speak to a group of people or ... A: public speaking comes with practice and the know-how. the best way is to join a group for learning ... | |
| scared of living in case i die | 7/15/2004 |
| Q: - dear-Ranindra- could you name a few excercise that you think would help im really interested in ... A: 1) for exercises, visit about.com or ivillage.com or yoga for different options. in the meantime ... | |
| scared of living in case i die | 7/13/2004 |
| Q: ..may i ask another question?...do you believe we are spiritual beings having a human ... A: as i had told you before, EVERYTHING, repeat EVERYTHING is created by your mind. even the physical ... | |
| scared of living in case i die | 7/12/2004 |
| Q: im a 50 year old lady from qld who suffers frompanic and anxiety ive had this disorder since i was ... A: reading your letter prompts me to say, FIRST: Recognize that EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD THAT HAPPENS ... | |
| Best advice from your topic of expertise | 4/10/2004 |
| Q: I'm doing a personal research project on intelligence, genius and peak performance. I was ... A: your question is a bit complex to answer in such a short period. considering that intelligence of ... | |
| eating disorder | 3/11/2004 |
| Q: I am a 42 year old female and I have a problem with food. I am an emotional eater and I don't know ... A: you may require a multi-pronged approach. *basically an exercise routine that is regular and graded. ... | |
| hi I am hassan: first... | 3/8/2004 |
| Q: first i like to thank for reading this.My self esteem is very low and nothing i can do about it.I ... A: the trouble with self-esteem is the waiting for others to give a positive feedback. you say that you ... | |
| heart domination | 3/1/2004 |
| Q: 20 years .. had this problem started when i was in 13how can i dominate and rule my heart? when i ... A: this is quite a common occurrence in young persons. but since you are twenty and have it for over 6 ... | |
| mental health | 11/30/2003 |
| Q: I want to sleep but cannot, Tons of thoughts comes in my mind and I am unable to stop them, I want ... A: there is one fact that you need to tell yourself that sleep is a biological phenomenon and not a ... | |
Increasing Self-Esteem
Answers by Expert:
Ravindra
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
i am in the field of self-improvement, hypnosis, natural treatment of simple disorders etc for the past 30 years.(age 69). Retd. Engineer and well-settled in life with good coping skills
Experience
have been advising students and engineers for the past 30 years in career advancement, self-care and help and troubleshooting. very successful, as per the feedback.
Organizations
secretary of Carnatic Hypnotists circle.
member of NatureCure Society.
Advanced Pranic Healer
Education/Credentials
Engineering, Management Degree from British institute of Management.London.
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