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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Is Lowering Your Self-Esteem bad? | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: I was wondering if i was doing the right thing in lowering my self esteem a little. I only do this ... A: There is a difference between self-esteem, which is good, and snobbery and arrogance, which is bad. ... | |
| I'm always doubting myself. How can I fix this? | 12/9/2011 |
| Q: There’s this guy that I just met a few days ago that I really like, and there’s a strong possibility ... A: You are right on the cusp of making a very big discovery about life. One of the most important rules ... | |
| When I standed in front of the TV Camera | 12/6/2011 |
| Q: Firstly, I am a university student studying Architecture which makes me tend to be alone a lot of ... A: I don't think you have low self-esteem at all. Your career path and desires to succeed are evidence ... | |
| No confidence! | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: when i was younger i was always very shy but i started dancing and became quite confident. Now years ... A: Usually your condition is a signal that you care too much about how other people think of you. How ... | |
| How to accept being ugly? | 9/19/2011 |
| Q: I'm a bit of a reverse ugly duckling, I used to be beautiful as a child, but by the age of ten, I ... A: Everyone is beautiful. When we worry about what anyone else thinks, we suffer. That girl was the ... | |
| Self-esteem issues | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: My name is Dee, and I'm a 17-year old girl. I have a lot of issues that I've had trouble with for ... A: I think you miss the point of the story. Almost every adolescent thinks they are ugly and fat and ... | |
| How to be yourself when you dont know who yourself is yet? | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: I cant thank you enough. Well im a pretty homebound kind of guy, ive only just started to try and ... A: Well, the good/bad news is you feel exactly like every other 18 year old. If you want to increase ... | |
| suicide depressioin | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: ok. I am 20 years old. My homelife is hell. I am made fun of for everything. Mostly because I am fat ... A: You have to change the way you perceive yourself. Always remember the story of the ugly duckling who ... | |
| self esteem/self confidence | 6/17/2010 |
| Q: Just wanted to ask for your help. Basically im not sure if its a low confidence, or low self esteem ... A: The solution to fear and intimidation is to go help other people. Volunteer at food kitchens, old ... | |
| Need help with self esteem and confidence problems | 4/17/2010 |
| Q: basically here`s the jist of it. I`m a 2nd year college student and I haven`t talked to a lot of my ... A: The best way to gain self confidence is to go help someone less fortunate than yourself. As far as ... | |
| Increasing and help self esteem and self confidence | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: basically the story is I have low self esteem and self confidence to talk to this girl I've met in ... A: You can drop the course and wait for her outside the classroom. Low self-esteem is easily healed by ... | |
| Require more self esteem and self confidence | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I feel that I have low self esteem and low self confidence. Recently I was walking to college coming ... A: First, you have to practice gratitude. Gratitude for your life and each and every day you are on the ... | |
| more self esteem and self confidence | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: I'm in college and I always have trouble telling stories and expressing myself to female college ... A: The easiest thing to do is to talk to the girl about something that interests you. Yes, some people ... | |
| Increasing self-esteem #2 | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: I want to continue the topic from where we left off from "Increasing self-esteem". What happens if ... A: Alan Feeling good about yourself is a decision, a choice. You have to focus on the things you are ... | |
| Increasing self-esteem | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: this is my first time asking a question from an expert but I would like some help. I have troubles ... A: Well the fear comes from a fear of rejection. You already have it in your mind that she is going to ... | |
| Increasing self-esteem | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: this is my first time asking a question from an expert but I would like some help. I have troubles ... A: It sounds like you get panicked and disassociate. Some of this can be age (or lack thereof) and some ... | |
| Tear | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: "hey am Lisa 14 yr old from India. Lately i've been feeling upset, well not exactly upset just ... A: One of the most common sources of depression and low self-esteem is comparing ourselves to others. ... | |
| no body likes and i can,t help it | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: i am nealy 30 yaers old and i never ahd boyfreind i didn,t even get my first kiss.and its,t from the ... A: The best way to feel better about yourself is to help other people. Thinking that you are a victim ... | |
| How to make me like myself | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: I've recently been dumped so I guess it's normal to have low self esteem, but it always has been ... A: First of all, no one is ugly. Find the beauty within you. It is there, everyone has it, including ... | |
| Boasting of low self esteem? | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: What is self esteem? what are the main causes of low self esteem? I'm not too fat, average. got ... A: Getting an MBA won't raise your self esteem or make you closer to your Dad. Low self esteem comes ... | |
| self-esteem healing | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I have a father who thinks I am ugly (seriously, how do you think your child is ugly?) I am in my ... A: We all have parents who were wounded. That is why we are wounded. We do not have to buy into the lie ... | |
| i feel selfish. | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: i have been feeling very selfish latly. whenever i talk about myself i feel that i am. it's driving ... A: This is just a thought that is stuck in your head, like a song that keeps repeating itself and you ... | |
| NO self-esteem. | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I don't want to sound self-pitying but as this is a big problem for me I feel like I have to speak ... A: Stop worrying so much about boys, they are a lot of trouble. If you would look for things to do that ... | |
| problem | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem. I have a brother who people have is said unattractive. I am worried about looking ... A: First quit blaming your brother. He has nothing to do with your low self esteem. Second, quit being ... | |
| Disgusted with myself | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help me here a bit. Here is my story: I live with my bf (we've been together for over ... A: Only you can bring happiness to yourself. Having a boyfriend will not make you happy, obviously it ... | |
| sticking to my decisions | 12/28/2008 |
| Q: have a resolution for 2009, and I appreciate any advice that can be offered here regarding how to ... A: (1) Turn it off (2) Try to have breaks for about 5 minutes during the day every 30 minutes so you ... | |
| My self-esteem | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 14 year old freshman girl and I have very low self-esteem. I never, EVER feel attractive or ... A: It would seem that feeling ugly is one of the most common lies that we tell ourselves. Even people ... | |
| Why does it hurt to Live? | 12/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and i find it extremely difficult to be me. I find it unbearable to be around ... A: The desire that things be different is the source of all suffering. You are suffering under the ... | |
| boyfriends self-esteem | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend of 7 months is 18. I have low self-esteem but it only shows through every ... A: I would suggest that you quit trying to make him something that only age will cure. He has to grow ... | |
| rejection | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: a guy hurted me 2 yaers ago and rejectd me and he didn,t want to been with me,when he was drunk he ... A: I think you need counseling. You have to let go of all of your anger at men, at yourself for being ... | |
| Own worst enemy | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22, Female, currently a student. I am constantly undercutting myself, saying mean things about ... A: I would say that your problem is more common than you know. Many people hide their self-destructive ... | |
| Avoiding preps | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: Hey there, my name is Tegan, and I am seventeen. Ever since middle school and High school, I have ... A: Well, I suppose there are two ways to get them to stop. You can either laugh with them, or you can ... | |
| cure | 4/5/2008 |
| Q: is there any cure for depession does it ever go away. i have 3 things wrong with me. 1 depression 2 ... A: I dont' have enough space to tell you every way you can start feeling good about yourself, but you ... | |
| finding | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: i am going 27 yaers old and i have never had a boyfreind let alone my first kiss.any guy i like ... A: Well, where I come from it is the girls who do all of the asking and calling. I think it would be a ... | |
| lost & directionless | 3/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a 26 years old female. For the past few weeks I have been feeling general malaise & sickness ... A: All of this is connected. Your food intake can certainly influence your emotions, and execise is ... | |
| making freinds and maybe a girlfriend too. | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: I am 16 years old and I am a shy, quiet person, people tell me that. It is really hard for me to ... A: You are a typical 16 year old. You don't have anything to worry about. Everyone is scared poopless ... | |
| Am I pretty? | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: Well, recently I have been really upset lately. I am in 9th grade, and I feel like I am not pretty ... A: That is a great question. It really is a simple answer. You just tell yourself that you are ... | |
| lLow self esteem or depression? | 11/30/2007 |
| Q: i have low self esteem i hate being seen i stay in the house because i don't like the way i look. i ... A: It sounds to me like you are clinically depressed, which is a chemical imbalance in your brain. You ... | |
| Trouble meeting and talking to people. maybe a self-esteem issue | 11/30/2007 |
| Q: my name's eddie and I am 15 years old and am a sophomore in high school. I've been going through a ... A: First, what you are experiencing is exactly what about 30 million other 15 year olds are ... | |
| Lack Of Confidence | 6/4/2007 |
| Q: I had always been a really spunky and fun child and had lots of friends that would always want to ... A: There is a Chinese cure for acne, you put honey on your face over night, then wash it off. As far as ... | |
| im hated for how i look =( | 3/27/2007 |
| Q: im 17, caucasian and from minnesota. i hope im asking this question to the right place. heres ... A: Have you ever heard of the story of the ugly duckling? When you turn 18, I bet you are the prettiest ... | |
| my spouse has low self-esteem | 3/8/2007 |
| Q: I have not given you my real name, but I hope that is all right. I have been married for one and a ... A: Ask her what will help her feel better about herself, and then listen. Another way to ask is what ... | |
| self-esteem | 2/19/2007 |
| Q: I need your help and suggestions with these areas: 1. My biggest problem is that when I decide to ... A: There is nothing wrong with changing your mind. It sounds to me like you need some help setting ... | |
| fear of swallowing loudly | 2/19/2007 |
| Q: I've been having a lot of trouble with a fear of swallowing loudly. I am always focusing on my ... A: So why are you afraid of making noise? I would suggest that you intentionally swallow as loudly as ... | |
| please help | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old girl, in year 10 at school who has always wanted to succeed in exams, and my ... A: I think everyone one your age has feelings like you do, wanting to be popular, one of the group. ... | |
| tooooo shy | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: and im way too shy. My friends tell me all the time that im way to shy and i need to not be. I try ... A: You are putting too much pressure on yourself. Trust me, guys are not all they are cracked up to be ... | |
| self-esteem | 12/22/2006 |
| Q: I am writing regarding two problems that I have, and it is my desire to achieve these goals soon, so ... A: I think you are too hard on yourself. You do not have to believe what a few people think of you. I ... | |
| help my relationship | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: i have been dating my bf for a while and my self esteem is really low, almost to the point where i ... A: Start each morning by looking in the mirror at yourself and saying to yourself "I love you, you are ... | |
| self esteem | 11/19/2006 |
| Q: how do i boost my self esteem? A: I like to call it GAS, gratitude, attitude and Service. I would also include foregiveness and ... | |
| Shyness, Low Self-esteem | 11/4/2006 |
| Q: I am a 25 yr old guy and suffer from feeling of guilt for most of the time. Also i feel lonely, ... A: You have to realize that you are a child of God and for that reason alone should love yourself. Quit ... | |
| Girl Friend and College | 10/27/2006 |
| Q: I'm making my transition into college right now and am having a really tuff time. First of all I'm ... A: No, there is nothing wrong with going home every weekend. However, I think you are putting too much ... | |
| help | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going ... A: It sounds to me like you are doing all you can do in this situation. You have offered your support, ... | |
| me | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: I hav a problem with me,sometimes i look in the mirror and think "not so bad" but then sometimes i ... A: The ironic thing is that the "popular" kids are probably just as critical of themselves as you seem ... | |
| Crying | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: I have had low self-esteem most my life (I’m 18), but recently I have found that I can't stop myself ... A: You may be suffering from depression, either situational or chronic. I also believe that your low ... | |
| how to help a friend | 7/27/2006 |
| Q: This may sound unusual but: I am renting a spare bedroom from my 4th ex wife. I was her third ... A: Yes, I would say it is a bit unusual for a woman to have her 3rd husband who cheated on her living ... | |
| Need help | 5/8/2006 |
| Q: I am a male in his late thirties who has battled with moderately low self esteem his entire life. ... A: Self esteem has nothing to do with what you do to make money. I know hundreds of lawyers with low ... | |
| Narcissism | 3/30/2006 |
| Q: My inquiry is regarding narcissism. Where exactly does narcissism stem from? I realize that ... A: Narcissm is basically self-esteem on steroids. On a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is some one with no ... | |
Increasing Self-Esteem
Answers by Expert:
james52144@earthlink.net
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions about the cause and healing of low self-esteem
Experience
I have been a legal, emotional and spiritual counselor for 30 years
Publications
North Carolina State Bar Journal, Georgia State Bar Journal
Education/Credentials
J.D., minister of Church of Divine Intervention; Deacon of Southern Baptist Church
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