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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Is Lowering Your Self-Esteem bad? | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: I was wondering if i was doing the right thing in lowering my self esteem a little. I only do this ... A: This is a very interesting question. The best thing to do when someone compliments you is to learn ... | |
| Nervous when I have to present at school | 1/17/2012 |
| Q: How do I stop being so nervous when I have to present in front of a class? Every time I have to ... A: There are so many people who struggle with this and it is nothing to worry about. Always keep this ... | |
| Self-esteem problems | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: My name is Dee and I'm currently 17...I'm a girl but you probably couldn't tell from my name. It's ... A: I've never heard of a boy called Dee before, so I immediately realised you were a girl. Have you ... | |
| changing others perceptions about me | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: I am having trouble at work with people singling me out to pick on or blame for problems. I have ... A: Your question is very difficult to answer without more information as to how and what you say to ... | |
| self esteem in the classroom | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: What resources do you suggest that I reference to raise self esteem in the classroom? A: In my research into self esteem tools I discovered some great workbooks with photocopiable pages and ... | |
| No self-esteem | 1/19/2011 |
| Q: I'm 15 years old and my name is Effy. My problem (or to be honest, one of them) is that I don't have ... A: Many people with issues with their self esteem will come across as confident in their manner. ... | |
| Social Interaction | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: I have suffered from a form of social anxiety all of my life which centres around general ... A: Well congratulations on being one of those people that can stand up in a crowd and hold his own! ... | |
| Low self-image and bad choices | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: Pretty much all the problems I'm about to decribe circle around my body. I'm only 15 but when I was ... A: Apologies for the delay in response I've had a hectic few days. It seems you answered your question ... | |
| Increasing my self esteem and self confidence | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I feel that I have low self esteem and low self confidence. Recently I was walking to college coming ... A: I'm struggling to see what your comments have to do with confidence and self esteem. Self esteem is ... | |
| increasing my self esteem with my self confidence | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm in college and I always have trouble telling stories and expressing myself to female college ... A: Comparing yourself to others may not be a very good idea if you don't feel that good about yourself ... | |
| increasing my self esteem with my self confidence | 2/27/2010 |
| Q: I'm in college and I always have trouble telling stories and expressing myself to female college ... A: Conversation is a two way process. All people are unique, with different conversation styles, levels ... | |
| improve self esteem and self confidence | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: Let's say I want to break the ice with a girl I just met in one of my college classes, what should I ... A: The important thing is to relax, be yourself and consider what you would say to any potential ... | |
| Nervous ness | 2/16/2010 |
| Q: am sonia 30 years old have problum that when i talk with someone i got nurvous i dont know am saying ... A: The yoga and deep breathing is an excellent way to learn to control the physical sensations that you ... | |
| having more self - esteem | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: I have a question about self - esteem. Let's say I was taking a bus to college but stumbled across a ... A: Firstly I haven't got a clue as to what she was thinking - only she knows that! It is unlikely ... | |
| Self-esteem w/ self-confidence | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: I was just trying to find out if I have low self-esteem and low self-confidence. I've been in ... A: Sometimes it may seem awkward to go and approach someone that you haven't spoken to for a while, ... | |
| Mom age 83 and me (age 54) | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: Mom and me help i need advice This is probably in my mind (1) How do I not feel self-conscious if ... A: 1) I'm not sure why taking everything out of a closet would make you feel self-conscious. I would ... | |
| If you are insecure about something how do you feel secure about it | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: If you are insecure about something how do you feel secure about it Any one have pointers on how ... A: I think you may have asked this question before the one about the den closet issue but here is an ... | |
| Changing People's Perception About Us | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: My question is about changing people's perception about us. I have time and again noticed this ... A: The answer to this is easy - people don't particularly like change or unexpected surprises. We ... | |
| My friend | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: Sup, I'm asking about my friend Stephanie. Stephanie and I were in middle school together and were ... A: I am not sure what the problem is here as Stephanie is obviously becoming a little more self aware ... | |
| phenomena - follow up | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: Your question was Hello I want to know the this phenomena interpretation and reason where it is ( ... A: Your question is difficult to understand due to the way you have translated it into English, however ... | |
| I don't show the best of my abilities when in front of an audience | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm sixteen and I could say that I'm pretty confident with myself... that is when I'm alone or with ... A: Performing in front of an audience is tough for most people. Even famous people get nervous before ... | |
| Friend Causing Self Esteem Issues | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: I have a friend who is constantly in the limelight. She is the perfect student. She gets straight ... A: Although it is tricky to change your personal view of yourself working on appearing 'better' to ... | |
| Self - Confidence,belief & esteem | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: My name is Pac and I am 24 yrs old. I live in US and I graduated in Dec `07. I was very confident ... A: Your issue has become very big for you if you struggle to even go out the house and you may need ... | |
| problems with finding somone | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 16 year old boy who isn't terrible looking but just can't seem to attract people. After awhile ... A: Not sure if you are saying that you are funny or that you are cynical and morbid - or both! At 16 ... | |
| 14 yr old self esteem | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: my 14 yr old daugther has very low self esteem.just started the 9th gd.and every day she say the ... A: I am assuming you are in the States and as I am in the UK I don't know what facilities there are ... | |
| boys | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: iam 13 and it seems like all the guys are going for all the blondes...what do i do....do guys like ... A: Ask yourself the question if guys only ever like blondes how come all the babies in the world aren't ... | |
| Purpose in life | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: I have low self-esteem, but I think I keep lying to myself and say that I have a normal amount of ... A: It sounds to me that you are craving reciprocal company, that is having someone there for you, when ... | |
| Anxiety/self esteem | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: I am 22 i am a qualified tradesmen. Lately i have been doing my own jobs but when i get given jobs ... A: Welcome to the world of total responsibility in self employment! What you are going through is ... | |
| extreme confidence issues | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: I have all sorts of problems with confidence. I have always thought of myself as over weight. Its ... A: It seems you already know what you need to do but are struggling to get to the starting point. ... | |
| Chronic Low Self-Esteeme | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: I have finally put my life in perspective and relized that I have chronic low self esteem. The ... A: I have a simple suggestion for you that you may like to try. As your sister is an alcoholic you may ... | |
| confidence | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: My confidence is low at the moment, and i am quite shy to the point of having red flushes in my ... A: Blushing is more likely to happen when you are not calm about a situation. It is not easy to just ... | |
| low self esteem | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 years old and a junior in high school and I have very low self esteem. I don't have that many ... A: Overcoming your shyness will help you a lot. It actually takes quite a bit of effort making and ... | |
| Body | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: This is kind of awkward but my boyfriend has been talking to me about having sex and i am a virgin ... A: Yes, you are perfectly normal and this is nothing to worry about. It is more important to think ... | |
| 15 year old son | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: My son is in the 10 grade and has began with the scholarships applications. Many questions ask ... A: If your son struggles with his self esteem then he needs to work on learning to accept himself. It ... | |
| Respect? | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I've always had low self esteem, thanks to my parents never really complimenting me in any way - ... A: Sorry for the delay in replying - I've not been brushing you aside ;) I've just been busy and ... | |
| steadying the wheel | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I am a 28 yr old female who is in general happy/unhappy with my life - I am grateful for what I ... A: It sounds to me that you are going through a personal growth phase and are floundering as you are ... | |
| Help...... | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: Im 17 n i cannot start a conversation 4 my life. Ive askd an xpert before n tried but culdnt. Today ... A: It is quite ironic that people tend to be great talkers and poor listeners and generally are moaning ... | |
| self-esteem issues | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: I'm 15/female and I struggle with feeling insecure and unconfident and have a low self-esteem. I'm ... A: Your counselor is right, but I will paraphrase what he or she said to give you some tips to improve ... | |
| motivation | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: For the most part, I consider myself an optimistic person, but there are definitely times in which ... A: Motivation can be very elusive for things we don't want to do. The trick is understanding how ... | |
| im really negative | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I really need help increasing my self esteem.I don't like a lot of things about me. I'm a really ... A: Self esteem is all about what we believe about ourselves and as such can be flawed in a positive or ... | |
| My friend's self esteem | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: I feel kind of awkward asking this but I wanted to get some advice from a professional first. I ... A: Self esteem is what we think of ourselves and if we think bad things we'll believe them. The trick ... | |
| no idea..... | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: Im 17 and I've usually had some bad luk wen it comes to talkin to girls I find attractive or feel ... A: Well this problem can be overcome a lot easier than you think. First of all remember that girls are ... | |
| Self Esteem. | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: my name is Corrina,I don't know if you can help me though,if you can't then just say so.But I have ... A: Although it may sound trite I can simply answer your question with 'what if you got run over by a ... | |
| Self Esteem. | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: my name is Corrina,I don't know if you can help me though,if you can't then just say so.But I have ... A: You have spotted your problem already so you are half way to getting rid of it! 'I have the average ... | |
| Mom age 82, And I am age 53 | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: You see the reason that I get like this is because I keep wondering what my mom is thinking if I ... A: I'm not sure what you want me to answer here. Your questions seem to be more about a personal ... | |
| Emotions | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could help me with emotions that i experience the most in my life.One is Fear ... A: The issues you have sound to me as if they stem from both a lack of confidence and low self esteem. ... | |
| increasing self esteem and confidence | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I am currently active duty in the Marine Corps and have always been a proud confident alert person, ... A: There is an expression 'sometimes it is difficult to see the wood for the trees', meaning that when ... | |
| motivational quote | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I am looking for provacative quotes in effort to help motivate youth to more interest in their ... A: I'm not sure I can help you any more than you would by searching on the internet or looking through ... | |
| I need confidence with women | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I have developed a real problem relating to women. I am now 30 years old and in the past have not ... A: Sorry for the delay in responding. I'm not sure I can really help you with specific book titles or ... | |
| confused | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: I am 29 years old. I joined a government organization in 1997 when I was 18 years old. After 6 ... A: My first advice is that you are 29 and do not have to do what your mother tells you. Yes, you can ... | |
| help me | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: What does it means when your uncomfortable around ppl you don't know.? I've always thought it was ... A: Like so many people I've written to before I cannot give you a magic answer but can give you some ... | |
| Life is going no where | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 and a half years old, and I'm trying to figure out where I'm going in life. I'm trying to ... A: First of all what do you want to do? A lot of your question is about what your mom wants for you. I ... | |
| very low self-esteem | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: my name is Destiny and I'm 19yrs. old. I have an 11 month old son named matthew, and a 24yr. old ... A: You are right in saying that there is no quick fix to a weight problem. However you already have the ... | |
| only if you have time please read and help me. | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: well im Jackie, im 17 and i'm getting increasingly depressed and VERY stressed and there are times i ... A: I'm not surprised that you are stressed. You are pulling yourself in all sorts of directions, up and ... | |
| Questions about self-esteem | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: how are you doing, i was wonderng if i could get some of those techniques that you have, to help ... A: Self esteem comes from inside ourselves. It is all about developing a belief in yourself and ... | |
| I need confidence with women | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: I have developed a real problem relating to women. I am now 30 years old and in the past have not ... A: I'm not specifically a relationship coach but I can give you some thoughts on relationships in ... | |
| i care for what others think of me | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: my name is joey im 32 and i goto hairstyling school and i always wonder if people like me that day. ... A: You are not alone in thinking like this. Yet, in actual fact most people are too absorbed in ... | |
| Getting confident | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm mum to a nearly 3 year old, Shannon and I think she is lacking in confidence. Both myself and ... A: Confidence is very much an internal thing and it is possible that she may pick up certain ... | |
| Purpose in Life | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: So please give me some techniques re improving self-confidence/self-esteem. Thanks a lot! Geoff A: As you haven't specified a particular issue or question, and there is a lot I could say, I think you ... | |
| self-esteem and voice | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm quite a quiet, intorverted person generally, and I find speaking difficult. I've just started a ... A: Your natural inclination is to speak quietly, which is nothing to be ashamed of. More quietly spoken ... | |
| No self-cofidence | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: Hey Janice. My name is Dee and I’m a girl that’s going to be a freshman in high school this August. ... A: I'll start with a question. Why don't you like yourself? Think about this and why you like anyone. ... | |
| deep down i'm terrified | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: Since the age of about 10 I have always hated myself-I've never been able to tell why or what makes ... A: There is a lot of advice I could give you to start focussing on liking yourself, using positive ... | |
| My own worst enemy | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22, Female, currently a student. I am constantly undercutting myself, saying mean things about ... A: This inner voice is also known as an internal saboteur. We all do this to some extent and it is ... | |
| my da | 7/15/2008 |
| Q: i am 27 years old and i am still living at home.i live in ireland ,i have no job i tried every where ... A: Louise, I believe I've tried to help you before but I don't think there is anything else I can do ... | |
| magazines | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: i feel really bad i don,t look like the girls in magazine.becasue i am short ,have chunky thighn and ... A: My first recommendation to you is to stop looking at the girls in the magazines and starting looking ... | |
| Learning to like myself | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 15 years old, and I often find myself hating myself for no good reason. I take antidepressants, ... A: I believe that your weekly therapy should be the best place for you to find the answers and it is ... | |
| Self confindence | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: It was a huge decision for me to go school to personal training school, got my certificate but my ... A: Well done for completing your certificate. Obviously the testers felt that you know your stuff and ... | |
| My friend's self-esteem | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: This question is not about me but my friend, but please answer because I need some good, honest help ... A: Unfortunately I am not professionally qualified to help with something as serious sounding as this. ... | |
| SELF | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DEVELOP MYSELF TO THE BEST POTENTIAL FROM THE 1 AND THE HALF YEARS BUT SOON I ... A: Learning to let go of the past is not always easy and does take time. Forgiveness will help. Forgive ... | |
| giving up | 5/23/2008 |
| Q: sorry i thought you were a guy.do you know may be i am better off on my own and never having a ... A: I'm sorry to hear you are thinking of giving up. However learning to accept the situation and still ... | |
| behaviour | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: so if some one thinks bad of them selves like girls draws theses of guys to be rotten to them like ... A: No, this guy would not have known you have low self esteem. It would not have been a conscious thing ... | |
| follow up-guys point of view | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: are so so so so so cruel.i feel so left ouy and alone .i am sujected to rejection all my life it ... A: I believe I answered this for you before and my previous answer still stands. You need to start ... | |
| SELF | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DEVELOP MYSELF TO THE BEST POTENTIAL FROM THE 1 AND THE HALF YEARS BUT SOON I ... A: What do you believe is the definition of being developed to your best potential? Is this to do with ... | |
| guys point of view | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: i was lokking for boyfreind but not any more,because i put my self in guys shoes and saw it froma ... A: Well you really have got a downer on yourself haven't you? First of all, good solid real ... | |
| Cousins hurt me psychologically - HELP | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: 4 years ago i visited my family in America and saw 2 female cousins. Back then i was 14 and was an ... A: It sounds to me as if you still haven't got over this - otherwise you wouldn't have a problem seeing ... | |
| Feeling Too Awkward | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: I am a 19-year-old girl, about to finish up my first year at college. I must say that all through my ... A: Well it sounds to me this is a case of practise makes perfect (or at least more relaxed). It is ... | |
| Avoiding preps | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: Hey there, my name is Tegan, and I am seventeen. Ever since middle school and High school, I have ... A: Being a Goth is a lifestyle choice as you rightly say and you are entitled to make this choice in ... | |
| WHAT DO I DO?!?!!? | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: A few months ago I was very depressed, I would sit alone in my room and cry and cut myself.I became ... A: Well, there's a lot going on in your head right now, isn't there? You can take heart that you have ... | |
| Avoiding preps | 4/6/2008 |
| Q: Hey there, my name is Tegan, and I am seventeen. Ever since middle school and High school, I have ... A: What do you think is causing them to tease you? I would suggest it may be one of three things: 1. ... | |
| Short girl | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: im kristina and I have a friend who was a short girl. My classmates always tease her. What can I do ... A: You are very thoughtful to want to help your friend. However the best way you can help her is by ... | |
| confused | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: I am currently a freshmen in college, and no matter what i do i still dont have the courage to talk ... A: There are two issues you raise here that seem to indicate a little confusion in your mind. Firstly ... | |
Increasing Self-Esteem
Answers by Expert:
Jacky Tustain
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
If you feel bad about yourself or lack confidence to do or try things I can help you with techniques that will help you overcome your current view of yourself and develop more confidence and better self esteem.
Experience
I am a Life Coach that works with people who are struggling to work things out for themselves. By helping them tap their inner resources and presenting a fresh altenative viewpoint I help them reinvent or rediscover themselves.
Publications
I regularly have articles published on various sites and add to my own blog.
Education/Credentials
Life Coaching Diploma
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