| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Changing People's Perception About Us | 11/18/2009 |
Q: My question is about changing people's perception about us. I have time and again noticed this ...
A: The answer to this is easy - people don't particularly like change or unexpected surprises. We ...
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| My friend | 11/18/2009 |
Q: Sup, I'm asking about my friend Stephanie. Stephanie and I were in middle school together and were ...
A: I am not sure what the problem is here as Stephanie is obviously becoming a little more self aware ...
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| phenomena - follow up | 11/12/2009 |
Q: Your question was Hello I want to know the this phenomena interpretation and reason where it is ( ...
A: Your question is difficult to understand due to the way you have translated it into English, however ...
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| I don't show the best of my abilities when in front of an audience | 11/12/2009 |
Q: I'm sixteen and I could say that I'm pretty confident with myself... that is when I'm alone or with ...
A: Performing in front of an audience is tough for most people. Even famous people get nervous before ...
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| Friend Causing Self Esteem Issues | 10/30/2009 |
Q: I have a friend who is constantly in the limelight. She is the perfect student. She gets straight ...
A: Although it is tricky to change your personal view of yourself working on appearing 'better' to ...
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| Self - Confidence,belief & esteem | 10/28/2009 |
Q: My name is Pac and I am 24 yrs old. I live in US and I graduated in Dec `07. I was very confident ...
A: Your issue has become very big for you if you struggle to even go out the house and you may need ...
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| problems with finding somone | 10/26/2009 |
Q: I'm a 16 year old boy who isn't terrible looking but just can't seem to attract people. After awhile ...
A: Not sure if you are saying that you are funny or that you are cynical and morbid - or both! At 16 ...
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| 14 yr old self esteem | 10/15/2009 |
Q: my 14 yr old daugther has very low self esteem.just started the 9th gd.and every day she say the ...
A: I am assuming you are in the States and as I am in the UK I don't know what facilities there are ...
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| boys | 10/14/2009 |
Q: iam 13 and it seems like all the guys are going for all the blondes...what do i do....do guys like ...
A: Ask yourself the question if guys only ever like blondes how come all the babies in the world aren't ...
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| Purpose in life | 10/11/2009 |
Q: I have low self-esteem, but I think I keep lying to myself and say that I have a normal amount of ...
A: It sounds to me that you are craving reciprocal company, that is having someone there for you, when ...
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| Anxiety/self esteem | 9/24/2009 |
Q: I am 22 i am a qualified tradesmen. Lately i have been doing my own jobs but when i get given jobs ...
A: Welcome to the world of total responsibility in self employment! What you are going through is ...
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| extreme confidence issues | 9/24/2009 |
Q: I have all sorts of problems with confidence. I have always thought of myself as over weight. Its ...
A: It seems you already know what you need to do but are struggling to get to the starting point. ...
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| Chronic Low Self-Esteeme | 9/17/2009 |
Q: I have finally put my life in perspective and relized that I have chronic low self esteem. The ...
A: I have a simple suggestion for you that you may like to try. As your sister is an alcoholic you may ...
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| confidence | 9/16/2009 |
Q: My confidence is low at the moment, and i am quite shy to the point of having red flushes in my ...
A: Blushing is more likely to happen when you are not calm about a situation. It is not easy to just ...
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| low self esteem | 9/12/2009 |
Q: I'm 16 years old and a junior in high school and I have very low self esteem. I don't have that many ...
A: Overcoming your shyness will help you a lot. It actually takes quite a bit of effort making and ...
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| Body | 7/28/2009 |
Q: This is kind of awkward but my boyfriend has been talking to me about having sex and i am a virgin ...
A: Yes, you are perfectly normal and this is nothing to worry about. It is more important to think ...
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| 15 year old son | 7/21/2009 |
Q: My son is in the 10 grade and has began with the scholarships applications. Many questions ask ...
A: If your son struggles with his self esteem then he needs to work on learning to accept himself. It ...
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| Respect? | 6/24/2009 |
Q: I've always had low self esteem, thanks to my parents never really complimenting me in any way - ...
A: Sorry for the delay in replying - I've not been brushing you aside ;) I've just been busy and ...
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| steadying the wheel | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I am a 28 yr old female who is in general happy/unhappy with my life - I am grateful for what I ...
A: It sounds to me that you are going through a personal growth phase and are floundering as you are ...
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| Help...... | 6/6/2009 |
Q: Im 17 n i cannot start a conversation 4 my life. Ive askd an xpert before n tried but culdnt. Today ...
A: It is quite ironic that people tend to be great talkers and poor listeners and generally are moaning ...
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| self-esteem issues | 5/30/2009 |
Q: I'm 15/female and I struggle with feeling insecure and unconfident and have a low self-esteem. I'm ...
A: Your counselor is right, but I will paraphrase what he or she said to give you some tips to improve ...
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| motivation | 5/28/2009 |
Q: For the most part, I consider myself an optimistic person, but there are definitely times in which ...
A: Motivation can be very elusive for things we don't want to do. The trick is understanding how ...
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| im really negative | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I really need help increasing my self esteem.I don't like a lot of things about me. I'm a really ...
A: Self esteem is all about what we believe about ourselves and as such can be flawed in a positive or ...
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| My friend's self esteem | 5/17/2009 |
Q: I feel kind of awkward asking this but I wanted to get some advice from a professional first. I ...
A: Self esteem is what we think of ourselves and if we think bad things we'll believe them. The trick ...
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| no idea..... | 5/14/2009 |
Q: Im 17 and I've usually had some bad luk wen it comes to talkin to girls I find attractive or feel ...
A: Well this problem can be overcome a lot easier than you think. First of all remember that girls are ...
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| Self Esteem. | 2/14/2009 |
Q: my name is Corrina,I don't know if you can help me though,if you can't then just say so.But I have ...
A: Although it may sound trite I can simply answer your question with 'what if you got run over by a ...
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| Self Esteem. | 2/10/2009 |
Q: my name is Corrina,I don't know if you can help me though,if you can't then just say so.But I have ...
A: You have spotted your problem already so you are half way to getting rid of it! 'I have the average ...
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| Mom age 82, And I am age 53 | 1/30/2009 |
Q: You see the reason that I get like this is because I keep wondering what my mom is thinking if I ...
A: I'm not sure what you want me to answer here. Your questions seem to be more about a personal ...
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| Emotions | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I was wondering if you could help me with emotions that i experience the most in my life.One is Fear ...
A: The issues you have sound to me as if they stem from both a lack of confidence and low self esteem. ...
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| increasing self esteem and confidence | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I am currently active duty in the Marine Corps and have always been a proud confident alert person, ...
A: There is an expression 'sometimes it is difficult to see the wood for the trees', meaning that when ...
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| motivational quote | 1/15/2009 |
Q: I am looking for provacative quotes in effort to help motivate youth to more interest in their ...
A: I'm not sure I can help you any more than you would by searching on the internet or looking through ...
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| I need confidence with women | 1/4/2009 |
Q: I have developed a real problem relating to women. I am now 30 years old and in the past have not ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. I'm not sure I can really help you with specific book titles or ...
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| confused | 11/15/2008 |
Q: I am 29 years old. I joined a government organization in 1997 when I was 18 years old. After 6 ...
A: My first advice is that you are 29 and do not have to do what your mother tells you. Yes, you can ...
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| help me | 11/12/2008 |
Q: What does it means when your uncomfortable around ppl you don't know.? I've always thought it was ...
A: Like so many people I've written to before I cannot give you a magic answer but can give you some ...
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| Life is going no where | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I'm 18 and a half years old, and I'm trying to figure out where I'm going in life. I'm trying to ...
A: First of all what do you want to do? A lot of your question is about what your mom wants for you. I ...
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| very low self-esteem | 10/4/2008 |
Q: my name is Destiny and I'm 19yrs. old. I have an 11 month old son named matthew, and a 24yr. old ...
A: You are right in saying that there is no quick fix to a weight problem. However you already have the ...
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| only if you have time please read and help me. | 9/30/2008 |
Q: well im Jackie, im 17 and i'm getting increasingly depressed and VERY stressed and there are times i ...
A: I'm not surprised that you are stressed. You are pulling yourself in all sorts of directions, up and ...
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| Questions about self-esteem | 9/28/2008 |
Q: how are you doing, i was wonderng if i could get some of those techniques that you have, to help ...
A: Self esteem comes from inside ourselves. It is all about developing a belief in yourself and ...
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| I need confidence with women | 9/22/2008 |
Q: I have developed a real problem relating to women. I am now 30 years old and in the past have not ...
A: I'm not specifically a relationship coach but I can give you some thoughts on relationships in ...
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| i care for what others think of me | 9/22/2008 |
Q: my name is joey im 32 and i goto hairstyling school and i always wonder if people like me that day. ...
A: You are not alone in thinking like this. Yet, in actual fact most people are too absorbed in ...
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| Getting confident | 9/20/2008 |
Q: I'm mum to a nearly 3 year old, Shannon and I think she is lacking in confidence. Both myself and ...
A: Confidence is very much an internal thing and it is possible that she may pick up certain ...
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| Purpose in Life | 9/18/2008 |
Q: So please give me some techniques re improving self-confidence/self-esteem. Thanks a lot! Geoff
A: As you haven't specified a particular issue or question, and there is a lot I could say, I think you ...
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| self-esteem and voice | 7/24/2008 |
Q: I'm quite a quiet, intorverted person generally, and I find speaking difficult. I've just started a ...
A: Your natural inclination is to speak quietly, which is nothing to be ashamed of. More quietly spoken ...
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| No self-cofidence | 7/24/2008 |
Q: Hey Janice. My name is Dee and I’m a girl that’s going to be a freshman in high school this August. ...
A: I'll start with a question. Why don't you like yourself? Think about this and why you like anyone. ...
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| deep down i'm terrified | 7/22/2008 |
Q: Since the age of about 10 I have always hated myself-I've never been able to tell why or what makes ...
A: There is a lot of advice I could give you to start focussing on liking yourself, using positive ...
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| My own worst enemy | 7/19/2008 |
Q: I'm 22, Female, currently a student. I am constantly undercutting myself, saying mean things about ...
A: This inner voice is also known as an internal saboteur. We all do this to some extent and it is ...
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| my da | 7/15/2008 |
Q: i am 27 years old and i am still living at home.i live in ireland ,i have no job i tried every where ...
A: Louise, I believe I've tried to help you before but I don't think there is anything else I can do ...
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| magazines | 7/7/2008 |
Q: i feel really bad i don,t look like the girls in magazine.becasue i am short ,have chunky thighn and ...
A: My first recommendation to you is to stop looking at the girls in the magazines and starting looking ...
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| Learning to like myself | 7/7/2008 |
Q: I'm 15 years old, and I often find myself hating myself for no good reason. I take antidepressants, ...
A: I believe that your weekly therapy should be the best place for you to find the answers and it is ...
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| Self confindence | 7/2/2008 |
Q: It was a huge decision for me to go school to personal training school, got my certificate but my ...
A: Well done for completing your certificate. Obviously the testers felt that you know your stuff and ...
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| My friend's self-esteem | 6/30/2008 |
Q: This question is not about me but my friend, but please answer because I need some good, honest help ...
A: Unfortunately I am not professionally qualified to help with something as serious sounding as this. ...
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| SELF | 5/25/2008 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DEVELOP MYSELF TO THE BEST POTENTIAL FROM THE 1 AND THE HALF YEARS BUT SOON I ...
A: Learning to let go of the past is not always easy and does take time. Forgiveness will help. Forgive ...
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| giving up | 5/23/2008 |
Q: sorry i thought you were a guy.do you know may be i am better off on my own and never having a ...
A: I'm sorry to hear you are thinking of giving up. However learning to accept the situation and still ...
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| behaviour | 5/22/2008 |
Q: so if some one thinks bad of them selves like girls draws theses of guys to be rotten to them like ...
A: No, this guy would not have known you have low self esteem. It would not have been a conscious thing ...
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| follow up-guys point of view | 5/21/2008 |
Q: are so so so so so cruel.i feel so left ouy and alone .i am sujected to rejection all my life it ...
A: I believe I answered this for you before and my previous answer still stands. You need to start ...
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| SELF | 5/20/2008 |
Q: I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DEVELOP MYSELF TO THE BEST POTENTIAL FROM THE 1 AND THE HALF YEARS BUT SOON I ...
A: What do you believe is the definition of being developed to your best potential? Is this to do with ...
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| guys point of view | 5/15/2008 |
Q: i was lokking for boyfreind but not any more,because i put my self in guys shoes and saw it froma ...
A: Well you really have got a downer on yourself haven't you? First of all, good solid real ...
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| Cousins hurt me psychologically - HELP | 5/4/2008 |
Q: 4 years ago i visited my family in America and saw 2 female cousins. Back then i was 14 and was an ...
A: It sounds to me as if you still haven't got over this - otherwise you wouldn't have a problem seeing ...
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| Feeling Too Awkward | 4/14/2008 |
Q: I am a 19-year-old girl, about to finish up my first year at college. I must say that all through my ...
A: Well it sounds to me this is a case of practise makes perfect (or at least more relaxed). It is ...
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| Avoiding preps | 4/9/2008 |
Q: Hey there, my name is Tegan, and I am seventeen. Ever since middle school and High school, I have ...
A: Being a Goth is a lifestyle choice as you rightly say and you are entitled to make this choice in ...
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| WHAT DO I DO?!?!!? | 4/8/2008 |
Q: A few months ago I was very depressed, I would sit alone in my room and cry and cut myself.I became ...
A: Well, there's a lot going on in your head right now, isn't there? You can take heart that you have ...
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| Avoiding preps | 4/6/2008 |
Q: Hey there, my name is Tegan, and I am seventeen. Ever since middle school and High school, I have ...
A: What do you think is causing them to tease you? I would suggest it may be one of three things: 1. ...
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| Short girl | 3/20/2008 |
Q: im kristina and I have a friend who was a short girl. My classmates always tease her. What can I do ...
A: You are very thoughtful to want to help your friend. However the best way you can help her is by ...
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| confused | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I am currently a freshmen in college, and no matter what i do i still dont have the courage to talk ...
A: There are two issues you raise here that seem to indicate a little confusion in your mind. Firstly ...
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