AboutEdward Joseph Ramirez, MD, FACOG Expertise I am a specialist in infertility and advanced gynecological care. I can answer questions about infertility, gynecology related ills, menopause...virtually anything that affects women's health. PLEASE tell me where you are writing from as I am always interested.
Experience I have been practicing as an Ob/Gyn and Infertility Specialist for over 23 years. Gynecology, advanced laparoscopic surgery, basic infertility, IUI's, IVF, reproductive surgery, and ovulation induction are all areas of my expertise. I am Board Certified. I have been doing In Vitro Fertilization in my clinic for 15 years.
Organizations American College of OB/GYN, American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology, American Society of Reproductive Medicine, Society of Assisted Reproductive Technology, American Association of Gynecologic Laparoscopists, Fellow of The American College of Obstetricians & Gynecologists,Resolve-National Chapter, Open Path - Northern California, Board of Directors Monterey Medical Society
Publications American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology
Education/Credentials Medical Degree from Stanford University, Residency at Tripler Army Medical Center, Reproductive Training at Pacific Fertility Center, San Francisco
Question "ok, I am a senior and im 17 will be 18 in a few months. My girlfriend is 15 about to be 16 nxt month. we are sexually active she lives in arlington soo i only get to see her on weekends when i drive up there. which is two to three hours away depending on which place im going. anyways. me and my girlfriend have sex atleast once everytime i go and see her up there now. she gave me her virginity on august first so we have only been having sex for a lil over two months. we make sure we use condoms EVERY time, i love her with every fiber of who i am. well this past saturday the third i suppose, well technically sunday or the fourth we had sex. but it wasn't like the norm. we were waiting for her dad to fall asleep so that we could have sex and be alone together. but we both fell asleep and randomly woke up at about 4 in The morning on Sunday. when we awoke i was on top of her idk which one of us initiated it but i was on top and we were sort of dry humping i suppose, we both had our close on still. but soon my dick was hard, she grabbed it and was focusing in towards her vagina, she was wearing skimpy shorts and a thong i was wearing basket ball shorts. so we could both feel it but she had moved her shorts and her thong out of the way so that only my dick through my shorts was touching her. and then we kinda sorta pulled down my shorts and she pulled my dick in to her. but her shorts were still kinda in the way but we still had sex. i was inside her and we were both still half asleep we just apparently woke up realllyyy horny, but i came in her, atleast in part i remember as soon as i started cuming that i recalled that i wasn't wearing a condom. we had never had sex without one soo i guess in my sleepy stupor i thought that i had one on but i didn't. my dick wasn't all the way in though because of her shorts but i would say that it was a good half way in atleast maybe a little more. my dick is 7" long. and i know i came a little bit in her before i was like oh shit and pulled out. but when a guy cums it squirts right at first atleast and thats what im worried about because i didn't pull out when i first cumed. so some was in her for sure. immediately after she was like omg. you didn't have a condom on ? i was like no? and she was like omg. but she had grabbed my dick and knew that i ddn't have a condom on soo she could not blame this on me.. although i should had been more responsible and put one on. but like i said neither of us were thinking clearly ... we had both woken up and immidiately stated doing it. she went to the bathroom right after and said that she peed some of the cum out if not all because i had jacked off atleast 2 or so times before tat earlier that day. and she said she peed sum out. and after she came back she made me finger her with one of the spermocidal condoms i had. sooo i flipped the condom inside out and started reaching into her as much as possible and fingering her with it trying to get around as much as possible to kill what sperm could be left hiding and swimming .. you know? i did that twice with two condoms. i know before we had sex i had fingered her a few times and i made her orgasm alot and i know she cumed but im still worried that wen i cumed inside of her some of my sperm may have gone and gotten her pregnant.. I am going to be here for her no matter what and accept the consequences of what i did. but i would still rather me to not be the guy that ruins her life with a child right now. I am worried alot! but i have managed to comfort her and tell her that there is no wayy that she is pregnant or will be. but i think that those words may be empty.. she is supposed to be starting her period this Friday or sometime this upcoming weekend atleast sooo i guess we will find out i think ? right. well i was just wondering if you had any experience with this type of situation.. and maybe some insight for me.. Do you think that she is or will become pregnant in the next few days.. ? :( and tell it to me straight i just want the truth.. i know its at max a fifty fifty chance. i don't want her to hate me for messing up everything. i love her so much idk i just want to have a better idea soo i could atleast better brace myself for the worst if thats whats coming.. im here for her through thick and thin. always.
Plz share any useful information and get back to me ASAP.
also we didn't think about the morning after pill and this was already two days ago. so that probably wouldn't work anyway right? and plus we don't have any money.. I'm broke :(
I'm Not ready to be a father but if i have to i will assume the position."
Answer Hello Chris from the U.S.,
That was a long letter, and I can sense your worry. Yes, it is possible that enough of the sperm got in for her to become pregnant. The morning after pill would have been a good idea and you should keep that in mind the next time.
For this episode, you'll have to wait and see. I don't have the ability to predict the future so can't tell you whether or not it will happen. Worrying about it at this point is not beneficial or accomplishes anything. Deal with the problem once you have a problem, not the presumption of a problem. So if she misses her period, then she needs to do a pregnancy test. If it is positive. she should see a gynecologist immediately. If you don't want to continue the pregnancy, and it is early, the pregnancy can be stopped by medication alone, without having to have a D&C (abortion). I am not necessarily advocating an abortion, but it is an option if you need it.
If she does not miss her period, then take this as a lesson, and don't let it happen again. She should probably go on the birth control pill or the Depo provera injection (once every three months), so that you won't have the worry. I still would recommend using condoms regardless.
Getting pregnant is not necessarily an easy thing to do. There are only 12 hours each month when this can happen. If it is not at the right time of the month, then it is unlikely to happen. Sex has to occur at the time of ovulation. Unfortunately, woman tend to be more "horny" at the time of ovulation because their hormones are directing them to try for pregnancy. Ask your girlfriend when the first day of her last period was. Also, ask if she has regular cycles i.e. has a period at about the same time each month. If she has regular periods, then you can get an estimate of when her fertile time is. It is usually between cycle day #13-16, counting from the first day of the period. If you had sex and it was only one week away from the menses, then that would be too late. So sex before cycle day #13 and after cycle day #16 would probably not result in a pregnancy. That is, it would be highly unlikely.
My only other question is, clothed or not, why is her Dad allowing you two to sleep together?
Good Luck
Edward J. Ramirez, M.D., FACOG
Executive Medical Director
The Fertility and Gynecology Center
Monterey Bay IVF Program
www.montereybayivf.com
