About Brigid Kowalczyk Expertise Fertility is a gift from God and infertility is a hard cross to bear. I will answer questions about the morality of the various infertility treatments. Just as contraception separates the procreative from the unitive aspects of sexual intercourse, some of the ways to concieve are immoral and thus dangerous to your spiritual and emotional well-being.
Experience Well-read and connected to various groups that recommend moral approaches to infertility treatments. I can sympathize with the pain of childlessness but also view the bigger picture. An objective discussion of your options is something to have when you are immersed in your loss.
Organizations Couple to Couple League, Inc.
National Right to Life
Education/Credentials Bachelor or Arts, Associate of Applied Science in Legal Studies, Medical Assistant
Expert: Brigid Kowalczyk Date: 9/11/2004 Subject: I am the result of fertility drugs
Question Brigid, As the subject says I am the result of my mother taking fertility drugs. I know you are primarily here to answer morality questions about fertility drugs, but if you could please answer my questions I would greatly appreciate it. If you are unable to answer these questions, you still may find this information useful
Is there any evidence that the children resulting from fertility drugs are "less than perfect?"
My face as well as the rest of my body are very unsemetrical and I weighed 11.5lbs when I was born. I have also been diagnosed as having several mental problems (and suicide attempts) such as ADD, Bi-Polar Disorder, Unipolar Depression etc.
Is it possible for a woman taking fertility drugs to ovulate more than one egg then to have those two eggs unite to create one child? (That is the logical conclusion that I have formed about myself)
Do you think any of my above problems were the result of my mother taking fertility drugs?
Are there any class action law suits against fertility drug manufacturers that I could get in on?
It looks as though you are answering these questions from a Christian perspective, If you could please pray for me that I shall someday overcome my demons I would greatly appreciate it.
Answer Kevin, God doesn't make any mistakes. We are all less than perfect in some way or another.
Fertility drugs and birth control pills can cause birth defects and imperfections in resulting children. I do not know of any class action suits but that doesn't mean there are not any.
But please focus on these two important things: your parents wanted you very much. They did what they were offered as options in order to build their family. It is unfortunate that their "perfect" child is you, but their love is proven by their choices. In addition, God loves you. He wanted you to be a part of his creation and world and your life has a purpose.
What is that purpose? Primarily, to know and love and serve God, to be his eyes and hands and feet to the world.
My daughter was born naturally but had a serious heart condition and also some of the assymetry that you mention. She has some emotional problems as well. When we discuss it, I try to help her focus on her gifts and talents and recognize that she has a cross to carry which is different from anyone else's.
Your life will take on new meaning when you stop looking at your imperfections and look for ways to help others. God doesn't make mistakes and there is something for you to do which will make a difference.
In addition, you can offer up your sufferings and burden as a way to help redeem the world or for specific circumstances that you see around you. If there are problems in your family, sickness or unemployment or other struggles, you can offer your problems to God for that other person's situation. It's an easy thing to do and helps take you out of yourself.
