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| My Partner's father | 11/11/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: I am partnered with an Italian man and recently I had an argument with his father, who said total ...
A: Annette, You are probably right, he isn't the one for you. For some reason you have known that this ...
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| Frustration | 11/5/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: My husband comes from a close, large family, while i do not. Not that we aren't close, we just ...
A: You must have known that you were marrying a mommas boy when you first with this guy. If you did and ...
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| daughter in law | 10/31/2009 | Vani |
Q: My husband and I got married 16 years ago. We have a 18 year old and 14 year old daughter. THe ...
A: The more you try to teach her a lesson the more influence she is having on your life. Wouldn't it be ...
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| sister in law | 10/31/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: My husband and I got married 16 years ago. We have a 18 year old and 14 year old daughter. THe ...
A: Leah, This sounds a bit extreme. I suggest your focus be on getting custody of your daughter back. ...
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| Mother and Fiancé at war | 10/29/2009 | Vani |
Q: My mother and my fiancé have been butting heads constantly during our 8-year relationship. Both are ...
A: You should not give up on a near perfect relationship but at the same time he will never get along ...
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| What's best for my unborn child? | 10/15/2009 | Vani |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and I have just found out that I'm pregnant. ...
A: In that case Katherine, contact them once the baby is born. You are expecting and what if the ...
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| PILs past affecting our future | 10/13/2009 | Vani |
Q: With a lot of faith and trust i want to have guidance for what should i do when our parents are ...
A: In a joint family, can you tell your MIL to stay off your kids? You can't take your kids to your ...
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| What's best for my unborn child? | 10/12/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and I have just found out that I'm pregnant. ...
A: Ketherine, I don't think it is unreasonable to see if these people have changed. They may want ...
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| What's best for my unborn child? | 10/12/2009 | Vani |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and I have just found out that I'm pregnant. ...
A: Congratulations Katherine, But in my opinion it's a bad idea to even plan to see his parents. This ...
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| PILs past affecting our future | 10/8/2009 | Vani |
Q: With a lot of faith and trust i want to have guidance for what should i do when our parents are ...
A: Right now you need your PILs as you have small kids to be taken care of, so best way is to ignore ...
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| My mother in law is ruining my marriage | 10/6/2009 | Vani |
Q: i got married 10months ago after having a relationship of 3 years with my husband. when i first met ...
A: This cannot be solved unless your husband takes a stand but seems he is an ideal son who would never ...
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| Am i wrong | 10/5/2009 | Vani |
Q: I am a coorg married a tamailan,ours was luv cum arraged marrige by our parents.we had an affair of ...
A: Your concern is justified but the moment you talk to your husband or his parents about this, they ...
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| Am i wrong | 10/4/2009 | Vani |
Q: I am a coorg married a tamailan,ours was luv cum arraged marrige by our parents.we had an affair of ...
A: First of all forget about this language divide. If he teaches your son Tamil, you can always teach ...
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| In-laws/ Relationship | 10/4/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: I wanted some guidance so I can finally take an important decision in my life... I am 27 yrs old, I ...
A: Edith, This relationship probably won't last and it probably shouldn't. You are being disrespected ...
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| Meeting in-laws for first time | 9/23/2009 | Vani |
Q: I am meeting my in-laws for the first time soon. I am not Indian, my husband is. They are from ...
A: It's great that you want to give them a warm welcome, the feeling will get conveyed by your ...
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| Ex-Wife overstepping boundaries | 9/16/2009 | Vani |
Q: I am 44 and my husband is 53. We have been married 5 years and together over 12 years. This is a ...
A: The best way is to be polite whilst discussing this topic and not to play a blame game. Do not talk ...
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| Disrespectful mother-in-law | 9/2/2009 | Vani |
Q: I'm hoping you can help, this is the ONLY topic my husband and I argue about and it's starting to ...
A: Sorry for the delay in replying. All that your MIL does is to attract attention, she is insecure ...
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| Father-in-law problems | 9/1/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: My future father-in-law is offended that my fiance proposed without discussing it with him first, ...
A: Kerri, If you are going to let this irritated man hurt you then you shouldn't be getting married. ...
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| Parents SIL disrespect | 8/26/2009 | Vani |
Q: My SIL has been disrespectful to me and my relationship with my fiance for three years. His parents ...
A: She is their daughter and out of love they support her. She has been mean but the best way is to ...
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| My bf's parents | 8/24/2009 | Vani |
Q: I have very difficult situation. My bf is under a lot of stress right now,hes depressed,doesn't know ...
A: You can't sort it out with his parents over the phone or e-mail. Go and meet them, urge them that if ...
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| sister in law | 8/22/2009 | Vani |
Q: My sister in law is incredibly needy and is used to my husbad - before we were married- filling the ...
A: Your husband is in no position to tell his sister that she is emotionally unstable nor that he ...
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| X-brother-in-laws new wife | 7/30/2009 | Vani |
Q: My X-brother-in-laws new wife will not talk to any one at all, she whispers to her husband who is ...
A: Just leave her alone and ignore her, if she feels that she is better off not talking to anybody. ...
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| I'm frustrated with my sister in law | 7/28/2009 | Vani |
Q: My sister in law is very frustrating. She currently lives with her brother/my fiance and our ...
A: She needs professional help and you being kind enough will not just let her be on her own with no ...
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| what do I do? | 6/30/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have been with my fiance for 4 years now, we are very in love, but his mother and sister are ...
A: Tracy, I'm not sure there is much you can do. If your boyfriend has known this for 4 years and done ...
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| Jealous sister in law | 6/29/2009 | Vani |
Q: I usually try not to impute bad motives on people but I'm starting to believe that my sister in law ...
A: You just ignore her antics, behave as if she does not exist in your life. At times, don't pick up ...
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| sister-in-law's wedding | 6/26/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: My husband's sister is planning a wedding for October and no one was excited for her or helping. My ...
A: Charlie, When you help another or try to do the right thing don't expect others to assist you. That ...
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| MIL not letting my husband to live with me | 6/26/2009 | Vani |
Q: I married my husband after 3years of love and now our marriage is 4months old. He is the sole bread ...
A: If she is using emotions to keep him away from you, you play the same game. Call him once saying you ...
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| Mother wants to holiday with us | 6/25/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: I'm having a bit of a dilemma with my mother and my husband. The background story is that months ...
A: Kamila, What's more important your fathers life or loss of a holiday? The answer seems obvious to ...
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| Bad Influence. | 6/21/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: Growing up my husband as always looked up to his big brother. As they got older my husband would ...
A: Amber, You chose this man knowing the influence his brother had on him. Yet, you still decided to ...
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| Sister in law took my child | 6/21/2009 | Vani |
Q: My husband and I were married for 10 years.We have a 6 year old daughter.Last few months was very ...
A: Your lawyer will guide you on all these aspects. But the fact that your child is ignored and has ...
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| Problem with co-sister | 6/5/2009 | Vani |
Q: I have many problems with my co-sister(brother in laws wife). Background of my family. My FIL wants ...
A: Make a complete financial plan how much can you spend on rent etc and prove to your husband that ...
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| My Mother-In-Law has made life miserable. | 6/2/2009 | Vani |
Q: It would be kind of you if you help me whether i'm going right or wrong in my life where i'm trying ...
A: You are totally in the right and just get on with your professional life and career pursuits. Your ...
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| advice | 5/28/2009 | Vani |
Q: I am indian woman settled in NZ and have been married for 2.5yrs and have a reasonably good married ...
A: He seeks company to make him feel happy and wanted, it also gives him the idea that he is a popular ...
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| Problem with co-sister | 5/27/2009 | Vani |
Q: I have many problems with my co-sister(brother in laws wife). Background of my family. My FIL wants ...
A: Best solution is to hire a full time maid, even if it means blowing a fortune. This will give you ...
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| Fiance's Sister in Law | 5/25/2009 | David Simonsen |
Q: I am writing to get an unbiased opinion. My fiancee's sister in law has been a real problem ever ...
A: Michele, First recognize the you are WILLINGLY marrying into the family. So any complaints you have ...
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| India inlaw | 5/22/2009 | Vani |
Q: I am Asian and married to America-born indian husband. My parent inlaw are born in India, and they ...
A: In that case you will have to be very planned, you will have to bring him back home after half hour ...
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| Problems with In-laws | 5/11/2009 | Vani |
Q: I have been married to 2 years now. But from the beginning I never got adjusted with my mother in ...
A: Have seen such cases where the mother is too fond of the son to let him be free even after marriage. ...
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| fatherinlaw | 5/7/2009 | Vani |
Q: i am hopeing you can help me my father inlaw moved in with us back in november of 2008 cause his ...
A: It's your husband who has to speak to him about sharing the burden and actually being part of the ...
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| problem between two mothers | 4/22/2009 | Vani |
Q: I feel my problem is a bit peculiar one. My mother and my mother-in-law(mil) are friends for the ...
A: You can expect your own mother to be a bit more understanding, sit with her and explain how these ...
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| problem between two mothers | 4/20/2009 | Vani |
Q: I feel my problem is a bit peculiar one. My mother and my mother-in-law(mil) are friends for the ...
A: This indeed is a strange situation whereby two best friends suddenly turned foes!! Best way out is ...
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