AboutSDW Expertise I would be happy to answer any questions regarding any situation you have with your inlaws. I have been married for many years, have been church affiliated and/or a staff member for over 20 years, and have counseled many people in that capacity. I take pride in providing answers that will give honest insight and concrete direction to go forward like many of the wellknown advice counselors. I believe that being a shoulder for you to lean on is important but much more important is advice that you can put into action to make your life better!
Experience I have several years of psychology education, many years of counseling experience, and have been very helpful in my own family. It is a wonderful feeling to realize that you have helped others and made their lives better.
Education/Credentials Many years of church counseling, Several years of psychology course work, BSA in accounting, and MBA candidate.
Expert: SDW Date: 5/14/2008 Subject: Brother In- Law
Question I am newly married and very much happy. I am very close to each and every one of my in-laws. I have one brother in-law whom I am very close with and is like a best friend. He would talk to me about situations or problems not even his own brother knows about. Long story short, his ex girl friend committed fraud and stole money from me. Then two weeks after this happened he started dating her again. Now she is over the house (the parent’s home) and is walking around like nothing happened. So the same day I found out was the same day I stopped speaking to him. I have not said not one word to him for about a month now. Its killing me b/c I truly care so much for him and its just I am so hurt and angry that he would do that to me. I feel like he completely slapped me in the face. Am I wrong to be upset with him? He isn’t even sure this girl will be around very long yet he knows I will. What do I do?
Answer I think you are taking this relationship too seriously. Your husband is what matters and if his brother chooses to make wrong decisions then you have no right to stop him.
Let it go. Take care to make sure that your loyalty and allegiance are to your husband. Do not allow this relationship with his brother become more than it should and possibly damage your marriage.
