Expert: David Simonsen - 10/31/2009

Question
My husband and I got married 16 years ago. We have a 18 year old and 14 year old daughter. THe problem is my sister in law. We use to get along until she had an abortion. Ever since then I have hated her and her entire family. My husband and I got into a car accident and my youngest daughter was placed in her care. My dauhgter said that she was treated as an outcast and treated with disrespect. I want to prove to her that my daughter is prettier and much more then her daughter and let her know once and for all that she is always going to be a unborn baby murderer and that my family is better. How do I got about this?

Answer
Leah,
This sounds a bit extreme. I suggest your focus be on getting custody of your daughter back. If you are unable to to that, then I suggest you focus on having a relationship with her. Attempting to protect your daughter by making someone else suffer is not a good idea. Teens lie when they don't get their way so you have NO idea if what she is saying is true. Being pretty has NOTHING to do with good character, which is what you should be hoping your daughter has. So go about doing the right thing for your daughter. What you propose is the bad thing.
David
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