| Subject | Date Asked |
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| daughter in law | 10/31/2009 |
Q: My husband and I got married 16 years ago. We have a 18 year old and 14 year old daughter. THe ...
A: The more you try to teach her a lesson the more influence she is having on your life. Wouldn't it be ...
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| Mother and Fiancé at war | 10/29/2009 |
Q: My mother and my fiancé have been butting heads constantly during our 8-year relationship. Both are ...
A: You should not give up on a near perfect relationship but at the same time he will never get along ...
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| What's best for my unborn child? | 10/15/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and I have just found out that I'm pregnant. ...
A: In that case Katherine, contact them once the baby is born. You are expecting and what if the ...
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| PILs past affecting our future | 10/13/2009 |
Q: With a lot of faith and trust i want to have guidance for what should i do when our parents are ...
A: In a joint family, can you tell your MIL to stay off your kids? You can't take your kids to your ...
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| What's best for my unborn child? | 10/12/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years now, and I have just found out that I'm pregnant. ...
A: Congratulations Katherine, But in my opinion it's a bad idea to even plan to see his parents. This ...
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| PILs past affecting our future | 10/8/2009 |
Q: With a lot of faith and trust i want to have guidance for what should i do when our parents are ...
A: Right now you need your PILs as you have small kids to be taken care of, so best way is to ignore ...
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| My mother in law is ruining my marriage | 10/6/2009 |
Q: i got married 10months ago after having a relationship of 3 years with my husband. when i first met ...
A: This cannot be solved unless your husband takes a stand but seems he is an ideal son who would never ...
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| Am i wrong | 10/5/2009 |
Q: I am a coorg married a tamailan,ours was luv cum arraged marrige by our parents.we had an affair of ...
A: Your concern is justified but the moment you talk to your husband or his parents about this, they ...
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| Am i wrong | 10/4/2009 |
Q: I am a coorg married a tamailan,ours was luv cum arraged marrige by our parents.we had an affair of ...
A: First of all forget about this language divide. If he teaches your son Tamil, you can always teach ...
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| Meeting in-laws for first time | 9/23/2009 |
Q: I am meeting my in-laws for the first time soon. I am not Indian, my husband is. They are from ...
A: It's great that you want to give them a warm welcome, the feeling will get conveyed by your ...
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| Ex-Wife overstepping boundaries | 9/16/2009 |
Q: I am 44 and my husband is 53. We have been married 5 years and together over 12 years. This is a ...
A: The best way is to be polite whilst discussing this topic and not to play a blame game. Do not talk ...
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| Disrespectful mother-in-law | 9/2/2009 |
Q: I'm hoping you can help, this is the ONLY topic my husband and I argue about and it's starting to ...
A: Sorry for the delay in replying. All that your MIL does is to attract attention, she is insecure ...
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| Parents SIL disrespect | 8/26/2009 |
Q: My SIL has been disrespectful to me and my relationship with my fiance for three years. His parents ...
A: She is their daughter and out of love they support her. She has been mean but the best way is to ...
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| My bf's parents | 8/24/2009 |
Q: I have very difficult situation. My bf is under a lot of stress right now,hes depressed,doesn't know ...
A: You can't sort it out with his parents over the phone or e-mail. Go and meet them, urge them that if ...
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| sister in law | 8/22/2009 |
Q: My sister in law is incredibly needy and is used to my husbad - before we were married- filling the ...
A: Your husband is in no position to tell his sister that she is emotionally unstable nor that he ...
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| X-brother-in-laws new wife | 7/30/2009 |
Q: My X-brother-in-laws new wife will not talk to any one at all, she whispers to her husband who is ...
A: Just leave her alone and ignore her, if she feels that she is better off not talking to anybody. ...
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| I'm frustrated with my sister in law | 7/28/2009 |
Q: My sister in law is very frustrating. She currently lives with her brother/my fiance and our ...
A: She needs professional help and you being kind enough will not just let her be on her own with no ...
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| Jealous sister in law | 6/29/2009 |
Q: I usually try not to impute bad motives on people but I'm starting to believe that my sister in law ...
A: You just ignore her antics, behave as if she does not exist in your life. At times, don't pick up ...
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| MIL not letting my husband to live with me | 6/26/2009 |
Q: I married my husband after 3years of love and now our marriage is 4months old. He is the sole bread ...
A: If she is using emotions to keep him away from you, you play the same game. Call him once saying you ...
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| Sister in law took my child | 6/21/2009 |
Q: My husband and I were married for 10 years.We have a 6 year old daughter.Last few months was very ...
A: Your lawyer will guide you on all these aspects. But the fact that your child is ignored and has ...
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| Problem with co-sister | 6/5/2009 |
Q: I have many problems with my co-sister(brother in laws wife). Background of my family. My FIL wants ...
A: Make a complete financial plan how much can you spend on rent etc and prove to your husband that ...
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| My Mother-In-Law has made life miserable. | 6/2/2009 |
Q: It would be kind of you if you help me whether i'm going right or wrong in my life where i'm trying ...
A: You are totally in the right and just get on with your professional life and career pursuits. Your ...
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| advice | 5/28/2009 |
Q: I am indian woman settled in NZ and have been married for 2.5yrs and have a reasonably good married ...
A: He seeks company to make him feel happy and wanted, it also gives him the idea that he is a popular ...
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| Problem with co-sister | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I have many problems with my co-sister(brother in laws wife). Background of my family. My FIL wants ...
A: Best solution is to hire a full time maid, even if it means blowing a fortune. This will give you ...
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| India inlaw | 5/22/2009 |
Q: I am Asian and married to America-born indian husband. My parent inlaw are born in India, and they ...
A: In that case you will have to be very planned, you will have to bring him back home after half hour ...
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| Problems with In-laws | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I have been married to 2 years now. But from the beginning I never got adjusted with my mother in ...
A: Have seen such cases where the mother is too fond of the son to let him be free even after marriage. ...
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| fatherinlaw | 5/7/2009 |
Q: i am hopeing you can help me my father inlaw moved in with us back in november of 2008 cause his ...
A: It's your husband who has to speak to him about sharing the burden and actually being part of the ...
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| problem between two mothers | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I feel my problem is a bit peculiar one. My mother and my mother-in-law(mil) are friends for the ...
A: You can expect your own mother to be a bit more understanding, sit with her and explain how these ...
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| problem between two mothers | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I feel my problem is a bit peculiar one. My mother and my mother-in-law(mil) are friends for the ...
A: This indeed is a strange situation whereby two best friends suddenly turned foes!! Best way out is ...
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| mother-in-law | 4/17/2009 |
Q: When my husband and I got married, his mother and I were pretty close, but 3 months later he ...
A: If you are feeling bad about all this why talk to your husband, call her directly and apologize and ...
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| power of attourny | 4/4/2009 |
Q: I have p.o.a over my step father who is gravely ill. I am 55in alberta canada. What is involved in ...
A: Am not an expert on Canadian legal matters but hope this helps : ...
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| between a rock and a hard spot | 3/26/2009 |
Q: In 2006 went to visit my inlaws, (I have known my hus 9 yrs married for 8, have a 5 yr old son ...
A: Try to bargain on this on any pretext like you too need a break, that you are looking forward to a ...
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| In Law | 3/21/2009 |
Q: I am currently engaged to my wonderful fiance. We are from different parts of India. His family is ...
A: If you move in with them thinking that one fine day you will move out, trust me it will fail as a ...
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| between a rock and a hard spot | 3/18/2009 |
Q: In 2006 went to visit my inlaws, (I have known my hus 9 yrs married for 8, have a 5 yr old son ...
A: He is your son and you have a right to teach him things your way. This was a petty thing and blown ...
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| husband or mil? | 3/13/2009 |
Q: my husband and i are both 31 of indian origin.we been married 2 months.dated 2years before we got ...
A: Nope, You are not being selfish at all, it's a natural reaction to have your man to yourself. You ...
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| In-Law Trouble | 3/9/2009 |
Q: It is difficult to even know where to begin... First, I have to say I love my in-laws. I just need ...
A: Not at all Melissa, What you feel is totally justified. Guess it's time to put your foot down. ...
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| Family issue | 3/2/2009 |
Q: I got married last year, and from the firsy of marriage I felt tat my mom-in-law would listen to the ...
A: When we are sick we do have to pop in bitter pills, so take it as that. You can't avoid going to ...
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| Hurt during initial yrs of marriage | 2/4/2009 |
Q: Mine is a love marriage.I dated my husband for 1.5yrs before I married him. However my inlaws were ...
A: You love this man and you fought with the entire world to be with him, that's what you should think ...
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| abusive in-laws | 1/30/2009 |
Q: I am at my wit's end. My husband and I have been married for more than ten years. I have a daughter ...
A: Sit with your oldest daughter and talk to her at length, am sure she will understand the ...
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| father in law snaps on me constantly! | 1/23/2009 |
Q: I want my (NEED) my husband to say something to his dad about the way he disrespects me, and tells ...
A: Your FIL is a bully and the more you bow down, he will feel powerful. The next time your FIL snaps ...
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| problem with in-laws and husband | 12/21/2008 |
Q: Mine is love marriage.i told about my love to my parents but they didn't accept coz of religion ...
A: It does not look like your husband cares about your feelings any more. You can seek a divorce and ...
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| Possesive mother-in-law | 11/27/2008 |
Q: Iam 31 years with a 5 year old son.My husband is the only son and he has 2 sisters who are well ...
A: As they say, thank God for small mercies - isn't it good that you don't have to be with her in the ...
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| Hey Vani... | 11/13/2008 |
Q: Finally you are back from your vacation hope you had a good time....but things not changed for me ...
A: The market conditions are really bad and if your husband has taken a loan its impossible to convince ...
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| In law | 11/10/2008 |
Q: My husbands sister in law is manchic depressent and has started to abuse me and controls her husband ...
A: It's best to explain to your husband the entire situation and how he needs to work few things out ...
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| inlaws and puppy dog husband | 11/8/2008 |
Q: 5 years married. no kids because my husband is infertile. Both husband and I are 30. we are not ...
A: You are not wrong in feeling angry but the question is can this situation be changed forever? Yes, ...
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| In Law question | 10/20/2008 |
Q: any insight or advise would be appreciated. My wife has been bickering with my sister for almost a ...
A: If she has decided that she won't allow you or the kids to visit your parents, any pressure will ...
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| future dil | 10/5/2008 |
Q: My son has been living with a young lady for the past 7 months and dating for a year and a half. she ...
A: The more you try to be nice to her, the more she will doubt your intentions. So just talk to your ...
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| My boyfriend and I | 9/30/2008 |
Q: Well me and my boyfriend have been together over a year now. He moved out the age of 18 because his ...
A: If his parents do not care for his feelings and are mean enough to hurt him often, there isn't much ...
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| In-Law problems | 9/21/2008 |
Q: I live with my boyfriend of 10 years and our almost 5 year old son. My boyfriend's family consists ...
A: It won't be easy for him to get rid of all his guilt, so best way out is that he should deposit a ...
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| future mother in law is driving me crazy | 9/19/2008 |
Q: I am from South Africa, 26 years old, have been with my boyfriend Kash, who’s 27 for 6 years. We ...
A: Under normal circumstances if a MIL were to treat her DIL as a daughter, this could have been the ...
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| Problem With Mother-In-Law | 9/1/2008 |
Q: I seem to have a problem with my mother-in-law. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 ...
A: This is a bit weird and difficult to understand as to what she actually seeks from you. She is very ...
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| Difficulty with in-laws since break-up | 8/29/2008 |
Q: I'm 28 years old and have been in a relationship with my 39-year-old boyfriend for two and a half ...
A: This is a little strange as you need to be accepted as family for you both to have a great life ...
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| Wife always unhappy with my mother | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I am facing a similar situation as described in the article on 18th March 2008 to SDW (with the ...
A: I think she is taking your mother far too much for granted. To set things right, tell your wife that ...
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| Need your Help | 8/21/2008 |
Q: My problem is i am unable to forget whatever happened during the marriage , which keeps triggering ...
A: The fact that you are going to attend a wedding on their side, gives signals that you are ok with ...
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| problems | 8/20/2008 |
Q: my husbands father stay with us like in forever, we got married 7 years ago. if you tell him not to ...
A: The best way out is to get him married, you need to speak to this lady and fix up all things for ...
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| Not able to get along with In-LAWS | 8/13/2008 |
Q: I am unable to get along with me in-laws. I had a love marriage and have faced loads of problem ...
A: Am sure that your wife does not see any fault with the way her parents behaved. On this trip if you ...
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| family | 8/8/2008 |
Q: Do not know from where to start. Let me tell uabout me in brief. I am mariied since 12 years with ...
A: You can still take up a job with a corporate hospital as a part time consultant, to enhance your ...
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| My Sisters-in-law have never accepted me | 8/1/2008 |
Q: My age is 30 and I'm from the US. My husband is the same age and also from the US, we are both ...
A: They have not accepted you for years now, and as people grow old they tend to become less flexible ...
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| One-way life! | 6/22/2008 |
Q: Iam writing this with the hope that you will be clearly able to visualise my position and offer ...
A: As compared to our forefathers, we do possess less patience. Reasons are a plenty right from a ...
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| In laws | 6/18/2008 |
Q: Vani, Here is my situation, I am an Indian who recently got married and have been living with my ...
A: Any newly wed couple would want some privacy to allow them to get to know each other, which ...
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| My husband spends too much time with my dad and ignores me and our kids... | 6/13/2008 |
Q: I've become concerned about my husband lately, as in the past few months he's been spending too much ...
A: In normal circumstances, if your husband were to get along with your family, you would have been the ...
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| In Law Relations | 6/2/2008 |
Q: Topic: Inlaw Relations ...
A: You are a responsible adult that I can make out from your earlier mails. Why don't you speak to ...
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| In Law Relations | 5/27/2008 |
Q: Question Question : We got married in 1998. And till today I search for peaceful moment in my life. ...
A: I have not asked you to stop visiting them, in fact have asked you to spend more time in terms of ...
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| in laws Relationship | 5/21/2008 |
Q: Question : We got married in 1998. And till today I search for peaceful moment in my life. My mother ...
A: Its not uncommon to have a mother who wants to guide each waking moment of her daughter's life. I ...
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| In-law relationship problems | 5/8/2008 |
Q: I have sent you a question earlier and received an answer regarding my relationship with my in-laws. ...
A: You would need to continue with your phone calls to them just to keep your husband at peace. But ...
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| Information | 3/6/2008 |
Q: What is my right on here if my husband and mother in law is emotionally, mentally and verbally ...
A: You will have to seek legal help on this as all States may have different marriage laws. Which city ...
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| About getting married | 1/28/2008 |
Q: My name in Chikako. I live in U.S. Because of my visa status I can live here one more year. SO my ...
A: You will have to ask yourself if your love for him will be enough to keep you happy for a life time? ...
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| In-laws expectations | 1/20/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for two years. I am American and he is Egyptian (born in the ...
A: Talk your heart out with him, let him know that your parents would not be very comfortable handling ...
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| interfereing inlwas and a mumma's boy husband | 1/4/2008 |
Q: he is shy and has no friends. even if i was new to u.k. ,he never took me out to any ...
A: Patience. If you want to get him out of the house, be gentle. Go to dinner or an outing with just ...
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| Dominating MIL | 12/24/2007 |
Q: I have been married for the last 1 year. Before that I knew my husband for about 4 years. However ...
A: Most of us think that we got a raw deal in life till we meet or see people who actually are in pain ...
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| In-Laws from Hell. HELP! | 12/17/2007 |
Q: I am 37 years old and from the US. I have been married for 7 yrs. My husband is a great guy and we ...
A: 7 years you have tried to be patient and tried to reconcile, by all means that is not a small task ...
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| My parents | 12/14/2007 |
Q: Vani, You had answered a few of my questions in the past, and I really appreciate the responses. ...
A: Apologise to your SIL and to your brother and explain why you don't want a scene at the baby shower ...
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| Fiance, Mother and I! | 11/20/2007 |
Q: My mother was my fiance's 5th grade teacher and at the first of the relationship they got along ...
A: Please stop thinking about it all and get well soon, you ought to be happy to recuperate. Sometimes ...
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| In-law relationship | 11/7/2007 |
Q: I am 26yrs old and an Indian girl married to an Indian guy whom I have been in love with for the ...
A: You are miles away from them and what if one fine day your husband were to go back and decide to ...
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| problems with MIL | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I got married 10 mths back to my BF who is a very good hubby. till 2 months back my relation with ...
A: Hope your visit to your MIL wasn't so bad after all. Most Indian mothers rear their kids with so ...
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| Mother-in-law | 10/15/2007 |
Q: I am married since last 3 years, I have a daughter 2 years old. My hubby wants to live in a joint ...
A: Best way out is to plan how you can help him enhance his income. Then you can afford a 2 BHK flat, ...
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| HOW DO I DEAL WITH MY HUSBANDS PARENTS | 10/2/2007 |
Q: IM 21 YRS OLD AND MY HUBBY IS 22 WE JUST MOVED OUT OF OUR HOUSE BECAUSE OF ARE MONEY PROBLEMS MY ...
A: Since you are right now forced to stay with them, there is little choice but to tolerate. Try taking ...
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| Living with In-Laws | 9/21/2007 |
Q: I am currently in a situation that is causing me a bit of stress and would love to know if there is ...
A: Its natural to feel a bit irritated as you are not getting enough space or opportunity to do your ...
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| My parents | 9/13/2007 |
Q: I appreciate your response to a previous posting about Indian in-laws. I posted this same question ...
A: This is a fabulous letter, you are handling all this so beautifully. I think the young kid deserves ...
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| sis-in-law problem | 9/2/2007 |
Q: My in laws stay at a distance of one hour from us. A few days ago me and my husband went to see ...
A: There are people in this world who love it when others get irritated or tensed so they make such ...
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| X inlaw rivalry | 8/15/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband 3 years this September, have known him about 6 years. We have a ...
A: Nobody has the right to be rude to you if you are behaving in a respectable manner - it does not ...
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| Old Problem | 7/25/2007 |
Q: In my first marriage, my in-laws would come over when I was having brunch with my children. Was the ...
A: If she was so adamant about it, you had no choice but to comply. They weren't very considerate about ...
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| Am I overreacting? | 7/22/2007 |
Q: My in laws watched my boys for 4 days while husband and I went out of town. A week after we got ...
A: You can request her very politely not to do such a thing in future. You can always say that its best ...
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| potential sister in law | 7/4/2007 |
Q: First the lady who is living with my brother worked with my mother and they became good friends. ...
A: Think about it this way, would you want your future SIL to have good relations with your parents? I ...
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| MIL and SIL from hell | 6/18/2007 |
Q: My name is Tulsi from Texas, US. I'm Indian born here in Texas so I have western culture values but ...
A: You are a very caring person and so you understand how difficult it must be with your husband too. I ...
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| My sister-in-law | 6/8/2007 |
Q: I have been staying with my aunty and her family from the past 3 years. My aunt's son i.e. my cousin ...
A: My apology for a delayed reply. You are attached to her and also know that she is a kind caring ...
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| Sister-in-law | 5/20/2007 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for over two years. We are both of Polish origin: she grew up in the ...
A: Your wife knows how understanding you have been. Are you sure she wants a divorce only because you ...
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| My husband's loyalty is to his parents | 5/15/2007 |
Q: I have been married for only 9 months and I have cried more in those 9 months than all of my 30 ...
A: Have you tried speaking to him about this? Try telling him how and what you feel, but do not play a ...
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| Uncomfortable with in-laws | 5/3/2007 |
Q: I’ve been married for about 10 years and living in states. Early in the marriage I made a honest ...
A: Its natural that you cannot forget the past but its no harm in trying for a better future again. ...
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| French family hates me | 4/26/2007 |
Q: My new husband, Pierre, and his family are French and live just outside Paris. My husband's sister's ...
A: Can your husband's sister be of any help? Or may be you can try finding some mutual friend or ...
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| In-law Hell | 4/17/2007 |
Q: My husband is originally from the Philippines. He has a complicated relationship with his family, as ...
A: I would say ignore them totally, this is the best treatment for all snobs. If you write a letter, ...
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| Having to share my husband, son, and house with Mother in-law | 3/8/2007 |
Q: Vani, For the last ten months my mother in-law has been staying with my husband and I four days a ...
A: You need to work out things with your husband. If she just comes to your place to kill time, this ...
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| Mother-In-Law To be | 2/8/2007 |
Q: I have been with my fiance for 3 1/2 years. My fiance is an only son and so his mother has tried to ...
A: The secret to a great married life is that some general unspoken rules are set and followed. I would ...
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| Soon To be family in law | 2/8/2007 |
Q: I am from morocco my mom is from there andm y dad was from america,he was in the airforce so i have ...
A: This is going to cause you much anguish if you don't settle it once and for all. You should talk to ...
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| Trouble MIL | 1/4/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 4 years and am a mother of a 9 month old boy. Since the ...
A: You are right that its best to keep quiet than argue daily over petty issues on which you both can't ...
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| in-laws | 12/24/2006 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 yrs and the past 4 I have not talked to them. My in-laws ...
A: You love him and that's what matters and that's why you decided to stay back. It actually works to ...
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| inlaw relation | 12/3/2006 |
Q: My mother-in-law is a well educated indian woman. She loves family gatherings. Although it's only ...
A: If its just 2-3 times a year, its easy to tackle these situations, isn't it? Once or twice you can ...
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| My mother, his future mother-in-law! | 11/28/2006 |
Q: I have been with my partner for a year and have a very serious and wonderful relationship. To begin ...
A: Since you say both were very close to each other so the resultant anger is equally intense. Both are ...
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| In laws | 11/3/2006 |
Q: Si I suppose my feelings are not important and I should just suck it up. Today, I told him how I ...
A: If this inlaws' issue is raising so much concern and taking away your peace of mind, I guess its ...
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| In laws | 11/1/2006 |
Q: What if I tell my husband that I need some space and when he's done supporting his family if he ...
A: Are you mentally prepared to live life alone, if we expect the worst he may just say Bye Bye. Do you ...
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| In laws | 11/1/2006 |
Q: I'm 26 years old and my in-laws have lived with me for 3 years now. Originally, after two years of ...
A: Can you really do anything if your spouse is not ready to listen to you? If you be rude to his ...
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| in laws | 10/20/2006 |
Q: Agreed that if my parents were in that situation, i would also want to do the same for them. I ...
A: I am a DIL too, and very well understand what and how it feels to have inlaws with you. But since ...
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| My future father in law is a mad man. | 9/12/2006 |
Q: asian woman living in California. My parents originated from the secluded and quite hills of Laos ...
A: I am sorry to say so but you have read too much into this whole episode. Asians as you know still ...
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| Ex-wife still friends with boyfriend's family | 8/1/2006 |
Q: I may be having this problem because of what happened to me in the past, but is it normal for the ...
A: They may be civil only for the kids' sake. Also since she was once his wife and a daughter-in-law, ...
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| Mother-in-law | 7/19/2006 |
Q: My son has been married less than a year,and his mother-in-law who is an alcholic and works ...
A: If your son and his wife are ready to tolerate his MIL, I guess you cannot do much on the issue. ...
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| In-law troubles | 7/13/2006 |
Q: Vani, My name is Colby Christofferson and I am an Associate Producer for a new day time talk show ...
A: I am an expert on inlaw relations on this website for the last 6 years and have answered more than ...
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| HUGE In-law problems | 7/10/2006 |
Q: Last year my sis-in-law's husband came down stairs and touched me( I will not go in to detail). My ...
A: I am sure it must have been pretty ugly for you to deal with that situation. Its pretty clear that ...
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| Father In-Law | 6/27/2006 |
Q: Vani, My wife & I recently moved back to Florida & I've been looking for a new job with not much ...
A: You can't do much about it but your wife can. She can just let her father know in firm terms that ...
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| same old same old MIL | 6/27/2006 |
Q: i read thro most of the posts and feel l could ask you for advice . My situation - married witha ...
A: Its gone too far if your husband thinks that you should separate, its no longer a petty problem. I ...
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| Father In Law | 6/14/2006 |
Q: I am a 35 year old Eurasian that is married to a Canadian man. We have been married 11 years and I ...
A: I think you can ignore such comments only if you firmly believe that they are not meant to cause any ...
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| not talking to in-laws | 6/8/2006 |
Q: Now my husband is saying his mom will be fine eventually and will get over it. You know, coming form ...
A: I did understand your situation, but one must realize that if separation is the only way out, so be ...
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| Major In-Law Problems! | 6/6/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 3 1/2 years. We are both from the ...
A: You have not got much choice left, just plain and simple 'Ignore Them'. Stop interacting with his ...
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| Sister In Law - Wedding | 5/29/2006 |
Q: I am 38 and my husband and I have been happily married for 10 years. We have two daughters 3 and 6. ...
A: Its your immediate family that comes first - your kids and your spouse, that's nothing to feel ...
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| why is my sister in competing with me? | 5/22/2006 |
Q: Vani, Been with HB for almost 10 yrs, but we have only been living together for 4 years and married ...
A: She is getting all attention and care as you say she pretends to be either sad or sick. The family ...
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| Mother In-Law | 5/3/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend, Scott for 2 1/2 years now. We have known each other for 12 years ...
A: I am sure that this lady does not need any sympathy nor she needs love, please stay off her. She ...
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| In-Laws | 4/10/2006 |
Q: my name is Asia, I am 26, I live in "the South" in the United States, and I am married to a ...
A: You are doing just great by being honest and caring towards your inlaws. In India, mothers normally ...
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| Mother inlaw | 3/9/2006 |
Q: I am 25 my fiance is 33. We just got engaged. We have been dating two years. His mother really likes ...
A: Congrats! That's a bold decision and a smart one that you took to save money. A wedding is a ...
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| Future Inlaws | 3/7/2006 |
Q: I am in the process of proposing to my future wife that I love very much. Her family and my ...
A: As they say a marriage binds two families together...so you cannot avoid them forever. I think talk ...
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| My sister-in-law | 3/6/2006 |
Q: My brother got married in September in England. I paid the $5000 to go with my boyfriend and my ...
A: Lisa, All that glitters is not gold. I am sure that if they do not need you in their lives, the ...
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| Wife's relationship whith her parents | 12/31/2005 |
Q: I have known my wife for 8 yrs and been married for 4. When we were in H.S. her parents really ...
A: J. Its natural for her to feel so emotional, as you yourself say that her parents feel proud of her ...
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| my inlaws | 11/1/2005 |
Q: I really need some advice about my mother in law and my sister inlaws they seem to just hate me for ...
A: I am sure it does not require any explaination from your side...you have gone through so much and ...
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| In-law visits | 10/19/2005 |
Q: I am a 45 yr old wf. My husband is a 48 yr old wm. USA We might as well be from different countries ...
A: Lets be very clear on one thing - females are more touchy and emotional a lot more than males. So ...
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| living w/in-laws | 5/11/2005 |
Q: Me and my fiance are getting married this Nov. We love each other and I get along great w/his ...
A: Debbie, Give it a try, it may actually turn out to be cool. If he is not ready to define a ...
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| In laws | 4/20/2005 |
Q: I have been married for five years and had a child right away..from the day my husband and I were ...
A: Just one more request, please do not resort to alcohol to calm down. Its never good for anybody's ...
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| In laws | 4/20/2005 |
Q: I have been married for five years and had a child right away..from the day my husband and I were ...
A: Theresa, I am sorry to hear about your son. But am glad that your spouse had the courage to stand ...
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| inlaws | 4/5/2005 |
Q: I am in my thirties. My husband is Indian. He is very busy that we hardly have any private time ...
A: Lee, How do your inlaws know when your spouse is at home? Start telling them about time changes in ...
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| Financial Matters | 4/1/2005 |
Q: I really appreciate ur prompt answers. It feels like having a friend around. You see, i have ...
A: Its my duty being a volunteer to be prompt. Delay may occur only when my own work demands a lot. I ...
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| Financial Matters | 4/1/2005 |
Q: Hope u are doing fine. Presently from the day i realized that after contributing 3K towards home ...
A: Hope you are doing fine. That was a cool idea to save your salary, continue to do that. Since in ...
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| Fed up from my MIL | 3/29/2005 |
Q: my problem is that my husband is very dependent on his parents for even small small things and seeks ...
A: This is a typical example where the older of the 2 sons always plays the ideal son's role. I am sure ...
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| Financial Matters | 3/29/2005 |
Q: can u pls advise me how I can avoid conflicts on my financial issues with my husband. We live in a ...
A: Harshita, Sit with him and work out your contribution. Example you will give 5K to your MIL and he ...
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| brother-in-law & drugs | 2/4/2005 |
Q: My wife's brother has metal health issues... he has recently been diagosed as obsessive compulsive ...
A: George, I am sure that if you talk with your wife about it, she will understand. But never ever ...
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| Marriage | 1/9/2005 |
Q: ------------------------- hi Vani, thanks for response. I wanted to ask you that when you said if ...
A: Riya, What I meant by "conditions" was that the prime aim of all lovers is to unite, so if ...
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| In-laws | 1/9/2005 |
Q: I got married in 2003 to my husband. he is white and mexican and i am black. we just had a baby. ...
A: Karen, Congrats on your baby's arrival. I guess it would be better to speak to your spouse first. ...
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| Marriage | 1/7/2005 |
Q: My problem is regarding relationship. I met a guy about 1 year ago and it is a long distance ...
A: I think this guy is too confused. If he loves you why is he putting conditions? If you agree to ...
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| mother in law | 12/18/2004 |
Q: Me and my husband got married five years ago. We both are 33 years old. Iam from India now live in ...
A: Neerja, I can understand your status fully. Life sometimes is unfair. I would advise you to take up ...
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| AM I being Jelousy of his relationship with his siblings? | 11/15/2004 |
Q: I just got married and everytime we go to visit his family. My young (23 yrs old) husband dumps me ...
A: I am sure that its not so difficult for you to get out of that room and just look around. You are ...
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| mother in law | 10/22/2004 |
Q: hey i am 19 and live with my boyfriend the one who i love so much. things were great in the ...
A: I appreciate your concern about your MIL, but if you were to approach her directly and point out ...
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| Japanese inlaws | 10/14/2004 |
Q: I have a situation that I hope you can help me with. I am a 28 year old African-American man and ...
A: I can understand your situation and the fact that nothing can be more shattering for parents than ...
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| IN-laws very distant | 7/29/2004 |
Q: My In-laws are very distant , we chose to live away from both sides of the family we are hanging in ...
A: Jen, You have been happily married now for 17 years, so such petty things should not bother you ...
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| My Mother In-Law | 7/23/2004 |
Q: I am a white American; my husband is a half white/half Korean American. His mother is full Korean. ...
A: Can I give you a suggestion which will not offend you? Give it one last try, as in go and see her if ...
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| Mother inlaw shows favouritism | 4/16/2004 |
Q: I am a catholic married to a maharashtrian. Though i try my best to please my mil, i feel she does ...
A: We dont get what we desire all the time. I am truly supportive of your efforts of pleasing her. But ...
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| my life | 3/5/2004 |
Q: hai vani i am married since three years but since first day of my marriage my mother in law never ...
A: Usha, First of all accept my congrats that you are out of it now. Make sure that you start afresh ...
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| inlaw marriage | 3/3/2004 |
Q: In reguards to my last question. What about non indian customs and living in the US ie: Washington? ...
A: Mike, If the man treats the sister-in-law like a sister then ethically it will not be right to ...
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| Further relief from sister -in-law | 10/7/2003 |
Q: your answer to my question on dealing with my sister-in-law was interesting..however you did not say ...
A: 1* Lock your room up when you leave for work / go out. 2* You can try talking to her but if she ...
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| One Other Important Detail | 8/11/2003 |
Q: Vani, Sorry to bother you again, but I forgot to mention one other important detail... I don't know ...
A: Preethi, If you get time from work, try and join some tutorial. But I guess you are doing pretty ...
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| In-Laws | 8/11/2003 |
Q: I am a 24 year old Indian who has grown up in the U.S. I recently married an Indian boy who grew up ...
A: If you both love each other nothing else matters. Try and get to know your mother in law better, ...
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| Money...money... | 2/19/2003 |
Q: I'm 34 Asian wife & mother of a 6 y.o boy and curently live in U.S. It's been a year since I lost my ...
A: Its like people getting used to certain comforts. Your inlaws are now used to the idea that you will ...
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| mother in-law | 8/23/2002 |
Q: I hope you can help. I am 35, my husband is 31 and we have both been married before. He has a son ...
A: I have dealt with this case of meddling MIL before too. Your husband is right, there are such type ...
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| mother-in-law | 6/28/2001 |
Q: I hope you can help me with my situation: My husband and I have recently gotten married. (forced ...
A: Before you think about anything, make up your mind do you love Chris or not? You want this marriage ...
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| My Father-in-Law | 6/10/2001 |
Q: I am a 23 year old married mother of one. My problem is with my father-in-law. My hubby's dad is ...
A: I think you should have a word with your husband and his brother right away. If your FIL has been ...
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