AboutNafeesah Expertise I can answer just about everything about interracial dating and what you will expect to deal with if you are in one. I won't answer questions about the psychological elements because I don't have a background in psychology to answer that.
Experience I have been in two long term relationships with individuals who were biracial and I have experience in friends who have dated and are married to people who are of a different race.
Education/Credentials associates degree, bachelors degree, and certified nursing assistant
Question Me and my boyfriend have been going out for the past years and have been the best moments of my life. We're both 19 and at university. I recently told my mum i was seeing a guy and she asked who (as i know any mother would). I told her it was so and so, who she already knew when we were just friends, however she's being difficult saying i can't see him because his black!!! I was shocked i never assumed my mother to be racists. She said the family will talk and how no one in our family has married a black person before. I thought the older generation thought like this but not my mother...i really Love this guy and really think he could be the one for me but having obstacles like her mothers hate towards a certain race can be hurtful, i did break up with him once because my mother kept stressing me out but i couldn't take it any longer and got back together with the same day. My dad is fine with the idea of me seeing a black guy, just as long as he treats me right, but my mother is proper stubborn and just won't accept it. I would really like him to spend Xmas with me, as last year he was all alone and he doesn't have much family but i doubt that will happen, i just wish my mum could understand that i fell in love with someone who is black, but i didn't i fell in love with his heart and soul
PS: she also thinks i don't see him anymore but i do just in secret
Answer Starting off your mother can't tell you who you can and cannot see you're 19 years old. Eventually your mother will have to accept the fact that you're going to be with who you want and if you're not facing opposition from your father as long as the guy treats you right you have something and if your friends don't have a problem it's all good. Your mother has some issues with herself that she's never gotten over. Who cares what your family thinks they actually might like this guy she can't speak for members of your family. You have to see as time goes on to how they react to your relationship and take it as it comes at thet ime of how you deal with some people. I had opposition for being a black girl who fellin love with a guy who happens to be white. My last boyfriend was spanish and white, but this is 2008 going into 2009 people have to get over their fear of interracial dating and marriage it's going to happen now more than ever. I am a huge supporter of interracial dating because it's time to break that segregated mentality and start being more open and accepting of other races and cultures. If this guy makes you happy that should stand out more and if dad has to tell mom to get over it so be it because it's high time she did.
