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Expert: Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee)
Date: 4/23/2008
Subject: Question?
Question
Hello Melissa, As a dark skinned Black man I prefer to date, and eventually marry (God willing) a woman of a lighter skin complexion, because I personally am more attracted to White/light complexioned women (Including light skinned Black women); however, the church that I currently attend has women predominantly of a darker skinned racial tone (Only a few light skinned Black women), because it's mainly a Church of Black American decent. Also, I cannot date just any woman, because the Bible calls on Christians to be like minded with whom they interact with. Therefore, my question is, Should I leave my Church (Or visit another church alot) to attend a Church with a more mixed racial body to raise my chances of whom I prefer? Or should I wait on God to provide who I prefer where I am, because attending a lighter complexioned church is no guarantee of success in regards to love? Thank you and I will await your reply....
Answer
Hello
Well all I can tell you is that if you really like the church that you are at then you shouldn't move just to find a woman to be with. You can try approaching women in different ways, not just through church. If you don't really care about changing churches and you really have no problem with the whole thing then yeah, you could think about changing churches to something more diverse. But try finding another reason besides just meeting women. You can meet women in other ways as well. So from what you told me I think if you like this church then you should continue to stay there, and try to approach women through other avenues. Church really isn't the best way to find a mate anyway.
Melissa
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