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Expert: Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee)
Date: 5/4/2008
Subject: my white girlfriend likes black guys
Question
I was hoping to ask about a little issue I have with my girlfriend. I'm a white guy in my late twenties, going out with a white girl in her early twenties, 21. She and I are very close and have been going out for a year now. However whenever she and I have these little discussions about people we find attractive, she always makes comments about how black men are the most attractive men of any race period. She will explain this by telling me about their rugged looks, the fact that they are good at sports and dancing, usually have good bodies and that they are very
confident. She loves hip hop music and R&B, especially sung by black male artists.
But the incident that affected me was that on the local
bus, she and I were standing in a crowded bus close to each other and a black man was standing behind her. She told me later that while the bus was moving, the man was purposely moving into her. She added that the only reason she did not tell me about it was because she was
afraid I would get into a fight with him.
What do you think? I think she may have enjoyed it since she likes black men. Do I have a reason to be concerned?
She has told me that she loves me though.
Answer
Hello
Well no you don't really have much reason to be concerned about this. She can't help who she finds very attractive just like if you see a woman who you think is very attractive, it's not really because you want to be with that woman, but she's just someone you find attractive. Same situation here. I'm sure your girlfriend loves you and wants to be with you but you are not the only guy in the world who she thinks is attractive. So no, nothing to be concerned about until flirting starts or she tries developing deep relationships with these people. Until then, it's just a normal response to a guy she thinks is cute, and is not something she enjoys but just like you sometimes might admire a pretty woman, she's just noticing a cute guy.
Melissa
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