About Jessica Main Expertise Any questions and/or concerns you have regarding being part of an interracial relationship. Including but not limited to... outsider's views and opinions, family's thoughts and concerns and raising biracial children.
Experience I am the 30 year old white Mommy to two beautiful, biracial daughters. Engaged to be married to a gorgeous Jamaican man. I've gone through the "what ifs" the "oh nos" and the "whys". I can help You through all of Yours.
Education/Credentials 1996 Graduate of Warren Area High School, current student of U.S. Career Institute,gaining certificate in Fitness and Nutrition.
Question Im a black male 18 and my girlfriend is a lovly white female 18. The question is my girlfriend wants to have children I also but we both feel that her parents would not like a mixed grandchild. not only that but im going off to college in iowa and we plan on starting before i leave. So should we start a family even though her parents will freak out.
Answer Hi there!
Let's forget for a second that You are black and your lovely girlfriend is white :) (just for a second, but we'll get back to that) You sound like an intelligent Young man, and seem to have answered your own question. You both are 18 and just getting started in your lives. Finish School sweetheart. Think "long-term". Instead of worrying right now that her parents might not approve, think to yourself "what do I have to offer a child at this time?" As You go through life, with working, school etc..You will find that you and your girlfriend will inevitably do one of two things, grow stronger in your relationship, or..You may grow in the other direction, and out of the relationship all together! Trust Me, I've seen it happen MANY times. I don't doubt that you love your girlfriend, and that she loves You, but as we mature and grow, so do our morals, beliefs, ethics, fears and preferences..just to name a few! I can tell You as a mother who has raised my children on my own their entire lives that it's the biggest responsibility a person will EVER have! I would not change the fact that I had my beautiful baby girls, HOWEVER, given the chance I would go back and change these things...the man to which I had my girls, my financial stability at the time, I would have finished my schooling and paid my debt etc.etc. So My point is this...Children need a great deal of attention and money no matter what their race! Now, having given you my opinion on that topic, let's get to the "black and white of the subject" as I promised ;)
Answer a few questions for me first ok?..1) Do her parents know you are together? 2)How do they feel about you dating? 3)Do You think they would want their daughter to have a child now with ANYONE, black OR white? Get back to me with the answers to these questions so I can give you a "follow up". Having the answers to these questions will better help me to help You. Hang in there! and I'll be waiting to hear back from You.
In Light,
Jessica
